We Make A Life By What We Give!!


What am I feeling? I am feeling pride in the 200 men I spent a day with at the Island of Men who had gathered to take a stand for we were in it together to become better men for each other, our families and friends, lovers and children. The day consisted of ceremonies and about twenty workshops on a wide range of subjects that could achieve the stated intention. The following poem was written by my mentor Arion about the day, it sums up what happened pretty damn well. Here is a link to his work: Living As Essence.

Men. When you take off your mask.
You break my heart, in every way. 
You share wisdom beyond your years
And unbearable trauma under that smile

Men, when you take off the mask
You show me bone-deep loneliness
No longer covered by the effort of living
And you break my heart, again

Men, when your mask falls away
I see tender beauty 
And breathtaking kindness 
That shatters all I knew, as you

Men, without masks 
I love you, I see you 
I see the depth of your feeling 
And the burden of keeping it down

Men free from masks 
I see your tears and tenderness 
And your ache to love and be loved
I see your true power stirring

Let celebrate all that is behind that mask 
In you, me and all of us 
Let’s start a rebellion 
Where we wear the masks no more

Let us cry in each other’s arms
Then build a new world, together
A world that bows to tenderness
In every living thing

Let us break our hearts together 
In our beauty and our pain 
I love you, I love me 
Let’s take this love, to the world.

So what has the world said about the power of community, here are a few of my favourites:

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1. We attended a magnificent event and are setting up structures so that we can fulfil the third stanza.

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2. There will be Shadow and Light moments on our journeys, but as it says when it’s hard, We’re In This Together: Let’s Stick Together.

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3. But due to all of us, the vulnerability of men and the power that can create will not be a secret much longer.

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4. And Yes, some of this happened: Bette Davis Eyes.

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5. And heaps of Bro Love, which I define as being truly seen by another man, of whatever age.

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6. I’m guessing this is not the Paul Ryan from the Tea Party in the States, great ethos though: I’m an Individual.

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7. Mark Hyman, MD, believes that we all deserve a life of vitality and that we have the potential to create it for ourselves. That’s why he is dedicated to tackling the root causes of chronic disease by harnessing the power of Functional Medicine to transform healthcare. Dr Hyman and his team work every day to empower people, organizations, and communities to heal their bodies and minds, and improve our social and economic resilience.

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8. Those African dudes know how to keep our intention simple: How Far I’ll Go.

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9. Gentleman, make some noise!!

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10. We Wee’d in nature on the island. it really gets you in contact with the power of the wellness offered by communing with the land: Oh, Well.

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11. And didn’t they share this so beautifully in the Heartspace process?

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12. A philosophical doctrine or approach to life that emphasizes social unity and generosity of spirit: Ubuntu.

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13. Even Rumi’s on our side.

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14. Here is my favourite movement creator, here are some of his words: I Have A Dream.

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15. And for our final lesson, Men of the Island remember the power of the snowflake.

There is so much great stuff happening across the communities of the world to have its heart space be transformed. It was an honour to attend one of them on Sunday.

There is a playlist, it has one of Australia’s greatest silly songs amongst other classics. We begin with Bryan Ferry them move to Kim Carnes. Who remembers Jacko then a musical tune from Moana. One of the great early Fleetwood Mac numbers follows then a world music number from World Edition. We finish with the wisdom of Martin Luther King: We Make A Life By What We Give.

If you really knew me, you would know in my heart there lives the statement: Love and Respect For All, Everybody Included. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

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Not on my watch, Anymore!!


I wrote the following in my Facebook news feed two days after New Zealand:

I am sitting in Preston Town Hall at the Multicultural fair, cultural diversity Festival 2019. There are hijab’s and henna painted hands everywhere, so many different cultures. Firstly I went to the Preston Mosque, ironically the day after NZ they had already invited their neighbours so they could meet and enjoy a meal together. I was privileged to hear the Imaan give his welcome speech and his communities comment on NZ. I firstly had spent an hour having my hand shaken by both Muslim men and women thanking me for being there, I did not know if it is cool to walk around a mosque with tears flowing from your eyes so I sort of controlled it. The Imaan spoke of common humanity, then of a noble death, where you are looked after in the afterlife. He quoted the Koran where it says if you kill an innocent human being you kill the spirit of the human race. I made a promise to myself at that moment I will do everything in my power that this will never happen again on my watch. 

