How do You ……..?


The Challenge of leading in a culture of never enough  is in chapter six of Daring Greatly which is headed Disruptive Engagement: Daring to rehumanize Education and Work. One of the questions asked in it is What’s the most significant barrier to creativity and innovation? The answer given is quite lengthy, but worth reading –

“I don’t know if it has a name, it’s the fear of introducing an idea and being ridiculed, laughed at, and belittled. If you’re willing to subject yourself to that experience and if you survive it, then  it becomes the fear of failure and the failure of being wrong. People believe they are only as good as their ideas and that their ideas can’t seem too “out there’ and that they can’t ‘know everything’ The problem is that innovative ideas often sound crazy and failure and learning are part of revolution. Evolution and incremental change is important and we need it, but we’re desperate for real revolution and that requires a different type of courage and creativity”.

The rehumanizing of work and education will take courageous leadership, so who is out there commenting on it,, let’s have a look:

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1. How did you act when you were challenged, did you lead others or were you a victim to it?

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2. Always remember that people you are leading have qualities that you must take in consideration: Don’t you worry Child.

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3. If your people are just coming to work to collect their money at the end of the week, you are not doing your job as a leader, you are managing the Titanic just before it sinks.

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4. If you train people to replace you and make yourself redundant that is closer to the mark of leadership: Mother Teresa.

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5. I used to try and run away from my struggles, sometimes over a thousand kilometres, the only thing was when I got there, the reason for the struggles was still there because it was within me.

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6. When I saw this I just had to include it to showcase why we should be very very afraid: Trump on Woman.

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7. They can give you tips and techniques but it is what you do with them after the event that matters.

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8. If you are doing it for another circumstances in your life will start to get in the way, if you are doing it for yourself, well that’s a different matter: Pony.

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9. This may be the only quote by Joshua J. Marine, there is little information about who he actually is.

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10. Does leadership come from the head or the heart, I’ll let you answer that: Heart of Gold.

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11. One word: Leadership = Oprah.

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12. The road to Leadership is not the road of less. It is in being better, more skillful and wiser: Wiser.

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13. The quickest road to true leadership is to learn the lessons the first time they are revealed to you.

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14. There are many books on the art of leadership out there, this quote speaks to the fact that that is what true leadership is, an artform: Art for Art’s Sake.

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15. As I mentioned before in great leadership there is a quality of redundancy, that it would happen if you were not there.

So, famous people and totally obscure people make comment on leadership which means you still have the time to exhibit yours this lifetime, Go for it , we need you and it to flourish.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Why don’t you Understand?


One of the most obscure and funny workshops I have done is a jargon workshop. Each person had to do a five minute talk using the jargon of their profession and the other participants had to guess what their profession or career was. The one profession nobody could guess was aeronautical engineer. It made me realise that jargon can be very costly when dealing with people  who do not work in your industry. Little wonder that you see a lot of blank stares from people at shops, online and in government institutions.

So what has been said about the cost of using jargon over the centuries, let’s have a look:

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1. While wading through the whimsies, the puerilities and unintelligent words of many documents to apply for most legal actions we know why lawyers are one of the highest paid professions.

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2. Chesterton is often referred to as the “prince of paradox”. Time magazine has observed of his writing style: “Whenever possible Chesterton made his points with popular sayings, proverbs, allegories—first carefully turning them inside out: Perfect Illusion.

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3. What words does your profession confuse people with?

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4. The curly haired genius , Albert points out why using jargon is not the way to go: One Little Finger.

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5. Mason Cooley (1927 – July 25, 2002) was an American aphorist known for his witty aphorisms. Perhaps he was using some of his own when he wrote this quote.

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6. I think I know what two of these words mean, not sure about the others though: So What.

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7. I am a one on one English tutor to three Chinese mothers, I would not dare do this to them.

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8.I didn’t know Helena began her cosmetic empire in my country. She migrated to Australia at the age of 30 and began her empire in Melbourne  before moving to London: Lay me Down.

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9. Don’t know about this, at least books you can usually understand the words contained in them.

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10. The Irish have a term Anam Cara, it means soul friend, I have the honour of being declared one by a dear friend: Anam Cara.

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11. the dumbing down of society, methinks.

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12. What culture are these words from, do they relate to yours: Instant Karma.

