Give someone a Smile!!


I’ve gone back to getting my subjects for my blogs off my kitchen wall. The title for this one comes from my We build Tribes chart. The purpose is to build a purpose-driven community, I actually have two: They are Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism and Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humankind: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. Both have the ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included at their core.

Each community has the following behind it:

  1. 10,000 people woke up this morning shedding private tears because they need a solution to their problem. You have that solution, go find them.
  2. No other individual was placed upon this earth to do what you were uniquely born to do. Be you and the world will transform.
  3. We live in an abundant world, allow that abundance to flow through you and you will never be without it.
  4. Build a tribe that changes the very fabric of society, That is what you were born to do.
  5. Whatever your goal, dream or desire is, It’s yours for the taking. Never accept you can’t.
  6. Be consumed with a vision for tomorrow, go there in your own life and people will follow.
  7. In a world of increasing isolation, be the campfire that attracts friends, laughter and authentic moments of transformation.
  8. No-one ever got lucky, true success flows from consistency and persistency. Never, ever give up.
  9. It’s going to be hard, It’s going to be tough. Remember, when you quit, No one wins.
  10. Be their leader, be their servant, be their guide. But whatever you do. Make sure you “be”.
  11. Don’t ever love others to the detriment of loving yourself. There is no one more important than you.
  12. Rest, love, allow yourself to be loved. For as much as you feel the world rests on your shoulders, it doesn’t.
  13. Support one another, cherish one another, inspire one another. We can make an even greater impact when we do so together.
  14. Give someone a smile, give them money, give them a moment – when you have the capacity to do so… give.
  15. With money comes influence, impact and opportunity – freedom comes when we cease fearing the pursuit of money & we embrace it.

So what has society said about communities – lets walk down that path:

1. Read that word, everyone, all 7 billion of us.

2. And her partner was Martin Luther King Junior, hear him speak: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixfwGLxRJU8

3. Do you know what your community cares about?

4. Author of the Courage to Create, this quote speaks profoundly of the power of communication: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nN6VR92V70M

5. We all know a community needs more than one colour.

6. Another religious guru facing abuse allegations. Bill Hybels has a lot to reconcile: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-6zYv9hCow

7. From little things , big things grow.

8. My purpose to make my communities safe places: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHvTWvKIPHo

9. How many friendships I have made simply asking would you like to go for a coffee?


10. Give someone a smile, give them money, give them a moment – when you have the capacity to do so… give: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8QV6ffjIYU


11. Ubuntu is a Nguni Bantu term meaning “humanity”. It is sometimes translated as “I am because … Language.

12. Very profound, Marianne: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SxGLPVvNjvY

13. Boom!!!

14. And my favourite dance crew are the Desert Dwellers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAuAcC6-5ds

15. This one touches my soul.

I have had faith in intentional communities to transform out planet, it will take something but to me has always been possible.

Today’s playlist is truly eclectic. We begin with Martin Luther King’s most famous speech. Then one of my favourite pop divas, Taylor Swift. An Aussie legend follows, Lee Morgan. Then another of my favourite spoken word giants, Maya Angelou. Back to the 60s or 70s with Bread. Ava Max is the penultimate track, then we finish my favourite dance crew, The Desert Dwellers: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrsTT_-LiPDrKqshrgpwBoPh

So I will complete with my ethos one more time: Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Until we meet afain my dear friends.

How do you break the Ice?


After a failed relationship which was my first in ten years I have become hesitant to dip my toes in the water again. But even with this hesitancy the opportunity has risen again and a wondrous women has appeared in my sights. I have wanted to kiss her almost from the moment I saw her across the room and attending a community dinner with her after the event we were at reinforced why I would want to do this.

I see the people from this event once or twice a month so if I want more to happen the hesitancy will have to go away. She kissed me goodbye last time we met and I have been flustered by this ever since. All the stories that raise their ugly heads have arisen since then.My friend Angel suggested a few things to do to move on from this:

  1. Free myself from negative people.
  2. Let go of those who are already gone.
  3. Give people you don’t know a fair chance.
  4. Show everyone kindness and respect.
  5. Accept people just the way they are.
  6. Encourage others and cheer for them.
  7. Be your perfectly imperfect self.
  8. Forgive people and move forward.
  9. Do little things for others every day.
  10. Pay attention to who your real friends are.
  11. Always be loyal.
  12. Stay in better touch with people who matter to you.
  13. Keep your promises and tell the truth.
  14. Give what you want to receive.
  15. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
  16. Allow others to make their own decisions.
  17. Talk less and listen more.
  18. Leave petty arguments behind.
  19. Ignore unconstructive, hurtful commentary.
  20. Pay attention to your relationship with yourself.

