All Good is Hard, All Evil is Easy.


Today is a follow up on habits via Marc and Angel Chernoff’s excellent book: 1000+ Little Thing Happy Successful People Do Differently: Marc and Angel Hack Life. Using my write about the page you open up to formulae, we come to 30 Challenges for 30 Days of Growth.

The chapter begins with the following statement: Scientists have suggested that, with a little willpower, it takes roughly 30 days for a person to form a new habit. As with mastering anything new, the act of starting and getting beyond the preliminary stage where everything feels awkward is 80% of the battle. This is precisely why it’s important to make small positive changes every day over the course of at least a 30-day challenge. 

Marc then offers you 30 suggestions, here they are:

  1. Use words that encourage happiness
  2. Try one new thing every day.
  3. Perform one selfless act every day.
  4. Learn and practice one new skill every day.
  5. Teach someone something new every day.
  6. Dedicate an hour a day to something you are passionate about.
  7. Treat everyone nicely, even those who are rude to you.
  8. Concentrate on being positive at all times.
  9. Address and acknowledge the lesson in inconvenient situations.
  10. Pay attention and enjoy your life as it happens.
  11. Get rid of one thing a day for 30 days.
  12. Create something brand new in less than 30 days.
  13. Don’t tell a single lie for 30 days.
  14. Wake up 30 minutes early every morning.
  15. Ditch 3 bad habits for 30 days.
  16. Watch less than 30 minutes of TV every day.
  17. Define one long-term goal and work on it for an hour every day.
  18. Read one chapter of a good book every day.
  19. Every morning, watch or read something that inspires you.
  20. Do something every day after lunch that makes you laugh.
  21. Go alcohol and drug-free for 30 days.
  22. Exercise for 30 minutes every day for 30 days.
  23. Get uncomfortable and face a fear every day.
  24. Cook one brand new healthy recipe every day.
  25. Spend 10 minutes every evening reflecting on what went well.
  26. Have a conversation every day with someone you rarely do.
  27. Pay down debt and don’t create any new debt for 30 days.
  28. Let go of one relationship that constantly hurts you.
  29. Publicly forgive someone who deserves another chance.
  30. Document every day with one photograph and one paragraph.

We often use the excuse that I don’t know where to begin, what does society say about that: let’s have a look:

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1. Recently I walked across 8 Km of beach rocks, I have no sense of balance, I definitely grew from this situation.

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2. The challenges begin within, after all, you made them a challenge: This Time.

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3. The picture says it all.

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4. Ralph puts it in your face why we challenge ourselves: Growth.

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5. To spell words correctly.

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6. In your challenges lie all your meaningful accomplishments: One Life.

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7. One small step forward a day is all it takes.

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8. Your Gut Feelings, that is what you want to know, stop ignoring them: Gut Feeling.

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9. I think Ralph should be talking to his lawyers about the origin of Gail’s quote.

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10. It’s really saying shake off the limits, isn’t it.: No Limit.

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11. Stop playing small!!

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12. Marlen Esparza is an American boxer. In May 2012, she qualified to compete at the 2012 Olympics, becoming the first American woman to qualify for the Olympics in the first year that women’s boxing was an Olympic event. She won the bronze medal in the women’s flyweight division at the 2012 Olympics in London: You Can Do It.

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13. Me, Myself, I: Challenge them all.

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14. Set your controls for the heart of the Sun: Chandelier.

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15. And some worldly advice from big Tone to finish.

You can’t do all these challenges at once, but they will make for an inspired 2019. As you progress through these challenges remember personal growth is a slow, steady process. It can’t be rushed. You need to work on it gradually every day. There is ample time for you to be who you want to be in life. Don’t settle for less than what you think you deserve or less than you know you can be. Despite the struggles, you will face along the way, never give up on yourself. You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and twice as capable as you have ever imagined.

Today’s playlist lies in the Hip Hop stadium with three offerings. We begin with Pia Toscano, then enter the stadium with Offset. Rock offerings from Boyce Avenue and Devo follow. Usher and Ice Cube make their entry and we complete with Australia’s own Sia: All Good is Hard, All Evil is Easy.

Remember to show Love and Respect to All, Everyone Included until we meet again, my dear friends:

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Purpose is the Reason you Journey!!


