What do you talk about with your Friends?


It’s been a while, must have been time for a break.

Covid, Lockdown – what did you do over the lock-down period, are you still in lock-down? In Melbourne, Australia, my home town we are lucky enough to have come out of lock-down a couple of months ago. My lock-down looked like 2 months in a psychiatric unit after a couple of months of mental health breakdown, then a beautiful affair, then several months of having one person be able to visit me. It was quite a long period of time.

in the two months or so since we have been allowed to amble out to eat with each other, dance with each other, People seem to be more honest in as to how they are truly feeling. Two conversations I had over the last weekend are great examples of this. I make chai at a dance called Mojo – The Dance of Connection and was sitting in the kitchen area when a German friend of mine sat down next to me so I did the polite thing and asked her how she was going, the conversation finished half an hour later as she told me of her sadness at having been retrenched from her university due to the lack of the funding from the International student market and that she would be going home when the air routes reopened.

The second conversation was with the women I consider has the most beautiful heart in our conscious community. She asked me how I had been, and I decided not to answer fine and told her my Lockdown story, which gave her space to tell me how she had been on a extremely deep journey of suffering bouts of anxiety herself. I felt honoured that she had told me and it just had not been a I’m Fine.

So what have the bards said about communication over the centuries, lets have a look:

1. It may be a lot of words, or it may be total silence.

2. Eckhart says Love is all you need: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_b0_hzeqeoc

3. Pretty basic formulae between life and death.

4. If it remains inside, it can still cause those scars to cause harm: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0cBhdvXfJA

5. This is the way you find out who fits in yours.

6. I assume you…not the answer you are looking for: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wBU1_4CZJLM

7. Paulo Friere is a Brazilian educator whose book Pedagogy of the Oppressed is the third most cited book in the Social Sciences.

8. How many of these do you have in your life?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNHBT7wjqVI

9. Or maybe the Yellow Brick Road.

10. Have you ever looked across a room and suddenly felt your primal urges surge: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EPOIS5taqA8

11. Something I battle with , the urge to reply not listen to what is being said.

12. Great question: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H3By4DZyTNM

13. Remarkable how many times this does not happen in communication, both being understood.

14. I’m learning about the three hearts – The Mind , The heart, and the gut: I imagine that’s what this is talking about: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y8HOfcYWZoo

15. Pilot and Author, Anne Lindbergh went from fascism to the green movement over her lifetime.

There is also the need to communicate to yourself fully, here are some ways to do that:

  1. Wash your hands and face.
  2. Change your socks.
  3. Call a close friend.
  4. Stretch.
  5. Go outdoors.
  6. Take a light exercise break.
  7. Dress to feel your best.
  8. Listen to your favourite music.
  9. Take a few, deep controlled breaths
  10. Clear your stuffed nose.
  11. Cook a good meal.
  12. Walk away from energy vampires.
  13. Complete an important piece of unfinished business.
  14. Work on something that is meaningful for you.
  15. Assist someone in need.
  16. Think about your latest (or greatest) success.
  17. Act like today is already an awesome day.
  18. Notice what’s right.
  19. Take a moment to acknowledge how far you have come.

If you are truly communicating with yourself it makes it easier to do it with others, make yourself the promise that you will be honest in as many situations as you can, remember practice makes perfect.

Today’s playlist covers many aspects of communication, ending up in Love. We begin with The Beatles then move to the New Age of Shaina Noll. My new discovery is next: Grace Vanderwaal. What would communication be without Dionne and her Friends. Back a few years to Kim Carnes. The penultimate track is from Disturbed and we end with Celine Dion: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrvDOtC5ps0iS5cd3Z890nVy

My ethos of communication is Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included, I have created two Facebook Groups to spread it around the world. The first is Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 and Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism. You can join either group by clicking on the links.

Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Don’t dismiss the power of caffeine and headphones!!!


Writing, it fills up my life. I used to write essays for other people at school and got caught because of my unique style. The pain my friend I had done it for when she was asked by our English teacher what did she mean by the interaction between the characters was debilitating.

