Why Now, Why didn’t we Know this!!

In her chapter Discernment is Everything – When the negative serves the positive Danielle LaPorte pens the following piece:

My new life is Golden

After I learned how to breathe under water

I knew that my lungs had all the answers.

My skills in courage were as follows:

swallowing terror whole

making good use of disgust

boring a hole in my kitchen floor with my tears

loving like what I loved was the only child ever to be

born of the sun and the moon

changing my mind while naked

breaking vows

making a new vow (only one)

leaning back and taking deeply deep breaths of space

watching the Universe reveal all of us to me.

My reward is as follows:

I get to go wherever I want now and always,

for instance

under water or

to that golden spot that I thought was only a dream

but is now my new life breathing me.

I can read the discernment in this and love her statement about being discerning:

Being discerning is not the same as being judgemental. Discernment is big-minded and awake. Judgement is narrow-minded and operates in the dark. Discernment is our wisdom coming to life.

How do we discern, how does the world discern? Let’s have a look by taking a journey around the globe:


1. Now that would be a  breakthrough for all of us to relate to our lives in that way.


2. Let’s raise our courage levels so we know when to do the latter and not spend our life suffering: Walk Away.


3. It takes going to the edge to see discernment over judgement, are you willing?


4. Is your Facebook feed chock full of events run by your friends and ones that Facebook thinks fit in with your lifestyle. Time to use your inner wisdom as to which ones you attend: Invited.


5. Four interesting definitions of discernment, choosing and acting appeal to me.


6. Often people drop the first word and never reach the stage of discernment: Sound Judgement.


7. How often is your head held high in these situations?


8. I just spent three hours in a workshop today listening to the cost of giving your power away to the deity known as the religious god and that we were above this, this quote reminds me of the power George said we give away: Embrace The Day.


9. Don’t go into your life with your eyes closed.


10. Don’t let it be such a secret in your life that it impedes your chance of success: No Secrets.


11. Why I left the home pf the original sin many years ago.


12. Andy Stanley is a pastor. First thing on his google entry is – What do you do when you’re no longer content with what you wear, drive, or live in? Followed by Character, Influence, Spiritual Growth. One could ask what these two statements have to do with the prophecy of love that Jesus Christ was spreading: Doing it Wrong.


13. Love the combination of discernment and vision. Actions that will open us up.


14. To me unrenewed is when you live your life from a poor me mentality and discernment is when you are willing to confront those parts of yourself that aren’t so nice but you hold them in your heart and see what comes from that: Suspicious Minds.


15. In other words don’t push it down someone else’s throat.

Discernment isn’t easily swayed, because it has a strong sense of self. It means you will stop falling for anything and listen to your intuition more readily, building a stronger nature.

A mixture of the feminine and the masculine in today’s music – Malcolm Brown, Drake and Fine Young Cannibals from our kingdom and Christine Aguilera, Ziona, Naomi Striemer and Missy Higgins from our queens.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.


Work for a Cause, Not Applause!!

I was watching TED talks this morning about the dangers of volunteer tourism in developing countries. The majority of speakers said that the major problem with their projects had been they simply did not fit in with the local communities normally through lack of knowledge as to how that community ran on a day to day basis and they ended up forcing their own ideals on the community as they knew no better.

So why is the power of community such a palpable energy, allowing for results that cannot be created by individuals but when people come together extraordinary results occur.

Community is derived from the Old French word communete and relates to several situations:


  1. 1.
    a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common.
    “Montreal’s Italian community”
    synonyms: group, section, body, company, set, circle, clique, coterie, ring, band, faction; More

    informal gang, bunch
    “lesbians and gays are not one homogeneous community”
    • a group of people living together and practicing common ownership.
      noun: community; plural noun: communities
      “a community of nuns”
      synonyms: brotherhood, sisterhood, fraternity, confraternity, sorority, colony, institution, order, body, circle, association, society, league;

      rare sodality
      “the monastic community at Canterbury”
    • a particular area or place considered together with its inhabitants.
      “a rural community”
      synonyms: district, region, zone, area, local area, locality, locale, neighbourhood; More

