Give someone a Smile!!


I’ve gone back to getting my subjects for my blogs off my kitchen wall. The title for this one comes from my We build Tribes chart. The purpose is to build a purpose-driven community, I actually have two: They are Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism and Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humankind: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. Both have the ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included at their core.

Each community has the following behind it:

  1. 10,000 people woke up this morning shedding private tears because they need a solution to their problem. You have that solution, go find them.
  2. No other individual was placed upon this earth to do what you were uniquely born to do. Be you and the world will transform.
  3. We live in an abundant world, allow that abundance to flow through you and you will never be without it.
  4. Build a tribe that changes the very fabric of society, That is what you were born to do.
  5. Whatever your goal, dream or desire is, It’s yours for the taking. Never accept you can’t.
  6. Be consumed with a vision for tomorrow, go there in your own life and people will follow.
  7. In a world of increasing isolation, be the campfire that attracts friends, laughter and authentic moments of transformation.
  8. No-one ever got lucky, true success flows from consistency and persistency. Never, ever give up.
  9. It’s going to be hard, It’s going to be tough. Remember, when you quit, No one wins.
  10. Be their leader, be their servant, be their guide. But whatever you do. Make sure you “be”.
  11. Don’t ever love others to the detriment of loving yourself. There is no one more important than you.
  12. Rest, love, allow yourself to be loved. For as much as you feel the world rests on your shoulders, it doesn’t.
  13. Support one another, cherish one another, inspire one another. We can make an even greater impact when we do so together.
  14. Give someone a smile, give them money, give them a moment – when you have the capacity to do so… give.
  15. With money comes influence, impact and opportunity – freedom comes when we cease fearing the pursuit of money & we embrace it.

So what has society said about communities – lets walk down that path:

1. Read that word, everyone, all 7 billion of us.

2. And her partner was Martin Luther King Junior, hear him speak: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixfwGLxRJU8

3. Do you know what your community cares about?

4. Author of the Courage to Create, this quote speaks profoundly of the power of communication: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nN6VR92V70M

5. We all know a community needs more than one colour.

6. Another religious guru facing abuse allegations. Bill Hybels has a lot to reconcile: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-6zYv9hCow

7. From little things , big things grow.

8. My purpose to make my communities safe places: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHvTWvKIPHo

9. How many friendships I have made simply asking would you like to go for a coffee?


10. Give someone a smile, give them money, give them a moment – when you have the capacity to do so… give: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8QV6ffjIYU


11. Ubuntu is a Nguni Bantu term meaning “humanity”. It is sometimes translated as “I am because … Language.

12. Very profound, Marianne: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SxGLPVvNjvY

13. Boom!!!

14. And my favourite dance crew are the Desert Dwellers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAuAcC6-5ds

15. This one touches my soul.

I have had faith in intentional communities to transform out planet, it will take something but to me has always been possible.

Today’s playlist is truly eclectic. We begin with Martin Luther King’s most famous speech. Then one of my favourite pop divas, Taylor Swift. An Aussie legend follows, Lee Morgan. Then another of my favourite spoken word giants, Maya Angelou. Back to the 60s or 70s with Bread. Ava Max is the penultimate track, then we finish my favourite dance crew, The Desert Dwellers: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrsTT_-LiPDrKqshrgpwBoPh

So I will complete with my ethos one more time: Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Until we meet afain my dear friends.

How do you break the Ice?


After a failed relationship which was my first in ten years I have become hesitant to dip my toes in the water again. But even with this hesitancy the opportunity has risen again and a wondrous women has appeared in my sights. I have wanted to kiss her almost from the moment I saw her across the room and attending a community dinner with her after the event we were at reinforced why I would want to do this.

I see the people from this event once or twice a month so if I want more to happen the hesitancy will have to go away. She kissed me goodbye last time we met and I have been flustered by this ever since. All the stories that raise their ugly heads have arisen since then.My friend Angel suggested a few things to do to move on from this:

  1. Free myself from negative people.
  2. Let go of those who are already gone.
  3. Give people you don’t know a fair chance.
  4. Show everyone kindness and respect.
  5. Accept people just the way they are.
  6. Encourage others and cheer for them.
  7. Be your perfectly imperfect self.
  8. Forgive people and move forward.
  9. Do little things for others every day.
  10. Pay attention to who your real friends are.
  11. Always be loyal.
  12. Stay in better touch with people who matter to you.
  13. Keep your promises and tell the truth.
  14. Give what you want to receive.
  15. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
  16. Allow others to make their own decisions.
  17. Talk less and listen more.
  18. Leave petty arguments behind.
  19. Ignore unconstructive, hurtful commentary.
  20. Pay attention to your relationship with yourself.

