No Grit, No Pearl!!

Circumstances change and priorities change with them. Are you certain that the goals you are pursuing today are goals to which you are still committed? Alternatively, are they simply something you once thought you should pursue and you are only hanging onto them in order to ‘be right’? Remember what you wanted in your 20’s are no longer the things that matter to you in your 40’s or 50’s. So , take a little time for reflection.

One reflection to look at is Mark Twain’s quote: Do not go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first. The reflection that comes to mind from this is that it is up to me , nobody else is going to do it for me, they may assist me, bu if its my idea, its me that has to drive it.

There are a lot of quotes of the reflective nature, I hope you like the ones I have chosen:


1. Now I know what DKNY means on all those hoodies, Donna Karan comes from New York and runs a fashion label, therefore DKNY.


2. There are two choices, fix it or declare it complete and create new space for your new bold adventures: Something Better.


3. I remember being told the tale about African tribes not being able to see TV images bu my science teacher, That reminds me of this quote.


4. How did you get to know what you thought about your friends, did you ask or was it just a hunch?: Perception.


5. Also remember to hang out in the Now allowing for reflections on the past, all are needed.


6. Wise words from the man who best exemplifies this: Nelson Mandela.


7. A great mantra to reflect on Self Love.


8. A friend of mine met his life partner because he thought he had left his phone at work and went back to get it, It was in the bottom of his bag: Choice.


9. Do unto others as you wish to have happen to you, sometimes I forget!!


10. Sometimes the mind gets in the way, listen more deeply: Soul Kind of Feeling.


11. I think the new wave of entrepreneurs are part of this outlook on life.


12. I naturally think of Simon Sinek when I see a line like because we forget why we do it, here’s his inspirational TED talk on the subject: First Why and then trust.


13. There are some great quotes in the holy texts, this is one of them.


14. Proactive, not reactive is most powerful I find: The 7 Habits.


15. Trudy Symeonakis Vesotsky, what a cool name. See and be , observe and then take action. I like it!!

Some very worthwhile reflections amongst that collection, if I don’t say so myself.

Music and Worlds this week. The very dance-able Specials and Dynamic Hepnotics plus wisdom from Alan Watts and Simon Sinek and a mix of pop and rap.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.



Fill your Heart with what is Important!!

“I love, accept, and express that I fill myself first so I can heal the world.”  This is the affirmation Steve Sisgold of Whole Body Intelligence,His website got Lissa Rankin to use when she realised her belief system was the following: “You’re selfish and narcisstic if you take care of yourself first. You have no value unless you’re helping others. Your blog audience won’t love you anymore unless you give until you’re depleted. Your mother won’t love you anymore, either.”

This made my stomach turn as I was reading the secind statement, I think it covers some of my beliefs pretty well. Here is the Hero’s practice called Check Your Motives from Lissa’s book an Anatomy of a Calling:

Check Your Motives:

The next time you consider being helpful ir saying yes to service, pause. Get quiet, and ask yourself, “Why am I doing this?” Are you afraid of disappointing someone if you say no? Are you motivated by pity or fear? Will you fear like, “not enough” if you don’t do  it? Are you trying to impress someone? Does it exhaust you to even think about saying yes? If any of these feel true, graciously say no to the opportunity to serve, knowing that you are not just filling yourself first but also protecting yourself from getting caught in a Rescuer/Victim/Persecutor triad, which will lead you to inadvertantly hurt yourself and others.

If, however, you are motivated by surges of love – which generate the impulse to leap out of your chair and say yes, free of any hidden language – go for it! If you’re so far down the spiritual path that there is little “self” to self-sacrifice and you are full to the brim with the desire fir pure service, knowing how fulfilling it is to serve in a clean way, say yes.

Practice this exercise every time you are inclined to serve. This will help you learn to be very discerning about your relationship to service and those you serve, and as a result, you will not only avoid depleting yourself but also expand your capacity for fulfillment and joy.

So how does the world relate to filling ones self up before others, It should be an  interesting journey:


1. Once you are a bunch of smouldering ashes you are not much use to anyone.


2. It’s never to late to write your bestseller, that one you don’t tell others about: Your Song.


3. This is the number one way to stoppbecoming depleted in your life.


4. The more energy you have and that you shine on the world the more you can give to it: I Gotta Feeling.


5. The more you hide who you really are, the more harm can be done to you and by you.


6. From one of TV”s favourite fictional characters comes some practical wisdom about filling yourself first: Love Myself.