      informal neck of the woods;
      informal manor;
      informal hood, nabe, turf
      “East Durham was very much a mining community”
    • a body of nations or states unified by common interests.
      “the European Community”
    • the people of a district or country considered collectively, especially in the context of social values and responsibilities; society.
      noun: community; noun: the community
      “preparing prisoners for life back in the community”
      synonyms: population, populace, people, citizenry, public, general public, body politic, collective; More

      society, nation, state, country, realm, commonwealth, homeland, fatherland, motherland;
      residents, inhabitants, citizens;
      humorous denizens, burghers
      “we can work together for the good of the community”
    • denoting a worker or resource designed to serve the people of a particular area.
      modifier noun: community
      “community health services”
  2. 2.
    the condition of sharing or having certain attitudes and interests in common.
    “the sense of community that organized religion can provide”
    • a similarity or identity.
      “the law presupposes a community of interest between an employer and employees”
      synonyms: similarity, similar nature, likeness, sameness, comparability, correspondence, agreement, alignment, parallel, parallelism, closeness, affinity;

      archaic semblance
      “they had a harmonious union based on a community of interests”
      antonyms: difference, incompatibility
    • joint ownership or liability.
      “the community of goods”
      synonyms: joint ownership, common ownership, shared possession; More

      joint liability, joint participation
      “the community of goods”
  3. 3.
    a group of interdependent plants or animals growing or living together in natural conditions or occupying a specified habitat.
    “communities of insectivorous birds”

So how do you relate to community? I belong to the Williams family community, the Warriors of Love community, the Melbourne dance community, the Sunday Assembly community and the Tai Chi community. I have different reasons for belonging to each one, but value each one for what they provide in my life.

So what have we said about the power of community over the years, some prominent people have had their say, let’s have a look:



1. Mark Hyman, MD, believes that we all deserve a life of vitality—and that we have the potential to create it for ourselves. That’s why he is dedicated to tackling the root causes of chronic disease by harnessing the power of Functional Medicine to transform healthcare. Dr. Hyman and his team work every day to empower people, organizations, and communities to heal their bodies and minds, and improve our social and economic resilience. He clearly believes in the power of community to prevent illnesses vs. the after cure of the medical system.


2. Mitch doesn’t say create more money, he says something that gives you purpose and meaning. Do you have that in your life: On Purpose.


3. The practice of community takes us out of our cocoon into areas of action that call on us to be bigger than we think we can be for the sake of others.


4. Moving from successful Hollywood film director to a seeker of the truth after a serious pushbike accident then creating the doco I Am The film asks the question: “What is wrong with the world, and what can we do about it?”, and explores Shadyac’s personal journey after the accident in 2007 that led him to seek the answers to “the nature of humanity”, “the world’s ever-growing addiction to materialism”, and “human connections” . The quote sums up where the journey took him.: Loving Kindness.



5. Something a lot of foreign aid projects get wrong, its not about changing cultures.


6. Did you fill your heart when you had the conversation with your career guidance counselor at High School, when you chose your major at Uni, when you got that promotion at work. To live in service to humanity, your community gives you the opportunity to do this: Focus on Humanity.


7. The curly headed one, Albert was awarded the Nobel Prize for his service to others.


8. This made me think of Gordon Gekko’s Greed is Good speech for some reason. How much do you hold in your heart?: Big Spender.


9. The remainder of this lengthy quote by Joe Biden is as follows – For too long as a nation, we have been lulled by the anthem of self-interest. For a decade, led by Ronald Reagan, self-aggrandizement has been the full-throated cry of this society: ‘I’ve got mine, so why don’t you get yours’ and ‘What’s in it for me?’


10. Life is a boomerang. What you give, you get. If you are always throwing out negativity then you should not be surprised when this is what you get in return. On the other hand if you are always positive then this is what you will receive as well. Be kind and compassionate to others because you never know when you may need kindness or compassion as well. Don’t judge or you could find others judging you. Some people spend their whole lives miserable and complaining, and they wonder why their life is so negative but they refuse to make an effort to change things or alter their outlook and attitude. If you want to get positive people and emotions in your life then you have to be positive in your dealings with others. If you are not willing to do this then you can not expect others to treat you this way in return. Always remember that fate can be fickle, and you should expect to receive what you give so make sure you give what you want to get. Boomerang.


