What you tell your younger self!!!


Have you ever written yourself advice in the past or the future. I have done both several times at different periods in my life, the first being in our counter-culture English teachers class in High School. I came across a list a friend wrote recently and feel it has some great advice as it was written around the same time in his life. It was for his future self to his younger self.

  1. Your thirties, forties and fifties won’t feel like your thirties, forties and fifties.
  2. Bad things will happen to you and your friends.
  3. Everyone can make a huge difference.
  4. First impressions aren’t all they’re cracked up to be.
  5. Big results come when you narrow your focus.
  6. Love yourself. Become your own priority.
  7. Sometimes you just have t go for it.
  8. In order to get, you have to give.
  9. Not much is worth fighting about.
  10. Don’t try to impress everyone.
  11. Keep having fun.
  12. Keep it simple.
  13. Little things stick with you.
  14. Keep your opinions to yourself.
  15. Manage your time.
  16. Manage your money.
  17. What you learn in school does matter.
  18. Dreams will remain dreams forever if you don’t take action.

What he did different was he interviewed his father who at the time was in his early 50’s. So what have we as a human race said about sage advice for the future, let’s have a look:

1. Three values for a bright, bright future.

2. Mahatma used this ethos to free a country for foreign rule: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6RYNED5p2EY

3. If we do this every day we will have a lot of personal gratitude in our lives.

4. How’s the book of your life coming along: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1d4r9awjKE&list=PL0msuI7SJDFfd2BRR9rOYWF5X9NGlcVXW

5. And Serena is one of a few people who would have the money to even consider this.

6. Make mistakes, this is what you learn from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6rP-YP4c5I

7. Written by the famous Ms Anon, this fits with if you never lie you don’t have to remember anything.


8. Haven’t included a quote by a POTUS for a while, this is a great one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EqolSvoWNck

9. To be great you will have to go in every direction, some that even you may not give yourself permission.

10. The future is really up to you to create, so do it well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dm9Zf1WYQ_A

11. If you do good deeds throughout your life, you will not need campaigns, etc, etc.

12. Hard to believe the wisdom of Forrest Gump is 30 years old: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0yFOupUkKQ&list=PLq_6wXJhooZNrHqOq-PLaEQ-VFpgtNc4V&index=14

13. Evangelist Billy Graham talks a lot about faith, this quote is very poignant.

14. Take the suggestions but begin the journey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vP4iY1TtS3s

15. What are you writing for yours?

So this made me think about advice my parents had given me over the years and the times I ignored them. As my friend said, looking back they were right most of the time. This is one of the gifts of eldership.

For today’s playlist we begin with one of my favourite Australian singer/songwriters Anne McCue. Then the second Elvis, Elvis Costello. Three fine female singers follow: Shakira, Marilyn Monroe and Billie Ellish. The penultimate song is a 60’s classic by Scott McKenzie and we finish with Martin Luther King: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrt4bcuSvPP1abdV9OUkpqgs

Supporting, guiding and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. Everything you do comes around. Who knows what our futures will be, all I know that mine will include spreading Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. I have set the plan in place through my two Facebook groups: Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 and Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/183421768519278. You are cordially invited to join one or both of these groups as the more supporting this ethos the merrier.

Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Do you listen to your Heart or your Head?


I had a coaching session with my friend Lou today and as per usual she asked me what was showing up and what would I like to work on today. We have been in lock-down for over 200 days in my state of Victoria in the last year and I was feeling it today so I stated that I felt a little empty inside especially in my hands. We did some exercises and I noticed that I was forming fists of anger instead of contacting my heart to resolve the issue of what was having me feel this way.

When do we go in the direction of our heads ILO our hearts to resolve matters of the body. Often I do it when life has pushed me over, when really it’s time to stand up and push back even harder. Where there is a fork in the road and choices to make, make the ones your future self will thank you for. Today,start:

  1. Choosing you.
  2. Appreciating what you have.
  3. Believing in yourself and your dreams.
  4. Being positive.
  5. Taking action.
  6. Letting go.
  7. Picking yourself back up.
  8. Ignoring negative people.
  9. Staying in touch with close friends and family.
  10. Making time for fun.
  11. Spreading love and kindness.
  12. Being the change you want to see in the world.

