The Dead Parents Society


What do you talk about around the dinner table or consequently avoid discussion like the plague? I was having a catchup at Macca’s AKA a coaching session when this subject came up. Her dad had passed recently and mine were well gone so It was safe to discuss our feelings towards them.

It is something that is not on the list for a mention, Gardening, House ownership, and even sex are okay. But dear old mum and dad are not on the agenda. Is it because it hurts too much, they say it takes a few years, but my dear old dad passed 11 years ago, and when I think of him, which I must admit is rare these days, it still hurts.

AMarc and Amgel list, they are from the iconic tome:: 1000+ little things Happy Successful People do differently. google Life hack.

  1. The most beautiful thing is to see a person nearby smiling. And even more beautiful is knowing that you are the one behind it
  2. 2. If you have the power to make someone happier today, do it. The world needs more of that.
  3. Some people build lots of walls in their lives and not enough bridges, there’s no good reason to be one of them. Open yourself up. Take small chances on people.
  4. 4. Never stop doing little things for those around you. Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.
  5. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of love – all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
  6. Be present, be thoughtful Compliment people. Magnify their strengths, not their weaknesses. This is how to make a real and lasting difference in your relationships, new and old.
  7. We don’t always need advice. Sometimes all we need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen to, and a heart to understand.
  8. Today, just be 100 per cent present with those around you – be all there. That is enough.
  9. There is no such thing as self-made Someone else believed in you. Someone else encouraged you. Someone else is invested in you. Someone else prayed for you. Someone else spoke life over you. Be that someone for others too.
  10. It’s practically impossible to love your neighbours if we don’t know them, and yet that’s often the case We live in such a hyper-connected world with such limited or nonexistent communication Remember this. Relationships matter. Stories matter.
  11. In human relationships, distance is not measured in miles but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other yet miles apart.
  12. Stay in touch with those who really matter to you, not because it’s convenient, but because they are worth the extra effort.
  13. The single greatest problem in communication is the illusion it has taken place. Too often we don’t listen to understand, we listen to reply. Bring awareness ti this. And listen for what’s truly behind the words.
  14. Set an example. Treat everyone with respect, even those who are rude to you not because they are always nice, but because you are. And do your best to be thankful for the rude and difficult people too, they serve as great reminders of how not to be.
  15. 15. Sometimes it is better to be kind than right.
  16. People are much nicer when they are happier, which says a lot about those who aren’t very nice to you. Sad, but true.
  17. The real test always comes when you don’t get what you expect from people. Will you react in anger? Or will calmness be your superpower?
  18. The way we treat people is the way we treat people we don’t understand is a report card on what we’ve learned about love, compassion, and kindness.
  19. Be kinder than necessary. What goes around, comes around. No one has ever made themselves strong by showing how small someone is.
  20. The best relationships are not just about the good times you share, they are also they’re also about the obstacles you go through together and the fact that you still say I love you in the end.

Now for the quotes and the songs, I promise to not get too morbid.

I missed doing this, I feel sad often. At 68nits too late, baby.

It has been eleven and four years for the Williams siblings since we became the elders. Each and every day.

Plum village, such a wisw nman. R.I.P. THich.

How many ways can you say, I love you mum and dad.

I did some terrible things to my mum during my teenage years, I call it our black vs. white time.

Lots of truth in this statement.

In my Buddhist years Pema Chodron always said this

They mostly always know already, they just love you for who you are.

Unrequied love by any other name.

Great image of motherhood.

For you, Karina.

Unfortunately , we do not do this all of the time, then we have to have our wounds healed.

Early days, it’s up to mum and dad.

over to my words. The first slogan I ever got paid the princely sum of AUS25 dollars for It’s up to us, Because we Can, It’s our time. The ethos of Interculturalosism: Love and Respect for all, everybody included. Leonard – The light gets in, Gil Scott Heron: The revolution will not be televised Me- fuck Rupert Murdoch. It is an interesting time in our lands: WE are charging the machine guns, and some of us will not make it. There are more of us than them, They know they have lost. If you enjoyed this I would appreciate s donation towards the 1 million dollars I am raising for the ASRC in 2023/ The button os on our website.

Until next time, my dear friends.

What happened to Rod and his words.