11. There are many terms for community, here are some of them.


12. My friend Chris was responsible for a community building program in the culturally diverse public housing estates in my home city of Melbourne. How did he do it, creating community gardens: The Garden.


13. There is no I in Community.


14. His Holiness the Dalai Lama has said the world will be saved by western women and most successful aid projects make sure that women are involved. This statements points as to why: Can’t hold us Down.


15. Steve Maraboli was selected by Inc. Magazine as a, “Top Leader to Follow”, while dubbing him as, “The Most Quoted Man Alive” (2016).

From the Pope, to the Dalai Lama, to Grammy Winners, to World Champions, to Oscar Winners, to Presidents and Prime Ministers… Steve’s life-changing words are shared and published throughout the world by media, global leaders, athletes, celebrities, and individuals across a wide-range of platforms.

Google Facts has Steve Maraboli referenced or quoted in over 2,000 books in their database.

What communities do you claim as your own, we all have them. Now the more relevant question, what do you contribute and give back to them.

Music is dominated by female artists today. Sabrina Carpenter, Ashana, The Sweet Charity dancers, JoJo Siwa, Kari Jobe and Christine Aquilera. The one male contribution is from Jim Carrey and his cohorts.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

namaste prayer

We would astound Ourselves!!

Are you doing what you are uniquely capable of, What you Feel you were placed Here on Earth to Do? Can you be replaced?

People often think its about the money, If I do that I will answer my abundance prayer. But a great place to look is, are you interchangeable, are you using your unique abilities that make you the special one. Tim Ferriss uses a philosophy of ,Am I saying Hell Yeah about something: If not he says no. In the  Konmari decluttering method the only things that survive are those that bring you joy, so what is your unique gift to the world:


1. So, So, So, So, So, So…..Got the message?


2. Across the world, each culture has its own definition of beautiful, you fir in somewhere: Perfect.


3. In an interview with comedian Paul Mecurio, Tyson offered his definition of spirituality: “For me, when I say spiritual, I’m referring to a feeling you would have that connects you to the universe in a way that it may defy simple vocabulary. We think about the universe as an intellectual playground, which it surely is, but the moment you learn something that touches an emotion rather than just something intellectual, I would call that a spiritual encounter with the universe.” Tyson has argued that many great historical scientists’ belief in intelligent design limited their scientific inquiries, to the detriment of the advance of scientific knowledge.


4. I was watching the TV doco series the 1990’s about technology when browsers where first developed for the internet, before that it has been the playground of scientific nerds, that is less that 30 years ago. People did not usedto wake up and check their Iphones, amazing: Never Be Like You.


5. All their fantasies, talk to them like they are real, why can’t they be Ed Sheeran or Adele.


6. Remember, they chose you because they knew you were the right ones to prepare them for their unique bright future: Everyone is Different!!


7. To learn what you’re best at, or what you’re most passionate about, you have to throw a lot against the wall.


8. That which is not, can you imagine that?,or what they are singing about in this song: Being Kind.


9. The more we walk towards community, the more powerful our uniqueness becomes as we play our unique role in creatig it, without the I.


10. One of the more stranger things I have read of HHDL: Problem.


11. What is the definition of Unique, anyway:




  • 1. a unique person or thing.


  • 1. being the only one of its kind; unlike anything else: “the situation was unique in modern politics” synonyms: distinctive, distinct, individual, special, idiosyncratic, single, sole, lone, unrepeated, unrepeatable, solitary, exclusive, rare, uncommon, unusual, sui generis, one-off, one-of-a-kind, once-in-a-lifetime, one-shot


12. This would make a great mantra to repeat everyday: Whole Lotta Love.


13. Turn the tap off!!


14. This is why I have such respect for true teachers, their ability to send each student home with their sense of uniqueness intact is amazing: Believing In Me.


15. I came across that quote the other day about having the same 24 hours as HHDL, Mother Teresa, Nelson Mandela, Malala. It lies on the other side of fear.