So what has the human race said about this dilemma over the centuries, let’s have a look:

1. Morgan Harper Nichols is an American Christian musician, songwriter, mixed-media artist, and writer, whose work is centred around the question “how can we create connection?”.

2. That this woman would walk up to me and kiss me was totally unexpected, I did not think she knew I existed: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tq72aBL7GLY

3. They say the feeling between fear and excitement is only in what you choose to call it.

4. The period of Catherine the Great’s rule, the Catherinian Era, is considered a Golden Age of Russia. The Manifesto on Freedom of the Nobility, issued during the short reign of Peter III and confirmed by Catherine, freed Russian nobles from compulsory military or state service. Construction of many mansions of the nobility, in the classical style endorsed by the empress, changed the face of the country. She enthusiastically supported the ideals of the Enlightenment and is often included in the ranks of the enlightened despots. As a patron of the arts, she presided over the age of the Russian Enlightenment, including the establishment of the Smolny Institute for Noble Maidens, the first state-financed higher education institution for women in Europe.

5. Preferring Waldo to Ralph , Emerson was considered the 19th Centuries preeminent philosopher.

6. While Moore dealt with alcoholism and health issues throughout her life which make this statement by her ring true, it’s her work with television that will forever be remembered. And she amassed quite a hefty fortune thanks to her work. According to Celebrity Net Worth, Moore died with a net worth of $60 million: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSbnvgF-vOk

7. From a beautiful Coastal town in Australia, Lupytha is an aspiring young philosopher of this century.

8. If its not scary, it does not require bravery: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_FPN-bttVQ

9. Now from what Neil has stated he knows how to be really scared.

10. More wisdom from Waldo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zz-DJr1Qs54

11. Boom!!!

12. It seems to be in this case, or is it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=be0rGkKxSGU

13. Not all those thoughts, especially the what if ones.

14. And we had to let Brene have a say on this subject: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LYFRcK4hDes

15. And for our final lesson today, Mary Tyler Moore offers us a beauty.

Family and lovers are not always blood. They’re the people in your life who appreciate having you in theirs – the ones who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways, and who not only embrace who you are know but also who you want to be. These people – your real people – are the ones who truly matter.

Today’s playlist has a bit of cabaret in it: We begin with songstress Bernadette Peters, then an Olympic song by Boney M. One of America’s sweethearts Mary Tyler Moore is next before we access our three rock entries, David Bowie, The Cranberries and P.I.L. We complete with some sage advice from Brene Brown, Enjoy this diverse playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrscdcrz4k2Uhkp9ArVfJ4Na

Wouldn’t it be beautiful if we were able to express how we felt to each and every person, to show Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. This is the ethos of my two Facebook Groups, Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 and Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism. By clicking on the links you can join our merry bands of adventurers.

Until we meet again, my dear friends.

What Interculturalism could provide?


I have started watching Al Jazeera News broadcasts because I was sick of the mindless photo opportunities our Prime Minister down here in Australia, nicknamed as Scotty from marketing uses main stream media in our country for. Today I say an item where the Italian ambassador for the Republic of Congo had been ambushed and killed on a country road and it made me think would these people have done that if they knew why the ambassador was in their country, fundamentally to provide aid in the name of doing good deeds between the two countries.

Then I thought about as to why had I named my blog I am an Interculturalist all those years ago. The definition of Interculturalism goes as follows: Interculturalism refers to support for cross-cultural dialogue and challenging self-segregation tendencies within cultures. … It is based on the recognition of both differences and similarities between cultures. It has addressed the risk of the creation of absolute relativism within post modernity and in multiculturalism. Cross-cultural dialogue is what drew me to the Darebin Intercultural Centre after attending a Colombian film night at which there were about twenty cultures hanging out and being friends, all I can say is that I was hooked from that night.

So what does society say is the value of living an intercultural life, Let’s have a look:

1. Terminal Uniqueness sounds like it would get in the way a lot.

2. Ruth Benedict was a interculturalist of the early 19th Century, She studied the relationships between personality, art, language and culture, insisting that no trait existed in isolation or self-sufficiency, a theory which she championed in her 1934 book Patterns of Culture: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YkgkThdzX-8

3. Such a beautiful quote!!

4. Many races, One planet: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J8xnsvDdPu0&list=PLxRZFM2I_PNdIcCrvc6p-SPzKUvsSe4jX&index=4

5. And we take the best of each country.

6. And they can come from any walk of life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66Qkf2Jm6pc

7. Do you have to understand them all, not really.

8. How do you cook your chicken?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YewVugPHon4

9. Just 7 billion of us.

10. We have all seen that meme, seems they drew imaginary lines on the planet: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1PDdCmJ84LI