I used to religiously write two blogs a week, that is how I got to over 700 blogs and 4,000,000 words on possibility and being read in 160 of the 194 countries across the planet.

Let’s go back to January 3, 2022. Why is that date significant? That is when I wrote my last blog. I had a crazy thought that nobody was reading my words even though empirical evidence showed this to be untrue.

I have sat in front of my keyboard many times and nada.

I have just completed my dear friend Clare Elizabeth Dea’s Love and Money course. One result out of it I did not expect was to get my words back, but I frigging did.

I like celebrations so I will write my first official blog on January 3, 2023.

Until then here is a quote and a song to get back in practice..

Imagination belongs to hope. It’s the creative dance of possibility

SHARON WEIL

Here’s a song about possibility:

https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=RvMeOllo_Vo

So I’ll see all of you, my friends across the planet on January 3, 2023.

Will a lie protect you from failure or just delay you beginning!!!


Have you ever received awful advice from your supposed friends as you excitedly tell them about your latest adventure? They think they are trying to protect you from the possibility of failure, which, in effect, also shied you from the possibility of making your dream a reality.

Here are a few ill-advised tips (lies) people will likely tell you when you decide to pursue your dreams, and why they are dreadfully mistaken.

  1. You can follow your dreams someday, but right now you need to buckle down and be responsible.
  2. You are totally screwed if it doesn’t work out.
  3. It’s safer to stay at your day job.
  4. That’s impossible.
  5. Only a lucky few “make it”.
  6. You might fail and failing is bad.
  7. You will sacrifice too much for too little.
  8. You need more money saved before you take the first step.
  9. You don’t need any help. It’s smarter to go after it alone.
  10. That sounds like a lot of hard work.

All supposed good advice but in the end white lies. Only you can take the steps that fulfil your dreams. And what has society said about the cost of a lie over time. Here are a few of my favourite quotes:

1. Lord Byron, one of the best-known poets had an unusual death for a creative. He died fighting in the Greek War of Independence.

2. What came first, the chicken or the egg:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rYEDA3JcQqw&list=PLyORnIW1xT6wzupDsoAlmcLoeYEOumvfZ

3. Being open is what starts the transformation.

4. If the numbers don’t add up, the truth is missing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OpQFFLBMEPI&list=PLyORnIW1xT6wzupDsoAlmcLoeYEOumvfZ&index=7


5. Trust seems to be the issue here.

6. Deal with the permanence seems to be the answer:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nCkpzqqog4k&list=PLyORnIW1xT6wzupDsoAlmcLoeYEOumvfZ&index=8

7.In telling the truth you do not have to remember it, because it’s true.

8. You are not being creative, you are still lying: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l6tXqFp-mnM&list=PLyORnIW1xT6wzupDsoAlmcLoeYEOumvfZ&index=9

9. I would rather deal with your true opinions than your white lies.

10. Is a lie an attempt to hide a feeling of embarrassment?:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fzeWc3zh01g&list=PLyORnIW1xT6wzupDsoAlmcLoeYEOumvfZ&index=15

11. Pass out the tissues.

12. Says it all really: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DksSPZTZES0&list=PLyORnIW1xT6wzupDsoAlmcLoeYEOumvfZ&index=16

13. The POTUS quote for this blog makes me doubt it’s veracity.

14. The lies we tell ourselves are probably the reasons we put up with others: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WbJNkH-pDd8&list=PLyORnIW1xT6wzupDsoAlmcLoeYEOumvfZ&index=25.

15. Because a lie must be remembered for ever so you can tell it again.

So in writing this blog I have come to the decision that the only option is to gather a tribe of truthtellers around you and deal with the consequences of this. Hopefully you have done this in some form or another.

Today’s playlist is modern in nature beginning with two Pop Diva’s Adele and Pink. Sam Smith breaks up the women with Elizabeth Young and Billie Ellish following. The penultimate track is Justin Timberlake and we finish with The Black Eyed Peas, Enjoy: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrsBV-7gSv-r5uyd0oJ2eKSZ

Living in the world of no lies is not easy as is creating a world wide ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. That’s why I have created two Facebook groups: Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/183421768519278 and Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. If you are reading this I would love you to join one or both to help spread it around the world.

Until we meet again my dear friends.