So in seeking your uniqueness what blessings have becomes excesses. In excess, most thingstake on the characteristic of their opposite. Pacifists become miltants, freedom fighters become tyrants, Blessings become curses, Help becomes hndrances. More becomes Less. In the midst of overwhelm, is life not showing me exactly what I should subtact, Am I having a breakdown or a breakthrough. Being unique takes work and it is easy to become complacent.

The music today is two kids songs, a 70’s classic from Led Zep and a tribute to  my dad and sister Ruth.

Namste until next time my dear friends.


Fill your Heart with what is Important!!

“I love, accept, and express that I fill myself first so I can heal the world.”  This is the affirmation Steve Sisgold of Whole Body Intelligence,His website got Lissa Rankin to use when she realised her belief system was the following: “You’re selfish and narcisstic if you take care of yourself first. You have no value unless you’re helping others. Your blog audience won’t love you anymore unless you give until you’re depleted. Your mother won’t love you anymore, either.”

This made my stomach turn as I was reading the secind statement, I think it covers some of my beliefs pretty well. Here is the Hero’s practice called Check Your Motives from Lissa’s book an Anatomy of a Calling:

Check Your Motives:

The next time you consider being helpful ir saying yes to service, pause. Get quiet, and ask yourself, “Why am I doing this?” Are you afraid of disappointing someone if you say no? Are you motivated by pity or fear? Will you fear like, “not enough” if you don’t do  it? Are you trying to impress someone? Does it exhaust you to even think about saying yes? If any of these feel true, graciously say no to the opportunity to serve, knowing that you are not just filling yourself first but also protecting yourself from getting caught in a Rescuer/Victim/Persecutor triad, which will lead you to inadvertantly hurt yourself and others.

If, however, you are motivated by surges of love – which generate the impulse to leap out of your chair and say yes, free of any hidden language – go for it! If you’re so far down the spiritual path that there is little “self” to self-sacrifice and you are full to the brim with the desire fir pure service, knowing how fulfilling it is to serve in a clean way, say yes.

Practice this exercise every time you are inclined to serve. This will help you learn to be very discerning about your relationship to service and those you serve, and as a result, you will not only avoid depleting yourself but also expand your capacity for fulfillment and joy.

So how does the world relate to filling ones self up before others, It should be an  interesting journey:


1. Once you are a bunch of smouldering ashes you are not much use to anyone.


2. It’s never to late to write your bestseller, that one you don’t tell others about: Your Song.


3. This is the number one way to stoppbecoming depleted in your life.


4. The more energy you have and that you shine on the world the more you can give to it: I Gotta Feeling.


5. The more you hide who you really are, the more harm can be done to you and by you.


6. From one of TV”s favourite fictional characters comes some practical wisdom about filling yourself first: Love Myself.


7. Ask yourself before you say Yes, What would Love Do in this situation?


8. Heed the warming, rehydrate your soul when it needs it: Take care of Yourself.


9. Manifexting with Marla, catchy name for a great piece of advice.


10. Deepak’s friend Oprah has this to say about this , in a much more pragmatic way: When you undervalue what you do, the world will undervalue who you are:Give it UP to Me.


11. Remember, to help with human rights, yours must be included amongst them.


12. Might fine advice, R.Z., will help keep one out of the Rescuer/Victim/Persecutor triad: Put a little Love in your Heart.


13. Remember to complete your Hero’s Journey, not everyone or everything will make ot to the end.


14. Here in Australia, we have a condition called the tall poppy syndrome. It’s very dangerous for the future of our country: That’s What I Like.


15. That deep satisfaction has to exist within your soul before there is any chance of another giving it to you.

When you’re motivated by the soul’s yearning rather than the ego’s “not enoughness” giving to others feeds you. Service can be like breathing. You give on the exhale, but the giving itself breathers life into you and you are nourished by the giving. So remember to do the exercise so that you are chosing from love and not depleting your life-force.

Music this week includes Annie Lennox, Al Green and Shakita. Enjoy!!

Namaste until next time , my dear friends

namaste prayer

I will walk by Faith!!