You know how you get countless ads on Facebook these days, well one I got was for a Writing poster, the quotes are brilliant, so I thought I would pass them onto you:

  1. Writing is a calling, a beckon of the Voice within to be written.
  2. The Art to Writing is to write like Art.
  3. Don’t overthink it, just sit down and write.
  4. If you keep coming back to it, It’s worth writing about.
  5. Great tides of Words rise within and all you can do write until none are left.
  6. Writing is a struggle. With Words. With Blank Space. With one’s very self.
  7. It doesn’t need to be published or polished. Or perfect. It does need to be written.
  8. Everything you experience fuels your writing. Pay attention. Take notes. Snap pictures. Don’t be creepy.
  9. You are a writer, you were touched by the divine. For who else can create worlds from nothing and life by mere thought.
  10. Either writing is a priority or it ceases to exist.
  11. Inspire yourself Daily.
  12. Don’t dismiss the power of caffeine and headphones to combat writer’s block.
  13. Be prepared to sacrifice great pieces of writing and near-perfect words – parts of you that bled to get on the page.
  14. Write equally when you have no ideas as to when you have a hundred.
  15. Embrace the Muse. Whenever. Wherever. However.
  16. Trust your Inner Voice. It’s the better writer.
  17. Your job is to put words on paper. Make them the right ones later.
  18. Write honestly. Write Fearlessly. Write True. But above all, Write.

The great thing about writers, eve the famous one, they like writing quotes as much as they do books, lets have a look:

1. 6 pretty good reasons to put pen to paper or fingers to keyboards.

2. Angela Anaïs Juana Antolina Rosa Edelmira Nin y Culmell known professionally as Anaïs Nin was a French-Cuban-American diarist, essayist, novelist and writer of short stories and erotica. Born to Cuban parents in France, Nin was the daughter of composer Joaquin Nin and Rosa Culmell, a classically trained singer. Nin spent her early years in Spain and Cuba, about sixteen years in Paris (1924–1940), and the remaining half of her life in the United States, where she became an established author: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UwP9qx4A9Lw

3. I think you could replace poems with many other words.

4. The demon that drove him to write two of the biggest selling books in history: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EJORm7Hgt94

5. That is why you must pass them around your circle.

6. Life occurs then we reinterpret it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=na7lIb09898

7. A man who cost many people many sleepless nights, what do you think he means?

8. Have you ever run out of water on your writing journey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O1LV780urhI

9. Quite a list from Mr. Orwell, some people call him a genius.

10. I fully agree with this anonymous list: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EgBJmlPo8Xw

11. A humourish reason to write.

12. The profession of a really great liar: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RTZoJ01FpD8

13. It will not be still, so true.

14. Mirror, Mirror on the wall which is the true experience of all: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzZ_urpj4As

15. And our final lesson comes from possibly the worlds greatest beat poet.

I wrote this over three sessions, a day and a half, something I have never done before, perhaps they taught me something about writing.

Today’s playlist covers many decades. We begin with spoken word by Anais Nin, then stay back in the last century with David Bowie. We rap it out with Missy Elliot then move to one of Australia’s greatest unknown singers Murray Kyle. Moving up to today with Billie Ellish then way back to Thunderclap Newman, and completing with Michael Jackson: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYruTKuN-bJunwUnFYbmt31aV

Today I acknowledge my greatest piece of writing as my ethos: Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. Until we meet again my dear friends.

Give someone a Smile!!


I’ve gone back to getting my subjects for my blogs off my kitchen wall. The title for this one comes from my We build Tribes chart. The purpose is to build a purpose-driven community, I actually have two: They are Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism and Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humankind: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. Both have the ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included at their core.

Each community has the following behind it:

  1. 10,000 people woke up this morning shedding private tears because they need a solution to their problem. You have that solution, go find them.
  2. No other individual was placed upon this earth to do what you were uniquely born to do. Be you and the world will transform.
  3. We live in an abundant world, allow that abundance to flow through you and you will never be without it.
  4. Build a tribe that changes the very fabric of society, That is what you were born to do.
  5. Whatever your goal, dream or desire is, It’s yours for the taking. Never accept you can’t.
  6. Be consumed with a vision for tomorrow, go there in your own life and people will follow.
  7. In a world of increasing isolation, be the campfire that attracts friends, laughter and authentic moments of transformation.
  8. No-one ever got lucky, true success flows from consistency and persistency. Never, ever give up.
  9. It’s going to be hard, It’s going to be tough. Remember, when you quit, No one wins.
  10. Be their leader, be their servant, be their guide. But whatever you do. Make sure you “be”.
  11. Don’t ever love others to the detriment of loving yourself. There is no one more important than you.
  12. Rest, love, allow yourself to be loved. For as much as you feel the world rests on your shoulders, it doesn’t.
  13. Support one another, cherish one another, inspire one another. We can make an even greater impact when we do so together.
  14. Give someone a smile, give them money, give them a moment – when you have the capacity to do so… give.
  15. With money comes influence, impact and opportunity – freedom comes when we cease fearing the pursuit of money & we embrace it.