11. Do you?

12. Some of the things that Interculturalism can solve: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KaHbiUvXlhM

13. This is what Interculturalism battles with each and every day.

14. Its not all in the words: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R8AOAap6_k4

15. And we finish with some fine words from Maya Angelou.

Life is full of positive experiences. Notice them. Life your life to the fullest potential by reveling in the beauty of these experiences, and letting them inspire you to be the most positive version of you. Living a positive life is all about creating positive habits to help you focus on what truly matters. Interculturalism is this for me. Here are some simple ideas to help you life this life:

  1. Wake up every morning with the idea that something wonderful is possible today.
  2. Celebrate your existence.
  3. Appreciate life’s perfect moments.
  4. Embrace life’s challenges.
  5. Become addicted to constant and never-ending self-improvement.
  6. Live and breathe the truth.
  7. Fill your own bucket.
  8. Help the people around you smile.
  9. Spend time with positive people.

I have included two of Australia’s musical secrets in the playlist today: We commence with John Lennon, then follow with one of Australia’s best, Murray Kyle. Back to the last century for Dionne Warwick and Friends, Culture Club and Bob Marley. The penultimate track is a band I spent a lot of time watching in my youth in Melbourne – I’m Talking and we finish with Womack and Womack with that song: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtVIdAvmWWOGAUdwvsPovnM

So I have created a Facebook group called Interculturalism which has the ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included, Here is the link to join it and share your examples of it: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism Until we meet again my dear friends.

Whats that ringing in my Ear?


In my younger days I was involved in the rhythm and blues seen in Melbourne, Australia. First as a door bitch with my soul friend Katie then as a sound technician when our regular one failed to show up and the band says I had heard them enough to know what they sounded like. So I spent quite a few years listening to loud rock music.

Move forward to this COVID year and a ringing began in my right ear recently, off to my doctor of seven years, Kirsten and I shared my musical history with her. Kirsten sent me to the Audiology Clinic because it is unusual to have tinnitus, which she thought it sounded like in only one ear. The audiology test began and ceased quickly, as here is the gross bit. I was asked when I had cleaned out my ears as they could not see my eardrums. I replied do Mexican Indian wax candles count, if not probably over 50 years ago.

That is why I have been pouring ear solution in my ears for the past two to three weeks so that I can have it extracted without damaging my ears on Wednesday. This has made me ponder whether doing the thing you love without thinking of the health consequences are worth it. My love of Music says yes it was, and fingers crossed they will be able to fix them. I’m going to have a look at what society has said about loving rock and roll and why we would put our selves in such sensory danger:

1. Not quite there yet, why I created my ethos Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included.

2. The music come with the dance: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gj0Rz-uP4Mk

3. Back in the day songs were more like poetry.

4. From a fledgling industry to a multi billion one in less than a century, remarkable: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ujNeHIo7oTE

5. Can’t quite make out the name but I am sure there were more than one rock and roller wished this sort of fame.

6. From one of the “27” club comes a powerful rock and roll stand: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hTWKbfoikeg

7. So many of them took away or had taken away the growth factor.

8. The man who wrote in the dark side, I loved him: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGorjBVag0I

9. Known for the odd, strange comment, I saw Bowie at the Melbourne Cricket Ground.

10. And not everybody made it as a front person, Darlene being an example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rIhAWJUwepA

11. Pete Townsend of The Who speaks on the power of dance.

12. You didn’t have to think that the world was rosy all the time according to one of the family: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o1tj2zJ2Wvg&list=PL2wCCiky2eR3GGTe1St_olblEC50Zq9Hf

13. The Man in Black says all you need to say about JC.

14. Bruce has done this for over 30 years: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lrpXArn3hII

15. All those nights of bands advertised at 8.30 who started at 11pm. Must have been a method to get people to drink and fall in love with each other and the music.

Writing this has gotten me in touch what a wonderful time those years spent in grotty inner suburban pubs were, times I would not go with out in my life and all the other times I have partaken in since that are so important for my happiness. Regarding happiness, here are a few questions that look in that arena:

  1. Happiness is a _______________
  2. What would make you smile right now?
  3. What do you do when nothing else seems to make you happy?
  4. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
  5. What is you happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special?
  6. What do you appreciate most about your current situation?
  7. What’s one bad habit that makes you miserable?
  8. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
  9. Do you celebrate the things you do have?
  10. What makes you smile?