So what has society said about listening to the heart over the centuries, let’s have a look:

1. Advice Pocahontas gave to the invaders of her land.

2. A woman who could live this life in the face of much controversy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1o9rLDCfO6o

3. It won’t matter after you escape, because we will have passed on to another pathway.

4. Some of my great moments live in this realm: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yCC_b5WHLX0

5. Very practical advice.

6.Tres Cute piece of heart advice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eh44QPT1mPE

7. Bold, Brave and Strong, such worthy attributes in life.

8. Bryant McGill is a human potential thought leader, international bestselling author, activist, and social entrepreneur. He is one of the world’s top social media influencers reaching a billion people a year: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oa7PUQAQ3zo

9. There is a right way to listen, this explains it well.

10. Heart and Soul, they are telling it like it is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nOubjLM9Cbc

11. This is a mean trick to pull on your body.

12.The first woman to head a Fortune 500 company, hanging around in those circles you definitely would need to know how to do this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5-yKhDd64s&list=PLKsj3BQVDw-_vaWpOlYPbklt4fEbF6OhD

13. The more you follow your heart the shorter you regret list is on your death-bed.

14. Never let the former override the latter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pw-0pbY9JeU

15. Don’t doubt your heart!!

Believe in your heart. Listen to your soul as well. Trust your instincts. Acknowledge your own strengths. Dream it and dare it. Do what you are afraid of, and capable of. Follow your vision. Know that anything is possible. Know you Can.

A couple of classics on the playlist today. Elton John leads us off. Then Roxette do that song about hearts followed by Neil Young. 2Pac does a rap cover of Roxette next with Michael Kiwanuka rocking one out next. The penultimate song is Eminem and we complete with Twenty One Pilots: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrsF_nUjfphbe4SiEWUmM-ug

I think your heart wants the best for you but sometimes we forget this when we make mistakes following it and we get scared off. My ethos for Interculturalism: Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included comes from my heart-space. I use two Facebook groups to support the spread of it. The first and oldest is Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism, the second is Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. You are always welcome yo join our band of merry travelers, just click on the links. Until next time my dear friends.

Day 200, and its not over!!!


Last Thursday in my home town of Preston, Melbourne, Victoria, Australia we reached a notable breakthrough. It was 200 days we have been in Lockdown since the start of the pandemic, number six in fact with short breaks in between. You could let this take you on a deep ride of despair or contemplate what your new future will be after the light has returned..

So how do you find strength in hard times It is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities for growth and happiness. here are some thoughts to get through this stage:

  1. You are not what happened to you in the past.
  2. Focus on what you have, not on what you don’t.
  3. Struggling with problems is a natural part of growing.
  4. It’s OK to fall apart for a little while.
  5. Life is fragile, sudden, and shorter than it often seems.
  6. Emotionally separate yourself from your problems.
  7. Don’t make a problem bigger than it is.
  8. View every challenge as an educational assignment.
  9. Things change, but the sun always rises the next day.
  10. Giving up and moving on are two different things.
  11. Perfect relationships don’t exist.
  12. You must love yourself too.
  13. Don’t let others make decisions for you.
  14. Resentment hurts you, not them.
  15. Consciously nurture your inner hope.
  16. It’s better to be hurt by the truth than comforted by a lie.
  17. Not getting what you want can be a blessing.
  18. Laughter is the best medicine for stress.
  19. Worrying is literally a waste of energy.
  20. Even when it’s hard to move, take small steps forward.
  21. You are better off without some people you thought you needed.
  22. You are only competing against yourself.
  23. Life is not easy.
  24. Your future is unwritten.
  25. You are not trapped, you just need to relearn a few things.
  26. Everything in life is two-sided.
  27. You always have a choice.
  28. Let others in when you’re in a dark place.
  29. If you ask negative questions, you will get negative answers.
  30. The end is a new beginning.

As Lockdown is a relatively new term in our vocabulary comments made on it come from our current time, but there are people who have come up with some classics, let’s have a look:

1.Dolly is like a walking quotesayer.

2. Each day is what you make of it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qupH9aLF4hA

3. Especially written for our friends during Lockdown.

4.Where we hangout these days: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Eo9M4-BrJA

5. Not the thoughts of a certain premier in our country, Go you good thing Gladys B.

6. And each day there are COVID reports from all around the country: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ity-l7be1z0

7. Ellen Burstyn is an American actress. Known for her portrayal of complicated women in dramas, Burstyn is the recipient of numerous accolades, including an Academy Award, two Prime-time Emmy awards, and a Tony Award, one of the few performers to achieve the “Triple Crown of Acting”.