7. Ask yourself before you say Yes, What would Love Do in this situation?


8. Heed the warming, rehydrate your soul when it needs it: Take care of Yourself.


9. Manifexting with Marla, catchy name for a great piece of advice.


10. Deepak’s friend Oprah has this to say about this , in a much more pragmatic way: When you undervalue what you do, the world will undervalue who you are:Give it UP to Me.


11. Remember, to help with human rights, yours must be included amongst them.


12. Might fine advice, R.Z., will help keep one out of the Rescuer/Victim/Persecutor triad: Put a little Love in your Heart.


13. Remember to complete your Hero’s Journey, not everyone or everything will make ot to the end.


14. Here in Australia, we have a condition called the tall poppy syndrome. It’s very dangerous for the future of our country: That’s What I Like.


15. That deep satisfaction has to exist within your soul before there is any chance of another giving it to you.

When you’re motivated by the soul’s yearning rather than the ego’s “not enoughness” giving to others feeds you. Service can be like breathing. You give on the exhale, but the giving itself breathers life into you and you are nourished by the giving. So remember to do the exercise so that you are chosing from love and not depleting your life-force.

Music this week includes Annie Lennox, Al Green and Shakita. Enjoy!!

Namaste until next time , my dear friends

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Let not your Love become Attachment!!

A mission statement for a Blog by Lissa Rankin:

“We are committed to inviting you to explore your truth, knowing you are loved, safe and nurtured. We believe that true healing comes from loving and nurturing both ourselves and others as whole beings. When we own all the disparate parts of ourselves, we tap into the divine spark within us, allowing us to release limiting beliefs, overcoming fears, and enjoy our lives more fully. Once we are in touch with our own divinity – shedding our masks, revealing our authentic selves, and being accepted just as we are- we can see with “magical eyes,” gazing beyond the masks we tend to wear to see the unique and special humanity that lies within us all.

By engaging with our community, we hope you will feel inspired, get motivated to bring your authentic self out of the closet, and take steps that bring you closer to health, healing and inner peace. If you have lost your mojo and feel you have little to give, we welcome you with no expectations. If you have lots to give in service to those in need, we invite you to share your gifts. Chances are good you are all of the above – sometimes seeking, sometimes giving, always enough..

Regardless of where you are on your personal path of awakening, we welcome you. Let us bear witness to your journey, knowing that while each of us walk a unique path, we walk it in good company.”

Lissa’s book The Anatomy of A Calling The Website., is worth visiting at least yearly as it contains so many profound gems about being on purpose.

But first of all she suggests you need to give up attachment, what do we say about attachment across the airwaves and through time: Here is a selection I have chosen to illustrate it:


1. This is one I have struggled with over time, that the answer lies within not externally. Working on it daily.


2. Why do we become flustered when the world started operating in a different way to that we know it should be, this is what happens when we hold on too tight: Holding on to Broken Things.


3. What did Buddha mean by this, much to ponder in 7 simple words.


4. You can’t should’ve done something. Gold: It was a Good Day.


5. The Inner Universe, that’s where the healing lives and lies.


6.  When we stop waiting to reply and genuinely listen to others, Its amazing how many of our judgements slip away: Crippled Inside.


7. How often do we battle with these thing in our lives – The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.


8. Judgement often feels chaotic, It’s not your task, bring on the calm: A Thousand Years.


9. Love me a few of Pema’s wise words, get her books , they are magic.


10. Here’s a memory test: Out damn spot, think High School: Time to Let Go.


11. Lots of practice here, heart and  mind, methinks.


12. Do we have the courage to give up that which has become toxic for us, I did it with alcohol over 3 years ago, feel so much better: Don’t Stop Believing.


13. Surfs UP, which are your favourite emotions to surf, which put you in danger. Perhaps it’s time to give up your attachment to those waves.



14. This is the  one thing in life I wish for more than anything else, to fly unaided. I have not been willing to give up everything that weighs the possibility down: I’ll Fly Away.


15. The field of all possibilities: Has anyone ever reached this blissful state, or would it be so scary that we would implode?

Why is it difficult to detach from the beliefs and judgments that belittle  us? Perhaps as Craig Hamilton says in his Integral Enlightenment series ” The ego  as the part of you that has a need to see ourselves as a particular way” has a lot to do with it. Daily exercise in detaching what we know to be true sounds a great way to discover how to empower the purpose we were put on this planet for.

Namaste until next time , my dear friends.

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A Happy Heart makes the face Free!!

