Does it Violate the Golden Rule?


The Golden Rule is to do unto others as you would want done unto you. Rules that elevate some while devaluing others are suspect as bullshit rules – such as rules that grant or restrict opportunities based on skin colour, sexual orientation, religion, nationality, whether a person has a penis or a vagina, or any other arbitary or subjective criteria

A passage taken from Vishen Lakhiani’s excellent book The Code of the Extraordinary Mind that I am re reading at the moment. Vishen sets the premise there are two sets of truths, the physical world of absolute truths and the cultural world of truths based on Belief, he calls the second brules, aka bullshit rules that we adopt to simplify our understanding of the world.

He lists four major ones, 1. The college brule – we must go to college to succeed in life, 2. We must be  loyal to our culture Brule – Our nationality is better than the others, 3. The religion brule – My God is better than your God, and 4 The Hard Work Brule – If you are not working hard all the time, you are lazy.

So lets see what sort of life we could set up with the Golden Rule:

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1. Why talk and say the unsaid words in haste when silence can speak the unspoken words?

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2. Ready, Steady, Go: Ready, Steady, Go!!

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3. George Bernard Shaw , known at his insistence simply as Bernard Shaw, was an Irish playwright, critic and polemicist whose influence on Western theatre, culture and politics extended from the 1880s to his death and beyond. He wrote more than sixty plays, including major works such as Man and Superman (1903), Pygmalion (1913) and Saint Joan (1923). With a range incorporating both contemporary satire and historical allegory, Shaw became the leading dramatist of his generation. He was the first person to be awarded both a Nobel Prize and an Academy Award, receiving the 1925 Nobel Prize in Literature and sharing the 1938 Academy Award for Best Adapted Screenplay for the film version of Pygmalion.

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4. Self Love , one of the major golden rules. Have this and you will know how to deal with others: Born This Way.

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5. Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.

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6. The only time you should put others totally before yourself, if you wish them to spend their money: Keep the Customer Satisfied.

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7. Instant Karma – It’s going to get You – John Lennon.

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8. Actions not Words, my friends: Shake your Sillies out.

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9. Are you willing to grant your golden rules to others?

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10. If all these religions followed these rules the world would be a different  place, we could Lose ourselves to dance!!

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11. I find this quotes extremely powerful, especially the what you see in others – exists in you.

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12. Do you catch yourself saying those things to your children you promised yourself you would never ever say. Stop It: See You Again.

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13. Three Super Golden Rules.

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14. From Texas, The state where everything is bigger that everywhere else. The request is don’t get dirty: Dirt off your Shoulders.

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15. Can your Golden Rules be heard over the screaming your actions create?

I recommend you buy and read his book Link to freight free site. It just may allow you to see where you have followed your brules in  life and give you another chance.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Seize the opportunity by the Beard!!


It’s seems quite a silly statement, seize the opportunity by the beard but how do we deal with opportunities in our life? Do we say the following prayer: ‘Thank you, Universe, for helping me see this obstacle as an opportunity. I will step back and let you lead the way”  or do we jump in with both feet yelling go for it. Both methods have their merits but let’s have a look at what the universe has to say about it:

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1. They say dreams are useless without actions, Milton Berle points to the same thing here. As the host of NBC’s Texaco Star Theater (1948–55), he was the first major American television star and was known to millions of viewers as “Uncle Miltie” and “Mr. Television” during TV’s golden age.

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2. We have the opportunity to change our life moment to moment. Often fear stops us doing it. have a guess what people talk about on their death beds, Regret at what they did not do: When You’re Gone.

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3. They don’t remember you for your possessions, they remember you for the feelings and the experiences. Don’t miss out on them.

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4. If you make a lot of excuses in your life, time to check your integrity register and how much you take the opportunities that present in your life: No Excuses.

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5. This quote is probably over 100 years old. Dr. Orison Swett Marden (1848–1924) was an American inspirational author who wrote about achieving success in life and founded SUCCESS magazine in 1897. His writings discuss common-sense principles and virtues that make for a well-rounded, successful life. Many of his ideas are based on New Thought philosophy.

His first book, Pushing to the Front (1894), became an instant best-seller. Marden later published fifty or more books and booklets, averaging two titles per year.

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6. Onlookers do not take their opportunities: Safety Dance.