Today’s playlist comes from the classic era of Rock and Roll, firstly we have Elvis, then we go across the ocean to U2. Then back on the plane for the balance of tracks: Nirvana leads into the darkness of Leonard Cohen, The music softens with Darlene Love. The penultimate track is from the Gunners and we end with the Boss, Bruce Springsteen: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtdd6hbes1745OUxehykhhF

So I’m off to the audiologist Wednesday with fingers crossed that the trust my doctor has in them will come to fruition but have really enjoyed listening to the Rock and Roll music of my past writing this blog. As Jimi said: When the Power of Love overcomes the Love of Power we will not know peace I will keep spreading my ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included via my Facebook Croup Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humankind, here’s the link to join: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

What is your weirdness?


I have a friend in America who runs after midnight nearly every night,it was a habit he picked up from being a competitive athlete in his college days. He was doing it one night when an elderly lady , wearing a Grateful Dead T-shirt and smoking a joint and strumming a guitar confronted him as to why he had such a weird habit of running at such a late hour. She said she saw hundreds of runners during the day and the early evening but Brian, was the only runner she saw after midnight. She said she knew she was a little bit weird but Brian didn’t look the sort. So they exchanged their stories as to how they had picked up their strange if not weird habits.

It made me think as to what was my weirdest habit at 66. What I came up with is being known as the chaistro in the Conscious Dance scene in Melbourne , Australia. Several years ago I received a message from my friend Jules that she had a slight emergency and that she had no one to make her chai for Mojo – The dance of Connection. I had made two cups of chai in my life up to that stage but said I would give it a go. Back then I asked our friend Google and the recipe I found sufficed. Two other friends who ran dances asked me later if I would do it for them. One changed my recipe when she asked me graciously “You are not using caffeinated tea in the chai and serving it to my dancers at 10 p.m. are you. Amazingly I had met the co-owner of Rainbow Chai online the week before and Nicole makes one of the best caffeine free chai mixes in the country. This is now my standard base for Rodster’s famous Chai.

So what had construed weird behaviours over the centuries, lets have a look:

  1. Both words start with W – Amazing!!!

2. Anagrams speak the truth in this case: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIWALAgvz2U

3. If you have ever read Jabberwocky or The Hunting of the Snark you will know why Lewis Carroll was known as the masterpieces of literary nonsense aka weirdness.

4. One of the worlds most misunderstood muso’s. A creative genius: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZUq_T_Bhau8&list=PL8WvZFiJpAr0gGNicUfEnMcs0E5DRMwTX

5. Don’t bring out the Weird lines until they really, truly love you.

6. That’s what often attracts them in the first place: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vzZn31gd_Jc

Of course one must believe in Unicorns.

8. I love the honesty here of a vice POTUS: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1f8S5u01E0Y

9. It takes something to get to this stage.

10 This made me think of Wednesday Addams: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F3jnymeJof4

11. And Hunter was one of the true professionals at weirdness.

12. Dick Francis, went from being a jockey to an international author selling 60 millions books with seemingly no formal education: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M1F0lBnsnkE

13. Got to love that grin, Frightening.

14. Have you found your mutual weirdness yet?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=roPQ_M3yJTA

15.How many of us achieve what we say we are going to become as a child. We probably would have thought, why would you become that weird pastime.

So let’s finish with some questions that your weirdness may have been asking you:

  1. If you had a friend who spoke to you the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how LONG would you allow that person to be your friend?
  2. Why are you You?
  3. In one sentence, what do you WISH for your future self?
  4. What’s something you have that EVERYONE wants.
  5. What’s something NOBODY could ever steal from you?
  6. What has the little VOICE in your head been saying to you lately?
  7. What makes you FEEL incomplete?
  8. What else would you SEE about yourself if you removed the thought that’s been troubling you?
  9. What’s something NEW you recently learned about yourself?
  10. What PROMISE to yourself do you still need to fulfill?

More dancing in the playlist today and possibly a track that needs to go to the censorship board. A newbie to me, Yungblud begins the tracks followed by Frank Zappa. Two of the pop divas next, Kylie and Pink. The dance tracks are by Wednesday Addams and some Old time Movie stars. We finish with Nelly Furtado https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrv0WhiXr4fFwRaTpLypQcmh

Thinking about weirdness writing this, ropes and being tied up came to mind but that’s for another blog. We are all weird in one way or another but if we Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included – the ethos of my new 1,000,000 member Facebook group – Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humankind: Here’s the link to join – https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 you call learn more about the world’s weirdness. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Ending Things!!!


Well, we are nearly there, the end of 2020, some say the worst year we,as a species have gone through. For me, it meant a visit to the Melbourne Clinic, a beautiful relationship with Amy, a period of time alone, English tutoring weekly,then when COVID went away in our state of Victoria, Australia the opportunity to dance again, one of my favourite things to do.