So what has the human race said about this dilemma over the centuries, let’s have a look:

1. Morgan Harper Nichols is an American Christian musician, songwriter, mixed-media artist, and writer, whose work is centred around the question “how can we create connection?”.

2. That this woman would walk up to me and kiss me was totally unexpected, I did not think she knew I existed: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tq72aBL7GLY

3. They say the feeling between fear and excitement is only in what you choose to call it.

4. The period of Catherine the Great’s rule, the Catherinian Era, is considered a Golden Age of Russia. The Manifesto on Freedom of the Nobility, issued during the short reign of Peter III and confirmed by Catherine, freed Russian nobles from compulsory military or state service. Construction of many mansions of the nobility, in the classical style endorsed by the empress, changed the face of the country. She enthusiastically supported the ideals of the Enlightenment and is often included in the ranks of the enlightened despots. As a patron of the arts, she presided over the age of the Russian Enlightenment, including the establishment of the Smolny Institute for Noble Maidens, the first state-financed higher education institution for women in Europe.

5. Preferring Waldo to Ralph , Emerson was considered the 19th Centuries preeminent philosopher.

6. While Moore dealt with alcoholism and health issues throughout her life which make this statement by her ring true, it’s her work with television that will forever be remembered. And she amassed quite a hefty fortune thanks to her work. According to Celebrity Net Worth, Moore died with a net worth of $60 million: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSbnvgF-vOk

7. From a beautiful Coastal town in Australia, Lupytha is an aspiring young philosopher of this century.

8. If its not scary, it does not require bravery: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_FPN-bttVQ

9. Now from what Neil has stated he knows how to be really scared.

10. More wisdom from Waldo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zz-DJr1Qs54

11. Boom!!!

12. It seems to be in this case, or is it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=be0rGkKxSGU

13. Not all those thoughts, especially the what if ones.

14. And we had to let Brene have a say on this subject: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LYFRcK4hDes

15. And for our final lesson today, Mary Tyler Moore offers us a beauty.

Family and lovers are not always blood. They’re the people in your life who appreciate having you in theirs – the ones who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways, and who not only embrace who you are know but also who you want to be. These people – your real people – are the ones who truly matter.

Today’s playlist has a bit of cabaret in it: We begin with songstress Bernadette Peters, then an Olympic song by Boney M. One of America’s sweethearts Mary Tyler Moore is next before we access our three rock entries, David Bowie, The Cranberries and P.I.L. We complete with some sage advice from Brene Brown, Enjoy this diverse playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrscdcrz4k2Uhkp9ArVfJ4Na

Wouldn’t it be beautiful if we were able to express how we felt to each and every person, to show Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. This is the ethos of my two Facebook Groups, Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 and Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism. By clicking on the links you can join our merry bands of adventurers.

Until we meet again, my dear friends.

We Grow Every Day!!!


Does the statement that is the title of this blog frighten you. In scientific truth in regards to age it is until we pass, but does it feel like that in other areas of our life. They say we develop our characteristics by the age of five, Earlier temperament seems to affect later life experience. For example, one 1995 study published in the journal Child Development followed children from the age of 3 until the age of 18. The researchers found, for instance, that children who were shyer and more withdrawn tended to grow into unhappier teenagers. 

In those first few years everything is new and vital, and then the harsh truths of life start to kick in. What do we learn in this new sector of our life:

  1. Life is not Easy.
  2. You will fail sometimes.
  3. Right now, there’s a lot you don’t know.
  4. There may not be a tomorrow.
  5. There’s a lot you can’t control.
  6. Information is not true knowledge.
  7. You can’t be successful without providing value.
  8. Someone else will always have more than you.
  9. You can’t change the past.
  10. The only person who can make you happy is you.
  11. There will always be people who don’t like you.
  12. You don’t always get what you want.
  13. In life you get what you put in.
  14. Some friends will come and go.
  15. Doing the same exact thing every day hinders self-growth.
  16. You will never feel 100 percent ready for something new.