What you tell your younger self!!!


Have you ever written yourself advice in the past or the future. I have done both several times at different periods in my life, the first being in our counter-culture English teachers class in High School. I came across a list a friend wrote recently and feel it has some great advice as it was written around the same time in his life. It was for his future self to his younger self.

  1. Your thirties, forties and fifties won’t feel like your thirties, forties and fifties.
  2. Bad things will happen to you and your friends.
  3. Everyone can make a huge difference.
  4. First impressions aren’t all they’re cracked up to be.
  5. Big results come when you narrow your focus.
  6. Love yourself. Become your own priority.
  7. Sometimes you just have t go for it.
  8. In order to get, you have to give.
  9. Not much is worth fighting about.
  10. Don’t try to impress everyone.
  11. Keep having fun.
  12. Keep it simple.
  13. Little things stick with you.
  14. Keep your opinions to yourself.
  15. Manage your time.
  16. Manage your money.
  17. What you learn in school does matter.
  18. Dreams will remain dreams forever if you don’t take action.

What he did different was he interviewed his father who at the time was in his early 50’s. So what have we as a human race said about sage advice for the future, let’s have a look:

1. Three values for a bright, bright future.

2. Mahatma used this ethos to free a country for foreign rule: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6RYNED5p2EY

3. If we do this every day we will have a lot of personal gratitude in our lives.

4. How’s the book of your life coming along: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1d4r9awjKE&list=PL0msuI7SJDFfd2BRR9rOYWF5X9NGlcVXW

5. And Serena is one of a few people who would have the money to even consider this.

6. Make mistakes, this is what you learn from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6rP-YP4c5I

7. Written by the famous Ms Anon, this fits with if you never lie you don’t have to remember anything.


8. Haven’t included a quote by a POTUS for a while, this is a great one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EqolSvoWNck

9. To be great you will have to go in every direction, some that even you may not give yourself permission.

10. The future is really up to you to create, so do it well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dm9Zf1WYQ_A

11. If you do good deeds throughout your life, you will not need campaigns, etc, etc.

12. Hard to believe the wisdom of Forrest Gump is 30 years old: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0yFOupUkKQ&list=PLq_6wXJhooZNrHqOq-PLaEQ-VFpgtNc4V&index=14

13. Evangelist Billy Graham talks a lot about faith, this quote is very poignant.

14. Take the suggestions but begin the journey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vP4iY1TtS3s

15. What are you writing for yours?

So this made me think about advice my parents had given me over the years and the times I ignored them. As my friend said, looking back they were right most of the time. This is one of the gifts of eldership.

For today’s playlist we begin with one of my favourite Australian singer/songwriters Anne McCue. Then the second Elvis, Elvis Costello. Three fine female singers follow: Shakira, Marilyn Monroe and Billie Ellish. The penultimate song is a 60’s classic by Scott McKenzie and we finish with Martin Luther King: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrt4bcuSvPP1abdV9OUkpqgs

Supporting, guiding and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. Everything you do comes around. Who knows what our futures will be, all I know that mine will include spreading Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. I have set the plan in place through my two Facebook groups: Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 and Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/183421768519278. You are cordially invited to join one or both of these groups as the more supporting this ethos the merrier.

Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Is it still important to you all these years later?


Those things I did 20 years ago, what I considered good or bad too often let me hide the beauty that was in front of me. I got caught up in my own head thinking that the few things that weren’t going my way were worthy of creating a manifesto of my life.

Here is a list of several things that this manifesto was made up of:

  1. The inevitable frustrations of an average day.
  2. The little failures you often feel self-conscious about.
  3. How “perfect” everything could be, or should be.
  4. Having complete confidence before taking the first step.
  5. The intricacies of what’s in it for you.
  6. Being an only-only activist for good causes.
  7. The pressure to make a big difference all at once.
  8. The temptation of quick fixes.
  9. Having a calendar jam-packed with exciting, elaborate plans.
  10. Being in constant control of everything.
  11. Blaming Others.
  12. Winning everyone’s approval.
  13. Saving overly dramatic people from themselves.
  14. The selfish and disparaging things others say and do.
  15. Winning arguments.
  16. Judging others for their shortcomings.
  17. Society’s obsession with outer beauty.
  18. Fancy and expensive physical possessions.
  19. All the shallow relationships that make you feel more popular.
  20. Distant future possibilities.