So, as always, things ended. Some I wanted too , and others I didn’t. I was a prat and I learnt some good things. Looking up the meaning of prat I confess I did not know of the second:

  1. an incompetent or stupid person; an idiot.
  2. a person’s buttocks.

I was referring to the former in my use of the word, some may say I behaved in the manner of the second at times.

So what has society said about things ending over the centuries, let’s have a look:

1. Conrad Potter Aiken was an American writer and poet, honored with a Pulitzer Prize, a National Book Award, and was U.S. Poet Laureate from 1950 to 1952. I like his comment on aging.

2. Do you let go when your heart feels like letting go: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7frF7Ir2oA

3. Stand by your she/her or he/him..

4. A or B, which describes your life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FMGYycBAMU

5. This happens, send me an email and ask.

6. Or cease or speed up the inevitable due to behaviors: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ga62NUGZjk

7. Laura Beatrice Marling (born 1 February 1990) is a British folk singer-songwriter. She won the Brit Award for Best British Female Solo Artist at the 2011 Brit Awards and was nominated for the same award at the 2012, 2014, 2016, and 2018 Brit Awards. Great insight, Laura.

8. I love stories, reading them and writing them, do you?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h64s0U1IarQ

9. And you were unforgettable and unique!!!

10. Poignant image of the verse: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-u3TiRrh7jQ

11. Dark or Light, which is your favourite role?

12.Oops, failed this one badly: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uelHwf8o7_U&list=PLR8zgCuNIFtG0XSj73-VNzpCzAk1bp1n2&index=3

13. It’s was just a perfect day, I’m glad I spent it with you.

14. Proof that not only babies and dogs dribble: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-9PD7J2XfUY

15. The latter becomes for the former.

Nobody gets through life with out losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us towards future opportunities for growth and happiness. Over the past 6 and a half decades, I’ve had my share of painful losses. When my time of mourning was over in each circumstance, I pressed forward, stronger and with a greater under standing and respect for life. Here are a few lessons I learnt on the way:

  1. You are not what happened to you in the past.
  2. Focus on what you have, not on what you don’t.
  3. Struggling with problems is a natural way of growth.
  4. It’s OK to fall apart for a little while.
  5. Life is fragile, sudden, and shorter than it often seems.
  6. Emotionally separate from your problems.
  7. Don’t make a problem bigger than it is.
  8. View each challenge as an educational assignment.
  9. Things change, but the sun always rises the next day.
  10. Giving up and moving on are two different things.
  11. Perfect relationships don’t exist.
  12. You must love yourself too.
  13. Don’t let others make decisions for you.
  14. Resentment hurts you, not them.
  15. Consciously nurture your inner hope.
  16. It is better to be hurt by a truth than comforted by a lie.
  17. Not getting what you want can be a blessing.
  18. Laughter is the best medicine for stress.
  19. Worrying is literally a waste of energy.
  20. Even when it’s hard to move, take a small step forward.
  21. You are better off without some people you thought you needed.
  22. You are only competing against yourself.
  23. Life is not Easy.
  24. Your future is unwritten.
  25. You are not trapped, you just need to relearn a few things.
  26. Everything in life is two-sided.
  27. You always have a choice.
  28. Let other’s on when you are in a dark place.
  29. If you ask negative questions, you will get negative answers.
  30. The end is a new beginning.

Today’s play list visit the seventies quite a bit, no Spotify playlists unfortunately, but one long live version of the classic ending song. We begin with Sir Paul McCartney, then move on to the Doors and finish the 70s with Eric Clapton. Two great Australian talents for our overseas listeners in Marie Hoy and Murray Kyle. We complete with two of my faves Eminem and Rhianna as the penultimate number finishing with Maroon 5. enjoy: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtMgN6Th9fo7YNZ-6cq7kPA

Would there be less ending if we lived from my world ethic, Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. I think so, I have even created a Facebook group for 1,000,000 people to sign on board: It is called Thriving People – People who wish ot make a difference to Humanity. Here is the link if you would like to be one of them: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 . Until we meet again my dear friends.

To Fuck Off, Or Not!!!


What do you do when you have been told to fuck off and live in your fantasy world and the person hates you. You feel broken for a period of time because you remember when life was not that way. You search for what went wrong and hope it will return to the latter. Then you begin to realize that it cannot as much as you wish for it to. So you go about rebuilding your broken heart and hope that the. person who said it will leave your heart space in a reasonable amount of time.

I’m still working on that because I felt that this was the person who would live there for the rest of my life. So I admit it my heart is broken at the moment. What have people said about having their hearts broken over the years, lets have a look:

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  1. She was not the wrong person to me.