I am revisiting 15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy – An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy by Luminita D. Saviuc, AKA The Purpose Fairy: Here’s the list. I opened the book to the section on Chapter 7 – Give up complaining: I thought for a moment about turning to another page but realised that this was meant to be the subject of todays blog, to have some faith in life. Luminita likes quotes, as I do and here is the one that opens the chapter:

People who never achieve happiness are the ones who complain

whenever they’re awake, and whenever they’re asleep.

they are thinking about that to complain about tomorrow – Adam Zimbler

So how do tyou say don’t complain 15 different ways – let’s have a look:


1. My friends and I tried this for 30 days once, the furtherest anyone made it was 5 days, and they were probably lying.


2. We are the creators of our lives, when we are complaining about it, not many candles burning: Candlelight.


3. Warm Fuzzy Feeling, reminds me of lolly gobble bliss bombs, an Australian snack food released in the seventies. Lolly Gobble Bliss Bombs were known for their colourful packaging, which featured surreal psychedelic artwork, reminiscent of Peter Max, Robert Crumb or The Fabulous Furry Freak Brothers.


4. I would love the time back from the things I have complained about in my life that truthfully I could not change: Changes. 


5. You love, You appreciate, that makes you smile , That ……….


6. There are people we remember because they did things to make wrongs right: Martin, Nelson, Malala: Join them or become quiet: Try Everything.


7. Is cursing showing you have a lesser use of your total vocabulary, I think so in this situation.


8. My Essence for this quarter in my year long Activation program is Acceptance, if happiness is thrown in I will be stoked: Happy.


9. Katrina Mayer earned a doctorate in metaphysics from the American Institute of Holistic Theology. She is a writer, motivational speaker, corporate executive, and an ordained interfaith minister. The author of The Mustard Seed Way,she lives on the north shore of Long Island, New York.


10. The spirits have spoken: new world paradigm – a transformed world: Yesterday.
11. They say we choose when we decide to become a human being. Why do so many people forget the total gift this is?
12. Mathematically, the 80/20 rule is roughly followed by a power law distribution (also known as a Pareto distribution) for a particular set of parameters, and many natural phenomena have been shown empirically to exhibit such a distribution: Tim Ferriss 80/20 principle.
13. Robin Sharma, The Monk who sold his Ferrari points to one solution, don’t sleep as long , you have 24 hours in the day the same as everybody else, use it so it works.
14. As a proofreader I can’t believe it when people misspell words and actually print things, is that a complaint: Don’t Speak.
15. The last time you will ever use these words or thoughts.
If you took one-tenth of the energy you put into complaining
and applied it to solving the problem, you’d be surprised
by how well things can work out… Complaining does not work
as a strategy. We all have finite time and energy. Anytime we 
spend whining is unlikely to help us achieve our goals.
And it won’t make us happier – Randy Pausch
The music today – Bollywood, Bowie, That Happy Song, a chat from Tim Ferriss, and a few pop divas, enjoy.
Namaste until next time, my dear friends
namaste prayer

A Happy Heart makes the face Free!!

Danielle LaPorte says that when you are living from your joy and working for meaningfulness, you are:

A. WAY more healthy and effective

B. SO much more fun to be around (Hello love and magnetism)

C. MUCH more able to make a contribution to the world around you.

You can look at it this way, in epic proportions: The planet needs you to be working from your joy, Humanity depends on you doing what’s meaningful to you. The future of civilization is counting on your fulfilling. No pressure. Here’s the micro perspective: You deserve to be lit up by what you do in the world. it’s your life.

There has been much said about being free and clear in our lives, here’s my selection:


1. Pharrell Williams sings of the right to be happy in our lives, here is his suggestion how to achieve that state.


2. Which definition of free calls to you: Hello.


3. I am designing a workshop called Sacred Love Stories that increases peoples abilities to tell those stories that we think of people  knew about us they would never talk to us again. 


4. Ah, The French, they do great quotes and philosophy as well as movies in my humble opinion: Clear Conscience.


5. Show the world what lives in your heart, you are worth it!!


6. From the great bard Anonymous another beautiful ode to being free and clear: Temporary Life.


7. Another favourite depiction of what Danielle is talking about!!


8. Loved that film it’s a Beautiful Life: Beautiful Life.


9. Do not get caught up in their maze of madness. Live in your own story – Beautiful Words.


10. I am excited about Today, Yay: Friday.


11. If you make no mistakes, are you officially alive?


12. Try a little ….., not why me: Try Me.


13. What is calling you, for me it is Love and Respect for All: Everyone Included.


14. Uncle Jim gets to the point immediately, how do you get lit up in the world and is it a happening thing at the moment: Riptide.