So what has society said about communities – lets walk down that path:

1. Read that word, everyone, all 7 billion of us.

2. And her partner was Martin Luther King Junior, hear him speak: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixfwGLxRJU8

3. Do you know what your community cares about?

4. Author of the Courage to Create, this quote speaks profoundly of the power of communication: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nN6VR92V70M

5. We all know a community needs more than one colour.

6. Another religious guru facing abuse allegations. Bill Hybels has a lot to reconcile: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-6zYv9hCow

7. From little things , big things grow.

8. My purpose to make my communities safe places: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHvTWvKIPHo

9. How many friendships I have made simply asking would you like to go for a coffee?


10. Give someone a smile, give them money, give them a moment – when you have the capacity to do so… give: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8QV6ffjIYU


11. Ubuntu is a Nguni Bantu term meaning “humanity”. It is sometimes translated as “I am because … Language.

12. Very profound, Marianne: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SxGLPVvNjvY

13. Boom!!!

14. And my favourite dance crew are the Desert Dwellers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAuAcC6-5ds

15. This one touches my soul.

I have had faith in intentional communities to transform out planet, it will take something but to me has always been possible.

Today’s playlist is truly eclectic. We begin with Martin Luther King’s most famous speech. Then one of my favourite pop divas, Taylor Swift. An Aussie legend follows, Lee Morgan. Then another of my favourite spoken word giants, Maya Angelou. Back to the 60s or 70s with Bread. Ava Max is the penultimate track, then we finish my favourite dance crew, The Desert Dwellers: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrsTT_-LiPDrKqshrgpwBoPh

So I will complete with my ethos one more time: Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Until we meet afain my dear friends.

What Interculturalism could provide?


I have started watching Al Jazeera News broadcasts because I was sick of the mindless photo opportunities our Prime Minister down here in Australia, nicknamed as Scotty from marketing uses main stream media in our country for. Today I say an item where the Italian ambassador for the Republic of Congo had been ambushed and killed on a country road and it made me think would these people have done that if they knew why the ambassador was in their country, fundamentally to provide aid in the name of doing good deeds between the two countries.

Then I thought about as to why had I named my blog I am an Interculturalist all those years ago. The definition of Interculturalism goes as follows: Interculturalism refers to support for cross-cultural dialogue and challenging self-segregation tendencies within cultures. … It is based on the recognition of both differences and similarities between cultures. It has addressed the risk of the creation of absolute relativism within post modernity and in multiculturalism. Cross-cultural dialogue is what drew me to the Darebin Intercultural Centre after attending a Colombian film night at which there were about twenty cultures hanging out and being friends, all I can say is that I was hooked from that night.

So what does society say is the value of living an intercultural life, Let’s have a look:

1. Terminal Uniqueness sounds like it would get in the way a lot.

2. Ruth Benedict was a interculturalist of the early 19th Century, She studied the relationships between personality, art, language and culture, insisting that no trait existed in isolation or self-sufficiency, a theory which she championed in her 1934 book Patterns of Culture: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YkgkThdzX-8

3. Such a beautiful quote!!

4. Many races, One planet: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J8xnsvDdPu0&list=PLxRZFM2I_PNdIcCrvc6p-SPzKUvsSe4jX&index=4

5. And we take the best of each country.

6. And they can come from any walk of life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66Qkf2Jm6pc

7. Do you have to understand them all, not really.

8. How do you cook your chicken?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YewVugPHon4

9. Just 7 billion of us.

10. We have all seen that meme, seems they drew imaginary lines on the planet: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1PDdCmJ84LI

11. Do you?

12. Some of the things that Interculturalism can solve: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KaHbiUvXlhM

13. This is what Interculturalism battles with each and every day.

14. Its not all in the words: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R8AOAap6_k4

15. And we finish with some fine words from Maya Angelou.

Life is full of positive experiences. Notice them. Life your life to the fullest potential by reveling in the beauty of these experiences, and letting them inspire you to be the most positive version of you. Living a positive life is all about creating positive habits to help you focus on what truly matters. Interculturalism is this for me. Here are some simple ideas to help you life this life:

  1. Wake up every morning with the idea that something wonderful is possible today.
  2. Celebrate your existence.
  3. Appreciate life’s perfect moments.
  4. Embrace life’s challenges.
  5. Become addicted to constant and never-ending self-improvement.
  6. Live and breathe the truth.
  7. Fill your own bucket.
  8. Help the people around you smile.
  9. Spend time with positive people.