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13. Katherine Anne Porter (May 15, 1890 – September 18, 1980) was a Pulitzer Prize-winning American journalist, essayist, short story writer, novelist, and political activist.  Her 1962 novel Ship of Fools was the best-selling novel in America that year, but her short stories received much more critical acclaim. She is known for her penetrating insight; her work deals with dark themes such as betrayal, death and the origin of human evil.

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14. The recommendation these days is to write blogs, because they personalise events, even for businesses, they are fascinating stories: Amazing Grace story.

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15. The jargon of twenty years ago is now obsolete, if we used it how would we explain the Iphone?

Jargon may be costing you meeting your Anam Cara, cut it out of your arsenal of words.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Does it Violate the Golden Rule?


The Golden Rule is to do unto others as you would want done unto you. Rules that elevate some while devaluing others are suspect as bullshit rules – such as rules that grant or restrict opportunities based on skin colour, sexual orientation, religion, nationality, whether a person has a penis or a vagina, or any other arbitary or subjective criteria

A passage taken from Vishen Lakhiani’s excellent book The Code of the Extraordinary Mind that I am re reading at the moment. Vishen sets the premise there are two sets of truths, the physical world of absolute truths and the cultural world of truths based on Belief, he calls the second brules, aka bullshit rules that we adopt to simplify our understanding of the world.

He lists four major ones, 1. The college brule – we must go to college to succeed in life, 2. We must be  loyal to our culture Brule – Our nationality is better than the others, 3. The religion brule – My God is better than your God, and 4 The Hard Work Brule – If you are not working hard all the time, you are lazy.

So lets see what sort of life we could set up with the Golden Rule:

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1. Why talk and say the unsaid words in haste when silence can speak the unspoken words?

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2. Ready, Steady, Go: Ready, Steady, Go!!

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3. George Bernard Shaw , known at his insistence simply as Bernard Shaw, was an Irish playwright, critic and polemicist whose influence on Western theatre, culture and politics extended from the 1880s to his death and beyond. He wrote more than sixty plays, including major works such as Man and Superman (1903), Pygmalion (1913) and Saint Joan (1923). With a range incorporating both contemporary satire and historical allegory, Shaw became the leading dramatist of his generation. He was the first person to be awarded both a Nobel Prize and an Academy Award, receiving the 1925 Nobel Prize in Literature and sharing the 1938 Academy Award for Best Adapted Screenplay for the film version of Pygmalion.

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4. Self Love , one of the major golden rules. Have this and you will know how to deal with others: Born This Way.

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5. Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.

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6. The only time you should put others totally before yourself, if you wish them to spend their money: Keep the Customer Satisfied.

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7. Instant Karma – It’s going to get You – John Lennon.

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8. Actions not Words, my friends: Shake your Sillies out.

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9. Are you willing to grant your golden rules to others?

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10. If all these religions followed these rules the world would be a different  place, we could Lose ourselves to dance!!

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11. I find this quotes extremely powerful, especially the what you see in others – exists in you.

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12. Do you catch yourself saying those things to your children you promised yourself you would never ever say. Stop It: See You Again.

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13. Three Super Golden Rules.

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14. From Texas, The state where everything is bigger that everywhere else. The request is don’t get dirty: Dirt off your Shoulders.

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15. Can your Golden Rules be heard over the screaming your actions create?

I recommend you buy and read his book Link to freight free site. It just may allow you to see where you have followed your brules in  life and give you another chance.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Opportunity looks like a Bald Woman!


The title of this blog is a famous Spanish quote, I don’t think you are meant to know what it means straight away. Pema Chodron writes in her beautiful book When things fall Apart ” When things are shaky we are on the verge of something “. The usual advice for coping with pain and suffering is to sweeten it up, smooth it over, take a pill. But distraction only makes you miss opportunities for happiness – when the courage to live in the present can bring clarity, and even spiritual change…

Do you call your mistakes opportunities? I try and live the ethos there are no mistakes, everything is a gift. It is not easy, we are trained from an early age to blame things we do not want in our lives as mistakes. let’s have a look at the world of opportunity:

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The author of the classic Think and Grow Rich, one of the top ten self-help books of all time, Napoleon Hill was one of the pioneers of the industry and is widely quoted by current gurus such as Anthony Robbins and Zig Ziglar. Here are three more of his well-known  quotes 

Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.
 
Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.
 
If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.

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2. Beginning his acting career at the age of 12, you do not expect to see a quote by the man known as Mr. Television be listed among the great philosophers. Yet, this beautiful quote is fully deserving of it: Break on Through.

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3. I don’t usually use quotes that feature the word, God, as I am a Gaia sort of dude, but I listened to a speech by a born-again Christian last night. In it, she related as a fourth generation Christian she saw God as being about kindness, can’t disagree with that.

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4. Would you like a million dollars, you just have to fly unaided to get it. Do you accept the challenge? I’m your man.

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5.Thomas Edison’s teachers said he was “too stupid to learn anything.” He was fired from his first two jobs for being “non-productive.” As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”

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6. Are you a Yes or No kind of person? Just Say Yes.

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7. What was that movie, Jim Carrey say yes to everything in? I can’t remember the name. But, yes it certainly challenged his limits and changed his life.

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8. My favourite cigar smoker also said when they suggested cutting the arts to spend more on defence, then what would we be fighting for: Art for Art’s Sake.

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9. They say you create a new world with the decision to turn left or right. My friend met his beloved when he bumped into her turning right, what if he had gone left?

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10. A 20 year NBA player, Kobe also said – I’ll do whatever it takes to win games, whether it’s sitting on a bench waving a towel, handing a cup of water to a teammate, or hitting the game-winning shot. Negative or a small thing, take the opportunity: Scale Down.

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11. Khalil can be obtuse to the extreme, after reading his quotes you will have expanded your knowledge.

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12.Dr. Orison Swett Marden (1848–1924) was an American inspirational author who wrote about achieving success in life and founded SUCCESS magazine in 1897. His writings discuss common-sense principles and virtues that make for a well-rounded, successful life. Many of his ideas are based on New Thought philosophy.

His first book, Pushing to the Front (1894), became an instant best-seller. Marden later published fifty or more books and booklets, averaging two titles per year: Seize the Day.

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13. There’s that famous story that most people on their deathbed talk about what they regret having done, don’t be one of them.

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14. The curly haired wonder, Albert Einstein published more than 300 scientific papers along with over 150 non-scientific works. He took his opportunities: Taking Chances.

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15. How many people shut the world out with headphones these days. I relate to you a story I heard from a Hazara refugee in our country who has made the decision that every person he meets is an opportunity to improve his English. He started talking to the person next to him on the tram and the elderly person sitting opposite asked if she could join in. She offered Haid and his family their beach house for a week and have become good friends. How many opportunities do we miss by making the judgement they wouldn’t talk to us.

Knock, Knock – Who’s there?

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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It was not in your Textbooks!!


I love TED talks. 18 minutes of possibility and passion. I’m reading a book called Talk like Ted, because, yes, I have a deep wish to do one, it’s on my bucket list. Titanic explorer Robert Ballard in TED 2008 started his talk with ” Everything I’m going to present to you was not in my textbooks when I went to school. ”

So I ponder why education departments hold so stringently onto outdated technologies and teaching methods as the above statement changes at a more rapid rate. here’s his TED talk: Exploring the Oceans.

The New is what is taking us forward, allowing for what we know already, but it is the added bits that will make the difference.

Let us meander down the path we are  being taken by the newness in our lives:

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1. Oh, but for the brave experimenters, we would not have the electric light, the solar panel. The people who invented these things knew that the journey came with mistakes. That they did not have the answer instantly.

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1. When I was sixteen I did not know that I would run marathons when another sixteen had passed. Or that I would run down the main street of Leningrad with the mayor in the name of Ending World Hunger: I’m not Afraid

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3. Doe Zantamata is an author, artist, and photographer. In addition to the Happiness in Your Life book series, she also creates and designs poster books of different titles, including “Happy By Nature,” “Old Children, A Book for “Adults”,” and others. Doe has been writing since before she could tie her shoes. In addition to writing, she enjoys nature, history, and is an animal welfare advocate. She also runs a blog at http://www.thehiyL.com with daily posts.

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4. What would you want to be posted on your mini whiteboard that they could use later in your life: Live Your Life.

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5. One thing guaranteed life will change, be new, moment by moment. Remember this when you wake up each beautiful morning.

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6. I’m old enough to remember Hawkeye from M.A.S.H. From his credits he had this not in the textbook thing down pat: Theme from MASH.