So what has society said about this period over time, lets have a look:

1. Interesting comment from a man who has been involved with baseball his whole life.

2. A great question, Which is your voice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuAH21DkJow

3. A man who made billions speaking to people’s inner child’s.

4. Lev Grossman (born June 26, 1969) is an American novelist and journalist who wrote The Magicians Trilogy: The Magicians(2009), The Magician King (2011),and The Magician’s Land (2014). A strange statement from someone who writes about magic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HPE9a_epmWw

5. One day seems like a minute and sometimes like a week on this journey.

6. At Sixty-Six this has happened to me a lot, Dr Seuss: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SlPhMPnQ58k

7. I think I was about 11 when this powerful statement by Iranian born Cassandra Clare kicked in.

8. You go from a whole school to one or two precious ones: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNHBT7wjqVI

9. a moment of sudden and great revelation or realization.

10. Boom: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hoUH9b6xHyg

11. He is best known for his works of fiction, especially The Screwtape Letters, The Chronicles of Narnia, and The Space Trilogy, and for his non-fiction Christian apologetics, such as Mere Christianity, Miracles, and The Problem of Pain. Lewis and fellow novelist J. R. R. Tolkien were close friends. Two of the great fantasy writers of their time.

12. How old were you when this happened: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T8Xb_7YDroQ

13. The magnificent Maya Angelou.

14. And it’s popularly called our Inner Child: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0cBhdvXfJA

15. Sir Peter Brian Medawar was a British biologist and writer, He is remembered for his wit both in person and in popular writings. Famous zoologists such as Richard Dawkins referred to him as “the wittiest of all scientific writers”, and Stephen Jay Gould as “the cleverest man I have ever known”.

I’m getting to the point of knowing all that I may know but playing my great uncle role on Sunday with my great niece Tawara who is all of six months old I must admit it takes you back to that period in your life when it’s all about Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included, It’s so beautiful watching her natural joy.

The playlist today is young, old and smarmy , we begin with Pink then fly back to the sixties with Steppenwolf. The first of two rock groups is next with Maroon 5. Back to the 70’s with Dione Warwick and Friends, we stays there with Peter Pan and Friends. The penultimate number is Eve 6 and we complete with Shaina Noll, which some people may find a bit smarmy: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrsSwgrDaJJ_VQtjpbCMe57v

Thank you for waiting a few weeks for this blog, until we meet again my dear friends.

You can dance if you want to!!!


I must admit we are lucky in Melbourne, Australia to have basically come out of Lockdown because we put in the hard yards of Stage 3 and Stage 4 for a period of 7 months. Can you imagine not being able to go more than 5km for months on an end, we did that and it worked The second wave began and we ended it whereas other places with the same number of cases have gone from hundreds to thousands in the same time frame

Now we are out there is a follow up crisis, now that we can go out I and other people I know are hesitant to do so on a regular basis so I reached out to the one thing I know my body loves, Conscious Dance. The first dance I attended I had to eave because it became a Contact Improvise demonstration not a dance, the two are totally different to me and it had become false advertising that it was a dance. The one I found to replace it is called Open Floor and as it is summer here the first dance was in Park-lands. I have since returned to one of my old stomping grounds at Rosina Auditorium on a Wednesday night.

I also make used to make chai for three dances, two of them clashed last Saturday so I chose the one I had been doing the longest, Mojo Dance – The dance of connection. So what have communities said about the healing power of dance over the generations, lets have a look:

1. 194 countries planet wide, each with their own language. 1 dancing soul.

2. Dance gets you out of your head and into your heart: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tz6_AUsLQ8g

3. Because they are getting in touch with their Angel spirits.

4. This magic show is priceless time and time again: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AdpjXLbxDq4

5. Lyall Watson wrote the iconic book Supernature and is credited with the 100th monkey effect. He spent a lot of his life studying the many different cultures on the planet.