2. We spent glorious days together, and then it went awry: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZInWGC5L2T8&list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtoQ_FvfKkG7omrzyX-Yusa

3. Let’s hope so.
4. Lawrence of Arabia was a wise man:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p2Rch6WvPJE&list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtoQ_FvfKkG7omrzyX-Yusa&index=2

5. No I didn’t I spent two hours on a station where I could have been arrested for breaking the COVID lock-down laws.

6. Yes, that is how long I put her in my heart for: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YQHsXMglC9A&list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtoQ_FvfKkG7omrzyX-Yusa&index=3

7. And don’t forget the tears as well.

8. I am beginning to realize this as time kicks in: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBumgq5yVrA&list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtoQ_FvfKkG7omrzyX-Yusa&index=4

9. It was the best two months of my 66 year life.

10. No words can explain the feeling in my heart and soul: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fvj6PE3gN4o&list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtoQ_FvfKkG7omrzyX-Yusa&index=6

11. My glasses used to fog over when I was wearing my COVID mask, perhaps they were warning me.

12. and the answer is a fucking lot: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QXzC2eiHBG8&list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtoQ_FvfKkG7omrzyX-Yusa&index=6

13. There is always that missing part.

14. Thats what it feels like now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2e9_jfzFr0g&list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtoQ_FvfKkG7omrzyX-Yusa&index=7

15. Her denial that I ever Loved her hurts me a lot, I will not let her take it away from me.

As we mature in relationships, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones. Remember, life is kind of like a party. You invite a lot of people , some leave early, some laugh with you, and a few stay to help clean up the mess. The ones who are your real friends in life. They are the. one who. matter the most. This is what they do for each other:

  1. They face problems together.
  2. They give what they can because they truly care.
  3. They make time for each other.
  4. They offer each other freedom
  5. They communicate effectively.
  6. They accept each other as is.
  7. They are genuine, and expect genuineness.
  8. They compromise.
  9. They support each other’s growth changes.
  10. They believe in each other.
  11. They maintain realistic expectations of their relationship.
  12. They honour each other in small ways on a regular basis.
  13. They listen, and they hear every word.
  14. They keep their promises.
  15. They stick around.

So, as I read through this list, I know and wonder where I did not fulfill all the expectations of a mature relationship. I am still deeply in love with the woman this is written about and have no idea how to get her out of my heart.

Today’s playlist contains some classic songs about broken hearts. We go back a long way to the Bee Gees, and follow up with the soulful voice of Toni Braxton.They the vocal power of Adele. We return to a rock ballad next with Passenger. Forward to the present and Billy Ellish. A newbie for me, Tate Mcrae and we finish with SIA: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtoQ_FvfKkG7omrzyX-Yusa

WordPress have changed the system I use to write my blog so the links are different, I will read up on it and hopefully it will change back next week. Being in Love is part of relationships as is love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Who’s in Your Tribe?


I recently posted a meme which said you are God to them all or God to none. I did not go to the Black Lives Matter rally, it was not because I don’t think they have a valid point, but because I think it misses the point, racism that is. I believe that it is a much bigger conversation and lives in the realm of the evil of tribalism worldwide. Events such as the 11 million person genocide by King Leopold of Belgium in Africa, the colonising wars in Australia and New Zealand received little mention in history books because they are written by the victors.

So I have posed the question: Who’s in your tribe as the title of this blog. I can answer everybody from within my ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included, the crux of Interculturalism. What actions do we have to take to achieve the seemingly impossible world my ethos speaks of. Here are twenty mantras from my friend Marc Chernoff that may help:

1. The most beautiful thing is to see a person nearby smiling. And even more beautiful is knowing you are the reason behind it.

2. If you have the power to make someone happier today, do it. The world needs more of that.

3. Some people build lots of walls in their lives and not enough bridges. There’s no good reason to be one of them. Open yourself up. Take small chances on people.

4. Never stop doing little things for those around you. Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.

5. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of love – all which have the potential to turn a life around.

6. Be present. Be thoughtful. Compliment people. Magnify their strengths, not their weaknesses. This is how to make a real and lasting difference in your relationships, new and old.

7. We don’t always need advice. Sometimes all we need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand.

8. Today, just be 100 per cent present with those around you- be all there. That is enough.

9. There’s no such thing as “self-made” Someone else believed in you. Someone else encouraged you. Someone else invested in you. Someone else prayed for you. Someone else spoke life over you. Be that someone for others too.

10. It’s practically impossible to love our neighbour if we don’t know them, and yet that’s often the case. We live in such a hyper-connected world with such limited or nonexistent connection. Remember this: Relationships matter. Stories matter.

