We Don’t Make Mistakes, Just Happy Little Accidents!!


I go around to my sister Ruth’s, I call her Ruthie place on most Tuesdays for family connection. It comes out of a practice we used to do of taking our dear mum who passed at the end of 2017 op shopping, think thrift shops for the US nearly every Tuesday for seven years. She advised me that she had visited St. Arnaud, one of the towns we sent 4 years during our childhood. This was 50 years ago, and for some inexplicable reason, I remembered it used to be called The New Bendigo goldfields and that the only remaining item of that name was a derelict cemetery 10 km outside town on the Donald road. Mind you, I have not been there for 30 plus years. I am such a research nerd, no fact, however small leaves my grey matter.

We began talking about our memories of the place, our friends’ names, the local pool and then for some reason I moved onto the mistakes I had made. This is not a complete list, but here goes: 1. Setting the lounge room chimney on fire so that the Fire Brigade had to be called to put it out. 2. Setting the paddock behind our house on fire with matches and lying about it, yes the fire brigade had to come again, who’s the closet pyromaniac. 3. Sinking the other rafts in the Scout regatta by putting holes in their drums with a hammer and nail punch, we were quite inventive with this, I don’t know how we weren’t thrown out. My sister asked me why would you do things like that, I have contemplated it and come up with the devil in me was looking for an escape clause.

What do mistakes cost us and how has society looked at it, here we go:

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1. I have never lit a fire again in my life, I say I am terrible at it.

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2. The pyromaniac in me needed a couple of lessons: Firestarter.

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3. I have come to the realisation that mistakes are just our shadow side talking to us, sometimes in funny ways.

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4. This appealed to the People Pleaser in me: U Can’t Touch This.

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5. Mistakes are definitely an essential part of our formative education.

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6. Mistakes, your own personal Power Ranger: Gangsta’s Paradise.

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7. Regarding the fire stuff,  luckily, both of my parents were loving and understanding.

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8. Marilyn’s mistake: messing with the POTUS: Happy Birthday, Mr President.

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9. By the greatest quoter, Ms Unknown, but a beauty.

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10. How many of us are guilty of this: Rehab.

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11. Sofia Villani ScicoloneDame of the Grand Cross, OMRI  born 20 September 1934), known professionally as Sophia Loren is an Italian film actress and singer. She is one of the last surviving stars from the Golden Age of Hollywood. Encouraged to enrol in acting lessons after entering a beauty pageant, Loren began her film career at age 16 in 1950. She appeared in several bit parts and minor roles in the early part of the decade until her five-picture contract with Paramount in 1956 launched her international career. Notable film appearances around this time include The Pride and the PassionHouseboat, and It Started in Naples.

Her talents as an actress were not recognised until her performance as Cesira in Vittorio De Sica’s Two Women; Loren’s performance earned her the Academy Award for Best Actress in 1962 and made her the first actress to win an Oscar for a foreign-language performance. She holds the record for having earned six David di Donatello Awards for Best Actress: Two WomenYesterday, Today and TomorrowMarriage Italian Style (for which she was nominated for a second Oscar); SunflowerThe Voyage; and A Special Day. After starting a family in the early 1970s, Loren chose to make only occasional film appearances. In later years, she has appeared in American films such as Grumpier Old Men (1995) and Nine (2009).

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12. One, Two, Three, begin the forgiveness: Courage.

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13. If you have people around you who do this, time to say goodbye to them.

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14. Do Buddhist monks doing a three-year meditation retreat in a cave make mistakes: Hell Yes: Mirror.

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15. From this list comes the message, your job is to learn.

Did I stop making mistakes after we moved from St. Arnaud nee New Bendigo, FUCK NO!! I am 64 and am sure I still have several hundred to go, but they all will be part of the beautiful journey we call life.

The playlist rocks tonight. The Prodigy smashes you First, Two rap icons in MC Hammer and Coolio follow next, then a throwback with a tune by Marilyn Monroe. Amy Winehouse follows with the penultimate piece being the spoken word by Bruce Lee, in Chinese with subtitles. We finish with more rap from Little Wayne and Bruno Mars. Enjoy, I did creating it: We Don’t Make Mistakes, Just Happy Little Accidents.

So mistakes, all the more reason we need to embrace my world paradigm, Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. Until Next time, my dear friends.

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Humans are still the most extraordinary Computer of All!!