As Nelson Mandela said, “It always seems impossible until it is done.” Marc and Angel Chernoff, in their wonderful life-aspiring book Getting Back To Happy: Link to Get It. have the following to say about this quote:

“Any goal you might have might seem impossible when looked at as a whole. The trick is recognising that it doesn’t have to happen all at once. Small acts of positive intention will only help to strengthen your resolve, reignite your passion for living, and. ultimately make it easier for you to turn your life for the better.

It’s important to remember that no act of changing your situation will cause regression, as long as that act is positive and intentional. With this in mind, one simple thing to start with when things are getting stressful, and your passion for taking action is sapped, is to take ten minutes taking a walk to clear your mind. A short walk does wonders. It gives you something new to look at, gets your body moving, and is a quick way to get yourself physically out of your present situation.”

On that ten minute walk we get to remember our passion, to reignite it, here are some of my favourite quotes on the subject of my and your passion:

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1. Self Love 101.

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2. Gabby Bernstein walks the talk of this quote: Tap Into The Power of Presence.

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3. Time to Wake Up!!

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4. One of my top ten, here’s some Maya: Still I Rise.

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5. Your passion is your gift to the world, please fulfil it.

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6. What is you favourite dance floor, time to go there: Dancing Queen.

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7. How to get over your fear of heights, don the parachute.

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8. Four simple letters that will transform your life: Love has come to Town.

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9. From the world most quoted, Ms. Anonymous come a moment to remember when it gets tough.

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10. They say that going down to the sea and watching the power of the ocean is a potent way to get in touch with your passion as you see whats possible: We Belong to the Sea.

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11. No words needed.

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12. I think this has been forgotten in standard education circles. One must go and seek out the education that does this for them these days: Light My Fire.

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13. Your life suddenly becomes the long way home when you miss it.

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14. Yes, it is. Free form Conscious dancing at 64: Dancing In The Streets.

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15. Another passion of mine: More Love Letters.

Marc and Angel continue:

” Many of us are still hopelessly trying to find our passion – something we believe will ultimately lead us closer to happiness, success, or the life situation we ultimately want. And we say hopelessly primarily because passion can’t really be found. When we say we’re trying to find our passion, it implies our passion is somehow hiding behind a tree or under a rock somewhere. But that’s far from the truth. The truth is, our passion comes from doing things right. If you’re waiting to somehow “find your passion” somewhere outside of yourself, so you finally have a reason to put your whole heart and soul into your life and the changes you need to make, you’ll likely be waiting around for an eternity.

On the other hand, if you’re tired of waiting, and you’d rather live more passionately starting today and experience small positive changes, it’s time to proactively inject passion into the very next thing you do. Think about it:

1. When was the last time you sat down and had a conversation with someone you love, with zero distractions and 100 percent focus?

2. When was the last time you exercised and put every bit of effort you could muster into it?

3. When was the last time you truly tried – truly tried – to do your very best?

Stop waiting for better opportunities. The one you have in front of you is the best opportunity.

Todays playlist contains wise words, classic songs and a sea shanty. Firstly Gabby Bernstein and Maya Angelou pass on their wisdom, then two classics from Abba and Talking Heads. Aqua then take us down to the sea, The Doors light our fire and Martha nad the Vandellas close the set having us dance in the streets. Here’s the link to the videos, enjoy: Purpose Is The Reason You Journey.

Namste until next time, my dear friends:

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I Fall Too Fast, Crash Too Hard!!


The title of the chapter on letting go in Marc and Angel Chernoff’s inspiring book, Getting Back To Happy: Their Website. is Letting Go: Surrender Attachments That Are Holding You Back.

In the chapter, they write the following: Limits illuminate beauty, and death is the ultimate limit – a reminder that we need to be aware of this beautiful person and appreciate this beautiful thing called life, Death is also a beginning, because while we have lost someone special, this ending, like the loss of any wonderful life situation, is a moment of reinvention. Although deeply sad, their passing forces us to reinvent our lives, and in this reinvention is an opportunity to experience beauty in new, unseen ways and places, And finally, death is an opportunity to celebrate a person’s life, and to be grateful for the beauty they showed us

Most of the time it’s tough, to be honest about what we really need and how our lives might benefit by letting go of some things If you have felt any of Marc and Angel’s list, maybe it’s time to reassess your situation.