I have included two of Australia’s musical secrets in the playlist today: We commence with John Lennon, then follow with one of Australia’s best, Murray Kyle. Back to the last century for Dionne Warwick and Friends, Culture Club and Bob Marley. The penultimate track is a band I spent a lot of time watching in my youth in Melbourne – I’m Talking and we finish with Womack and Womack with that song: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtVIdAvmWWOGAUdwvsPovnM

So I have created a Facebook group called Interculturalism which has the ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included, Here is the link to join it and share your examples of it: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism Until we meet again my dear friends.

Cacao is a different journey each time!!!


I thought I knew what a cacao ceremony was up until last Sunday, you drank cacao and did a dance ceremony, that is how the ones I had been to had gone for years. Well was I in for a surprise. I entered the room it was to be held in and it was set up in a powerful ceremonial circle and for some reason I realised that we were not going to be dancing today. We went through a powerful ceremony were we were given our cocoa and then spoke what we would like to get out of the ceremony. Audrey then spoke about some of the travels that had lead her to leading cacao journey’s and the history and the benefits of cacao.

Audrey explains cacao as follows:

Theobroma

Cacao

Cacao is the pure form of Chocolate, before it is processed, before anything else is added; just the beans baby!

The pure Cacao carries a bunch of healthy goodies and is also a beautiful plant medicine and ally.

Cacao is a powerful super food, and its superpower is beyond just providing the body with nutrients like Magnesium, Zinc, Calcium and Iron. (not to mention the serotonin, anandamide, theobromine and phenethylamine).

Its potency goes beyond the mind. This is the invitation of Cacao as a Medicine: to take us out of the head for a moment, to sink deeper into the body and the heart.

Whether in ceremony, meditation, dance or sharing circles, Cacao  allows us to be true to our hearts, tune into what is going on inside and tune out some of the busy-ness that surrounds.

So what is available as you take a ceremony, meditative experience, dance or sharing circle, what has happened over the centuries:

1. What Western countries do to the cacao bean to make chocolate is criminal.

2. Nearly two days after our cacao meditation I am still feeling the internal vitality that entered my body: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mdt0SOqPJcg

3. Cacao has a few things going for it.

4. It opens up your emotional channels, I normally fall asleep at ceremonies but the power of the cacao kept me vital all night: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n7x6CMzCr8U&list=PLRgiHT80cDrPR8ljqlhoCUqhu6qLN3ds6&index=1

5. From their poetry you can see why the Mayans hold Cacao ceremonies sacred.

I think number 4 relates to Cacao: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_m3lrCWgzQk

7. If it is in a pure form, cacao and water – heated.

8. I love find your heart, and you will find your way: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OdOV6qDwOP4

9. And what a magnificent space holder it is.

10. As with all spiritual journey’s, We were the benefit of Audrey finding a great teacher: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mXeoNX7DSc8

11. It works on your heart space a lot, Cacao is very healing in multiple ways.

12. It takes you on a journey, even maybe the one you want to: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WS3Lkc6Gzlk

13. They kept appearing so much in my searches that I thought I better put one Maya quote in.

14. And they are offering us the gift of Cacao again: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpYeekQkAdc&list=PLN1ZRe34eLgAh3i__0A2GTl130e2sPxoh&index=7

15. And given what we are shown on Main Stream media I thank god for this.

Cacao is a great tool, but there are a few things you can do to support it:

  1. Appreciate what you have
  2. Focus on things that truly matter
  3. Define your own meaning of life, and pursue it
  4. Embrace life’s challenges
  5. Find the balance that allows you to be who you truly are
  6. Love your body enough to take care of it
  7. Limit your time with negative people
  8. Treat others the way you want to be treated
  9. Set a good example
  10. Accept what is, and live for the possibilities that lie ahead

In selecting music for today’s playlist I discovered that Mayan meditations can go for hours, but I did find a longish shorter one. We go way back to The Beach Boys to begin with. Then pop diva time with Kelly Clarkson. Acoustic Nirvana provide the Mayan track followed by Fearless Soul. Back to the 70s for Jethro Tull. The penultimate number is by Kermit the Frog and we complete with The Black Eyed Peas: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrvqbzIWuth43gouJUMh6MMM

So I write these blogs with the intention to spread my ethos of Interculturalism: Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included around the world and to get people to sign up to my Facebook group: Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humankind. I think a million people taking this on will transform the planet, here’s the link to join: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949.

If you would like some more info. re Cacao and Cacao ceremonies here is the link to Ausrey’s webpage: https://www.lovebeancacao.com/about Until next time,, my dear friends.