6. Some forms of dance are competitive, not Conscious dance though: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ICjyAe9S54c

7. The ultimate exercise workout.

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8. It’s the journey not the particular steps you take on the way: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cXOAnVI3boM

9. Your choice of dance mantra.

10. From the African dances I have attended I can believe there are 31 core values: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZWSYCp-46h8&list=PLme-1fWBofIw1jJy5v-2LEv2jervh7WBC

11. My body is a bit too old to create that move.

12. We put on our invisibility cloaks and disappear into the magical void: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=93DWZtavaoU

13. Have you tried it?

14. Alvin Ailey (January 5, 1931 – December 1, 1989), a.k.a. Alvin Ailey Jr., was an African-American dancer, director, choreographer, and activist who founded the Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater(AAADT). He created AAADT and its affiliated Ailey School as havens for nurturing black artists and expressing the universality of the African-American experience through dance. His work fused theatre, modern dance, ballet, and jazz with black vernacular, creating hope-fueled choreography that continues to spread global awareness of black life in America: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n30NKg4Boqs

15. Here or hear the music, it doesn’t matter, I am insane.

Dancing is not something to postpone for the future, it is something you design in the present, starting today:

  1. Appreciate what you have.
  2. Focus on things that really matter.
  3. Define your own meaning of life , and pursue it.
  4. Embrace life’s challenges.
  5. Find the balance that allows toy to be who you truly are.
  6. Love your body enough to take care of it.
  7. Limit your time with negative people.
  8. Treat others the way you want to be treated.
  9. Set a good example
  10. Accept what is, and live for the possibilities that lie ahead.

In the playlist I thought I would give you a taste of what Conscious Dancers dance to. On most play lists Desert Dwellers will appear. Followed up by Shaman’s Dream. Moby crossed over into popular music as well. Then a short festival set by DJ Drop G. Off to Africa for Psquare, the penultimate track is Basher Toe and we finish with a dance routine choreographed by Alvin Ailey: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrvCZsxOmI3PAvbn-8YB2eqS

As one of the quotes says, dance is the music of the soul, if we take it on the ethos Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included has a chance. My new Facebook group, Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humanity uses this as its premise, here is the link to join us if you wish: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949, Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Having a Dream!!!


I went down to my friend Frankie’s opening of the Centre of You – A Place to Be and Become last Sunday. I did not realize it was so close to my den of iniquity from 30 years ago, Revolver upstairs. I went to a Japanese cafe for dinner and watched the crowd coming out of Revolver at 5 pm stoned off their faces, instantly taking me back to my 5am exits in a similar condition.

But this blog is not about that, it is about Frankie’s business partner Grace and the speech she gave about how she had attained her dream, The Centre of You. Grace was invited to perform with the Kirtan musicians, another dream fulfilled. But it was in her story of standing for the dream of the centre that moved me so much. Grace had been contemplating what would fill her up every moment of the day and it was to have a place where people could heal their souls. At the time she had seventy-seven cents in her bank account and was in debt in other places.

Grace never gave up on her dream because of her circumstances and kept speaking it to all and asunder. Over time she would meet people who would hang around for a while and also people who would say, I am on your journey. Enter my friend Frankie at a breath-work training which enabled the energy required to fulfill Grace’s dream.

So what has society said about fulfilling dreams over the years, lets have a look:

1. You are on your journey, not theirs.

2. I was at a fulfillment of this statement Sunday: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aOeP4p1fjMs

3. Set your soul on Fire!!!

4. Mrs POTUS had a lot more to offer than being the woman at the presidents side:

5. She, after all, is on your side.

6. My hand is up for being guilty of doing this:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uG_Rg3xMMGs

7. BOOM!!!

8. We definitely need some Oprah: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xKkhsXqf43g

9. Got to love our rivers.

10. I like this very much: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xLy2SaSQAtA

11. Do our dreams have a price?

12. Henry David Thoreau born July 12, 1817 – May 6, 1862) was an American naturalist, essayist, poet, and philosopher A leading transcendentalist, he is best known for his book Walden a reflection upon simple living in natural surroundings, and his essay “Civil Disobedience” (originally published as “Resistance to Civil Government”), an argument for disobedience to an unjust state: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2hvkPyiAFE

13. Strive to go the whole distance!!!

14. Essential overrides the first three: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTQbiNvZqaY

15. As Nike says, Just Do It.

At the end of the day, whether you chose to go with it, flow with it, resist it, change it, or hide from it, life goes on. If what you did today didn’t turn out as you’d hoped, tomorrow is a new opportunity to do it differently, or nothing at all. What’s important is to realize that you have a choice, here are twelve ways to help you move forward:

  1. Don’t give up on the things you believe in.
  2. Work with, and spend time, with the right people.
  3. Concentrate on the present.
  4. Maintain a positive attitude.
  5. Endure the pain.
  6. Ignore the naysayers.
  7. Live your life through love.
  8. Accept 100% responsibility for your current situation.
  9. Take action and plant the right seeds.
  10. Don’t lose yourself in the commotion.
  11. Appreciate what you have.
  12. Make a positive difference.