So what has the human race said about what is important later in life, let’s have a look:

1. They are way out in front!!!

2. And the greatest opponent to this is the anti-aging industry: https://youtu.be/awzNHuGqoMc

3. Over and Over again, yet we seem to forget fairly often.

4. The Africans sure know how to articulate their wisdom: https://youtu.be/3XIkYCFDMnA

5. This is why your teachers are older than you at the first stages of your life, to teach you this lesson.

6. And you get closer and closer each day of your life: https://youtu.be/VlD2GYtD29Q

7. And all indigenous tribes fight this world-wide.

8. All original preachers thought these things: https://youtu.be/VptisJUx3CQ

9. Well said, Garrison.

10. What is pleasing does not count as wisdom: https://youtu.be/q3NTVkHwD5I

11. Do you remember those things your parents said that you promised you would never say, sprung.

12. That’s when the respect for each other kicks in: https://youtu.be/P6zaCV4niKk

13. How soon we forget who got us to where we are in life.

14. A big thing for the most popular man in the NBA at his time to say: https://youtu.be/tzq7e86m_W4

15. It’s like a third stage in life, but you can’t life the third with out the first two.

As you continue to travel the road of life, do your best to avoid letting anyone or anything get in the way of your joy. Life a life that rocks and makes you laugh out loud every day of the year. Here are some things that will help with that:

  1. Think Deeply.
  2. Speak gently.
  3. Love Lots.
  4. Laugh Often.
  5. Work Hard.
  6. Give Back.
  7. Expect less.
  8. Be present.
  9. Be Kind.
  10. Be honest.
  11. Be true to yourself.

Today’s playlist contains two spoken word pieces, both very different in origin. We begin with one of the U.S.A’s biggest recording star Tim Mcgraw. Kings and Queens follows from Africa then Jamaica’s Capleton and Chronixx – Help the Weak. Dhar Mann learns a lesson next. WE then travel back in the decades to The Beatles and Cat Stevens. We complete with the fame of
Julius Erving: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYruLSCPtLlJbkIxfk9D8EFXw

So this blog definitely fits in with my ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. Remember you can join my two Facebook groups I have created to spread it across the universe. The first is Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humankind: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 and the second Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism. You are invited to join and add your countries version of these. Until next time my dear friends.

Some day there won’t be a song in your heart, Sing anyway!!!


We are raised on music, from our mothers singing nursery rhymes to us to the top twenty hits we full in love with at primary school to listening to our parents music they play during the day and night that keep styles existing across the ages. As the title say someday there won’t be one of these songs in our heart, but it requests we sing anyway.

Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities for growth and happiness.

Over the past decade, I’ve had my share of painful Losses, Losing both of my parents and several friends. When the time of mourning was over in each circumstance, I pressed forward with a greater understanding and respect for life. Here are some things to contemplate:

  1. You are not what happened to you in the past.
  2. Focus on what you have,, not on what you don’t.
  3. Struggling with problems is a natural way of growing.
  4. It’s Okay to fall apart for a little while.
  5. Life is fragile, sudden, and shorter than it seems.
  6. Emotionally separate yourself from your problems.
  7. Don’t make a problem bigger than it is.
  8. View each challenge as an educational assignment.
  9. Things change, but the sun always rises the next day.
  10. Giving up and moving on are two very different things.
  11. Perfect relationships don’t exist.
  12. You must love yourself too.
  13. Don’t let others make decisions for you.
  14. Resentment hurts you, not them.
  15. Consciously nurture your inner hope.
  16. It’s better to be hurt by the truth than comforted by a lie.
  17. Not getting what you want can be a blessing.
  18. Laughter is the best medicine for stress.
  19. Worrying is literally a waste of energy.
  20. Even when it’s hard to move, take small steps forward.
  21. You are better off without some people you thought you needed.
  22. You are only competing against yourself.
  23. Life is not easy.
  24. Your future is unwritten.
  25. You are not trapped, you just need to relearn a few things.
  26. Everything in life is two-sided.
  27. You always have a choice.
  28. Let others in when you are in a dark place.
  29. If you ask negative questions, you will get negative answers.
  30. The end is a new beginning.