How am I feeling after our Warriors of Love training day on Identity and Essence offered by Arion Light and his Essence School? Link to a New Future.

My Essence is Trust in Intimacy and sees me on a journey as to what it would take to have life be intimate moment by moment in my daily interactions with my family, friends, workmates, and potential lovers as that is an area I am working on after a ten year drought and a 12 month amazing journey.

We did an exercise on giving feedback in regards to our identities and our Essence. All went well as the first two people got it right in giving me feedback to my identity that was areas they thought I could improve in coming from I love you, Rod. Bring on the third person, who started by praising my identity which brought up the following thought, Wait, you are doing it wrong and then an aha moment that I related that my identity was all that was wrong about me and that if people really knew that about me they would never speak to me let alone interact with me in a relationship.

So, how has the human race spoke about Identity and Essence, let’s have a wee look:

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1. Busyness vs. Passion, The choice is up to you.

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2. Mahatma, we are called the Warriors of Love, 33 and expanding: Faith.

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3. We leave no one behind.

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4. I work at a place called the Darebin Intercultural Centre. The word Intercultural was specifically chosen to empower what the above quote is pointing at: Common Cultures.

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5. John Abbot (1751-c.1840) was an American naturalist and artist. He was the first artist in the New World to create an extensive series of insect drawings and to show insects in all stages of development. In addition to more than 3000 insect illustrations, he also produced drawings of birds and plants. He obviously believed all creatures were part of the earth’s culture.

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6. Another Warrior’s essence is clarity, this quote reminds me of his stand for it: Set Your Controls for the Heart of the Sun.

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7. Do you know what you really want?

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8. How fucking beautiful is this from Albert, rocks my world: Real Love.

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9. Not up to them, It’s up to you and the actions you are willing to take it to make it happen.

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10. I love the way Brene Brown says it: Dare to Lead: Dare To Lead.

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11. A missing from current society is the power of the storytelling circle.

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12. Boom: It’s My Life.

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13. Made me think of the saying: Opposites Attract, well done Stephen.

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14. When I am with the Warriors of Love I feel this so strongly: Illuminating the Soul.

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15. And for our final lesson for the day, have some ridiculous fun.

Moving onto the Essence conversations, I have big boots to fill, I am up for it.

Today’s playlist is a little eccentric. George Michael funks out the first track, then some intercultural kids from Western Sydney, Bysa. A classic Pink Floyd song takes you to …, followed by a very gospelly number by Blanca.  Brene Brown then lays some truth on us then some good old rock and roll from Bon Jovi. We finish with a contemplative piece about the soul: Humans Are.

My ethos to fill those boots is, Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Till next time we meet again, dear friends.

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Drop the last year into the limbo of the Past!!


Fast forward to December 2019. You’re sitting at home pondering the year that’s been…What’s next? My friend Emeli and her crew wrote this as a sub-heading under 2019, ideal vision in Lifebook 2019 On Purpose: Get in Contact.

Em asks 8 questions, they are as follows:

  1. Who are You? What have you achieved? Where do you want to be?
  2. List the top three reasons you want this vision.
  3. Who do you want to be in 2019? List three small actions you can take to make a big change.
  4. What advice would you give to yourself in a year’s time?
  5. What books do you want to have read?
  6. What places do you want to have travelled to?
  7. What hobbies will you have started?
  8. Who would you have kissed more? Hugged more? Made, deep, deep love to?

So, if you are deeply ensconced in your humanity, you will have up and down periods over the year, so what are some of the favourite quotes about the year that was, let’s take a stroll down that lane:

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1.  Andriy Shevchenko is a soccer player and politician who made Champions League history; on 23 November 2005, he scored all four goals in Milan’s 4–0 group stage drubbing of Fenerbahçe, becoming only the fifth player to accomplish this feat; his company includes Marco van Basten, Simone Inzaghi, Dado Pršo and Ruud van Nistelrooy (while Lionel Messi joined that group in the 2009–10 season and Robert Lewandowski in 2012–13), and the only one to have done it in an away game. 

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2. By the worlds most prolific quote writer, Ms Unknown, the world gets you: Golden Years.

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3. Don’t forget to include the fun factor as well as the hard work during 2019.

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4. Two words: Simon & Garfunkel: Frank Lloyd Wright

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5. Each of us reaches this revelation at different stages in our lives, will you do it in 2019?

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6. And some of it you dread and other bits you say Fuck, Yes too: After All These Years.

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7. For the sisters.