11. In human relationships, distance is not measured in kilometres but in affection. Two people can be next to each other yet kilometres apart.

12. Stay in touch with those who truly matter to you because it’s convenient, but because they’re are worth the extra effort.

13. The single greatest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. Too often we don’t listen to understand, we listen to reply. Bring awareness to this. And listen for what’s truly behind the words.

14. Set an example. Treat everyone with love and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are always nice, but because you are. (And do your best to be thankful for the rude and difficult people too; they serve as great reminders on how not to be.)

15. Sometimes it is better to be kind than right.

16. People are much nicer when they’re happier, which says a lot about those who aren’t nice to you. Sad, but true.

17. The real test always comes when you don’t get what you expect from people. Will you react in anger? Or will calmness be your superpower?

18. The way we treat people we don’t understand is a report card on what we’ve learnt about love, compassion and kindness.

19. Be kinder than necessary. What goes around comes around. No one has made themselves strong by showing how small someone else is.

20. The best relationships are not just about the good times you share, they’re also about the obstacles you go through together and the fact that you still say”I Love You” in the end.

So we all live in communities, so what have we said about community spirit over the years, here are a few of my favourite quotes on the subject:

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1. Do you know your communities vision, you can check it out on most council websites if you do not.

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2. Gandhi’s freeing of India is the best example of this I know: From Little Things, Big Things Grow.

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3. Martin’s wife said some cool things to.

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4. How connected are you, how many people in your street names do you know?: In my Feelings.

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5. Do you have people you really care for and would do anything for?

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6. This one is an in your face take on community spirit: Just Stand Up.

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7. And the others would answer…

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8. In Melbourne, our community radio stations and local musicians compete in the Reclink Community Cup, it has very little to do with football and winning: My Immortal.

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9. This one made me shudder.

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10. Changes, of course, it can just be one song: Changes.

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11. When you say I did it on my own, by myself hundreds of people sigh.

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12. Another opportunity to feature the magnificent Maya Angelou: The Best Advice.

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13. What is it that has you feel you belong?

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14. What you give out you get back: Rain on Me.

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15. And for our final lesson, its time to realise community makes you feel absolutely fabulous.

Since we all intellectually understand that we shouldn’t bypass or judge people too quickly, but sometimes still forget when we’re in the heat of a pressing moment, it would be a good practice to read this list several times a week until it has stuck.

Today’s playlist goes all over the place. We begin with Paul Kelly and Missy Higgins, yes that song, then Drake and over to an All-Star anthem. A group I am growing to like a lot, Evanescence is next. Then we finish with three legends: David Bowie, Maya Angelou and finish with Lady Gaga and Ariane Grande: Who’s in Your Tribe?

My wish is that our tribe is every other citizen on the planet, can this happen, I’m working on it: Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included.

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I Trust My Intuition and Live a Courageous Life!!!


I have attended two meetings in the same room over the past three days. One was on the future of Interculturalism in our local council area, which I love and the second was on Race discrimination and racial and religious vilification which I despise to the core of my bones. At each meeting, there were different energies, one of what was possible and the other what to do when it all goes wrong. It made me think of what effect energy has on a situation and is that the primary driving factor of any situation.

My friends Marc and Angel Chernoff wrote an immensely popular blog called “30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself”, it was an instant hit. Soon they started receiving this request: “I would love to see you revisit each of these thirty principles, but instead of presenting us with a ‘to-don’t’ list, present us with a ‘to-do list’ that we can start working on today together ” Here is the list they created in response to that request:

  1. Start spending time with the right people.
  2. Start facing your problems head-on.
  3. Start being honest with yourself about everything.
  4. Start making your own happiness a priority.
  5. Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly.
  6. Start noticing and living in the present.
  7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you.
  8. Start being more polite to yourself.
  9. Start enjoying the things you already have.
  10. Start creating your own happiness.
  11. Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance.
  12. Start believing you’re ready for the next step.
  13. Start entering new relationships for the right reasons.
  14. Start giving new people you meet a chance.
  15. Start competing against an earlier version of yourself.
  16. Start cheering for other people’s victories.
  17. Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations.
  18. Start forgiving yourself and others.
  19. Start helping those around you.
  20. Start listening to your own inner voice.
  21. Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks.
  22. Start noticing the beauty of small moments.
  23. Start accepting things when they are less than perfect.
  24. Start working towards your goals every single day.
  25. Start being more open about how you feel.
  26. Start taking full accountability for your life.
  27. Start actively nurturing your most important relationships.
  28. Start concentrating on the things you can control.
  29. Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes.
  30. Start noticing how wealthy you are right now.

