Todays title comes from the quote A Messy house is a must – It separates your true friends from other friends – Real friends are there to visit you, not your house. Is that a fair statement? Today we look at fairness, I am reading an interesting tome called Just Babies – The Origins of Good and Evil.
Chapter three: Fairness, Status and Punishment begin with the following tale: The comedian Louis C. K. has a routine in which he talks about his daughter’s understanding of fairness. He begins, “My five-year-old, the other day, one of her toys broke, and she demanded that I break her sister’s toy to make it fair.” This would make the sisters equal, but the joke is that something here didn’t feel right: “And I did. I was like crying. And I look at her. She’s got this creepy smile on her face.”
So the books premise is that in our early years we follow an equality bias from an early age and it gets trained out of us as we enter the education system where being the best and winning take over.
So where does the world sit for you in the fairness stakes, let’s take a walk:
1. Fairness does not mean ease of journey, never give up your belief in the fairness of something because it does not work out immediately.
2. No judgements allowed: Raindrops keep falling on my Head.
3. From birth to age 5, a child’s brain develops more, and more rapidly, than at any other time in life. And while genetics plays a significant role, scientific research has made clear that the quality of a child’s experiences in the first few years of life – positive or negative – helps shape how their brain develops. And that these experiences have lasting impact on their health and ability to learn and succeed in school and in life.
4. America’s only Armenian sci writer who emigrated at the age of eight with her parents and two suitcases knows the value of self love: Imagine.
5. The Universe is here to take you on your life’s journey, some parts of it are different from what our mind thinks that journey is.
6. Brit Hume is one of the longest serving Journo’s in Washington Perhaps he made this statement about Donald Trump following some of the decisions he has made lately: Dance me to the End of Love.
7. It would be beautiful if all religious organisations followed this creed. Unfortunately some of them seem to have forgotten the reason their founders set up their belief systems.
8. I am not saying fairness is all light and bubbles, somedays fairness will feel like this: A Little Bit Stronger.
9. Integrity – The state of being whole and Undivided. I work on this, It’s hard to do 24/7.
10. As the stoury form Louise C. K. about his daughter points out, It’s not about equality, it’s about whats needed in each particular scenario: Forever.
11. There are many diverse opinions on this from the left and the right, from what they write about it I think it is an agree to disagree argument.
12. Fairness is listening to both sides and not giving more kudos to either without seriously checking it out: Two sides to every Story.
13. Fairness is not a two way journey, If you don’t recieve it, It doesn’t mean you stop providing it. You may drop that relationship, but don’t give up your values.
14. The expression that says it forme, is Pay it Forward. Not what you say, what you do: Hello In There.
15. From one of the great men who sought fairness for his people, a piece of timely advice how you achieve fairness.
I think we all have a sense of what fairness is as children but can have it changed quite dramatically by parental influence and incidents that happen in our lives. Remember we all come out with a fresh soul, let’s return to that space when it comes to our sense of fairness.
Music for today isBurt Bacharach, John Lennon and a rap number for my nephew and his wife.
Namaste until next time, my dear friends.
What is fair to someone is often ‘not fair’ to another, as is clear from the quotes you have chosen today. My sense of what is fair has changed over the years. It definitely arises often when related to children!