I picked up my friend and extraordinary poet Ari Amal’s beautiful tome: The Details and the Infinite when I got home and opened it to the following poem, it spoke to my heart, here is her webpage link: Find out about Ari.

May All The Blossoms Within You Unfurl

It only takes one brave bud

To start a revolution

So to the buds in you that are yearning to burst open

These words are for you:

Darling ones

Spring has come

It is time to become

All that you are

So lift your face to the sun

& laugh with the sky

For even your fragrance is a Gift

To those who happen by

It only takes one brave bud

To start a revolution

So tell me,

Who amongst you will inspire 

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I don’t think the human being who committed the heinous act in Christchurch had read it, who amongst us will do what it takes to transform the world into the majestic place it could be. What have we written about it, let’s take a look:

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1. One of the bravest acts a human being , can commit in their lifetime, be themselves in the face of the crap society throws at them not to be.

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2. Can’t read their name, but I have enjoyed the revolution, my artistic friends have created for the past 45 years: Art for Art’s Sake.

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3. “Nisker’s book (Essential Crazy Wisdom) is twenty-three times more liberating than the Bible, the Torah, and the Koran combined. It may be crazy to say such a thing but it is also wise.”  — Tom Robbins, author.

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4. From the Black Panthers, if you don’t know who they are, google it. It’s not about the people, it’s about their stand: The Revolution Will Not Be Televised.

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5. Begin one today.

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6. No Isaac Newton here, grow some: Formation.

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7. Donald Trump, Scott Morrison and other far-right world leaders, Jacinda and us mob, we are coming for you.

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8. Dorothy got this answer to a question, I don’t accept it: Que Sera Sera.

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9. A revolution of desire has given us today’s world, pick again.

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10. Will it be yours, what area in your life will it be: Stir It Up.

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11. He, Joseph Stalin may have got carried away with his zeal but I get his point, just don’t go over the top like Uncle Joe did.

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12. When I read George’s books, I decided Tyrion Lannister was one of the great characters in literature. Not just fantasy literature – literature! A brilliant, caustic, horny, drunken, self-flagellating mess of a man. And there was only one choice to play him.”: Never Forget You.

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13. And, Go!!

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14. If you are decluttering your house to do this, stop it: Smooth Operator.

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15. And finally to my Mojo crew, Awakening Women for Men brothers, Warrior of Love travellers, Dancing Eros sisters in male bodies, Expand the Box and Possibility Lab cronies, my ISTA family and my siblings Hugo, Ruthie and Jann, two words, Fuck Yes!!

I think writing this has helped the sadness I feel in my gut for what happened in New Zealand, time to grow some and go.

I like today’s playlist, it has some of music’s icons and one of my favourite spoken word jazz tracks: 10cc with a classic head it off, Gill Scott-Heron then some diva pop from Beyonce. Then we go way back to Dorothy Day. The certified legend Bob Marley follows, next is new to me but not ten million people, The Noisettes, and we finish with the always sensual Sade: Not on my Watch, Anymore.

Do I really have to say it, We need Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included or we all may not wake up one day because we thought everything was OK and someone will prove that wasn’t true in an ultimate way.

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I will walk by Faith!!


I am revisiting 15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy – An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy by Luminita D. Saviuc, AKA The Purpose Fairy: Here’s the list. I opened the book to the section on Chapter 7 – Give up complaining: I thought for a moment about turning to another page but realised that this was meant to be the subject of todays blog, to have some faith in life. Luminita likes quotes, as I do and here is the one that opens the chapter:

People who never achieve happiness are the ones who complain

whenever they’re awake, and whenever they’re asleep.

they are thinking about that to complain about tomorrow – Adam Zimbler

So how do tyou say don’t complain 15 different ways – let’s have a look:

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1. My friends and I tried this for 30 days once, the furtherest anyone made it was 5 days, and they were probably lying.