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8. René Karl Wilhelm Johann Josef Maria Rilke, better known as Rainer Maria Rilke, was a Bohemian-Austrian poet and novelist. He is “widely recognized as one of the most lyrically intense German-language poets. Obviously, Maria must have been a strong family name to be chosen to keep: Best thing I never Had.

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9. One of the shortest professional tennis players ever, Michael’s Chinese name (simplified Chinese: 张德培; traditional Chinese: 張德培; pinyin: Zhāng Dépéi) was chosen by Joe, his father and his English name by Betty, his mother (who named him after her father).

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10 Hurts so bad but living so good, great line: Hurt So Bad.

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11. Can you genuinely say this?

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12. Thirty, the new …..?: The Prime Time of Your Life.

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13, Just, because I can.

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14. Will it fill up your 1,000-litre cup: A Thousand Years.

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15. And the final message is for my beloved Warriors of Love.

Emeli also stated: that we can spend all day making lists of the external ‘stuff’ we want like clothes, cars etc. But what really drives us. I will leave you with that question to ponder over the months of 2019.

Last century songs outnumber the 2000’s in tonight’s playlist. We begin with David Bowie, then further back to Simon and Garfunkel. Some rock from Journey follows, then we move forward to Beyonce. Another oldie from Linda Rondstat, then we finish with two tunes written after the 2YK crisis by Daft Punk and Christina Perri: Drop the Last Year into the limbo of the Past.

So I have a request, in 2019 spread the ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included amongst your communities, workplaces, families and love relationships.

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Work While They Sleep, Learn While They Party!!


This blog may be a bit long, it is based on a list by Robin Sharma, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari called Top 200 Secrets of Success In Life, Here they are:

  1. Sleep less.
  2. Set aside one hour every morning for personal development matters.
  3. Do not allow things that matter suffer because of things that don’t.
  4. Use the Rubber Band method to condition your mind to focus.
  5. Always answer the phone with enthusiasm.
  6. Keep a set of blank cards so you can jot down your inspirational ideas.
  7. Set aside every Sunday evening for yourself.
  8. The quality of your life is the quality of your communication.
  9. Stay on purpose, not on outcome.
  10. Laugh for five minutes in the mirror each morning.
  11. Light a candle in the evening when you are reading.
  12. Count your steps when you walk.
  13. Learn to meditate effectively.
  14. Learn to be still.
  15. Enhance your will-power.
  16. Be humorous throughout the day.
  17. Become a highly disciplined time manager.
  18. Associate with positive people.
  19. Become devoted to having only a wonderful experience.
  20. You must have a mission statement in life.
  21. No one can hurt you without your permission.
  22. Take a speed reading course.
  23. Remember people’s names.
  24. Be soft as a flower when it comes to kindness.
  25. Only discuss your health and wealth with your family.
  26. Be truthful, modest and generous.
  27. Soak in a warm bath at the end of the day.
  28. Learn the power of breathing.
  29. Recognise the power of autosuggestion.
  30. Maintain a diary.
  31. Stress is merely a response which you create.
  32. Read The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.
  33. Become a committed audio-tape listener.
  34. Fast one day every two weeks.
  35. Listen to soft, soothing music throughout the day.
  36. Read As a Man Thinketh by James Allen.
  37. Remember that forgiveness is a virtue few develop.
  38. Empty your Cup.
  39. Practice The Two Minute Mind meditation.
  40. Drink a cup of warm water before making a speech.
  41. Stand firm and steadfast.
  42. Act Tough, and you will be Tough.
  43. Ask now what the world can do for you, but what can you do for the world.
  44. Once a week, arise at dawn.
  45. Remain slightly aloof.
  46. Master the art of Public Speaking.
  47. Seek out motivational speakers and listen to them.
  48. Read Discovering Happiness by Denis Wholey.
  49. Read a passage in a book, then try to recite it verbatim
  50. Enter a 5km run then a 10km race.
  51. Burn Orange and Clove essential oils in your burner.
  52. Walk for half an hour after your evening meal.
  53. Start lifting weights.
  54. Never argue with the person you work for.
  55. Dark Suits reflect power, wear them.
  56. Send handwritten notes to your relationships, work and family.
  57. Balance and moderation.
  58. Drink Jasmine Tea.
  59. Effective time management makes you more flexible.
  60. Do not take personal development books as gospel.
  61. Become an adventurer.
  62. Spend Time with Nature.
  63. Mens Sana in corpore Sano – In a sound body rests a sound mind.
  64. Be so strong nothing interferes with your peace of mind.
  65. Do not eat three hours before you sleep.
  66. Be careful about your reputation.
  67. Find mentors to learn and model on.
  68. Make a list of all your weaknesses.
  69. Never complain.
  70. Overlook the weaknesses of your friends.
  71. Be kind, considerate and courteous.
  72. Create your image as a highly competent individual.
  73. Do not reveal everything, familiarity breeds contempt is an excellent rule.
  74. Learn to organise your time.
  75. Keep well informed.
  76. Choosing your life partner is the most critical decision you will make.
  77. Never discuss your personal development activities with anyone, they are yours.
  78. Schedule relaxation time in your week.
  79. To truly concentrate, close your eyes.
  80. Be the master of your will but a servant of your conscience.
  81. Develop the habit of a daily swim.
  82. Do good every day.
  83. Do what you planned to do when you intended to do it.
  84. Use the Bruce Lee worry visualisation exercise to dissipate worry.
  85. Compartmentalise your worries.
  86. Be physically relaxed and mentally engaged.
  87. Yoga.
  88. Prepare a detailed 5-year financial plan and follow it.
  89. Readers are Leaders.
  90. Read something positive before you go to bed.
  91. Develop a dynamic, charismatic personality.
  92. Seek out the wise and learn from them.
  93. Gentleness, Frugality, Humility – Lao Tzu.
  94. When you cannot make up your mind – choose the bolder.
  95. Be your spouse’s number one supporter.
  96. Meet with three wise people in the next two weeks, take their counsel.
  97. Make each day a true masterpiece.
  98. Discipline your mind or lose your energy.
  99. You sow an action, you reap a habit.
  100. Positive overcomes the negative.
  101. A contented mind is a continual feast.
  102. Make a new friend or acquaintance every day.
  103. If you conquer your mind, you capture the world.
  104. Stay happy not build possessions.
  105. Contrary to popular belief, stress is not a bad thing.
  106. Take mental vacations during the day.
  107. A change is useful as a rest.
  108. Study the ten fundamental of Happiness.
  109. Strive to be humble and live a simple life.
  110. Read A History of Knowledge by Charles Van Doren.
  111. Read The Art of The Leader by William A. Cohen.
  112. Develop that elusive quality known as charisma.
  113. In work, love and life, play hard and play fair.
  114. Do not talk when you are listening.
  115. Be angry for a purpose, not just angry for anger’s sake.
  116. Knowledge is Power.
  117. All the answers to any questions are in print, Google It.
  118. Get in the habit of breakfast meetings.
  119. Have a swimming pool near your residence, it will not matter how busy you are.
  120. Excellence is an art won by training and habituation.
  121. Today is yesterday’s pupil.
  122. If you have a choice of two paths, take the most daring.
  123. Every day, get away from the noise.
  124. Focus on goals that are important.
  125. Memorise beautiful poetry.
  126. Keep your words soft and arguments hard.
  127. This will soon pass.
  128. Go the extra mile.
  129. Become a committed and sincere networker.
  130. When you look for something, you will find it.
  131. Develop a sense of wonder about the world.
  132. Do more than writing happy birthday on Facebook for your beloveds.
  133. Remember to use people’s names when you talk to them.
  134. Go outdoors and look up for half an hour.
  135. Once every few weeks leave your phone and watch at home.
  136. Laugh at work.
  137. Master your life, and you master your destiny.
  138. Recognise the tremendous power of opposition thinking.
  139. Get deep in the habit of personal introspection.
  140. The most effective alarm clock resides in your mind.
  141. They say “Why”. I dream and say “Why Not”.
  142. Practice meditation at the same time each day.
  143. Forge and foster great friendships.
  144. Purchase Miles Davis’s Kind of Blue CD.
  145. Drink ten glasses of water a day.
  146. Be punctual.
  147. If you are busy, do not answer the phone.
  148. Start your day off well.
  149. Confide in your partner.
  150. Push yourself a little harder and further every day.
  151. Optimism.
  152. Write down the seven best qualities of people you admire, tape to your bed.
  153. Have your character be healthy and vigorous.
  154. Consider yourself as an orange.
  155. Give and Serve to Others.
  156. Be an innovator at your workplace.
  157. Learn to Laugh at Yourself.
  158. Keep open the windows of your mind.
  159. Go through one full day without saying I.
  160. Spend one hour a day awake in full silence.
  161. Each day, do two things you do not like doing.
  162. Achieve your Goals for true happiness.
  163. Remember the names of the people you meet, ask them to repeat it.
  164. Indominability. Courtesy, Integrity.
  165. Perform the Mental Innterupt device exercise when a negative thought arises.
  166. Take time to focus on personal growth activities.
  167. Read more, learn more, laugh more, and love more.
  168. Improve five relationships in the next six months.
  169. Remember the power of prayer.
  170. Listen to The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale.
  171. Utilise your phones daily organiser.
  172. Browse second-hand stores for treasures.
  173. Read The Magic of Believing by Claude M. Bristol.
  174. Be known as someone with a cool head.
  175. Every week, spend some hours in service of others.
  176. Fill your home with bright, fresh flowers.
  177. Get to know and enjoy your neighbours.
  178. Recognise the power of mantras.
  179. When the breath is still and steady, so is the mind.
  180. Use the one day to live visualisation.
  181. Study evidence of high character.
  182. Youth is not a time of life, it is a state of mind.
  183. Chinese herbal medicine.
  184. Organise your time around your real priorities.
  185. Slow down your pace of life.
  186. Eat only fruit and drink milk for a day.
  187. Value your spouse’s laugh and keep their picture close by.
  188. If married, have your partners initials carved on your ring.
  189. What you put in is what you get out. Positive, not negative.
  190. Do a hundred sit-ups a day.
  191. Be the most honest person you know.
  192. Curb your worldly desires, and you will strengthen your will.
  193. If you have not laughed today, you have not lived today.
  194. Read The Charisma Factor by Robert J. Richardson and S, Katharine Thayer.
  195. Travel Often.
  196. Each month set a physical goal for yourself.
  197. Things are created twice, the mental creation and physical creation.
  198. Walk to work and notice the beauty of nature.
  199. Sleep less, spend less, do more. Live longer and be more magnificent.
  200. Read this book over and share it with others.