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7. Very similar to there are no mistakes, it’s all on the comprehension.

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8. 10,000 light bulbs, enough said: Opportunity.

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9. Michael S. Hyatt is an author, blogger, speaker, Hyatt now writes and speaks full-time. He has written seven books, including New York Times Bestseller Platform: Get Noticed in a Noisy World.

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10. I love the scraggly haired man known as Albert, he points out where to look for the opportunity, in the middle of the difficulties in your life: Dumb Things.

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11. How do you start your own airline, music company, chain of fitness centres? Do this!!

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12. Read the red letters: Right Now.

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13. When you mind is saying No, go to your heart for the answer.

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14. I thought this was a silly analogy. Lewis McDonald Grizzard, Jr. was an American writer and humorist, known for his Southern demeanor and commentary on the American South: Kerry’s victory song.

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15. Cameron Diaz was named the highest-paid actress over 40 in Hollywood. As of 2015, the U.S. domestic box office grosses of Diaz’s films total over US$3 billion, with worldwide grosses surpassing $7 billion, making her the second highest-grossing U.S. domestic box office actress (after Scarlett Johansson).

So how do we see life, as something to survive or a grand opportunity, we have the choice on a day to day basis.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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She believed she could, so she Did!!


I met the new police inspector for our region at an interfaith celebration last month, she is a 28 year veteran of the force and specializes in Social Justice, Kelly has renamed her team Dynamic Darebin. I like it a lot, when do we declare something as dynamic in our lives? Are our relationships dynamic, our finances dynamic, our careers dynamic.

Let us have a look at what people have said over the years that they find dynamic:

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1. Mahesh Sharma is an Indian politician belonging to the Bharatiya Janata Party. He was elected in the Indian general election, 2014 from Gautam Buddha Nagar. He is a physician by profession. 

If you wish to fulfill your ideas do not wait around.

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2. From the prolific philosopher, Anon. comes worldly advice people will not be lead by you if you are not seen as dealing with them on a day to day basis: If You’re Out There.

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3. Uneeka Jay is an award-winning speaker, personal consultant and the founder of Rewrite 365 LLC. Uneeka has over 20 years of progressive leadership experience in companies with revenues up to a half billion dollars. Using that experience, Uneeka effortlessly walks women through the process of rewriting their lives by refusing to settle. Rewrite is more than a brand for Uneeka; it is her life story.  Finding herself pregnant at age 16 and on welfare, she refused to allow statistics define her future.  She identified her Hatements (things preventing her from living her best life) and removed them one by one to achieve her goals. Uneeka lives her mantra; settling is not an option.

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4. Your time is now, you are neither too young or too  old: The Climb.

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5. My friend and mentor Arion said he liked it when I laughed, that it was new for me. I gave up a long time ago when my life was endangered. I feel dynamic when I do it.

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6. I think the person who takes a job in order to live – that is to say, for the money – has turned himself into a slave _ Joseph Campbell. Finally it’s never about the money: If we ever meet Again.

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7. However you do  it, via keyboard or artistically by pen and pencil, remember they cannot get it out of your brain once you have passed.

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8. When do you feel most dynamic? Doing your 9 ot 5 or doing what turns you on: Surprise, Honeycomb.

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9. Start Young!!

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10. Lolly Daskal is founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program is engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference in their companies, their lives, and the world. Based on a mix of modern philosophy, science,and nearly thirty years coaching top executives, Lolly’s perspective on leadership continues to break new ground and produce  exceptional results. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World: Brave.

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11. Being dynamic also means standing up for your truth, nor pretending to like others.

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12. Remember those times you thought, Why Me? And it turned you in a new wonderful direction  in your life, keep on keepin on: Everything happens for a reason!!

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13. And aren’t we glad he followed his own advice.

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14. This is such a beautiful ethos, may all creatives follow it: Heart of Gold.

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15. Matthew Kelly (born July 12, 1973 in Sydney, Australia) is a motivational speaker, author, business consultant, and founder of Dynamic Catholic. He is a founding partner at Floyd Consulting, a management consulting firm whose clients include more than 35 Fortune 500 companies. His lecture topics include identifying negative routines and actions in daily life, and the value and positive inspiration of Catholicism on everyday life.