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2. We are the creators of our lives, when we are complaining about it, not many candles burning: Candlelight.

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3. Warm Fuzzy Feeling, reminds me of lolly gobble bliss bombs, an Australian snack food released in the seventies. Lolly Gobble Bliss Bombs were known for their colourful packaging, which featured surreal psychedelic artwork, reminiscent of Peter Max, Robert Crumb or The Fabulous Furry Freak Brothers.

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4. I would love the time back from the things I have complained about in my life that truthfully I could not change: Changes. 

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5. You love, You appreciate, that makes you smile , That ……….

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6. There are people we remember because they did things to make wrongs right: Martin, Nelson, Malala: Join them or become quiet: Try Everything.

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7. Is cursing showing you have a lesser use of your total vocabulary, I think so in this situation.

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8. My Essence for this quarter in my year long Activation program is Acceptance, if happiness is thrown in I will be stoked: Happy.

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9. Katrina Mayer earned a doctorate in metaphysics from the American Institute of Holistic Theology. She is a writer, motivational speaker, corporate executive, and an ordained interfaith minister. The author of The Mustard Seed Way,she lives on the north shore of Long Island, New York.

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10. The spirits have spoken: new world paradigm – a transformed world: Yesterday.
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11. They say we choose when we decide to become a human being. Why do so many people forget the total gift this is?
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12. Mathematically, the 80/20 rule is roughly followed by a power law distribution (also known as a Pareto distribution) for a particular set of parameters, and many natural phenomena have been shown empirically to exhibit such a distribution: Tim Ferriss 80/20 principle.
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13. Robin Sharma, The Monk who sold his Ferrari points to one solution, don’t sleep as long , you have 24 hours in the day the same as everybody else, use it so it works.
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14. As a proofreader I can’t believe it when people misspell words and actually print things, is that a complaint: Don’t Speak.
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15. The last time you will ever use these words or thoughts.
If you took one-tenth of the energy you put into complaining
and applied it to solving the problem, you’d be surprised
by how well things can work out… Complaining does not work
as a strategy. We all have finite time and energy. Anytime we 
spend whining is unlikely to help us achieve our goals.
And it won’t make us happier – Randy Pausch
The music today – Bollywood, Bowie, That Happy Song, a chat from Tim Ferriss, and a few pop divas, enjoy.
Namaste until next time, my dear friends
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I’m sorry I can’t be Beautiful!!


When I choose a subject to ponder on , I also use one of the other quotes as the title of my blog. I think I’m sorry I can’t be beautiful says a lot about perfection and the journey it can take us on and the damage it can cause in our lives.

I am reading a summary of Tim Ferriss’s The Four Hour Week at the moment, I have the book on hold at the  library, which I will pick up after completing this blog. I love the section on elimination of things to gain time back in your life nearly as much as the section in Danielle LaPorte’s Daily Planner  where is asks you what are you going to stop in your life to attain your goals. Having to do this each day makes you think at a whole new level.

So, can we reach perfection? A better question is what do you personally think it is, let’s travel down the path of the 15 quotes:

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1. Well, that surprised me, Gerrit is one of the Presidency of the Seventy of the Church of Jesus Christ and the Latter Day Saints AKA The Mormons. Religious orders often point towards the combining of goodness and perfection.

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2. Is reality separate from perfection. From the ads that embolden mainstream media one would think so: Not Perfect.

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3. That other P word that gets tied to perfection that stops us living our dreams on a lot of occasions.

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4. Unperfect, what a beautiful word. Let’s take it on for the day: Perfectly Imperfect.

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5. Baby, we were born to run , not stand still in perfect posture.

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6. From Canada comes a great example of when people really strive for perfection, some even lie: Get a Job.

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7. That’s why they say you can never reach something you already are.

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8. Quick, somebody tell them they will never catch it: I could not ask for More.

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9. A fact for each of us to remember during our unique lives.