8. A bit over the top but relevant in it’s meaning: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKdknYaSHgE

9. How much would we all love a hug and kiss!!!

10. And actually watch the air stewardesses do their routine:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cr7SgQewSEc

11. You can never go back to whence you where.

12. A question often asked on social media:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v7TarriXFME

13. We have several of these signs in our neighborhood.

14. And for the anti-vaxxers reading this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bDktBZzQIiU

15. And we finish with a quote by the famous Ms. Unknown.

Spend your time wisely today and pause long enough to appreciate it. Every moment you get is a gift. Don’t waste time by dwelling on the past. Spend it on things that move you in the direction of your future.

Today’s playlist contains 4 gods and queens of Rock.We begin with Lou Reed and Pavarotti, a mighty combination. Then the first of two Covid parodies, Coronavirus Rhapsody. Joe Cocker is next then followed by our next duet John Denver and Cass Elliot. Plane Music flies away next. The penultimate tune is the second parody by Ariana Grande and we complete with Johnny Cash: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrt3Nm36QtzpKaeQy7e89nwm

With the world covered by lock-downs I sense that the world need my ethos: Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included and my two Facebook groups that spread it around the world Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/183421768519278 and Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949, you are invited to join our merry band. Till next time, my dear friends.

Is it still important to you all these years later?


Those things I did 20 years ago, what I considered good or bad too often let me hide the beauty that was in front of me. I got caught up in my own head thinking that the few things that weren’t going my way were worthy of creating a manifesto of my life.

Here is a list of several things that this manifesto was made up of:

  1. The inevitable frustrations of an average day.
  2. The little failures you often feel self-conscious about.
  3. How “perfect” everything could be, or should be.
  4. Having complete confidence before taking the first step.
  5. The intricacies of what’s in it for you.
  6. Being an only-only activist for good causes.
  7. The pressure to make a big difference all at once.
  8. The temptation of quick fixes.
  9. Having a calendar jam-packed with exciting, elaborate plans.
  10. Being in constant control of everything.
  11. Blaming Others.
  12. Winning everyone’s approval.
  13. Saving overly dramatic people from themselves.
  14. The selfish and disparaging things others say and do.
  15. Winning arguments.
  16. Judging others for their shortcomings.
  17. Society’s obsession with outer beauty.
  18. Fancy and expensive physical possessions.
  19. All the shallow relationships that make you feel more popular.
  20. Distant future possibilities.

So what has the human race said about what is important later in life, let’s have a look:

1. They are way out in front!!!

2. And the greatest opponent to this is the anti-aging industry: https://youtu.be/awzNHuGqoMc

3. Over and Over again, yet we seem to forget fairly often.

4. The Africans sure know how to articulate their wisdom: https://youtu.be/3XIkYCFDMnA

5. This is why your teachers are older than you at the first stages of your life, to teach you this lesson.

6. And you get closer and closer each day of your life: https://youtu.be/VlD2GYtD29Q

7. And all indigenous tribes fight this world-wide.

8. All original preachers thought these things: https://youtu.be/VptisJUx3CQ

9. Well said, Garrison.

10. What is pleasing does not count as wisdom: https://youtu.be/q3NTVkHwD5I

11. Do you remember those things your parents said that you promised you would never say, sprung.

12. That’s when the respect for each other kicks in: https://youtu.be/P6zaCV4niKk

13. How soon we forget who got us to where we are in life.

14. A big thing for the most popular man in the NBA at his time to say: https://youtu.be/tzq7e86m_W4

15. It’s like a third stage in life, but you can’t life the third with out the first two.

As you continue to travel the road of life, do your best to avoid letting anyone or anything get in the way of your joy. Life a life that rocks and makes you laugh out loud every day of the year. Here are some things that will help with that:

  1. Think Deeply.
  2. Speak gently.
  3. Love Lots.
  4. Laugh Often.
  5. Work Hard.
  6. Give Back.
  7. Expect less.
  8. Be present.
  9. Be Kind.
  10. Be honest.
  11. Be true to yourself.

Today’s playlist contains two spoken word pieces, both very different in origin. We begin with one of the U.S.A’s biggest recording star Tim Mcgraw. Kings and Queens follows from Africa then Jamaica’s Capleton and Chronixx – Help the Weak. Dhar Mann learns a lesson next. WE then travel back in the decades to The Beatles and Cat Stevens. We complete with the fame of
Julius Erving: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYruLSCPtLlJbkIxfk9D8EFXw

So this blog definitely fits in with my ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. Remember you can join my two Facebook groups I have created to spread it across the universe. The first is Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humankind: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 and the second Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism. You are invited to join and add your countries version of these. Until next time my dear friends.