So given the power of music, I wonder what has been said about it over the centuries, Let’s have a look:

1. Indigenous societies still use this thusand yeay old method that western society replaced by pills.

2. Santayana is popularly known for aphorisms, such as “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it”, “Only the dead have seen the end of war”, and the definition of beauty as “pleasure objectified”. Although an atheist, he treasured the Spanish Catholic values, practices, and worldview in which he was raised. Santayana was a broad-ranging cultural critic spanning many disciplines: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0cBhdvXfJA

3. Music could be said to be like a car. It warms you up, gets you there and back, and chills down at the end of the day.

4. John Legend wrote the hit song All of Me for his wife to cheer her up: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=450p7goxZqg

5. Music can give you all of it.


6. From the 17th Century Ludwig Van Beethoven places a high value on music: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jv2WJMVPQi8

7. Considered the greatest classical composer of his time, here is another Ludwig quote.

8. Music covers all the conditions as Alex states, from calmness to being pumped up: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Y71iDvCYXA

9. Policy advice on what education should spend their money on from 300 B.C.

10 now called a Spotify list: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1VQ_3sBZEm0

11. A profound promise for the science of Music Therapy.

12. Wonderful Healing Codes from the world of music: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWZmdoY1aTE&list=PLXZh40qo2oQlnhiKtJa6cHQMnaXYxP7Ay&index=7

13. In 2007 neurologist Oliver Sacks released his book Musicophilia: Tales of Music and the Brain in which he explores a range of psychological and physiological ailments and their intriguing connections to music.

14. We find that music is a relaxant time and time again: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VdQY7BusJNU

15. And for our final quote Nelson Mandela sets us free to dream wit the power of music.

Whether our heart has a song it or not, I believe the quotes talk to the powerful remedies that music has to offer on a day to day basis.

The playlist today contains the first classical track I have used in over 750 blogs. We begin with Shaina Noll then stay around this time frame with John Legend. Ludwig Van Beethoven is next who is followed by two rocky numbers from different periods of time, Elvis Costello and the Foo Fighters. The penultimate track is from Ed Sheeran and we finish with Cyndi Lauper: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYruGUWns9UHcFOQwbJznIYaQ

There is a world of music out there and I believe is supports my world ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. To spread the ethos around the world like my readers from 160 countries I have created a Facebook Group, Interculturalism, here is the link for you to join our tribe: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism.

Till we meet again my dear friends.

Give someone a Smile!!


I’ve gone back to getting my subjects for my blogs off my kitchen wall. The title for this one comes from my We build Tribes chart. The purpose is to build a purpose-driven community, I actually have two: They are Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism and Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humankind: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. Both have the ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included at their core.

Each community has the following behind it:

  1. 10,000 people woke up this morning shedding private tears because they need a solution to their problem. You have that solution, go find them.
  2. No other individual was placed upon this earth to do what you were uniquely born to do. Be you and the world will transform.
  3. We live in an abundant world, allow that abundance to flow through you and you will never be without it.
  4. Build a tribe that changes the very fabric of society, That is what you were born to do.
  5. Whatever your goal, dream or desire is, It’s yours for the taking. Never accept you can’t.
  6. Be consumed with a vision for tomorrow, go there in your own life and people will follow.
  7. In a world of increasing isolation, be the campfire that attracts friends, laughter and authentic moments of transformation.
  8. No-one ever got lucky, true success flows from consistency and persistency. Never, ever give up.
  9. It’s going to be hard, It’s going to be tough. Remember, when you quit, No one wins.
  10. Be their leader, be their servant, be their guide. But whatever you do. Make sure you “be”.
  11. Don’t ever love others to the detriment of loving yourself. There is no one more important than you.
  12. Rest, love, allow yourself to be loved. For as much as you feel the world rests on your shoulders, it doesn’t.
  13. Support one another, cherish one another, inspire one another. We can make an even greater impact when we do so together.
  14. Give someone a smile, give them money, give them a moment – when you have the capacity to do so… give.
  15. With money comes influence, impact and opportunity – freedom comes when we cease fearing the pursuit of money & we embrace it.