So for me I feel dynamic when I am blogging and teaching English to improve relationships between the cultures in Darebin, we have 164 different ones.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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You all laugh because I’m Different!!


To care about people who are fearful, angry, jealous, overpowered by addictions of all kinds, arrogant, proud, miserly,, selfish, mean, you name it – to have compassion and to care for these people means not to run from the pain of finding these things in ourselves. Instead of fending it off, we could open our hearts and allow ourselves to feel that pain, feel it as something that will soften and purify us and make us more loving and kind. These beautiful words by Buddhist nun, Pema Chodron to me are certainly against the grain of society which is thrown to medicate all these situations as quickly as possible. In my country Australia they spend $155 billion a year on health care, most of it is not preventive but after the fact.

How are things that are against the grain looked at by humanity, let’s take that journey:

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1. How many people have seen that silly video of the single soul who starts dancing in the crowd? then another joins , and another until all of the crowd join in, Being against the grain means other grains/people get the opportunity to experience something they would never have started themselves.

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2. Hendrix re invented guitar playing, Bob Marley re invented the Love Generation’s music and Miles took jazz to another level, they were all doing something right: See Dem Fake Leaders.

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3. If the great inventors of our time had only attempted what they were taught where would our society be now. Get out there and make some mistakes.

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4. When you are rubbing against the grain of sand, there will always be an effect. Try to remember this on a day to day basis: Against the Grain.

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5. History is riddled with wars started by this act, what is more people had spoken out against the grain at the time.

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6. Punk bands typically produced short or fast-paced songs, with hard-edged melodies and singing styles, stripped-down instrumentation, and often political, antiestablishment lyrics. Punk embraces a DIY ethic; many bands self-produce recordings and distribute them through informal channels: Rock and Roll High School.

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7. Perhaps the best example of this is Japanese electrical goods and cars. After WW2 they copied America’s goods poorly, where are the companies they copied now. The roles are reversed, and dare we mention made in China.

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8. They say when a child commences school that 60% of jobs they will do don’t exist. I would think that we need many people who don’t just hang about the institutionally recognised for the world to keep growing as this fact points out: Neverland.

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9. One of my all time favourite cartoons is ban the business burqa. It depicts a city street full of men wearing the same coloured suit. How do we know their leadership abilities when none of them are willing to step out against this unspoken rule you have to wear a suit to be a leader.

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10. I went to a coaching session by a friend of mine, Jeffrey Slayter last night. At the end he asked us what was my takeaway. I replied the soul knows much better than the mind what to say, train yourself in listening for your soul: Your Soul.

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11. Danilo Tagle is a nuerogenetics professor. I think this makes him a very smart dude. He may be talking about what he does for a living, or perhaps about you?

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12. Not one of your A list actors. but a man with ethics. Also a writer and producer, he has starred in some of my favourite quirky movies. Who can forget his dark comedic role as a professional assassin in Grosse Point Blank: Complicated.

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13. Often you have to go against the grain when you are looking for your genius, it just doesn’t walk up to you and introduce itself.

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14. Two Alberts in a row, he is a much quoted man who often found himself in places no one had seen before: On Your Own.

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15. I went to my friend Emeli Paulo’s workshop on Tuesday night on connection. I feel like this has happened for me.

So if its true there are more grains of sand on one beach that there are human beings on the planet what are you going to do with your grain?

Namaste until next time, my dear friends

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Not All who Wander are Lost!!


The Universe speaks in mysterious ways. We have many patterns during our life. Having the same ones we had at four when we are forty can be dangerous or freeing, dependant what area in life we are using them. Sticking to set patterns can hold us back in fulfilling our plans and dreams, Einstein said – “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

Do you know what your patterns are and do you strive to change them to better yourself on a daily basis, Let’s have a look at the power of patterns:

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2. I used to have the pattern of going to bet at 2 a.m. and rising at 10 a.m. When I took up the habit of going to the gym at 7 a.m. I had to go to bed many hours earlier.

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2. Migrating to the United States in 1938 to avoid discrimination as she was part Jewish, Lotte Lehmann holds the distinction of being the only person with a misspelled star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, it was spelled, Lottie. She was a fabulous opera singer as well: Auf Flugeln Des Gesanges.

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3. Let it Go, Let it Out, Let it all Unravel. Let it Free and it can Be a path on which to Travel. Leunig’s great ode to pattern breaking.