Your Contribution is a gift to the Community!!!


Several years ago I fell in love with a social enterprise in my home city of Melbourne called Lentil as Anything, a chain of restaurants run on a pay as you feel philosophy. The title of this blog is part of their ethos. A question for you: do you walk around thinking my contribution is a gift to the community or more like thinking I don’t really make much of a contribution. What is it that shifts you from the latter to the former.

When life pushes you over, stand up and push back even harder. When there is a fork in the road, make the ones your future self with thank you for. Today, start:

1.Choosing you.

2. Appreciating what you have.

3. Believing in yourself and your dreams.

4. Being Positive.

5. Taking Action

6. Letting Go.

7. Picking Yourself Back Up.

8. Ignoring Negative People.

9. Staying in touch with close friends and family.

10. Making Time for Fun.

11. Spread Love and Kindness.

12. Being the Change you want to see in the World.

I can imagine this is a battle that has gone on between our consciousnesses for a very long time, Let’s have a look at what people of note have said about it over the years:

1.I think this depends on who you ask?

2. Mr I am not your Guru who appears to be worshiped by his followers as a guru :https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y9lNbNGbo24

3. Reading his history Arthur Ashe, tennis player extraordinaire was a remarkable African American in a time at best they were called negro if not worse.

4. In history the first wise people were not remembered for what they achieved but what they contributed: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rMLChxRHnWM

5. The first female high school principal in the U.S.A., Ethel founded AARP, an elder activist organization which with membership of 28 million making its magazine and bulletin the two largest readerships in the USA.

6. Gautama Buddha chips in from 2,400 years ago: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lzrCRDGctNE

7. I do not believe we have studied this one very well.

8. One of 15 surviving sailors on the battleship Arizona at Pearl Harbour, his book The Strangest Secret is considered one of the greatest motivational books of all time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpYeekQkAdc&list=PL3DDj3bwnjI1ywrjlCUY_9SX4OQgHr5KJ

9. The best remembered wife of a POTUS, Eleanor Roosevelt never began to die until she did.

10. And they left a word out of this quote, HER: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLYqTZKEpvs

11. Live long and Prosper was made famous by Leonard Nimoy’s character Spock in his 50 year acting career.

12. No levels of government are contributing to their community if they have laws that do this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EpfpqsSALuY

13. Makes sense to me, but does it happen?

14. Another deep question to answer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CtZrPDjyffI

15 And the most famous POTUS with a very obtuse question to finish.

This collection of quotes shows that we have thought about contribution being a gift for a long time as a human race, I think we will for a long time in the future and perhaps even resolve the issue.

Today’s playlist goes all over the place, contributions of spoken word, the 80’s, the East and a very education video on black music. We begin with none of these, firstly is Gang Starr, then followed by Marianne Williamson. My unknown is next the Isha Foundation. My favourite Black Eyed Peas song leads us to Darryl Hall and John Oates. The penultimate song is Massive Attack and we finish with Music is Black History: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtUz0w9taVPwST5DJcBuhWd

I believe my contribution that is a gift to the community is my ethos: Love and respect for All, Everybody Included and my two Facebook Groups: Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism and Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 to allow anyone across the planet join our merry little clan. Until we neet again, my dear friends.

Do people love each other?


Laugh when you can. Cry when you need to. Focus on your priorities. Make decisions not excuses. And always stand up to your values. Today is the perfect day to stand up and say:

  1. I am fighting hard for the things I want most.
  2. I an taking action now.
  3. I am focusing on the next positive step.
  4. I am proud to wear my truth.
  5. I have a lot to smile about.
  6. I am making the best of it.
  7. I am letting go of yesterday’s stress.
  8. There is enough time today to do something I Love.
  9. I am priceless in someone’s eyes.
  10. It’s not too late.