So what has society said about communities – lets walk down that path:

1. Read that word, everyone, all 7 billion of us.

2. And her partner was Martin Luther King Junior, hear him speak: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixfwGLxRJU8

3. Do you know what your community cares about?

4. Author of the Courage to Create, this quote speaks profoundly of the power of communication: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nN6VR92V70M

5. We all know a community needs more than one colour.

6. Another religious guru facing abuse allegations. Bill Hybels has a lot to reconcile: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-6zYv9hCow

7. From little things , big things grow.

8. My purpose to make my communities safe places: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHvTWvKIPHo

9. How many friendships I have made simply asking would you like to go for a coffee?


10. Give someone a smile, give them money, give them a moment – when you have the capacity to do so… give: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8QV6ffjIYU


11. Ubuntu is a Nguni Bantu term meaning “humanity”. It is sometimes translated as “I am because … Language.

12. Very profound, Marianne: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SxGLPVvNjvY

13. Boom!!!

14. And my favourite dance crew are the Desert Dwellers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAuAcC6-5ds

15. This one touches my soul.

I have had faith in intentional communities to transform out planet, it will take something but to me has always been possible.

Today’s playlist is truly eclectic. We begin with Martin Luther King’s most famous speech. Then one of my favourite pop divas, Taylor Swift. An Aussie legend follows, Lee Morgan. Then another of my favourite spoken word giants, Maya Angelou. Back to the 60s or 70s with Bread. Ava Max is the penultimate track, then we finish my favourite dance crew, The Desert Dwellers: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrsTT_-LiPDrKqshrgpwBoPh

So I will complete with my ethos one more time: Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Until we meet afain my dear friends.

How do you break the Ice?


After a failed relationship which was my first in ten years I have become hesitant to dip my toes in the water again. But even with this hesitancy the opportunity has risen again and a wondrous women has appeared in my sights. I have wanted to kiss her almost from the moment I saw her across the room and attending a community dinner with her after the event we were at reinforced why I would want to do this.

I see the people from this event once or twice a month so if I want more to happen the hesitancy will have to go away. She kissed me goodbye last time we met and I have been flustered by this ever since. All the stories that raise their ugly heads have arisen since then.My friend Angel suggested a few things to do to move on from this:

  1. Free myself from negative people.
  2. Let go of those who are already gone.
  3. Give people you don’t know a fair chance.
  4. Show everyone kindness and respect.
  5. Accept people just the way they are.
  6. Encourage others and cheer for them.
  7. Be your perfectly imperfect self.
  8. Forgive people and move forward.
  9. Do little things for others every day.
  10. Pay attention to who your real friends are.
  11. Always be loyal.
  12. Stay in better touch with people who matter to you.
  13. Keep your promises and tell the truth.
  14. Give what you want to receive.
  15. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
  16. Allow others to make their own decisions.
  17. Talk less and listen more.
  18. Leave petty arguments behind.
  19. Ignore unconstructive, hurtful commentary.
  20. Pay attention to your relationship with yourself.

So what has the human race said about this dilemma over the centuries, let’s have a look:

1. Morgan Harper Nichols is an American Christian musician, songwriter, mixed-media artist, and writer, whose work is centred around the question “how can we create connection?”.

2. That this woman would walk up to me and kiss me was totally unexpected, I did not think she knew I existed: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tq72aBL7GLY

3. They say the feeling between fear and excitement is only in what you choose to call it.

4. The period of Catherine the Great’s rule, the Catherinian Era, is considered a Golden Age of Russia. The Manifesto on Freedom of the Nobility, issued during the short reign of Peter III and confirmed by Catherine, freed Russian nobles from compulsory military or state service. Construction of many mansions of the nobility, in the classical style endorsed by the empress, changed the face of the country. She enthusiastically supported the ideals of the Enlightenment and is often included in the ranks of the enlightened despots. As a patron of the arts, she presided over the age of the Russian Enlightenment, including the establishment of the Smolny Institute for Noble Maidens, the first state-financed higher education institution for women in Europe.