Tell me what you’re listening to?


One day late. I’ve been spending time pondering what it is worthwhile to spend doing in 2021 and the name of a Spotify playlist by Courtney Barnett called to me and became the title of this blog: What are you listening to, to create you actions this year, is it dance rituals,different types of therapies, success webinars, things that worked for you in the past, dreams that live in your hearts, there are many options to move forward with.

Being highly productive is not an innate talent, it’s simply a matter of organizing your life so that you can effectively get the right things done. What can you do to increase your own productivity? Here are some ideas that work for me:

  1. Create and observe a “to-don’t” list.
  2. Organize your space and data.
  3. Ruthlessly eliminate distractions while you work.
  4. Accept 100% responsibility for my current situation.
  5. Break down goals into realistic high-impact tasks.
  6. Work when your mind is fresh, and put first things first.
  7. Focus on being productive, not being busy.
  8. Commit your undivided attention to one thing at a time.
  9. Work in Ninety minute intervals.
  10. Reply to e-mails, voicemails, and texts at a set time.
  11. Invest a little time to save a lot of time.
  12. Narrow the number of ventures you are involved in.

The next five years could be the best five years of your life, the decision is yours. The best part of your life will start on the day you decide your life is your own – no one to lean on, rely on, or blame. So what have we said about organizing our lives over the years lets have a look:

1. Ask any perfectionist about the second line, its jams up your life.

2. Winnie the Pooh agrees with his creator about this formulae: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TISIPNpRuoY&list=PL2RBbrgcQOX7fGqrh0yWXtEfIkTR9mZQv

3. With what is going on with the current POTUS, this has far too much statehood contained in it.

4. Nobody is too busy, if they are interested they will find time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z76RDhkB-6c

5. Author unreadable but classy quote.

6. With her background in TV chef shows Anne Burrell has a lot of experience at this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y66j_BUCBMY

7. “Alejandra provides organizing information that I have not heard or read before. Her concept is brilliant. The freedom you feel by simplifying your life is priceless.

8. The more people you add, the bigger the organizational challenge becomes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bAVKp0X9JnQ

9. Love and Respect for All, Including yourself.

10. Projects are the short term parts of your life, cleaning and organizing you practice for life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XXYlFuWEuKI

11. Message is to complete each days task, then move on.

12. Zen Habits is a blog written by Leo Babauta about implementing zen habits in daily life. It offers suggestions for how to live and also includes frequent references to how Leo Babauta has implemented these habits. He covers topics such as simplifying, living frugally, parenting, happiness, motivation, eliminating debt, saving, eating healthily and successfully implementing good habits: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwoPlRR9J_k

13. What does your necessary say to you?

14. How do you choose, flip a coin?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MdphO1jfxCg

15. To me, the most intelligent Mrs. POTUS.

Think about the tasks you perform over and over throughout a workweek. Is there a more efficient way. Is there a shortcut you can learn? Is there a way to automate it or delegate it Perhaps you complete a particular task in twenty minutes, and it would take two hours to put in place a more efficient method. Bottom line, the more you delegate and automate, the more you can get done with the same amount of effort.

I simply had to include Courtney in the playlist seeing she gave us today’s blog title, we begin with her. The first of two classic R and B legends is next, Marvin Gaye. Some rock follows from American Authors then we go back to today’s music with Sasha Lopez and Andrea D.The Weeknd follow with the penultimate song being from the great Ella Fitzgerald and we finish with a song from the musical Into the Woods: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrvpUou2t5d2Z3tCl_MJkvqs

I have put my task on increasing the international focus of my new Facebook Group Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humanity. Its context is Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. Here is the link if you wish to join: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. So until we meet again my dear friends, stay safe.

Ending Things!!!


Well, we are nearly there, the end of 2020, some say the worst year we,as a species have gone through. For me, it meant a visit to the Melbourne Clinic, a beautiful relationship with Amy, a period of time alone, English tutoring weekly,then when COVID went away in our state of Victoria, Australia the opportunity to dance again, one of my favourite things to do.

So, as always, things ended. Some I wanted too , and others I didn’t. I was a prat and I learnt some good things. Looking up the meaning of prat I confess I did not know of the second:

  1. an incompetent or stupid person; an idiot.
  2. a person’s buttocks.

I was referring to the former in my use of the word, some may say I behaved in the manner of the second at times.

So what has society said about things ending over the centuries, let’s have a look:

1. Conrad Potter Aiken was an American writer and poet, honored with a Pulitzer Prize, a National Book Award, and was U.S. Poet Laureate from 1950 to 1952. I like his comment on aging.