If we allowed each and every person in our lives to do and feel the above we could say that there is a modicum of love towards them in our life. What do we as the human race say about love over the generations, let’s take a look:

1. Love conquers all that other stuff.

2. The synergy of a strong relationship is a beautiful thing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3JWTaaS7LdU&list=PLwNv9Hhd8gZjNoQdpd2kBa3fwXNeJjzDX&index=1

3. As we all need Maya!!!

4. It’s how much you put into it each and every day, Yowza: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23W3wqAvsLg&list=PLwNv9Hhd8gZjNoQdpd2kBa3fwXNeJjzDX&index=14

5. From the man who wrote some of the greatest love songs on the planet.

6. Let’s vote for the second!!!: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=djV11Xbc914&list=PLwNv9Hhd8gZjNoQdpd2kBa3fwXNeJjzDX&index=15

7. This is a ridiculously true statement in the realms of love.

8. Poet KD Defehr reminds us of the power of our heart brain, the area we fall in love: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KhaUnHJjS8A&list=PLwNv9Hhd8gZjNoQdpd2kBa3fwXNeJjzDX&index=16

9. From her home in Utah where she follows the Mormon faith Bonnie Parkin calls on us to love better.

10. Helen Keller has the right to say this, as she was both deaf and blind: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y8HOfcYWZoo&list=PLwNv9Hhd8gZjNoQdpd2kBa3fwXNeJjzDX&index=37

11. You get all the types of love that are available on offer.

12. We make resolutions that put a magic hue on life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pB-5XG-DbAA&list=PLwNv9Hhd8gZjNoQdpd2kBa3fwXNeJjzDX&index=42

13. Dubbed “The Love Doctor” by the San Francisco Chronicle, Daphne has been a workshop leader at the Esalen Institute, Big Sur, California for more than 18 years and has done her signature emotional healing work with individuals, groups and couples for more than three decades.

14. Said to have broken up the Beatles, Yoko was John Lennon’s one and only true love: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CoOXbP7hmc0&list=PLwNv9Hhd8gZjNoQdpd2kBa3fwXNeJjzDX&index=77

15. And for our final lesson we return to our childhood friend, Dr Seuss.

Focus on those who love you and accept you for what you are, and shower them with the love and kindness they deserve. And above all, cherish the people who saw you when you were invisible to everyone else.

Today’s playlist is all love songs, some you may like, others may belong in your if I hear that song one more time I will puke category. Whitney leads us off followed by the Isley Brothers. Then a group often mentioned as one hit wonders, A Ha. Minnie Riperton is one of my all time faves so she gets the next gig. The queen of Love Ballads follows, Celine Dion, then we move up to modern times for Sam Smith and we finish with Marvin Gaye: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrsA7HHbnAiR8WZWCzbntC-q

Do people really love each other, I hope so under all those news stories and racial differences. That’s why I have created my two Facebook groups to spread my ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included across the planet giving the people from the 164 countries who read y blog to join them. They are Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/183421768519278 and Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. If you wish to become a member of the tribes that stand for this you can join either or both. Until we meet again my dear friends.

Whats that ringing in my Ear?


In my younger days I was involved in the rhythm and blues seen in Melbourne, Australia. First as a door bitch with my soul friend Katie then as a sound technician when our regular one failed to show up and the band says I had heard them enough to know what they sounded like. So I spent quite a few years listening to loud rock music.

Move forward to this COVID year and a ringing began in my right ear recently, off to my doctor of seven years, Kirsten and I shared my musical history with her. Kirsten sent me to the Audiology Clinic because it is unusual to have tinnitus, which she thought it sounded like in only one ear. The audiology test began and ceased quickly, as here is the gross bit. I was asked when I had cleaned out my ears as they could not see my eardrums. I replied do Mexican Indian wax candles count, if not probably over 50 years ago.

That is why I have been pouring ear solution in my ears for the past two to three weeks so that I can have it extracted without damaging my ears on Wednesday. This has made me ponder whether doing the thing you love without thinking of the health consequences are worth it. My love of Music says yes it was, and fingers crossed they will be able to fix them. I’m going to have a look at what society has said about loving rock and roll and why we would put our selves in such sensory danger:

1. Not quite there yet, why I created my ethos Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included.

2. The music come with the dance: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gj0Rz-uP4Mk

3. Back in the day songs were more like poetry.

4. From a fledgling industry to a multi billion one in less than a century, remarkable: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ujNeHIo7oTE

5. Can’t quite make out the name but I am sure there were more than one rock and roller wished this sort of fame.

6. From one of the “27” club comes a powerful rock and roll stand: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hTWKbfoikeg

7. So many of them took away or had taken away the growth factor.

8. The man who wrote in the dark side, I loved him: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGorjBVag0I

9. Known for the odd, strange comment, I saw Bowie at the Melbourne Cricket Ground.

10. And not everybody made it as a front person, Darlene being an example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rIhAWJUwepA

11. Pete Townsend of The Who speaks on the power of dance.

12. You didn’t have to think that the world was rosy all the time according to one of the family: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o1tj2zJ2Wvg&list=PL2wCCiky2eR3GGTe1St_olblEC50Zq9Hf

13. The Man in Black says all you need to say about JC.

14. Bruce has done this for over 30 years: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lrpXArn3hII

15. All those nights of bands advertised at 8.30 who started at 11pm. Must have been a method to get people to drink and fall in love with each other and the music.