  1. Someone constantly expects you to be Someone You’re Not.
  2. A Person’s actions don’t match their Words.
  3. You have a habit of moping and feeling Sorry For Yourself.
  4. You’re clutching Tight ti an Easy Street Mentality.
  5. You truly dislike your Current Situation.
  6. You catch yourself obsessing over and Living in the Past.

Letting Go is not giving up, it’s about surrendering obsessive attachments to specific people, outcomes, and situations. Where in your life could you do this on an ongoing basis?

Much has been said about Letting Go over time, here are a few of my favourites:

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1. God, Buddha, Allah, we know what they are pointing to in this insightful quote.

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2, It’s paramount that one of them is not yourself: I Was Here.

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3, His Holiness rocks.

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4. Vacate them from your space, so that there is room for those who are meant to be part of your tribe: Let It Go.

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5. I have felt this situation in my life several times. Each time it had to happen for the better version of me to flourish.

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6. They were experiences, not life sentences: Climb Every Mountain.

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7. Let go of those things that you know are costing you power on an ongoing basis.

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8. They say everyone we meet is either to teach us a lesson or to be taught one by them, remember the lessons: Let Go Of Attachment.

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9. You can only be you, don’t try and be someone else for someone else, it won’t work.

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10. If you are having difficulty with the latter, please reach out to others: Starting Over Again.

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11. I love the imagery of this Meme. It hits home in a very powerful way.

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12. In the end, the heart and soul are what has the final say over the often flawed logic of your mind: Heart and Soul.

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13. If we bodily don’t do this, we die. What difference in our psychological world.

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14. In my country, the voicemail number is 212. I don’t answer numbers that I do not know because of my past history with giving too often to charities who onsell your details, they don’t leave a voicemail: Living In The Past.

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15, The past is the past, it will not change. Use your energy towards whats next on your agenda in life.

So how can we let go and live better? By realizing that there’s nothing to hold onto in the first place. Most of the things – situations, problems, worries, ideals, expectations etc. –  we desperately try to grasp, as if they’re real, solid, everlasting fixtures in our lives, aren’t really there. Or, if they are there in some form, they’re changing, fluid, impermanent, or mostly created in our minds. Life gets significantly easier to deal with when we understand this.

We go further back than ever before in today’s Playlist. We begin with Beyonce and The Frozen Soundtrack then warp back to The Sound of Music. Some Spoken Word from Alan Watts and Co. then soulful Natalie Cole. Then there is our pre WW2 track by Bea Wain and Larry Clinton finishing up with the flute-driven Jethro Tull. Here’s the link to make for easy listening: I Fall Too Fast, Crash Too Hard.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Headphones On, World Off!!


I am reading Brene browns new book, Braving the Wilderness: Brene’s Website. Using my formulae of writing about what is on the page I open the book too, today we are discussing the rise of loneliness amongst our society. Sorting, or living and hanging around with people who hold the same beliefs as you have become more prevalent: in the American 2016 election 80 per cent of counties gave either Donald Trump or Hillary Clinton a landslide victory. In 1980, 20 per cent of American reported they were lonely; the figure is double that now.

This seems counterproductive, sorting and loneliness. If we are living in a like-minded community, shouldn’t we naturally feel like we belong? In her book, Brene quotes neuroscience researcher John Cacioppo of the University of Chicago who has been studying loneliness for over 20 years. He defines loneliness as “perceived social isolation” and states we feel loneliness when we feel disconnected. At the heart of loneliness is the absence of meaningful social interactions —- an intimate relationship, friendships, family gatherings, or even community or workgroup connections.

So, what does society have to say about the state of loneliness? There were many negative quotes, but I have chosen to stay with the more positive aspects of loneliness:

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1. Rocker philosopher Henry Rollins paints a beautiful scene with his words on the matter. How great is the term “A Special Burn”.

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2. Can’t quite make out the name of who said this, but how many times have we curled up in life to our favourite tracks hoping that they will make the pain of loneliness go away: Perfect.

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3. During my Mental Health crisis of six years, this thought was always in the background.

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4. On this walk, you get to realise that it is you who has to make the final decision, alone or not: You’ll Never Walk Alone. 

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5. Two words – Self Love.

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6. How we define a situation can clearly give it a different meaning: Solitude.

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7. For those who have suffered the abuse, we wish didn’t exist on our planet.

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8. Some people use escapism to get away from it: Time After Time.