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4. Constantly disrupting is what achieves the breakthrough, doing it for a day doesn’t hold water: Breakthrough.

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5. As we are going through another revolution with the introduction of robotics mature people will have to take this on as many jobs disappear.

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6. Do you have a fall/autumn season for your patterns, or do you hold on to the dead leaves, sorry about the golden arches: Send my Love.

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7. I asked Tuli Kupferberg once, “Did you really jump off of The Manhattan Bridge?” “Yeah,” he said, “I really did.” “How come?” I said. “I thought that I had lost the ability to love,” Tuli said. “So, I figured I might as well be dead. So, I went one night to the top of The Manhattan Bridge, & after a few minutes, I jumped off.” “That’s amazing,” I said. “Yeah,” Tuli said, “but nothing happened. I landed in the water, & I wasn’t dead. So I swam ashore, & went home, & took a bath, & went to bed. Nobody even noticed.”

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8. If I use the term the vicious circle for this quote will it give away what modality I studied in the 1990’s : Same Old Love.

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9. Then some patterns are worth keeping, these are some of them.

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10. Louis Hay wrote her first book at 58, she lived and still lives the above statement at the ripe old age of 90: Unwritten.

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11. What is the most Fabulous thing you have ever done, for a lot of people it is having children. As I have not done this, running the Moscow Peace marathon the year before the Berlin Wall came down is mine.

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12. This quote certainly gets into what holding on to what we know works to survive costs us, Time to attack: Teardrop.

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13. Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of Non Violent Communication has helped thousands reduce their resistance to using negative means of relating to the people in their lives.

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14. Bruce Lee studied life as much as he did martial arts. There are hundreds of quotes you can find all over the internet attributed to him. This one is a particularly powerful one: Living In The Moment.

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15.  García Márquez started as a journalist, and wrote many acclaimed non-fiction works and short stories, but is best known for his novels, such as One Hundred Years of Solitude (1967), The Autumn of the Patriarch (1975), and Love in the Time of Cholera (1985). His works have achieved significant critical acclaim and widespread commercial success, most notably for popularizing a literary style labeled as magic realism, which uses magical elements and events in otherwise ordinary and realistic situations. Some of his works are set in a fictional village called Macondo (the town mainly inspired by his birthplace Aracataca), and most of them explore the theme of solitude.

On his death in April 2014, Juan Manuel Santos, the President of Colombia, described him as “the greatest Colombian who ever lived.”

How are your patterns going? Allow them to wander and discover new routes to fulfill your dreams!!

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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You cannot Lose Something you Are!!


Apologies for being a day late, I was putting my computer in a drawer at the reception at work as I was going to lunch and the office was locked when I found my copy of The Universe has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein. I opened it to a page that had an affirmation on it:

I recognize I have chosen wrongly, I forgive this thought, and I choose again. I choose Love”

It is from a chapter called Oneness sets you Free, surrendering to the Holy Instant. What would life be like if we lived it in oneness, not duality? Many great philosophers have made comment on this subject, let’s have a look at what they say.

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  1. As you can’t read it clearly this is what Albert said A human being is a part of the whole, called by us “Universe”, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest — a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness.

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2. Love Ram Dass, (born Richard Alpert; April 6, 1931)He is an American spiritual teacher and the author of the seminal 1971 book Be Here Now. He is known for his personal and professional associations with Timothy Leary at Harvard University in the early 1960s, for his travels to India and his relationship with the Hindu guru Neem Karoli Baba, and for founding the charitable organizations Seva Foundation and Hanuman Foundation. He continues to teach via his website: Be Here Now.

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3. Such a beautiful way of looking at Life. Michael Beckwith, founder of the Agape International Spiritual Center in Culver City, if you have ever heard him speak you know that he lives his life this way.

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4. When I was a runner I used to run the Shri Chinmoy half marathons in Melbourne. The organizers were some of the most open-hearted people I have come across: Open my Heart.

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5. Remember those nights you were in the outback staring at the milky way realizing that you were an insignificant drop in a massive universe that you could not exist without, this talks to that.

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6. Oneness is very simple: everything is included and allowed to live according to its true nature. This is the secret that is being revealed, the opportunity that is offered. How we make use of this opportunity depends upon the degree of our participation, how much we are prepared to give ourselves to the work that needs to be done, to the freedom that needs to be lived: Individuality.