15. Not sure why I chose this one. We are all students and teachers, get out there and fulfill life.

So Danielle finishes with the idea here is to see what lights you up,  so that you can plan to fell-have-do and experience more of that in your  life, Ready, Steady, Go.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends around the world from Melbourne, Australia

namaste prayer


There’s no good story without Romance!!

Had to rely on the noticeboard at work for a subject today as I forgot to bring a reference book. There was a brochure, free legal advice every Wednesday which made me think how seriously do we take free advice and when do we give it?

So what does this term mean, let’s look at each word:



adj. fre·erfre·est


a. Not imprisoned or confined: walked out of prison a free man; set the birds free.
b. Not controlled by obligation or the will of another: felt free to go.

a. Not controlled by another country or political power; independent: free nation.
b. Governed by consent and possessing or granting civil liberties: free citizenry.
c. Not subject to arbitrary interference by a government: free press.
d. Not enslaved.

a. Not affected or restricted by a given condition or circumstance: healthy animal, free of disease; people freefrom need.
b. Not subject to a given condition; exempt: income that is free of all taxes.

a. Not bound by convention or the rules of form: free artistic style.
b. Not literal or exact: free translation.

a. Costing nothing; gratuitous: free meal.
b. Publicly supported: free education.

a. Unobstructed; clear: free lane on the highway.
b. Not occupied or used: free locker; free energy.
c. Not taken up by scheduled activities: free time between classes.

a. Immoderate in giving or spending; liberal or lavish: tourists who are free with their money.
b. Frank or unguarded in expression or manner; open or outspoken: She is very free with her opinions.
8. Given, made, or done of one’s own accord; voluntary or spontaneous: free act of the will; free choices.
9. Chemistry & Physics

a. Unconstrained; unconfined: free expansion.
b. Not fixed in position; capable of relatively unrestricted motion: free electron.
c. Not chemically bound in a molecule: free oxygen.
d. Involving no collisions or interactions: free path.
e. Empty or unoccupied: free space; an atom with a free energy level.
10. Nautical Favorable: free wind.
11. Not bound, fastened, or attached: the free end of a chain.
12. Linguistics

a. Being a form, especially a morpheme, that can stand as an independent word, such as boat or bring.
b. Being a vowel in an open syllable, as the o in go.





1. Opinion about what could or should be done about a situation or problem; counsel.
2. oftenadvicesInformation communicated; news: advices from an ambassador.
When combines it seems to relate to legal advice, but what do we say about free advice, here we go:
1. Jack was involved with Canada’s sporting obsession: Ice Hockey for 46 years as a player and a coach. What do you rely on, the former or the latter?
2. You know who these people are in your life, only reserve for the special ones: Stay.
3. How come they ascertain beauty as fitting in a perfect mould/style of people when the greatest percentage of people do not look like that at all, thank god for personality.
4. Take time before you reply, advice need time: Sounds of Silence.
5. Which is more valuable to you, the latter does it for me.
6. Sage advice to take on the path to success or just living life: Unfinished.
7. What a beautiful line this is, do you love the most?
8. Ain’t that the truth, as they come out of your mouth the counter starts turning: Love Story.
9. Time to power up in your daily conversations. Don’t waste words where they are not welcomed.
10. Who is more expert on your needs and desires than that person in the mirror, after all: Talking to Myself.
11. More or Less, your choice.
12. Leave the fake news and images to the media who want your money, listen to your heart: The Man I want to Be.
13. Rin is a manga character, her advice will have you work out who are the keepers in your life.
14. I met one of my best buddies at a very drunken and stoned parties in inner suburban melbourne playing trees, she is definitely not a dead leaf: Tree.
15. We are the Martin Luther Kings and Nelson Mandela’s of our time, we have the same 24 hours in a day they did.
So come along to the East Reservoir Community Hub and get some free advice, or if you can’t make it, find it where you can.
Namaste until next time, my dear friends.
namaste prayer