What would you add to Robin’s list, what are your self-care practices for success and what does society say about success, let’s have a look at what it has to say:

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1. Being focused and in action gets it done according to Trudy.

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2. Remember to smell the roses along the path: Stop and Smell the Roses.

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3. Nothing and Everything, both extremes can be successful.

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4. Be successful in the every day and quantum success can be built in it: From Little Things, Big Things Grow.

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5. Walk your unique path, you are not meant to wear another’s shoes.

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6. Don’t be a usual suspect: I Bet My Life.

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7. From the most famous philosopher, Ms Unknown comes this uncommon quote.

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8. Don’t be fascinated by it and it will seek you out: Go Your Own Way.

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9. Mistakes, make them. Call out for Help.

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10. Blogger turned New York Times best-selling author and speaker Mandy Hale is the creator of the social media movement, “The Single Woman.” With a heart to inspire single women to live their best lives and to never, ever settle, Mandy cuts to the heart of the matter with her inspirational, straight-talking, witty, and often wildly humorous take on life and love: Breathe Me.

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11. Seek what you love, and you will never work another day in your life.

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12. Do you want it enough to do what you need to make it happen: Whenever, Wherever.

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13. Turn the mind way down.

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14. On and On and On and On: Life Goes On.

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15. Are you for hire, how much do you charge?

For some success is dollars, for some the ideal relationship, for others having children, there is not one situation that fulfils success, find yours and seek it out with all you have to give.

Today’s playlist begins with Mac Davis, then the classic Oz duo Paul Kelly and Kev Carmody. Imagine Dragons are next, then we rock it out with Fleetwood Mac. Two pop divas follow, Sia and Shikhara. We finish with the rapper Tupac: Work While They Sleep, Learn While They Party.

I see success for humanity as being via Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Let’s move towards that until next time we meet, my dear friends.

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Don’t Tell Your Problems to Everyone!!


Today we look at things you would love to tell yourself if you could travel back in Time to give your younger self some advice about life.