 

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10. I don’t like the concept of boring, I relate it to taking the cheap way out of what is going on in your life: Fun.

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11. Jaron is an interesting dude. He works for Microsofts, was one of the pioneers of Virtual Reality technology and composes Classical music on rare wind and string instruments, releasing his CD Instruments of Change in 1994.

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12. Perspective not Perfection will move you down the path towards your dreams: Tumbling Dice.

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13. Lots and Lots and Lots, very little.

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14. And when is that one perfect moment. The only time it can be as per Eckhart Tolle – bring on the power of Now: The Power of Now.

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15. We discover that our lives are moving targets, not a great deal of standing still included, always on the move.

I might take back the title, the more I think about it, I see each person a perfect image of who she or he should be at that exact moment. Tough to comprehend sometimes.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Time, not just Money!!!


Let’s say you’re moving to a new house interstate. To help you out one of your friends pay for the moving company. A very generous offer worth $5,000. another friend comes to your house and helps you pack the boxes, load the truck, travel with you to the new house, unload and unpack the boxes. Two weeks later, both friends need a favour on the same day. Who would you be inclined to help, the one who wrote a cheque or the one who committed time and energy?

Unlike the time and effort people put into something, it is what money represents that give it value. The cost of something is relevant to what people place on it whereas time cannot be given back. There are 2 million dollar watches and 10 dollar watches that both do the same job, possibly made with a process that took approximately the same time. How many times have you been in a meeting thinking, I will never get this time back.

So what has society said about the value of time versus money, lets delve into it:

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1. People don’t come around to your place to look at your possessions, they come to exchange stories of the great times that you spent together, your experiences.

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2. If you lock them up in the kennel , and only bring them out to show them off as an asset, no tail wagging: I Love My Dog.

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3. It’s what you focus on that gets the money rolling in, how you spend your time.

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4. We don’t go on and on about the time that some one gave us lots of money, the money soon is not there. But that time we were feeling suicidal and you held our hand all night, now, thats a different matter: Hold my Hand.

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5. Remarkably the only thing that is always there is you, not your money, your friends. It depends on how you direct your life that makes it work out or not.

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6. There are many meanings for prosperity such as wealth, success, profitability, affluence, riches, opulence, the good life, (good) fortune, ease, plenty, welfare, comfort, security, well-being; nowhere does it just say money: Prosperity.Yeha-Noha.

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7. A car cannot love you.

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8. Why are there so many books compared to museums. Simply put, people like stories that entertain, not things that people collected: Love Story.

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9. What children remember, not the toys.

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10. The big Tones take on it: you can’t get more time: Invest in Yourself.

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11. Two ultra rich musicians recently took their own lives, they were not happy because they were ultra-rich.

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12. Bhutan is a country that measures their gross happiness product, not their gross domestic product. Guess which country has the highest well being: Happy.

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13. Better known as the advice columnist Dear Abbey, this quote would have been written in the 1950’s or 60’s. I think it is far more relevant in our instant gratification days that we now live in.

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14. What should come first is your vision for life, not your bank balance. Fulfilling your vision means you are living life on your terms: Live your Life.

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15. Love does not carry a price tag, remember this daily.

Why do we call a business a “company” – because it is a collection of people in the company of other people. it’s the company that matters.

Namaste until next time my dear friends.

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I wear my letters on my front!!


Just got back from a weekend retreat with my mentor Arion Light: The Activation School. We never know what new surprising empowerment will be served up. This weekend it was an initiation. So what does society define an initiation as, here’s the Google definition:

initiation
noun
  1. 1.
    the action of admitting someone into a society or group, typically with a ritual.
    “rituals of initiation”
    synonyms: beginning, starting, commencement

  2. 2.
    the action of beginning something.
    “the initiation of legal proceedings”
    synonyms: introduceadmitletinductinstallinstateincorporateordaininvestenlistenrolrecruit, sign up, swear in;

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    I think ordain is the closest to what I felt on the weekend because it felt like being introduced to a whole new cut at life. So how has society commented on the  noble art of initiation over the years, let’s have a look:

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    1. It is, or it isn’t: why would you choose the latter, yet I know I do. Inition helped me greatly with hanging around with it is.