5. Preferring Waldo to Ralph , Emerson was considered the 19th Centuries preeminent philosopher.

6. While Moore dealt with alcoholism and health issues throughout her life which make this statement by her ring true, it’s her work with television that will forever be remembered. And she amassed quite a hefty fortune thanks to her work. According to Celebrity Net Worth, Moore died with a net worth of $60 million: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSbnvgF-vOk

7. From a beautiful Coastal town in Australia, Lupytha is an aspiring young philosopher of this century.

8. If its not scary, it does not require bravery: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_FPN-bttVQ

9. Now from what Neil has stated he knows how to be really scared.

10. More wisdom from Waldo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zz-DJr1Qs54

11. Boom!!!

12. It seems to be in this case, or is it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=be0rGkKxSGU

13. Not all those thoughts, especially the what if ones.

14. And we had to let Brene have a say on this subject: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LYFRcK4hDes

15. And for our final lesson today, Mary Tyler Moore offers us a beauty.

Family and lovers are not always blood. They’re the people in your life who appreciate having you in theirs – the ones who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways, and who not only embrace who you are know but also who you want to be. These people – your real people – are the ones who truly matter.

Today’s playlist has a bit of cabaret in it: We begin with songstress Bernadette Peters, then an Olympic song by Boney M. One of America’s sweethearts Mary Tyler Moore is next before we access our three rock entries, David Bowie, The Cranberries and P.I.L. We complete with some sage advice from Brene Brown, Enjoy this diverse playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrscdcrz4k2Uhkp9ArVfJ4Na

Wouldn’t it be beautiful if we were able to express how we felt to each and every person, to show Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. This is the ethos of my two Facebook Groups, Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 and Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism. By clicking on the links you can join our merry bands of adventurers.

Until we meet again, my dear friends.

With a Little Help for my Friends!!!


Lockdown number three in my hometown of Melbourne, Australia, bummer. Only 5 days this time, but the dreaded stage four: 5 kilometres and four reasons to leave your home. Even for that short period of time it severely effected two musician friends of mine earnings, they had to cancel their main income making events for the month. When contacted bt them I offered the first to keep the money and send me a download and the second I gave a donation to because she sent us a download for being on her dance crew.

These people keep our hearts open and alive and I am so willing to support them when life gets in their way as this five day hiatus has. I have been a Patreon contributor for over two years for two other friends and Amanda fucking Palmer. This is an excellent way of contributing to people who use these funds to do the work they need to do in the manner that allows them to be most creative. So over time how has the world looked at creativity, lets take a walk down that path:

  1. Musicians impress me in the fact that they are willing to do this for days.

2. There has been no one like you on this planet before: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eIj4ojGFdDY

3. Maya knows best.

4. Rain and art, two useful cleansers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wGB59HuKu-I

5. Being good is enemy number one – Pablo.

6. Being emotive brings out your creativity: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2vjPBrBU-TM&list=PL9A6W9rJ8TCvgGp2wo8IXenyGHqw-v_B7

7. Creativity is a unique form of breath-work.

8. Pablo was as much a philosopher as an artist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kc2iLAubras

9. Why would you need one if your life is art?

10. An essential part of your daily diet: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iPUmE-tne5U

11. Art is made up of all colours, or not.

12. He nearly did with that mustache: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q6T97kHjKiY

13. A fun creativity list to live life from, Yummy!!

14. Lailah Gifty Akita is enthusiastic inspirational writer, born in Accra, Ghana. She is the author of ‘The Alphabet of Success’ , ‘ Think Great,Be Great; Beautiful Quotes Volume 1 and ‘The Wings of Hope:Survivor’. She is passionate about empowering the mind of young people to fulfill greatest mission: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76RTRjj7Jmw

15. It is in the eye of the beholder.

So we have the opportunity to be creative day to day, here is a list of questions to ask yourself each Sunday as to how you went:

  1. What did I learn last week?
  2. What was my greatest accomplishment over the past week?
  3. Which moment from last week was the most memorable and why?
  4. What’s the number one thing I need to accomplish this week?
  5. What can I do right now to make the week less stressful?
  6. What have I struggled with in the past that might also affect the coming week?
  7. What was last weeks biggest time sink?
  8. Am I carrying any excess baggage into the upcoming week that can be dropped?
  9. What have I been avoiding that needs to get done?
  10. What opportunities are still on the table?
  11. is there anyone I’ve been meaning to talk to?
  12. Is there anyone that deserves a big thankyou?
  13. How can I help someone else this coming week?
  14. What are my top three goals for the next three years?
  15. Have any of my recent actions moved me closer to my goals?
  16. What’s the next step for each goal?
  17. What am I looking forward to during the coming week?
  18. What are my fears?
  19. What am I most grateful for?
  20. If I knew I had only one week to live, who would I spend my time with?