I came across this great list by Marc Chernoff using my write about what’s on the page I open the book too. There are quite a few sage statements, here they are:

  1. Spend more time with those who make you smile and less time with those who you feel pressured to Impress.
  2. Your health is your life. Keep up with it. Get an annual physical check-up.
  3. Laugh at stupid jokes. Apologise. Tell someone how much they mean to you. It’s the small moments that make life good.
  4. Living a life of honesty creates peace of mind, and peace of mind is priceless. Period. Don’t be dishonest and don’t put up with people who are.
  5. Life is much more enjoyable when you stop trying to be cool and simply focus on being yourself.
  6. Forgiving yourself is far more important (and difficult) than getting others to forgive you.
  7. Complaining is like slapping yourself for slapping yourself. It doesn’t solve the problem, It just hurts you more.
  8. There are few joys in life that equal a good conversation, A good read, A good walk, A good hug, A good smile, A good friend.
  9. Learn to adjust the sails of your life to unpredictable winds, while keeping your focus clearly on your destination and keep sailing until you get there.
  10. Laughter is the best medicine for stress. Laugh at yourself often. Find the humour, In whatever situation you are in.
  11. Freedom is the greatest gift. Self-sufficiency is the greatest freedom.
  12. Everything that happens in life is neither good nor bad. It just depends on your perspective.
  13. If you want something in your life you’ve never had. You’ll have to do something you’ve never done before.
  14. You’re not alone. Everyone has problems. Some people are just better at hiding them than others.

So what has the world said about life’s lessons, here are a few of my favourites:

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1. How did you cope with the focus when you finished the former and left the latter. Some say the first gives you no training to handle the latter.

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2. Relating to your mistakes as what lesson am I meant to learn from this ILO what went wrong is the most powerful way to get the lesson provided: Not Afraid.

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3. For me, it was the times I had to enter psychiatric clinics, five times, each time you lose total control of your life.

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4. It just seems so natural when you meet both of these things like you have known them your whole life: True Friend.

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5. From the world’s greatest philosopher, Ms Unknown comes this famous camera analogy.

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6. The cat in the hat is such a wise creature: Hop on Pop.

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7. The Shadow and the Light, we need both to be a fulfilled human being.

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8. I like the last line, learn from your mistakes, but never regret: No Regrets.

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9. Part of Self Love 101.

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10. It’s time to leave when the last line starts happening: Don’t Hurt Me.

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11. Love the go through to voicemail line.

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12. WTF is a positive deviant?: My Passion.

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13. Can’t have it be boring, can we?

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14. On life’s journey, remember that word: Succession: Brave.

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15. And for the final lesson, the picture says it all.

Some of us run in the middle of the night. Some of us strum acoustic guitars and smoke joints. And others go to church. Or sip expensive wine. Or surf dangerous waves. or jump out of perfectly good aeroplanes. When we try to understand other people by personally relating to the things that they do, we usually can’t make any sense of it. Because it’s easier to see weirdness in a sea of normality than it is to decode the logical methods behind one’s madness. But when we look just a little deeper, by making a noble effort to understand people by truly listening to why they do the things that they do, they never seem quite as weird. Actually, they and you begin to seem, perfectly normal.

Today’s playlist is for the kids with two animations. We begin with Eminem then transform Miley Cyrus into Hannah Montana. Dr Seuss leads off our animations, then back to the sixties for The Walker Brothers. Then DJ Mustard, followed by Akcent, and we finish off with Sara Bareilles: Don’t Tell Your Problems to Everyone.

I have one important life lesson to add to your lists: Show Love and Respect to All, Everyone Included until we meet again, my dear friends:

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Warning, You think about 60,000 Thoughts a Day!!


Have you heard of Dr Martin Seligman? He created the PERMA  model of well-being. It is an acronym that stands for Positive emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning and Accomplishment. You are more likely to have heard of Dr Seligman than Michelle Mcquaid and Dr Peggy Kern, who recently wrote an excellent book, “Your Wellbeing Blueprint, Feeling Good and Doing Well at Work: Pick It Up Here.

Michelle and Peggy add another letter to the formulae, the letter H, it stands for Health

Your Wellbeing Blueprint distils three decades of research findings from the field of Positive Psychology and reveals practical ways to build your wellbeing through your everyday activities so you can feel good and do well at work. Just like a personal trainer can help you improve your physical fitness, this book will show you how to:

Measure your wellbeing using Professor Martin Seligman’s PERMA framework. Set realistic wellbeing goals that build quick wins to improve your levels of energy, resilience, productivity, health, and happiness. Create a personal wellbeing plan with busy-proof practices that you enjoy doing and make it easier to consistently thrive at work.

With more than 100 positive interventions to choose from, this book gives you everything you need to become an informed, confident, and active steward of your own wellbeing so you can wholeheartedly show up and be fully engaged in life — whatever it throws at you.