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7. On this path, you have to let go of some things you have attachments to. Trust the magic.

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8. A new project, travel to a new country, a new love affair. Your feelings are jolted in these situations: Feelings.

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9. William Arthur Ward is one of America’s most quoted writers of inspirational maxims. His column Pertinent Proverbs has been featured in the Fort Worth Star-Telegram and in numerous service club publications throughout the United States and abroad. He is one of the most frequently quoted writers in the pages of Quote, the international weekly digest for public speakers.

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10. There is a quote that points out we all have the same amount of time in the day as Martin Luther King, Gandhi, and HHDL. When I posted it on Facebook my brother went apeshit. This fact can be quite challenging: Absolute Beginners.

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11. Don’t think that this is at the forefront of my mind as I travel through the day, I will remember it now, though.

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12. Is it a creation if you already know how to do it: Imagine.

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13. From the great Paulo Coelho, one simple word – “Hello”.

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14. It didn’t work that time. Start again, from little steps big things grow: Starting Something: M.J.

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15. How many mistakes a day do you make?

Got a little bit off the subject on the way through, but remember, what is dominant in our society was not in the textbooks you read at school.

Namaste until next time , my dear friends.

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This is Brilliant, You are Awesome!!


Caught up with the woman who started my blogging career tonight at a publicity do for her book on writing, Use your Words. I did her Gunnas writing course about two years ago and had not committed a word to print before attending. I am now up to blog 187. Here’s a link to her web page, if you ever intend writing your words, check it out: Catherine’s web page.

Cath gave some amazing tips during her talk, one being don’t seek feedback, they are your words, write them and then find a publisher or self-publish. Also, that whoever tells you that writing is easy is bullshitting you, It’s hard.

So what does the world say about the art of writing your words, let’s have a look.

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1. I think I have done some things worth writing about. Interrupting the main street of Leningrad to run down with the mayor and the Minister for Sport on a  Friday afternoon being one of them.

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2. Great books to me are just as visually stunning as a great painting. The images you create as you read the words stick with you as long as seeing the Mona Lisa or Blue Poles : You’re The Voice.

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3. People probably think Elizabeth Gilbert sat down one  day and churned out the million-selling Eat, Pray, Love. Gilbert earned a Bachelor of Arts degree in political science from New York University in 1991, after which she worked as a cook, a bartender, a waitress, and a magazine employee. She wrote of her experience as a cook on a dude ranch in short stories, and also briefly in her book The Last American Man (Viking 2002). It was not until 2006 she wrote Eat, Pray, and Love.

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4. I have probably written as many wrong words as I have words that have ended up in these blogs: Elastic Heart.

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5. I stopped writing this blog for three months when I had a thinking block that went something like this: No one is reading it anyway, so what will it matter if I stop.

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6. I put Namaste at the end of every blog I write, it means one soul recognizes another. I hope that you can see mine in my writing : Say my Name.

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7. We are all organisms, from our pet cats to the curious breed known as writers.

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8. The world’s greatest booby prize, perfectionism. At the Gunnas master class, our first exercise was to write for 5 minutes, which was actually 15 which proved to us all that we could write: Hear You Me.

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9. Just start your writing, now not later.

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10. My 89-year-old mum can still recite William Wordsworth’s I wander lonely as a cloud. It must have filled her heart upon reading it. William got his job done: Daffodils.

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11. I don’t know how many times I have thought is that revealing too much Like that I have been hospitalised 6 times for mental health issues, then I realise writing is not about censorship.

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12. Motivation follows action, do you give up your designated writing times and word targets, never ever ever: Instant Crush.

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13. What people think of your work is none of your business, as long as it makes you a better person, who gives a shit.

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14. Write real words, real stories about real people, because that is who you are writing them for.

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15. I only found out about Maya Angelou after she had  passed. Maya Angelou , born Marguerite Annie Johnson; April 4, 1928 – May 28, 2014) was an American poet, memoirist, and civil rights activist. She published seven autobiographies, three books of essays, several books of poetry, and was credited with a list of plays, movies, and television shows spanning over 50 years. She received dozens of awards and more than 50 honorary degrees. Angelou is best known for her series of seven autobiographies, which focus on her childhood and early adult experiences. The first, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings (1969), tells of her life up to the age of 17 and brought her international recognition and acclaim.