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9. There is someone I am hoping is thinking this at the moment.

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10. John Steinbeck wrote this quote. He won the 1962 Nobel Prize in Literature” for his realistic and imaginative writings, combining as they do sympathetic humour and keen social perception.” He has been called “a giant of American letters,” and many of his works are considered classics of Western literature: Precious Things.

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11. We assume that our life will remain the same, change is the reality.

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12. Carl Jung knew that speaking up was the solution to loneliness. Time to make some requests: Don’t Speak.

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13. I was not a hugger for 59 of my 64 years. They work.

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14. Time to reach out when Satre’s prognosis is in place: Bad Company.

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15. Find the Others.

Here are the final remarks from an interview between Bill Moyers and Maya Angelou:

Moyers: Do you belong anywhere?

Angelou: I haven’t yet.

Moyers: Do you belong to anyone?

Angelou: More and more. I mean. I belong to myself. I’m very proud of that. I am very concerned about how I look at Maya. I like Maya very much. I like the humour and courage very much. And when I find myself acting in a way that isn’t…that doesn’t please me—then I have to deal with that.

Today’s playlist begins with pop icon Ed Sheeran, then we fly back to the 1960’s with Jerry and the Pacemakers. Even further back to Billie Holliday. Then three fine female singers: Clare Danes, Bic Runga and No Doubt. One of the classic English rock bands Bad Company brings it to a close. Here’s the video playlist: Headphones On, World Off.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Your path is Beautiful and Crooked!!


Paulo Coelho wrote: One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted to do. Do it now.

Many of us put our happiness and dreams on hold for another day, when the truth is life is happening right now. If you want to make positive changes, today is the day. I love Joseph Campbell’s Follow your Bliss journey, It isn’t all about wonders, it also includes the dark side and what it takes to get through it to attain the bliss in your life.

So There are a lot of Joseph’s quotes in today’s list but that’s not a bad thing:

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1. If you are stuck in a pile of to do lists to fulfill that one dream you chances of missing that door that opened to that magnificent opportunity is high, do not become stuck.

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2. They say only 20% of people get to stage 8: Wake Me Up.

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3. Walls lock you out, doors are what creates your life when you have the guts to open them.

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4. Known as the journey of the hero, leads for an extraordinary life: Journey of a Hero.

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5. What you seek is on the other side, take the steps and enter with courage!!

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6. Go and do that!!: Turn Me On!!

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7. You know when you decided to turn right and bumped into your life partner, that’s the path.

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8. Garbologist, writer, life coach, parent – It doesn’t really matter: Try Everything.

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9. Your bliss never loses you, It’s just waiting in the shadows for you to locate it.

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10. When I saw her, I forgot to Inhale: Happy.

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11. My friend Emeli from Collective Potential calls it your purpose. When it occurs, your bliss guides you to it and  your life is never the same again.

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12. There may only be a little bit, but its an ongoing practice. The more you practice it, the  more joy will surface: Joy.

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13. No matter what people tell you about what you are doing that is making you happy, It’s your bliss not there’s.

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14. Share your message, don’t write wwrite: One last Song.

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15. Bliss to me is giving the stars to those we love.

What is another word for bliss?

What’s another word for bliss? Here’s a list of synonyms for this word.
delight, enjoyment, euphoria, happiness, harmony, joy, paradise, pleasure, beatitude, blessedness, cool, ecstasy, felicity, gladness, heaven, rapture, gone
The music includes an hour  of Pharrell Williams amazing 24 hour video of people dancing to Happy, it is very uplifting and the African women singing Joy is beautiful.
Namaste until next time my dear friends:
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delight, enjoyment, euphoria, happiness, harmony, joy, paradise, pleasure, beatitude, blessedness, cool, ecstasy, felicity, gladness, heaven, rapture, gone

Everyone’s True Colours Show Eventually


Our thoughts create our emotions and our emotions create our realities… Observe your thoughts, Just for Today. Observe your thoughts free of any judgements, just allow them to come through as they are. If you notice any negative thoughts appearing that’s excellent, now you have the ability to change them, now change them.

We have 10-17 magical seconds to flip our thoughts into positive ones before the negative thought manifests. Yes, you are that powerful. Continue, reminding yourself to observe your thoughts, with zero judgement, for as long as you can. This practice session is now complete.