Writing this has gotten me in touch what a wonderful time those years spent in grotty inner suburban pubs were, times I would not go with out in my life and all the other times I have partaken in since that are so important for my happiness. Regarding happiness, here are a few questions that look in that arena:

  1. Happiness is a _______________
  2. What would make you smile right now?
  3. What do you do when nothing else seems to make you happy?
  4. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
  5. What is you happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special?
  6. What do you appreciate most about your current situation?
  7. What’s one bad habit that makes you miserable?
  8. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
  9. Do you celebrate the things you do have?
  10. What makes you smile?

Today’s playlist comes from the classic era of Rock and Roll, firstly we have Elvis, then we go across the ocean to U2. Then back on the plane for the balance of tracks: Nirvana leads into the darkness of Leonard Cohen, The music softens with Darlene Love. The penultimate track is from the Gunners and we end with the Boss, Bruce Springsteen: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtdd6hbes1745OUxehykhhF

So I’m off to the audiologist Wednesday with fingers crossed that the trust my doctor has in them will come to fruition but have really enjoyed listening to the Rock and Roll music of my past writing this blog. As Jimi said: When the Power of Love overcomes the Love of Power we will not know peace I will keep spreading my ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included via my Facebook Croup Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humankind, here’s the link to join: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Ending Things!!!


Well, we are nearly there, the end of 2020, some say the worst year we,as a species have gone through. For me, it meant a visit to the Melbourne Clinic, a beautiful relationship with Amy, a period of time alone, English tutoring weekly,then when COVID went away in our state of Victoria, Australia the opportunity to dance again, one of my favourite things to do.

So, as always, things ended. Some I wanted too , and others I didn’t. I was a prat and I learnt some good things. Looking up the meaning of prat I confess I did not know of the second:

  1. an incompetent or stupid person; an idiot.
  2. a person’s buttocks.

I was referring to the former in my use of the word, some may say I behaved in the manner of the second at times.

So what has society said about things ending over the centuries, let’s have a look:

1. Conrad Potter Aiken was an American writer and poet, honored with a Pulitzer Prize, a National Book Award, and was U.S. Poet Laureate from 1950 to 1952. I like his comment on aging.

2. Do you let go when your heart feels like letting go: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7frF7Ir2oA

3. Stand by your she/her or he/him..

4. A or B, which describes your life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FMGYycBAMU

5. This happens, send me an email and ask.

6. Or cease or speed up the inevitable due to behaviors: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ga62NUGZjk

7. Laura Beatrice Marling (born 1 February 1990) is a British folk singer-songwriter. She won the Brit Award for Best British Female Solo Artist at the 2011 Brit Awards and was nominated for the same award at the 2012, 2014, 2016, and 2018 Brit Awards. Great insight, Laura.

8. I love stories, reading them and writing them, do you?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h64s0U1IarQ

9. And you were unforgettable and unique!!!

10. Poignant image of the verse: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-u3TiRrh7jQ

11. Dark or Light, which is your favourite role?

12.Oops, failed this one badly: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uelHwf8o7_U&list=PLR8zgCuNIFtG0XSj73-VNzpCzAk1bp1n2&index=3

13. It’s was just a perfect day, I’m glad I spent it with you.

14. Proof that not only babies and dogs dribble: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-9PD7J2XfUY

15. The latter becomes for the former.

Nobody gets through life with out losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us towards future opportunities for growth and happiness. Over the past 6 and a half decades, I’ve had my share of painful losses. When my time of mourning was over in each circumstance, I pressed forward, stronger and with a greater under standing and respect for life. Here are a few lessons I learnt on the way:

  1. You are not what happened to you in the past.
  2. Focus on what you have, not on what you don’t.
  3. Struggling with problems is a natural way of growth.
  4. It’s OK to fall apart for a little while.
  5. Life is fragile, sudden, and shorter than it often seems.
  6. Emotionally separate from your problems.
  7. Don’t make a problem bigger than it is.
  8. View each challenge as an educational assignment.
  9. Things change, but the sun always rises the next day.
  10. Giving up and moving on are two different things.
  11. Perfect relationships don’t exist.
  12. You must love yourself too.
  13. Don’t let others make decisions for you.
  14. Resentment hurts you, not them.
  15. Consciously nurture your inner hope.
  16. It is better to be hurt by a truth than comforted by a lie.
  17. Not getting what you want can be a blessing.
  18. Laughter is the best medicine for stress.
  19. Worrying is literally a waste of energy.
  20. Even when it’s hard to move, take a small step forward.
  21. You are better off without some people you thought you needed.
  22. You are only competing against yourself.
  23. Life is not Easy.
  24. Your future is unwritten.
  25. You are not trapped, you just need to relearn a few things.
  26. Everything in life is two-sided.
  27. You always have a choice.
  28. Let other’s on when you are in a dark place.
  29. If you ask negative questions, you will get negative answers.
  30. The end is a new beginning.

Today’s play list visit the seventies quite a bit, no Spotify playlists unfortunately, but one long live version of the classic ending song. We begin with Sir Paul McCartney, then move on to the Doors and finish the 70s with Eric Clapton. Two great Australian talents for our overseas listeners in Marie Hoy and Murray Kyle. We complete with two of my faves Eminem and Rhianna as the penultimate number finishing with Maroon 5. enjoy: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtMgN6Th9fo7YNZ-6cq7kPA

Would there be less ending if we lived from my world ethic, Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. I think so, I have even created a Facebook group for 1,000,000 people to sign on board: It is called Thriving People – People who wish ot make a difference to Humanity. Here is the link if you would like to be one of them: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 . Until we meet again my dear friends.

Back in the World!!!


Our lock down is officially over in Victoria, Australia. The only thing we have to do is wear masks in public places. Over the seven month period I went over a mental health period including a psych unit visit, a beautiful relationship, sadly no longer and for the final month and a half anxiety as I live alone.

But now we can dance together, hang out in public parks and have more than one family member in our homes.But the length of time has not made it an easy task, we Melbournians are so used to being at home and 5 kilometers that exploring the world and people again isn’t that easy. How do you get back in connection with your dance crews, the people you picnic with and your beloved families, if in fact they are for you.

So here are some questions to make you think about returning to the fold:

  1. What does the child inside yourself long for?
  2. What is one thing right NOW that you are totally sure of?
  3. What’s the best decision you’ve ever made?
  4. What’s the BIGGEST motivator in your life right now?
  5. What are you MOST grateful for?
  6. What have you been COUNTING or keeping track of recently?
  7. What’s the difference between being ALIVE and truly living?
  8. If you had the OPPORTUNITY to get message across to a large group of people , what would your message be?
  9. Have you DONE anything lately worth remembering?
  10. When is the LAST time you tried something new?

To me the difference between being alive and truly living is connection, the company of good people, a sense of community. I luckily belong to the conscious community of our city, we dance, workshop, party and care for each other. So what has the world community said about connection over the time of the human race, lets have a look:

1. What is the algorithm of deep connection, perhaps less screen time.

2. We had to have some Brene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw

3. Also known as the self gratification generation.

4. An icon as nearly well known as several of the POTUS’s, love the last line: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTqFxMxfzkA

5. And we all are starseed.

6. More money is not the answer of the wife of the richest man in America: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r5yaoMjaAmE

7. Grieving for Grief: Joanne Cacciatore is Associate Professor at Arizona State University. She writes about and researches traumatic grief, and trains providers in “green” mental health care. Her latest book, is used by grief therapists worldwide.

8. Why prisons use solitary confinement as their ultimate punishment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRq_Cxzpm6c

9. Some of my most connected moments have been spent in silence.

10. Power to the People!!!: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Epue9X8bpc

11. Put it down!!!

12. Tom thinks history is made up of connection: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FcOt6mfjxeA

13. Time to turn a life around, do it now.


14. Faded name but extremely true: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKtrWU

15. Miss Congeniality calls it out.

Quite a lot of differing views in the quotes today, but several comments about the affect of technology on connection, unfortunately I can only seeing it getting worse in big cities like the one I live in, perhaps it is time to return to the bush land of my birth.