So that is a pretty awesome list, I would suggest picking a few favourites and work on those for a while, attempting all of them at once would be a case for overwhelm, methinks.

So when the world looks at positivity, what does it have to say, here we go:

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1. Without providing these basic and essential ingredients don’t expect to be on the A list for very long.

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2. Simply walk the talk is what this says to me: Listen to Your Heart.

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3. Such beauty in the words. “Building a thoughtfully crafted life”.

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4. As I am writing this in the Darebin Intercultural Centre I sure this is deeply profound and very positive,: Shab be oon cheshmat khab narese

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5. The adage you can’t take it with you is addressed in this quote.

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6. That one life has breathed easier because you have lived, a worthy task to take on: Breathing.

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7. Printers don’t work if the paper is crumpled, if you stop living a positive life by burning the trust in it, you will probably attain the same result.

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8. From little things big things grow: From Little Things.

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9. My friend Fleassy talks about your comfort zone and your safety zones. The comfort zone is what you challenge for positive growth in your life, your safety zone is your declared boundaries, to be protected for all you are worth.

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10. How about every new acquaintance in your life you greet with these words: Rise Up.

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11. You can always get more money, but you have a finite time to live a life of positivity.

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12. It is also great to remember that positive doesn’t necessarily mean neat and tidy: Messing with the Kid.

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13. Works for my life essence of Curiosity. 

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14. There are many different versions of positivity, pick your favourite: A Few of My Favourite Things.

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15. And for our final lesson, I reveal the part of your body that your positivity resides in.

Right now is a miracle. Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. right now is life. So stop thinking about how great things will be in the future. Stop dwelling on what did and didn’t happen in the past. Learn to be in the “here and now” and experience life as it is happening. Appreciate the positive attributes that it holds, right now.

Today’s playlist contains Ireland’s greatest rock guitarist, and he’s not in U2, a jazz legend and a new version of one of Australia’s greatest songs. Roxette opens up, followed with a tune from Persia by Ebi Gheseye Eshgh. Then the pop diva track from Ariana Grande. John Butler, Missy Higgins and Dan Sultan rejig a great Australian anthem allowing the sultry tones of Andra Day to lead in the rocking guitar of Rory Gallagher. We finish with the majestic notes of John Coltrane Live: I Trust My Intuition and Live a Courageous Life!!!

In the meeting about the Intercultural Centre, it was grand to see up to 10 different cultures being positive together. It gives me hope that there is a future for ny ethos of Interculturalism: Love and Respect For All, Everybody Included. If you enjoy reading this ode to possibility register yourself to receive future blogs in the space on the right-hand side. Namaste until we meet again, my dear friends.

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You, Will, Find It Is Necessary To Let Go!!!


You find that some days you have to do things that mean you have to let go of your intentions and do things that don’t fit on your to-do list. How many times do you do this, I had to do one this morning, I was meant to teach English but I had a severe cold so not wanting to make my students suffer a cold as well, I called them and cancelled the classes. I really enjoy teaching Bing and Julie but realised that infecting a father and a mother was not something I should do.

I’m going to send them emails with classes they can do during the week. So how do we do things that are not fitting in our daily necessities? How has society learnt to let go of the things that don’t fit in the necessary to-do lists?

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1. Crying is one thing that doesn’t come up a lot, but as Jennifer says its one of the best things you can do.

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2. It’s the impossible dream: The Impossible Dream.

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3. Letting go of you, that is who you are forgiving.

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4. Letting go of things that are no longer good for you: Let It Go.

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5. The past is where they belong, your problems that is!!

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6. Have you found yourself recently?: Love Myself.

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7. Do you question why it didn’t work out, Winna suggests you do.

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8. It Is Us, Not hummus, So Right: This Is Me.

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9. Not everybody can unfurl their fingers.

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10. Buddha was a wise, wise man: Just The Way You Are.

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11. I just liked this photo.

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12. As an empath, you get to hold all the emotions: Emotions.

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13. Remembering that word, Fear!!

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14. I met my inner child last week, twice: Sweet Dreams

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15. There are times I cannot let the memories go.

So letting go covered many different ways of relating to it. Today’s playlist goes back to the 1970s with the King, Elvis. Then we move onto the musical, Frozen. We visit a pop diva, Hailee Steinfeld next. More musical tunes from the Greatest Showman cast. Bruno Mars follows. The penultimate number is the famous Mariah Carey and we finish with the Eurythmics: You Will Find It Necessary To Let It Go.

So we read my ethos as our final lesson for the day: Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. That’s what I hold as the final statement for the day. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

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