Today’s playlist contains two songs by the same artist, a very unusual choice by me: We begin with Alice Cooper, then back to now with Beyonce. A great cover by Aussie band Mental as Anything follows. Then our spoken word piece by Oprah is next. John Lennon by two takes us to the final track by Toto: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYruQzmX4zq_AczD6SprNGSn4

I believe we all have dreams, mine is to get one million people saying they will live from Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included, Its a Facebook group called Thriving People -People who wish to make a difference to humanity. If you would like to be one here is the Facebook link to become a member:https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949.

Thank you, Grace. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Back in the World!!!


Our lock down is officially over in Victoria, Australia. The only thing we have to do is wear masks in public places. Over the seven month period I went over a mental health period including a psych unit visit, a beautiful relationship, sadly no longer and for the final month and a half anxiety as I live alone.

But now we can dance together, hang out in public parks and have more than one family member in our homes.But the length of time has not made it an easy task, we Melbournians are so used to being at home and 5 kilometers that exploring the world and people again isn’t that easy. How do you get back in connection with your dance crews, the people you picnic with and your beloved families, if in fact they are for you.

So here are some questions to make you think about returning to the fold:

  1. What does the child inside yourself long for?
  2. What is one thing right NOW that you are totally sure of?
  3. What’s the best decision you’ve ever made?
  4. What’s the BIGGEST motivator in your life right now?
  5. What are you MOST grateful for?
  6. What have you been COUNTING or keeping track of recently?
  7. What’s the difference between being ALIVE and truly living?
  8. If you had the OPPORTUNITY to get message across to a large group of people , what would your message be?
  9. Have you DONE anything lately worth remembering?
  10. When is the LAST time you tried something new?

To me the difference between being alive and truly living is connection, the company of good people, a sense of community. I luckily belong to the conscious community of our city, we dance, workshop, party and care for each other. So what has the world community said about connection over the time of the human race, lets have a look:

1. What is the algorithm of deep connection, perhaps less screen time.

2. We had to have some Brene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw

3. Also known as the self gratification generation.

4. An icon as nearly well known as several of the POTUS’s, love the last line: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTqFxMxfzkA

5. And we all are starseed.

6. More money is not the answer of the wife of the richest man in America: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r5yaoMjaAmE

7. Grieving for Grief: Joanne Cacciatore is Associate Professor at Arizona State University. She writes about and researches traumatic grief, and trains providers in “green” mental health care. Her latest book, is used by grief therapists worldwide.

8. Why prisons use solitary confinement as their ultimate punishment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRq_Cxzpm6c

9. Some of my most connected moments have been spent in silence.

10. Power to the People!!!: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Epue9X8bpc

11. Put it down!!!

12. Tom thinks history is made up of connection: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FcOt6mfjxeA

13. Time to turn a life around, do it now.


14. Faded name but extremely true: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKtrWU

15. Miss Congeniality calls it out.

Quite a lot of differing views in the quotes today, but several comments about the affect of technology on connection, unfortunately I can only seeing it getting worse in big cities like the one I live in, perhaps it is time to return to the bush land of my birth.

Today’s playlist has spoken word and film themes and TV series themes on the eclectic offering. We begin with Brene Brown, Followed by Mr Rogers. Then we return to the current day with Christina Perri and Nights. Back to last century with John Lennon and Alan Silvestri , and we complete with Des’ree: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrvD5CGR87SdQ1HRGOST3ne_

So in the last two weeks I have been to two ecstatic dances and a hangout in the Edinburgh Gardens with my friend Ariane, It was great, so small steps taken. I believe if I strongly follow my ethos for life: Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included I will enter my community more and more. And if I grow my Facebook group, Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humankind, join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949.

Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Are you a Good Ancestor?


I hadn’t heard this expression till earlier this week when I was cleaning up and came across the Consciousness Rising copy of Dumbo Feather, a magazine with a tagline Conversations with extraordinary people. One of the articles was about being a good ancestor. The term came about in the 1970’s from Jonas Salk, who also developed the polio vaccine.