2. Do you let go when your heart feels like letting go: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7frF7Ir2oA

3. Stand by your she/her or he/him..

4. A or B, which describes your life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FMGYycBAMU

5. This happens, send me an email and ask.

6. Or cease or speed up the inevitable due to behaviors: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ga62NUGZjk

7. Laura Beatrice Marling (born 1 February 1990) is a British folk singer-songwriter. She won the Brit Award for Best British Female Solo Artist at the 2011 Brit Awards and was nominated for the same award at the 2012, 2014, 2016, and 2018 Brit Awards. Great insight, Laura.

8. I love stories, reading them and writing them, do you?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h64s0U1IarQ

9. And you were unforgettable and unique!!!

10. Poignant image of the verse: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-u3TiRrh7jQ

11. Dark or Light, which is your favourite role?

12.Oops, failed this one badly: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uelHwf8o7_U&list=PLR8zgCuNIFtG0XSj73-VNzpCzAk1bp1n2&index=3

13. It’s was just a perfect day, I’m glad I spent it with you.

14. Proof that not only babies and dogs dribble: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-9PD7J2XfUY

15. The latter becomes for the former.

Nobody gets through life with out losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us towards future opportunities for growth and happiness. Over the past 6 and a half decades, I’ve had my share of painful losses. When my time of mourning was over in each circumstance, I pressed forward, stronger and with a greater under standing and respect for life. Here are a few lessons I learnt on the way:

  1. You are not what happened to you in the past.
  2. Focus on what you have, not on what you don’t.
  3. Struggling with problems is a natural way of growth.
  4. It’s OK to fall apart for a little while.
  5. Life is fragile, sudden, and shorter than it often seems.
  6. Emotionally separate from your problems.
  7. Don’t make a problem bigger than it is.
  8. View each challenge as an educational assignment.
  9. Things change, but the sun always rises the next day.
  10. Giving up and moving on are two different things.
  11. Perfect relationships don’t exist.
  12. You must love yourself too.
  13. Don’t let others make decisions for you.
  14. Resentment hurts you, not them.
  15. Consciously nurture your inner hope.
  16. It is better to be hurt by a truth than comforted by a lie.
  17. Not getting what you want can be a blessing.
  18. Laughter is the best medicine for stress.
  19. Worrying is literally a waste of energy.
  20. Even when it’s hard to move, take a small step forward.
  21. You are better off without some people you thought you needed.
  22. You are only competing against yourself.
  23. Life is not Easy.
  24. Your future is unwritten.
  25. You are not trapped, you just need to relearn a few things.
  26. Everything in life is two-sided.
  27. You always have a choice.
  28. Let other’s on when you are in a dark place.
  29. If you ask negative questions, you will get negative answers.
  30. The end is a new beginning.

Today’s play list visit the seventies quite a bit, no Spotify playlists unfortunately, but one long live version of the classic ending song. We begin with Sir Paul McCartney, then move on to the Doors and finish the 70s with Eric Clapton. Two great Australian talents for our overseas listeners in Marie Hoy and Murray Kyle. We complete with two of my faves Eminem and Rhianna as the penultimate number finishing with Maroon 5. enjoy: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtMgN6Th9fo7YNZ-6cq7kPA

Would there be less ending if we lived from my world ethic, Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. I think so, I have even created a Facebook group for 1,000,000 people to sign on board: It is called Thriving People – People who wish ot make a difference to Humanity. Here is the link if you would like to be one of them: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 . Until we meet again my dear friends.

Back in the World!!!


Our lock down is officially over in Victoria, Australia. The only thing we have to do is wear masks in public places. Over the seven month period I went over a mental health period including a psych unit visit, a beautiful relationship, sadly no longer and for the final month and a half anxiety as I live alone.

But now we can dance together, hang out in public parks and have more than one family member in our homes.But the length of time has not made it an easy task, we Melbournians are so used to being at home and 5 kilometers that exploring the world and people again isn’t that easy. How do you get back in connection with your dance crews, the people you picnic with and your beloved families, if in fact they are for you.

So here are some questions to make you think about returning to the fold:

  1. What does the child inside yourself long for?
  2. What is one thing right NOW that you are totally sure of?
  3. What’s the best decision you’ve ever made?
  4. What’s the BIGGEST motivator in your life right now?
  5. What are you MOST grateful for?
  6. What have you been COUNTING or keeping track of recently?
  7. What’s the difference between being ALIVE and truly living?
  8. If you had the OPPORTUNITY to get message across to a large group of people , what would your message be?
  9. Have you DONE anything lately worth remembering?
  10. When is the LAST time you tried something new?