Following my formulae to write about what is on the page I first open the book too, on page 36 I discovered the Cultivating Positivity toolkit – Strategies for promoting heartfelt positivity. In the toolkit, there are 7 distinctions:

  1. Dialling up Positivity: Jolts of Joy, Hunt and Gather, Connect with Nature, Measure your Positivity.
  2. Dialling down Negativity: Create Healthy Distractions, Disrupt negative Thoughts, Navigate Negativity Landmines, Limit Media Time.
  3. Practising Kindness: Track your Kindness, Have a Kindness Day, Try Loving Kindness Meditation, Random Acts of Kindness
  4. Cultivating Gratitude: Count Your Blessings, Write a Gratitude letter, Carry a Gratitude Scrap, Thank one Person.
  5. Savouring The Good: Immerse Yourself, Re-Live Peak Moments, Savour your Stories, What went Well.
  6. Getting  Comfortably Uncomfortable: Name your Emotions, Slow down your Responses, Control the controllables, Get In Your Body.
  7. Short-Circuiting Stress: Decode Stress Messages, Turn Adversity into a Resource, Set Stretch Goals, Re-frame Stress Moments.

Each of these statements will mean something different to each and every person on the planet, but what has society said about cultivating positivity over the decades, let’s have a look:

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1. What the, Yes, a simple four letter word.

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2. What was your song when you first fell in Love: The Power of Love.

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3. What field of play would you be seen on?

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4. Behind every cloud, is your own sunshine: Ain’t no Sunshine.

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5. And I couldn’t write on this subject without some Oprah.

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6. You’re under my skin, it may be a good or a bad thing: I’ve Got You Under My Skin.

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8. We are starseed underneath it all: Starman.

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9. Is it working on the inside, or are you one of the greatest showmen/women?

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10. When Uchtdorf was about eleven, his father’s political beliefs, incongruent with Soviet rule, earned him the label of “dissenter”, thus putting their lives in danger. They fled East Germany and resettled in U.S.-occupied West Germany. His sisters accomplished this by jumping from a moving train that happened to pass through West Germany, while Dieter and his mother climbed a mountain to avoid Russian guard checkpoints: Imagine.

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11. We Rise makes me instantly think of Maya Angelou, put Maya and I rise in Youtube, and you will be blessed.

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12. Change is one of those things in life that is guaranteed, just like death and taxes: Changes.

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13. And that is why the Lords of War will never win against the good that is the basis of the human race.

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14. Playtime!: Girls Just Wanna Have Fun.

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15. As I like to do with the final quote, a request to support the planet’s wellbeing.

Michelle and Peggy write the following under the question “How can I develop more Heartfelt Positivity?”

You can’t create genuine heartfelt positive emotion by just trying to think happy thoughts. Willpower and mental effort alone are not enough to make a difference. Instead, studies suggest that the most reliable and effective way to alter your emotional state is to try and better select or modify your circumstances. For example, if you enjoy having dinner parties with friends, this can be a great way to set the stage for more heartfelt positivity. But, hosting a dinner party can be a lot of work, so as the experience unfolds you . may need to modify the situation in small ways. For instance, you can spend more time interacting with your guests rather than being in the kitchen – see how that impacts what you’re feeling. It’s also important to be realistic about your expectations of positivity. Positive emotions are fleeting. They’re going to arise and they’re going to dissipate, and we need to accept that, rather than try to cling to them.

One of the songs on today’s playlist has had 793,000,000 plays, guess which one. A lot of the royalty of the music scene today: Firstly Jennifer Rush, then Bill Withers. Three dead set legends follow, one of them twice – Frank Sinatra, David Bowie, John Lennon and David again. We finish with Cyndi Lauper who had had 793.000.000 hits: Warning, You Think about 60,000 Thoughts a Day.

If this blog piques your interest, I recommend purchasing it, it has over 100 ways to improve your wellbeing. I have another, treat everyone you meet with Love and Respect, Everyone Included as you go through your day until we meet again, my dear friends.

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A few of my Favourite Things!!