It didn’t take off much since then due to neoliberal hyper-individualism, but is receiving more interest these days. A Good Ancestor tries as best they can, to think as far as they can beyond their own life span, to the time when their children’s children will be living.

Roman Krznaric, author of The Good Ancestor comes up with six conversation starters to have a Good Ancestor chat:

  1. Deep-Time Humility: What have been your most profound experiences of deep time, and how do they affect you?
  2. Intergenerational Justice: What, for you, are the most powerful reasons for caring about future generations.
  3. Legacy Mindset: What legacy do you want to leave your family, your community and for the living world?
  4. Transcendent Goal: What do you think should be the ultimate goal of the human species?
  5. Holistic Forecasting: Do you anticipate a future of civilisational breakdown, radical transformation or a different pathway?
  6. Cathedral Thinking: What long term projects could you purse others that extend beyond your own lifetime.

As the COVID pandemic keeps growing and growing, I think it is time we all become good ancestors and realize the planet is not just here for us to survive the years we are on it, what does society say about being good ancestors, lets have a look:

1.David Ross Brower was a prominent environmentalist and the founder of many environmental organizations, including the John Muir Institute for Environmental Studies, Friends of the Earth (1969), Earth Island Institute(1982), North Cascades Conservation Council, and Fate of the Earth Conferences.

2. Sustainability vs. Economics, which will save the world: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zBEGxqJKup8

3. In Australia we are slowly learning that 60,000 years of warden-ship mean that we should listen to the indigenous people of our land.

4. Thomas Berry,was a cultural historian and scholar of the world’s religions, especially Asian traditions. Later as he studied Earth history and evolution, he called himself a “geologian.”  He rejected the label “theologian” or “ecotheologian” as too narrow and not descriptive of his cultural studies in history of religions. He was drawn early on to respond to the growing ecological and climate crisis and proposed the need for a “New Story” of evolution in 1978. In this essay he suggested that a deep understanding of the history and functioning of the evolving universe is a necessary inspiration and guide for our own effective functioning as individuals and as a species: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l4_lUpnIoTo

5. I still have the stone my youngest nephew gave me, he is now 29.

6. Essentially to fall in love with nature and defend it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQOaUnSmJr8

7. And remember it will be their world longer than it will be ours!

8. And their kids as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pvuN_WvF1to

9. Another indigenous race not listened to in the USA.

10. Can you hear it still, or is all the industry too loud: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LH2J81ZjsGk

11. We have forgotten this on most continents!!!

12. Said a long time ago, now we have kids climate strikes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h1Lu5udXEZI

13. And we are stupid enough to do this.

14. Penny Lancaster is best known as Rod Stewart’s partner, yet has a personal fortune of 20 million pounds sterling: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tEAu5TFAUpE&list=PLwoaKzAN8kVmMdMqdlelhS4j2WfpFiWPq

15. Just remember 2020 and how can we not.

The three quotes in the articles are good reason of rus to become good ancestors as soon as we can, here they are:

“We’re using 1.6 Earths every year. We’re using more resources than we can naturally regenerate and create more waste than can be naturally absorbed in a carbon sink.”

“What I see is that my daughter or her great grand-child are not alone. They are in a web of relationships with people, with community, but they are also in the web of the living world. They need air to breathe and food to eat.”

“I don’t think this is going to be easy, and that all our problems will necessarily be solved. But there is the possibility. What we’re seeing in the world now is what transformative change looks like.”

Today’s playlist is from rock and roll royalty and includes some intercultural songs. We start with Sir Paul McCartney and friends, Leanne Rime’s golden voice is next. CSNY take us back to a golden period of rock. Little Dicky and Olena Uutai fill inthe middle. The penultimate song is by Matthew West and we finish with John Legend: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYruwVK7IDiAHKUvlsdM1-dk8

I hold my ethos, Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included as a Cathedral Project – it will continue much past my lifetime. Until next time, my dear friends.

How do you fill the gap left?


I was having trouble getting over a recent love affair so began reading about breakups. I found this really good blog in it titled: Losing the Love of Your Life: What to do when you lose the one by Natasha Adamo Here are the first four paragraphs of it, it explained it very well.

Losing the love of your life makes you realize that love can truly be a double-edged sword. It can make us feel so uniquely connected to the world and fill our hearts so they are overflowing. It can also slash our hearts to shreds, leaving painful emotion seeping out for a long time to come.