To me the difference between being alive and truly living is connection, the company of good people, a sense of community. I luckily belong to the conscious community of our city, we dance, workshop, party and care for each other. So what has the world community said about connection over the time of the human race, lets have a look:

1. What is the algorithm of deep connection, perhaps less screen time.

2. We had to have some Brene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw

3. Also known as the self gratification generation.

4. An icon as nearly well known as several of the POTUS’s, love the last line: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTqFxMxfzkA

5. And we all are starseed.

6. More money is not the answer of the wife of the richest man in America: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r5yaoMjaAmE

7. Grieving for Grief: Joanne Cacciatore is Associate Professor at Arizona State University. She writes about and researches traumatic grief, and trains providers in “green” mental health care. Her latest book, is used by grief therapists worldwide.

8. Why prisons use solitary confinement as their ultimate punishment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRq_Cxzpm6c

9. Some of my most connected moments have been spent in silence.

10. Power to the People!!!: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Epue9X8bpc

11. Put it down!!!

12. Tom thinks history is made up of connection: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FcOt6mfjxeA

13. Time to turn a life around, do it now.


14. Faded name but extremely true: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKtrWU

15. Miss Congeniality calls it out.

Quite a lot of differing views in the quotes today, but several comments about the affect of technology on connection, unfortunately I can only seeing it getting worse in big cities like the one I live in, perhaps it is time to return to the bush land of my birth.

Today’s playlist has spoken word and film themes and TV series themes on the eclectic offering. We begin with Brene Brown, Followed by Mr Rogers. Then we return to the current day with Christina Perri and Nights. Back to last century with John Lennon and Alan Silvestri , and we complete with Des’ree: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrvD5CGR87SdQ1HRGOST3ne_

So in the last two weeks I have been to two ecstatic dances and a hangout in the Edinburgh Gardens with my friend Ariane, It was great, so small steps taken. I believe if I strongly follow my ethos for life: Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included I will enter my community more and more. And if I grow my Facebook group, Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humankind, join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949.

Until we meet again, my dear friends.

How do you fill the gap left?


I was having trouble getting over a recent love affair so began reading about breakups. I found this really good blog in it titled: Losing the Love of Your Life: What to do when you lose the one by Natasha Adamo Here are the first four paragraphs of it, it explained it very well.

Losing the love of your life makes you realize that love can truly be a double-edged sword. It can make us feel so uniquely connected to the world and fill our hearts so they are overflowing. It can also slash our hearts to shreds, leaving painful emotion seeping out for a long time to come.

And one of the most painful places to be in is the one where you feel regret, guilt, and pain for losing someone you see as too much of a loss to recover from. The one who was there for you, loved you, and did the “thick and thin” thing because they believed in you. But now they are gone.

Losing the love of your life and actually realizing it can take some time to surface. There is pain on both sides when a breakup occurs. A time of healing. A time when moving on begins and life slowly becomes happier. The pain subsides, and you reflect on the lessons you learned and seek new love.

There are also times when this doesn’t happen. Where you find yourself thinking of someone every day.  Losing the love of your life is painful. You feel heavy with guilt, and regret lives in your gut. It is often at this point you question yourself, and think that this person you lost, has left a hole in your life that can never be filled.

I keep going between the two and feel I am leaning towards the former at the moment although there are days when the latter takes over. So how does society advise you to fill that hole when it sticks around, lets have a look, some are harsh:

1. Actually a phone call made to find out what groceries were needed.

2. We were in COVID .pandemic lock-down times so Zoom was a godsend: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oqMl5CRoFdk

3. Still pondering a lot of the time, getting better though.

4. Pretty close to the truth, it goes away eventually with taking other actions: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dm9Zf1WYQ_A&list=PL3-sRm8xAzY-v_i64uZfriFSPYHnQd8Vl&index=4

5. I don’t fully understand this quote.

6. This is the hole that can be never filled time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fk4BbF7B29w

7. Makes me think of Deborah Harry’s Broken Glass.

8. I regret that I did this:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sptQj1MPIwg

9. But time has come to realize you must move on.

10. On 22 December 2016, Coelho was listed by UK-based company Richtopia at number 2 in the list of 200 most influential contemporary authors: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hzM71scYw0M

11. That’s OK until the heart meets someone again.

12. Strength or wisdom, which gets you through the day better: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=woOJRsXMQ5g

13. Do not let the shadows of your past darken the doorstep of your future, forgive and forget.

14. When things break badly, it is hard to repair them: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5e8C1nhe_s

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15. And for the final lesson, an ultimate check list.