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7. Now, this is a difficult state to reach given what the media serve up to us on a daily basis.

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8. In all this oneness, we have special moments. We call them Love, for George: Careless Whispers.

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9. I write a daily Love Meme every day, often using a heart symbol. It represents to me what makes us all one.

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10. Why did you turn left instead of right and run into your beloved? Because in our lives there are no random occurrences even though we often complain they happened: Safe.

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11. We are all Starseed, the mountains, the seas, Us.

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12. I once saw this man pour sand out of his hands. He could shift your concept of what was so. If you were willing to believe it was a different thing: Divinity.

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13. Each of us has the divine masculine and the divine feminine within us. They need each other but must operate as one to be effective.

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14. Quantum Physics has argued for this since its concept, unfortunately, our eyes cannot see the closing scene from the Matrix: Lose Yourself to Dance.

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15. And in Oneness Everything is a Gift, even that.

Another practice from Gabrielle’s book is Let go of the shadow of the past by seeing someone for the first time with the eyes of love. So let’s recognize the other person is you.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Lucky Enough to be Different!!


I read a beautiful piece of prose in Jeff Fosters The Way of the Rest last night. here it is:

You are the one I wake up with every morning. The one I breathe with, The one whose every heartbeat I feel as my own. You are the one I walk with, the one I speak and sing with, the one who stays with me through every waking moment of every sacred day. You are the one I get sick with, the one I cry with, the one whose anger and joy and doubt surge through me like fire. You are the one I will die with, the one whose arms I return to. You are the one I see in every face, shining through every pair of eyes, shimmering through the silences, the trails of dust and the spaces in the canopy.ou are my constant companion, my home, my reason, my joy, my life. we cannot be divided, we cannot be two, and even One is too many for us.

I sing this song to myself, disappearing into the song and I am never alone.

It is called Love Song to Myself, how many of us write love songs to ourselves? I know I haven’t in a long time.

What is this thing called self-love? Let’s go on a journey down its rocky path:

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1. Love is a four letter word, so is self. Two four letter worded combined make for an awesome life.

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2. Do you do these things daily, if not what is enough for you to Love Yourself: Beautiful.

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3. You Look like you are in Love. A statement that you are not yourself, a shame really.

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4. I did a role play once with my friend Marija. For 15 minutes we had to say a statement to each other. Mine to her was you are fucking magnificent and hers to me was you are a handsome man. Since then we will always be FM and HM to each other: Who I Am.

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5. With the publication of I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings, Angelou publicly discussed aspects of her personal life. She was respected as a spokesperson for black people and women, and her works have been considered a defense of black culture. Attempts have been made to ban her books from some U.S. libraries, but her works are widely used in schools and universities worldwide. Angelou’s most celebrated works have been labeled as autobiographical fiction, but many critics consider them to be autobiographies. She made a deliberate attempt to challenge the common structure of the autobiography by critiquing, changing, and expanding the genre. Her books center on themes such as racism, identity, family, and travel.

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6. Breathing is necessary to stay alive. I agree with Mandy Hale that these should also be part of the menu: F**king Perfect.

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7. Shine on, you crazy diamond, you are unique and that is why we love you.

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8. There are 7,000,000,000 beautifully unique individuals on the planet. Some have forgotten. Your job is to remember!!: Don’t you know you’re Beautiful.

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9. Listen to your heart space, because one day it will stop, that will be the end.

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10. Coleman Hawkins, a renowned jazz saxophone player is credited with saying If you don’t make mistakes, you aren’t really trying. His playing exemplified that: Cool Jazz.

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11. Be careful what you say and think. Remember you are always listening and most of it will come true, even when you don’t want it too.

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12. Make sure that you are not that person: Firework.

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13. Sing that song to yourself as Jeff reiterates in his prose. It will give you access to others loving you.

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14. I am also reading Brene’s Daring Greatly. Self-talk is incredibly powerful. Make the best use of it, you can: Brave.

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15. And for the last insight, let’s give us the greatest gift we can, the beautiful gift of self-love.

You are lucky enough to be different from your brothers, sisters and best friends. That is because you are uniquely the beautiful being we know as ………….., insert your name here.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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