Today’s playlist has spoken word and film themes and TV series themes on the eclectic offering. We begin with Brene Brown, Followed by Mr Rogers. Then we return to the current day with Christina Perri and Nights. Back to last century with John Lennon and Alan Silvestri , and we complete with Des’ree: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrvD5CGR87SdQ1HRGOST3ne_

So in the last two weeks I have been to two ecstatic dances and a hangout in the Edinburgh Gardens with my friend Ariane, It was great, so small steps taken. I believe if I strongly follow my ethos for life: Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included I will enter my community more and more. And if I grow my Facebook group, Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humankind, join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949.

Until we meet again, my dear friends.

It can’t be True!!!


I am 66 years old, both my parents have passed and I miss them every day. I was checking out Booker Looker land AKA Facebook the other day and starting seeing messages that suggested a dear friend of mine, much younger than me had passed in unfortunate circumstance. He lived in the hills above my home city of Melbourne so I contacted a mutual friend who was a hills elder and was advised that yes, it was true. Michael had a heart of gold and time for everyone.

It made me think had I told him how much his friendship meant to me recently since meeting him in Coolangatta airport seven years ago on the way to my first retreat after my latest mental health episode, and realising that his friendliness and assistance would mean that we would become staunch friends. We both had similar sleep patterns so used to communicate on Messenger during the early hours of the morning about topics wide and varied.

So this made me think about what society says about the importance of friendships, this is what I found:

1. POTUS’s are great at making quotes that last for an eternity.

2. Instead on knowing what they are going to say before they listen: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7wfYIMyS_dI

3. We gave each other some good advice during those early hours.

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4. Michael and I attended Menergy for the first time in Grantville in Country Victoria, a mens gathering held yearly , we both loved it and attended as regularly as we could: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hf0Dm-OaTNk

5. During the seven years I knew him, Michael stood by me when I had a mental health relapse and came with his partner and anointed me with magical potions in an attempt to heal me, a very generous act.

6. And over our life times our shells have some cracks in it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eEv6jy_7PQQ

7. Because they are who know you qualms best.

8. More from the POTUS household: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R8AOAap6_k4

9. And he would come and help you repair the fence as well.


10. This was so true about Michael, I met him in another state: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Dr0p9e8LKc

11. Definitely like a good book.

12. Marie Magdalene “Marlene” Dietrich was a German-American actress and singer. Her career spanned from the 1910s to the 1980s. In 1920s Berlin, Dietrich performed on the stage and in silent films. Her performance as Lola-Lola in The Blue Angel, brought her international acclaim and a contract with Paramount Pictures. Her career spans longer than a lot of peoples lives: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RgKAFK5djSk&list=PLHwn8cKeb1J2TOechY-gogb9DZNwIwzIJ

13. On 22 December 2016, Coelho was listed by UK-based company Richtopia at number 2 in the list of 200 most influential contemporary authors.

14. Michael definitely would not have been one of the first ones, his heart was too big: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ypkv0HeUvTc

15. And for our final quote , this one points out how friends are willing to tell you the truth.

So writing this has made me sadder at the loose of Michael, he always had a smile and a hug for his friends, of which he had many. Remember life is like a party. You invite a lot of people , some leave early, some laugh with you, and a few stay to help you clean up the mess. They are the ones who matter the most. Here are some things friends do differently:

  1. They face problems together.
  2. They give what they can because they truly care.
  3. They make time for each other.
  4. They offer each other freedom.
  5. They communicate effectively.
  6. They accept each other as is.
  7. They are genuine, and expect genuineness.
  8. They compromise.
  9. They support each other’s growth changes.
  10. They believe in each other.
  11. They maintain realistic expectations of their relationship.
  12. They honour each other in small ways on a regular basis.
  13. They listen, and they hear every word.
  14. They keep their promises.
  15. They stick around.

Today’s playlist goes from Glam to Punk and everything in between. We begin with Enya and then travel back to Woodstock and Canned Heat. Slade are next followed by one of my favourite R & B songs by Womack and Womack. Our unknown artist for today is Abra Moore. The penultimate number is by Whiz Khalifa and we end with Marilyn Manson : https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYruzirI_0Mly2SjWI9XNHKC9

Michael’s sudden passing has made me think about how much I value my friendships and how many of the 15 points above I follow. I know he believed in my ethos of Love and Respect for all, Everyone Included. I will attempt to be in contact with it more and more. Look forward to meeting you with your smile and a hug when we next meet again, my friend.