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    2. My friend says she became another person when this happened for her at a very late stage in her life, from the mothers I know there seems to be a lot of truth in it: I Got You.

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    3. I’m not sure if we all felt this at the end of the ceremony, but the sense of love within the room was palpable.

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    4. They say a life that is spent in reacting and responding to day to day situations and circumstances is stressful, let’s initiate life from today: Shape of You.

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    5. It’s a lifetime journey, my dear friends.

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    6. That’s why I and the participants are in the Activators program, the love of learning how to live a better life: Good Life.

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    7. One of the first spiritual books I read,The Way of the peaceful Warrior. Dan Millman was a world class gymnast when he had a horrific motorcycle accident. The book is about his journey to recovery with his teacher.

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    8. We were just waking up who we already were: The Crazy Ones.

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    9. Within first, then the without joins in happily.

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    10. I wonder what I and you have written on your internal sticky notes: Song for the Inner Child.

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    11. We weren’t learning how to initiate this, ours was about love.

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    12. This was part of my initiation, I spent a lot of time having the thought, WTF is going on: Full of Shit.

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    13. The initiation for me was to release the last two statements.

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    14. You can’t know it all, yes, he and I are talking to you: In case you didn’t know everything.

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    15. Finally from one of the greatest philosophers to walk the planet, something that must be included in any effective initiation: Gratitude or celebration as we practice it in the Activators Program.

    We were asked to make a final statement at the end of the weekend, mine were rapturous contentment

    Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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How to walk on Water?


Cleaning up I found Marc and Angel Chernoff’s great so not little book 1000+ Little Things Happy Successful People Do Differently. I flipped it open and the tale was How to Walk on Water. The premise was there was a child running into the shallows and Marc asked him what was he doing? Trying to walk on water he replied.

Marc gave him 9 pieces of advice, here’s the list

1. Make sure you were born to walk on water

2. Decide that nothing can stop you

3. Work on it for real

4. Let the whole world know what you’re up to

5. Value the people who value your ambitions

6. Ignore the negative naysayers

7. Prepare your self for the pain

8. Enjoy the pain of your greatest challenges

9. Never give up! Never Quit!

Each have a vignette of words underneath them , I especially liked number five, so today we discuss being valued. I hold the work of Marc and Angel as being value so here is the link to their webpage www.marcandangel.com

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1. Everybody who has ever lost someone at an early age before their time was expected to end knows the effect of this quote, love and hugs your way.

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2. HHDL says we are making a big mistake these days, we value things, not people and it should be the other way around. Reverse that car, baby: Diamonds

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3. My friend Yoko runs a natural food cafe and recently started charging 50 cents for takeaway containers. She posted that only one person had abused her for it and that other people were starting to bring their own containers. the feedback of support she got was amazing. Don’t give in ot the one.

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4. Oscar wrote this some time in the 19th century, do you think we have listened to him, Not: Love doesn’t cost a Thing.

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5. No words needed really.

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6. Translates to self love , really: Roar.

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7. You cannot take your assets with you, your actions are what remains in the conversations of those left behind.

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8. it’s often when we face loss that this quote hits home: Thanks for the Memories.

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9. Can’t take it with you again.

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10. Buffett is a notable philanthropist, having pledged to give away 99 percent of his fortune to philanthropic causes, primarily via the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation. In 2009, with Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg, Warren founded The Giving Pledge, whereby billionaires pledge to give away at least half of their fortunes. I like this value: Give it Away.

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11. You get the final say, everything else is dross.

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12. Remember your worth, It’s time to say goodbye to that someone: Beautiful.

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13. If they only fit you in when it suits them, It’s time to move on.

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14. What will they think, what if……., etc. etc. Value yourself and this goes away: Closer.

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15. And for the final point, always value kindness, spread some of its magic value today.

I love the lists of Marc and Angel Chernoff, they are in my top ten on the net, I recommend you check them out.

Namaste until next time , my dear friends

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