Take thirty minutes every Sunday and give yourself the gift of self-reflection.

Today’s playlist is not a playlist, it is seven songs because YouTube is playing up: We begin with a new pop diva to me named Lenka. We then go back in time to 10CC. Sia is great next, then two bands, Modern Lovers and Katrina and the Waves. We finish with two international numbers by Mecano and Kuami Eugene.

So we have many opportunities in our lives to give to others, to me give and you will receive helping my world ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included spread to the other 46 countries it has not been read in. Here is the link to join our Facebook group – Thriving People: People who wish to make a difference to Humankind: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949

Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Have you ever been Crazy?


Psychiatric Units are not noble establishments, private or public. You lose all your rights when you enter both. Having been in both I vote for private over public, the public ones are heavily understaffed and all conditions are thrown in together, not a very practical healing space that leads to violence and sexual abuse on a daily or weekly basis.

I am a bad patient when I enter these institutions, all I want to do is lay on my bed and eat even though the meal times are ridiculously early. I don’t want to discuss my “problems” with the nurses or the mental health professionals or attend the numerous therapy information sessions to fill time in. I have been through this process five times spending a total of six months in different units.

Last time was during a COVID Lock down wave. I was there for 4 weeks and was told I would be released the following Friday. Filling in the release papers I felt I was lying about the questions was I ready to go home. I found out they were releasing patients they felt had made some progress as they did nor want them to become Institutionalized during lock down. Therefore I spent the next three weeks on my couch surviving on Uber Eats. Then,one day Uber Eats, the next day, miracle cure I was as I had been before the episode and no repercussions. My doctor said it was the meds kicking in and my therapists that my issues had died down.

So does the planet believe in miracle cures, lets look back over time:

1, By far the most popular miraculous quote, Louise Hay made a fortune late in her life on this subject.

2. And it may only be that far: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=clJb4zx0o1o

3. Is that what happened the morning it all went away?

4. And yes, it was totally unexpected. I was expectant to be ordering Uber Eats that day as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bnVUHWCynig

5. A warrior general philosopher – amazing!!

6. I think they travel together: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L3wKzyIN1yk

7. A bit of ancient miracle wisdom from Sophocles.

8. And thousands of people make their living from this belief: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6drfp_3823I

9. Health and Love – for me they seem to go together.

10. With curiosity in your life comes inner and outer health not boredom: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JqRn3qM7zBU

11. This is one of my healing centres.

12. Perhaps my superpower returned, mine is words: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Cs3Pvmmv0E

13. I can wholeheartedly agree with that.

14. In a recent talk at Ted x San Francisco, Mel Robbins, a riotously funny self-help author, mentioned that scientists estimate the probability of your being born at about one in 400 trillion: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=egMWlD3fLJ8

15. And for our final lesson – Self-Love.

One of the main things I have learnt over my mental health adventures. is that happiness is not something to postpone for the future, it is something you design into the present, starting from today. Here’s a few things you can try on:

  1. Appreciate what you have.
  2. Focus on things that truly matter.
  3. Define your own meaning of life, and pursue it.
  4. Embrace Life’s Challenges.
  5. Find the balance that allows you to be truly who you are.
  6. Love your body enough to take care of it.
  7. Limit your time with negative people.
  8. Treat others the way you want to be treated.
  9. Set a good example.
  10. Accept what is, and live for the possibilities that lie ahead.

I put a couple of my favourite songs in the playlist, see if you can guess which one’s they are. CCR starts from way back, Beyonce with her golden voice is next. Rag’N”Bone man , one of my favourite discoveries is next followed by a group I had forgotten about, London Grammar. My unknown group for today is 4 Strings. We end with two classics from George Michael and Steppenwolf, enjoy: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtg06WUA4QUXd6fJRee3zt5

When I go into these mental health free-falls is is the people who show me Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included that have helped me get through. Recently one of them died at quite a young age unexpectedly. I write this for you, Michael Arnould, until we meet again on some other plain, my dear friend.