I say I am a blogger, but am willing to own that I am a writer as well. I think the two words mean the same thing.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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As long as you don’t need them!!


I saw a beautiful word on the way to my volunteer work today, when I got their I was told I was no longer a volunteer but a visitor and have to wear an ID identifying me as so, I have been volunteering there for 3 and a half years, bureaucracy is a beautiful thing.

The word I saw was transference, I wasn’t sure of its exact meaning so I went to google, here it is : definition of transference:

Transference is a phenomenon characterised by unconscious redirection of feelings from one person to another. One definition of transference is “the inappropriate repetition in the present of a relationship that was important in a person’s childhood”. Another definition is “the redirection of feelings and desires and especially of those unconsciously retained from childhood toward a new object”. Still another definition is “a reproduction of emotions relating to repressed experiences, especially of childhood, and the substitution of another person… for the original object of the repressed impulses”. Transference was first described by psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud, who acknowledged its importance for psychoanalysis for better understanding of the patient’s feelings.

I’m still not sure if I know what it means after that but I will have a go at discussing the following quotes on it:

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    1. Have you been to see a film and left disappointed because their interpretation didn’t match the one you had created from reading the book in your head, I know I have.
     
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    2. In the definition it talks about repetition in the present, if the repetition is of a negative nature get away from that transference: Bad Vibe.

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3. I have a friend who does self development work, he says it is to have people                    become sane in an insane world, he must have read this.

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4. How often do we fear situations in out life, and when they occur the result is                  nothing like the expectation, for me its a fear of heights, what’s yours: Guts over              Fear.

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5. Arthur M. Jolly  is an American playwright and screenwriter. In 2006, he was                   awarded an Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences Nicholl Fellowship in                 Screenwriting for a script named The Free Republic of Bobistan.

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6. Are you great at hugging , holding and being held. To me this is the greatest act            of transference of the soul, spirit, energy through action: I Want to Hug You.

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7. Nationalism, one of the great tools of fascism. Sport taken to extremes, killing              in the name of!!

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8. James Frank Dobie – was an American folklorist, writer, and newspaper                           columnist best known for many books depicting the richness and traditions of life           in rural  Texas during the days of the open range. As a public figure, he was known           in his lifetime for his outspoken liberal views against Texas state politics, and for             his long personal war against what he saw as bragging Texans, religious prejudice,           restraints on individual liberty, and the assault of the mechanised world on the                 human spirit. He was instrumental in the saving of the Texas Longhorn breed of               cattle from extinction. Imagine what he would have thought of our crazy                             times: The Human Spirit.

 

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9. Aren’t they so charismatic: we all know one of them. In the conscious dance                 community I hang in, I know quite a few thankfully, people who are alive and full             of enthusiasm.

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10. That first day of school when we are with our mothers normally, and they                     leave us behind with a whole lot of strangers, how long did it take you to get over             the first day blues: First Day of School.

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11. How often do we transfer our vision into reality? I put it in google, guess the                  result: 20,300,000. I suppose that’s why they call it leadership.

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12. Simone Weil  was a French philosopher, mystic, and political activist. After                   her graduation from formal education, Weil became a teacher. She taught                            intermittently throughout the 1930s, taking several breaks due to poor health and            to devote herself to political activism, work that would see her assisting in the                  trade union movement, taking the side of the Anarchists known as the Durruti                 Column in the Spanish Civil War, and spending more than a year working as a                   labourer, mostly in auto factories, so she could better understand the working                   class : Never Know.

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13. Father of the Star Trek phenomenon, Gene Roddenberry –  was asked to write a            series called Riverboat, set in 1860’s Mississippi. When he discovered that the                    producers wanted no black people on the show, he argued so much with them                    that he lost the job, but what a great question. 

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14. The father of transference, Sigmund Freud lightening the situation a                             little: The Cigar Song.

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15. The Diva of soul Nina Simone lived with the transference that music can be, a            blessing or the burden of fame throughout her life, suffering mental health issues            and family breakdown as well as playing to some of the biggest audiences of her               era.

So what have you transferred from your childhood and who do you relate to like they            were that person who did that to you the first time, It’s a life time journey battling the          transference of our minds.

       Namaste until next time my dear friends.