We have a lot of 10-17 second moments in our lives where we do not choose or have the emotional ability to swap from negative to positive, why is this so. Let’s have a look at how life has looked at the moment of observing our thoughts:

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1. It’s in the actions we create our future life, thoughts are just passing through. it’s what we do that puts it in concrete.

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2. The art of mindfulness, the ability to observe, not be driven by the chaos of our mind was the greatest gift given to the west by the great meditation masters of the east: That I would Be Good.

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3. One of the great gifts Lao Tzu gave to the world.

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4. My friend and mentor Arion talks about living life at 50 litres or 1,000 litres. Who do you surround yourself with in life: Believe.

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5. That mind is a tricky beast, isn’t it. It seems to have a mind of it’s own, we wouldn’t have those thoughts, would we?

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6. It’s time to eat: The Simpsons or Shakespeare, bitching or praising your friends magnificence, you choose: Halo.

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7. The cost of extreme vulnerability, some friends might just not get it.

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8. Eckhardt titled his book about this subject, The Power of Now: Human.

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9. The purpose of thinking and thought, to feel our passions that move us towards our dreams.

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10. To break free of the control of thoughts, like , I need another drink, a block of chocolate would be good right now is one journey worth going on: Morning Meditation.

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11. And what Deepak is doing in the video gives you the ability to be totally responsible, Yay!!!

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12. Would you let your best friend have those thoughts or be at the influence of them for any length of time?: Best Friendship Song Ever.

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13. It’s those moments in between the thoughts that hold the magic, remember to look for them each day.

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14. A little bit more of wisdom from Siddhārtha Gautama AKA The Buddha. That world out there, you made it up: Sweet Dreams are made of This.

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15. And waiting in the background, for you to get better at observing your thoughts, is your sweet, sweet heart.

So I am calling for you to take on a daily practice which will give you the ability to observe your thoughts, not be observed and controlled by them, have fun taking it on.

Musically today we swing from Bruno mars to the Eurythmics with some wisdom from Deepak Chopra thrown in, enjoy…

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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I’m sorry I can’t be Beautiful!!


When I choose a subject to ponder on , I also use one of the other quotes as the title of my blog. I think I’m sorry I can’t be beautiful says a lot about perfection and the journey it can take us on and the damage it can cause in our lives.

I am reading a summary of Tim Ferriss’s The Four Hour Week at the moment, I have the book on hold at the  library, which I will pick up after completing this blog. I love the section on elimination of things to gain time back in your life nearly as much as the section in Danielle LaPorte’s Daily Planner  where is asks you what are you going to stop in your life to attain your goals. Having to do this each day makes you think at a whole new level.

So, can we reach perfection? A better question is what do you personally think it is, let’s travel down the path of the 15 quotes:

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1. Well, that surprised me, Gerrit is one of the Presidency of the Seventy of the Church of Jesus Christ and the Latter Day Saints AKA The Mormons. Religious orders often point towards the combining of goodness and perfection.

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2. Is reality separate from perfection. From the ads that embolden mainstream media one would think so: Not Perfect.

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3. That other P word that gets tied to perfection that stops us living our dreams on a lot of occasions.

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4. Unperfect, what a beautiful word. Let’s take it on for the day: Perfectly Imperfect.

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5. Baby, we were born to run , not stand still in perfect posture.

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6. From Canada comes a great example of when people really strive for perfection, some even lie: Get a Job.

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7. That’s why they say you can never reach something you already are.

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8. Quick, somebody tell them they will never catch it: I could not ask for More.

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9. A fact for each of us to remember during our unique lives.

 

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10. I don’t like the concept of boring, I relate it to taking the cheap way out of what is going on in your life: Fun.

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11. Jaron is an interesting dude. He works for Microsofts, was one of the pioneers of Virtual Reality technology and composes Classical music on rare wind and string instruments, releasing his CD Instruments of Change in 1994.

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12. Perspective not Perfection will move you down the path towards your dreams: Tumbling Dice.

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13. Lots and Lots and Lots, very little.

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14. And when is that one perfect moment. The only time it can be as per Eckhart Tolle – bring on the power of Now: The Power of Now.

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15. We discover that our lives are moving targets, not a great deal of standing still included, always on the move.

I might take back the title, the more I think about it, I see each person a perfect image of who she or he should be at that exact moment. Tough to comprehend sometimes.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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