And one of the most painful places to be in is the one where you feel regret, guilt, and pain for losing someone you see as too much of a loss to recover from. The one who was there for you, loved you, and did the “thick and thin” thing because they believed in you. But now they are gone.

Losing the love of your life and actually realizing it can take some time to surface. There is pain on both sides when a breakup occurs. A time of healing. A time when moving on begins and life slowly becomes happier. The pain subsides, and you reflect on the lessons you learned and seek new love.

There are also times when this doesn’t happen. Where you find yourself thinking of someone every day.  Losing the love of your life is painful. You feel heavy with guilt, and regret lives in your gut. It is often at this point you question yourself, and think that this person you lost, has left a hole in your life that can never be filled.

I keep going between the two and feel I am leaning towards the former at the moment although there are days when the latter takes over. So how does society advise you to fill that hole when it sticks around, lets have a look, some are harsh:

1. Actually a phone call made to find out what groceries were needed.

2. We were in COVID .pandemic lock-down times so Zoom was a godsend: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oqMl5CRoFdk

3. Still pondering a lot of the time, getting better though.

4. Pretty close to the truth, it goes away eventually with taking other actions: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dm9Zf1WYQ_A&list=PL3-sRm8xAzY-v_i64uZfriFSPYHnQd8Vl&index=4

5. I don’t fully understand this quote.

6. This is the hole that can be never filled time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fk4BbF7B29w

7. Makes me think of Deborah Harry’s Broken Glass.

8. I regret that I did this:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sptQj1MPIwg

9. But time has come to realize you must move on.

10. On 22 December 2016, Coelho was listed by UK-based company Richtopia at number 2 in the list of 200 most influential contemporary authors: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hzM71scYw0M

11. That’s OK until the heart meets someone again.

12. Strength or wisdom, which gets you through the day better: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=woOJRsXMQ5g

13. Do not let the shadows of your past darken the doorstep of your future, forgive and forget.

14. When things break badly, it is hard to repair them: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5e8C1nhe_s

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15. And for the final lesson, an ultimate check list.

Are breaking up and letting go the same thing, both have nothing to do with weakness, the latter more to do with strength. Here are 12 things worth knowing as you wander this path.

  1. The past can steal your present if you let it.
  2. Not everyone, and not everything is meant to stay.
  3. Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them.
  4. Sometimes you just need to do your best and surrender the rest.
  5. You are control of only one person: yourself.
  6. What’s right for you may be wrong for others, and vice versa.
  7. Some people will refuse to accept you for who you are.
  8. Relationships can only exist on a steady foundation of truth.
  9. The world changes when you change.
  10. You can make decisions, or you can make excuses.
  11. It usually takes just a few negative remark’s to kill a person’s dreams.
  12. Sometimes walking away is the only way to win.

Today’s playlist contains three classic sixties bands, two pop diva’s and two relatively unknowns: We begin with Early Stones, then Billy Ellish and Adele. Back to the Sixties for the Doors and The Walker Brothers. Then my two unknowns, the first has less than 1,000 YouTube hits, a rarity: Raven and we finish with the Struts: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrv2CMFf0MRxXaKqX5rg-2xG

You/I are responsible for our own happiness, no one else. You/I are responsible for our behavior, no one else. If you are not seeing the things in life that you want, look at yourself. What are you afraid of? Self-sabotage is when you pike at the last moment, afraid of what lies ahead (even if it’s good for you).

So you can be afraid of the gap, torn apart by the gap or learn to be courageous and jump the gap and move forward. The latter will bring you closer to Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Love Hurts!!!


Did you know love is not enough? I found that out in a sudden, dramatic way yesterday. I was travelling in our lockdown city of Melbourne to visit my supposed partner outside the 5-kilometre allowable zone when I rang her because she had written to me that she felt a bit down about her zoom visit to her psychologist. I rang her to find out what could I do for her, two hours later I was heading home and it was all over.

It was because I had agreed with her and allowed her space the night before and it seems I should not have listened to her and gone against her will and taken care of her. We had discussed this for an hour after I was halfway there and she told me she felt the most empowered she had ever felt. It seems that I am not enough to meet her needs. A day later I realise that I cannot be different from where I am at the moment. I can grow but cannot miraculously be different from where I am at the moment, so yes, Love hurts.

What does society say about the pain of unrequited love, lets have a look:

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1. I hope it finds this place soon.