Are breaking up and letting go the same thing, both have nothing to do with weakness, the latter more to do with strength. Here are 12 things worth knowing as you wander this path.

  1. The past can steal your present if you let it.
  2. Not everyone, and not everything is meant to stay.
  3. Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them.
  4. Sometimes you just need to do your best and surrender the rest.
  5. You are control of only one person: yourself.
  6. What’s right for you may be wrong for others, and vice versa.
  7. Some people will refuse to accept you for who you are.
  8. Relationships can only exist on a steady foundation of truth.
  9. The world changes when you change.
  10. You can make decisions, or you can make excuses.
  11. It usually takes just a few negative remark’s to kill a person’s dreams.
  12. Sometimes walking away is the only way to win.

Today’s playlist contains three classic sixties bands, two pop diva’s and two relatively unknowns: We begin with Early Stones, then Billy Ellish and Adele. Back to the Sixties for the Doors and The Walker Brothers. Then my two unknowns, the first has less than 1,000 YouTube hits, a rarity: Raven and we finish with the Struts: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrv2CMFf0MRxXaKqX5rg-2xG

You/I are responsible for our own happiness, no one else. You/I are responsible for our behavior, no one else. If you are not seeing the things in life that you want, look at yourself. What are you afraid of? Self-sabotage is when you pike at the last moment, afraid of what lies ahead (even if it’s good for you).

So you can be afraid of the gap, torn apart by the gap or learn to be courageous and jump the gap and move forward. The latter will bring you closer to Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Our COVID Love Affair.


7 months,from 22nd March until now, that is how long our beloved city of Melbourne has been in lock-down from COVID, most of it stage 3 and 4. We have had a love affair with masks and crosses on the ground. I began the first stages in a psychiatric unit at the Melbourne Clinic and have ended it breaking up with the women I wanted to spend my life with.

It has made Zoom like technology a must at most houses, for the kids to do their school work, parents to do their work as the government asked them not to go to work unless they really had to, and for my friends in the conscious dance community to listen to the DJ’s they danced to weekly in dance halls all around Melbourne.

So what has the world said about COVID, because lets not forget it is a world-wide pandemic, here we go:

1. How long is 7 months, a frigging long time.

2. Charles Robert Darwin 12 February 1809 – 19 April 1882) was an English naturalist geologist and biologist, best known for his contributions to the science of evolution sounds like he would have been a great man to have on the COVID Health team: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7HMP4zrJiM4

3. 5 basics of the pandemic.

4. Don’t forget the merch: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARt9HV9T0w8

5. How true was this over the past seven months.

6. The naysayers are many, especially the journos: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=co6WMzDOh1o&list=PLhGO2bt0EkwvRUioaJMLxrMNhU44lRWg8&index=15

7. Did they have to put a limit on how much toilet paper you could buy in your country, we did.

8. I think after seven months, I’ve got there: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4pi1LxuDHc

9. COVID Parenthood 101.

10. Hadn’t thought of this, the royal handshake and hug: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c4Vmjyjst4U

11. The streets and walk-paths are really empty.

12. This would be funny if it was not true: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MH4TVYT1OYQ

13. Ice cream.

14. The cute as pie one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ygdB-ZE0daY

15. Oops, sprung.

So, what are some things that can help you get through this pandemic, here are a few suggestions:

  1. Wash your hands and face, and brush your teeth.
  2. Change your socks,
  3. Call a close friend.
  4. Stretch.
  5. Go outdoors.
  6. Take a light exercise break.
  7. Dress to feel your best.
  8. Listen to your favourite music
  9. Take a few deep, controlled breaths.
  10. Clear your stuffed nose.
  11. Cook a good meal.
  12. Walk away from energy vampires.
  13. Complete an important piece of unfinished business.
  14. Work on something that’s meaningful for you.
  15. Assist someone in need.
  16. Think about your latest (or greatest) success.
  17. Act like today is already an awesome day.
  18. Notice what’s right.
  19. Take a moment to acknowledge how far you’ve come.

The playlist today begins with two older songs by David Bowie and Gloria Gaynor. Following are two bands, U2 and the Lumineers. The only pop diva is next, Enca ft. Noizy. We finish with two COVID parodies of Foreigner and Michael Jackson: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtSY-drWEG7LyrzJbFT4GV2

Today is the day we were meant to find out about an easing of the restrictions, I think I saw an extension to November the 2nd, missed by that much. So during this time we really need the ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Until next time my dear friends.