It seems I have reached the limit of Facebook pages I can like, it’s 5,000, the same as Facebook friends you can have, But I have built a collection of my top 10 or 20 over the journey that I offer to the Booker Looker universe because I believe their posts make a difference. Some of them I have no idea how we connected and others were recommendations from friends. So I thought I would list them for you so that you have the opportunity to gain the knowledge they share across the airwaves:

  1. Nicky Hamid: Spiritual dude from New Zealand. His words are full of the most love for the planet and its occupants I have found: Link to Nicky.
  2.  Luminita Savic, AKA Purpose Fairy: Her blog on 15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy went viral and she now appears on stages all around the world giving her worldly advice, one of the great list makers on the net: Link to Luminita.
  3. Marc and Angel Hack Life – Practical Tips for Productive Living: After losing two very close people at an early age, Marc and Angel Chernoff began to write about the experience in a blog which has turned into their latest book becoming a New York Times bestseller, to me the most useful meme and list makers on the net.: Hack Life.
  4. Brian Johnston at Optimize: made millions in the IT industry then went to Bali to read every book worth reading. Does a six-page PDF and 20 minute audio on the big ideas from each book, For those who are time poor but love new knowledge for $10 a month you get 5 new books, best ten bucks I spend: The Books.
  5. Katherine Woodward Thomas: Katherine writes a daily mini blog on relationships and life. They are incredibly insightful, they are called Love out Loud Daily: Katherine’s link.
  6. Dane Tomas: Creator of a revolutionary clearing method called the Spiral, Dane is my go-to man on all things in regards to sexuality, you may find some of his stuff abrasive but its worth the journey: Dane Live.
  7. Amrit Sandhu: This is actually a blog called Inspired Revolution. You will not meet a man more enthusiastic about life than my friend Amrit. He interviews inspiring people who give you a lift everytime you listen. Here’s Amrit.
  8. Mastin Kipp: My version of Tony Robbins. I first came across Mastin when he had a blog called The Daily Love which used to have the best quotes and guests. He had 700,000 followers but shut it down when he realised that coaching was his true destiny: Live Your Purpose.
  9. Elephant Journal: Numerous pages on Health, humour sustainability. It costs $108 for life but is worth the investment: Elephants Pages.
  10. Ari Amala: Another friend, her poetry is so beautiful and touches my heart every time. I told her she reminds me of Maya Angelou when she reads it: Access Ari and her words of Beauty.
  11. Dannielle LaPorte: I use her daily planner and have for five years. Uber insightful Canadian, lots of free stuff including at the moment her Flagship Book, The Desire Map: My Favourite Canadian
  12. Madysn Taylor: DailyOm, always a great read on a wide variety of subjects: Here’s Madyson.

So that covered Facebook and the net, but what does society say about a few of our favourite things, let’s have a look:

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1. What more love can you offer in a gift than actually creating it yourself.

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2, My friends who have been there said the uniqueness of its people is one of the reasons New York is their favourite place: New York, New York.

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3, Money you can get back, time is gone forever, us it wisely.

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4. Don’t know who Terry Gross is, but with 29,000 songs on my Itunes and Spotify, I plead guilty to this: My Favourite Things.

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5. And then there is all of life.

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6. The good bits and the so-called bad bits, put down the umbrella’s my friends: Satisfy My Soul.

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7. All dancing and singing ones do it for me.

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8. Reading Oliver’s name I instantly think of his book with the quirky title The Man who Mistook His Wife for a Hat: Toccata and Fugue.

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9. Shared.

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10. Who knows what may be generated by having a cup of coffee at your favourite cafe: From Little Things, Big Things Grow.

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11. Who’s your favourite voice.

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12. I love it, Life as a happy accident: Happy Accidents.

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13. At 17, Coelho’s introversion and opposition to following a traditional path led to his parents committing him to a mental institution from which he escaped three times before being released at the age of 20. His life story reads like the title of his most popular book, The Alchemist.

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14. Education goes both ways, the student and the teacher are changed by each interaction: Teach Your Children Well.

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15. And finally, a recipe to start a few of your Favourite Things with.

In her excellent book, Love Out Loud: Contact Nicole., Nicole Gibson recalls a quote from a friend “Stand In Love, Don’t Fall In Love”, I think this sums up the power of a Few of our Favourite Things very well.

On the playlist, we return to a few previous centuries to fill in the mix today. Frank Sinatra, John Coltrane, Bob Marley and Bach lead off. Then a classic from a great OZ band, The Waifs. We finish with two artists new to me, Saint Motel and the duo Suzzy Bogguss & Kathy Mattea: A Few of My Favourite Things.

My Favourite thing is Interculturalism: So remember to show Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included until next time we meet my dear friends.

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