Danielle LaPorte says that when you are living from your joy and working for meaningfulness, you are:

A. WAY more healthy and effective

B. SO much more fun to be around (Hello love and magnetism)

C. MUCH more able to make a contribution to the world around you.

You can look at it this way, in epic proportions: The planet needs you to be working from your joy, Humanity depends on you doing what’s meaningful to you. The future of civilization is counting on your fulfilling. No pressure. Here’s the micro perspective: You deserve to be lit up by what you do in the world. it’s your life.

There has been much said about being free and clear in our lives, here’s my selection:


1. Pharrell Williams sings of the right to be happy in our lives, here is his suggestion how to achieve that state.


2. Which definition of free calls to you: Hello.


3. I am designing a workshop called Sacred Love Stories that increases peoples abilities to tell those stories that we think of people  knew about us they would never talk to us again. 


4. Ah, The French, they do great quotes and philosophy as well as movies in my humble opinion: Clear Conscience.


5. Show the world what lives in your heart, you are worth it!!


6. From the great bard Anonymous another beautiful ode to being free and clear: Temporary Life.


7. Another favourite depiction of what Danielle is talking about!!


8. Loved that film it’s a Beautiful Life: Beautiful Life.


9. Do not get caught up in their maze of madness. Live in your own story – Beautiful Words.


10. I am excited about Today, Yay: Friday.


11. If you make no mistakes, are you officially alive?


12. Try a little ….., not why me: Try Me.


13. What is calling you, for me it is Love and Respect for All: Everyone Included.


14. Uncle Jim gets to the point immediately, how do you get lit up in the world and is it a happening thing at the moment: Riptide.


15. Not sure why I chose this one. We are all students and teachers, get out there and fulfill life.

So Danielle finishes with the idea here is to see what lights you up,  so that you can plan to fell-have-do and experience more of that in your  life, Ready, Steady, Go.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends around the world from Melbourne, Australia

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You can Play a Shoestring if you’re Sincere!!

I’m reading s great book called The Big Little Book of Resilience by Matthew Johnstone at the moment. Matthew wrote and illustrated it. It is subtitled How to Bounce back from adversity and lead a fulfilling Life. Each page has a little bit of wisdom with a supportive image.

Accepting what we can and cannot change is one of the most important aspects of understanding resilience. it’s learning to work with and grow what’s right in our lives while accepting, but not putting all our energy into , what’s not.

So bringing sincerity into our lives allows us to see what are our rights and what will empower us. Lets have a look at what people have said about rights over the years:


1. Standing up for your rights means that you do not have to offend or please others all the time, It gives you time to consider them.


2. This brave young woman has raised the voices of half the world’s population: Roar.


3. You have the right to…. it’s up to you, whatever you listen to in your mind takes hold.


4. I have difficulty with one of these, guess which one: Same Love.


5. Our voices are given to us for a reason, It’s you time to use it.


6. I say this to you all, you can do it, you rock: I will Survive.


7. As a race, we have a fair way to go with this one.


8. This year, I became a tutor to three Chinese mothers. Before I did this I didn’t realize who little I know about other cultures on the planet and how much my group of friends is from the one culture: Where is The Love.


9. Mainstream media, Whilst in the hospital with my mum I unfortunately had to view it. The word puerile and the meaning of this question come to mind.


10. As it say above, be a voice. This period of time in raising your your children cannot be taken back without some serious therapy bills if you stuff it up: Teach Your Children Well. 


11. How do millions of people turn into killers during the time of war. Often they were neighbors who had lived next to each other peacefully for years and years. The above sentence speaks very loudly.


12. The federal government in my home country, Australia seem to have forgotten this, they are about to implement a national Grade 1 grammar test: Better Place.


13. This haunting image could not let me not include it.


14. I spent many months contemplating this during my dark times. It was not Erin but Ruth and Jann and Hugo who said this to me, not in such dramatic style, but I heard it: Stay.


15. Perhaps best known for the remark in a letter to an Anglican bishop, “Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Great men are almost always bad men. Donald Trump, or Nelson Mandela who will be remembered in the year 3030?

So I am imploring you to realize that you have rights and you have a voice. It’s our time, Its up to Us, Because we Can.

Namaste, until next time, my dear friends.

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In Life you have Three Choices!!

” Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anyone else expects of you. Never excuse yourself – Henry Ward Beecher”

I don’t know if I ever saw myself as someone who came up with excuses. The way I saw it, Life treated me unkindly, and If I was living an unhappy life it wasn’t because of me. It wasn’t because I was making up excuses, but because that’s how my life was. I was just being “realistic.”