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2. I forgot: Stronger.

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3. I found out the embrace of love is not enough.

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4. How will I get her out of my heart, it seems impossible at the moment, only time will tell: Love Hurts.

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5. Being in the same city doesn’t seem far enough, I cannot stop thinking of her.

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6. I’m crying typing this: When I Look at You.

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7. I wish you the best life.

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8. No words needed: Disappear.

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9. It’s storming in my heart.

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10. I mistakenly thought this was not us: Almost in Love.

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11. It seems this was not us.

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12. And not just of a sexual nature: Dreaming of You.

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13. I fear this.

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14. Thank you karma, you hurt: Instant Karma.

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15. and our final lesson comes from the Twitter personality Bauvard – A work of art should stand on its own, divorced from the personality of the creator. That is the only way the creator can be a work of art in himself.  

So what am I learning? Embrace that individual inside you who has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else. Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms. And above all, be true to you – if you cannot put your heart into it, take yourself out of it. Starting today…

1. Get your priorities right.

2. Take full responsibilities for your goals.

3. Know your worth.

4. Choose the right perspective.

5. Don’t let your old problems punish your dreams

6. Choose the things that truly matter.

7. Love You.

8. Accept your strengths and Weaknesses.

9. Stand up for You.

10. Learn from others, and move on when you must.

11. Be honest in your relationships.

12. get comfortable with being UNcomfortable.

13. Be who you were born to be.

14. Never give up on You.

The playlist today is a bit maudlin, we begin with Kayne West, go back to the 1970s to hear that song by Nazareth. The four pop divas: Miley Cyrus, Beyonce, Olivia O’Brien and Selena. We finish off with John Lennon: Love Hurts!!!

This will not stop me from spreading the ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. I have extended it to a million people in my new tribe: Thriving People.

Join if you wish. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

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Writing your Life Story!!!


A friend just liked a meme I posted on Facebook. Its says the following: 4 Things you can’t get Back- The stone after it’s thrown; the word after it’s said; the occasion after its missed; the time after it’s gone. As I reach Age pension eligibility in four weeks they have made me ponder my life.

I like what my friend Marc Chernoff has to say about writing a life story worth living. I love this paragraph: When writing the story of your life, don’t let someone else hold the pen. Make conscious choices every day that align your actions with your values and your dreams; the way you live each day is a sentence in the story of your life. Each day, you choose whether the sentence ends with a period, a question mark, or an exclamation mark.

Here are Marc’s ten suggestions for doing this:

1. Find a passion that makes you come alive.

2. Work hard on that passion.

3. Live happily in your own way.

4. Change your path when you must, but keep moving forward.

5. When the going gets tough, keep fighting.

6. Let go of the past and live consciously in the present.

7. Embrace new ideas, lessons, and challenges.

8. Appreciate the little things in life that mean a lot.

9. Live honourably through kindness.

10. Spend quality time with people you love.

So what has society said about storytelling over time, we have always done it:

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1. Yes, that diatribe in your head, that’s the story of your life.

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2. Yes, it is official, I have a crush on Maya Angelou: Maya on Words.

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3. How do you tell the world about your ideas?

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4. How’s the living going?: Staying Alive.

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5. A great reason for my ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included.

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6. Our stories have had the world evolve: World Turning.

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7. What do you do in creating your communities storyline?

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8. Remember as children how much we loved this, it is still available: Magic Carpet Ride.

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9. Love this quote,  well done Christina.

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10. Wise words from one of the most amazing storytellers to have lived, think the Mac, the iPod, the iPhone: Steve’s Stanford Speech.

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11. Ground Control, to Major Tom.

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12. Where have you travelled in your reading?: 500 Miles.

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13. When I think of the big items I have brought in my life, this is oh so true in every case.

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14. And the bridge takes you over: Bridge over troubled Waters.

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15. And for our final lesson, we call on Ira Glass, host of This American Life and All Things Considered.

Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs, and what every great story has, are characters that come alive in the pursuit of something that inspires them.

The playlist contains words today. Firstly we have Maya Angelou, then The Bee Gees. Fleetwood Mac are next, followed by a 60’s classic by Steppenwolf. Lots of Words from Steve Jobs, his Stanford commencement speech. Then an anthem from the Proclaimers and we finish with the dulcet tones of John Legend: Writing you Life Story.

My life story, Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

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