The opening lines of chapter 4 in Luminita Saviuc’s aka The Purpose Fairies beautiful book 15 Things you should give up to be Happy – An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy Book Link.. I chose chapter four because it is about giving up and I am in the throes of giving up on my much loved workshop project. I am enquiring into what has got me to this point at the moment so what does society say about giving up on our dreams; down the trail we go:


1. If that dream is well entrenched in your psyche, whatever life throws at you won’t stop you, there will be no excuse that will get in the way.


2. Stop listening to them, they are total BS: No Bullshit.


3. MLK, Nelson Mandela and Mother Teresa had the same amount of time in their lives as we do each day, they did not give up on their dreams, why do so many people?


4. How many people who were important in your life a few years ago have disappeared overtime. Those who stayed made the effort: Love the Way you Lie.

giveup55. At One Roof, a women’s coworking space in my home city of Melbourne, there is a quote which goes like this: An entrepreneur jumps off the cliff and builds the plane on the way down. Get the drift?


6. Usually it takes a disaster like the one occurring  in Houston  at the moment to make these words irrelevant for most people, don’t be one of them: Never to Busy.


7. Anti graffiti them off your mental walls.


8. Supreme guitar player and street philosopher, Carlos Santana gets in our faces: Evil Ways.


9. Take these up as daily practices and you will find  it harder and harder to give up.


10. Listen, that’s your heart speaking to you. It’s not into the excuses your mind comes up with from your past: High for This.


11. Nobody knows what you want except you, Fuck Yeah!!!


12. When I used to train for the 4 marathons I ran in a life a long time ago after the first four kilometres I ran I had this incredible urge to stop running. I did several times but overcame it which allowed me to get to the fitness level I needed to complete the 42 kilometres that a marathon is: Stronger.


13. Florence Nightingale is responsible for the founding of modern nursing, to overcome the male superiority belief that was prevalent in the 1800 and 1900’s Florence would have to definitely walked the talk of the above quote.


14. No time to get lost: Find a Way.


15. Defeat does not mean it’s all over, you can always get back up and continue towards your dream.

” All excuses are misalignment. Words like “difficult,” “risky,” “can’t,” “too weak,” ” too dumb” and “too complicated” do not apply to the divine mind. I urge you to reharmonize with energy that can do anything and everything, for that is your original nature.

  • Wayne Dyer

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

namaste prayer


I wear my letters on my front!!

Just got back from a weekend retreat with my mentor Arion Light: The Activation School. We never know what new surprising empowerment will be served up. This weekend it was an initiation. So what does society define an initiation as, here’s the Google definition:

  1. 1.
    the action of admitting someone into a society or group, typically with a ritual.
    “rituals of initiation”
    synonyms: beginning, starting, commencement

  2. 2.
    the action of beginning something.
    “the initiation of legal proceedings”
    synonyms: introduceadmitletinductinstallinstateincorporateordaininvestenlistenrolrecruit, sign up, swear in;


    I think ordain is the closest to what I felt on the weekend because it felt like being introduced to a whole new cut at life. So how has society commented on the  noble art of initiation over the years, let’s have a look:


    1. It is, or it isn’t: why would you choose the latter, yet I know I do. Inition helped me greatly with hanging around with it is.


    2. My friend says she became another person when this happened for her at a very late stage in her life, from the mothers I know there seems to be a lot of truth in it: I Got You.


    3. I’m not sure if we all felt this at the end of the ceremony, but the sense of love within the room was palpable.


    4. They say a life that is spent in reacting and responding to day to day situations and circumstances is stressful, let’s initiate life from today: Shape of You.


    5. It’s a lifetime journey, my dear friends.


    6. That’s why I and the participants are in the Activators program, the love of learning how to live a better life: Good Life.


    7. One of the first spiritual books I read,The Way of the peaceful Warrior. Dan Millman was a world class gymnast when he had a horrific motorcycle accident. The book is about his journey to recovery with his teacher.


    8. We were just waking up who we already were: The Crazy Ones.


    9. Within first, then the without joins in happily.


    10. I wonder what I and you have written on your internal sticky notes: Song for the Inner Child.


    11. We weren’t learning how to initiate this, ours was about love.


    12. This was part of my initiation, I spent a lot of time having the thought, WTF is going on: Full of Shit.


    13. The initiation for me was to release the last two statements.


    14. You can’t know it all, yes, he and I are talking to you: In case you didn’t know everything.


    15. Finally from one of the greatest philosophers to walk the planet, something that must be included in any effective initiation: Gratitude or celebration as we practice it in the Activators Program.

    We were asked to make a final statement at the end of the weekend, mine were rapturous contentment

    Namaste until next time, my dear friends.