In Life you have Three Choices!!


” Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anyone else expects of you. Never excuse yourself – Henry Ward Beecher”

I don’t know if I ever saw myself as someone who came up with excuses. The way I saw it, Life treated me unkindly, and If I was living an unhappy life it wasn’t because of me. It wasn’t because I was making up excuses, but because that’s how my life was. I was just being “realistic.”

The opening lines of chapter 4 in Luminita Saviuc’s aka The Purpose Fairies beautiful book 15 Things you should give up to be Happy – An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy Book Link.. I chose chapter four because it is about giving up and I am in the throes of giving up on my much loved workshop project. I am enquiring into what has got me to this point at the moment so what does society say about giving up on our dreams; down the trail we go:

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1. If that dream is well entrenched in your psyche, whatever life throws at you won’t stop you, there will be no excuse that will get in the way.

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2. Stop listening to them, they are total BS: No Bullshit.

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3. MLK, Nelson Mandela and Mother Teresa had the same amount of time in their lives as we do each day, they did not give up on their dreams, why do so many people?

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4. How many people who were important in your life a few years ago have disappeared overtime. Those who stayed made the effort: Love the Way you Lie.

giveup55. At One Roof, a women’s coworking space in my home city of Melbourne, there is a quote which goes like this: An entrepreneur jumps off the cliff and builds the plane on the way down. Get the drift?

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6. Usually it takes a disaster like the one occurring  in Houston  at the moment to make these words irrelevant for most people, don’t be one of them: Never to Busy.

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7. Anti graffiti them off your mental walls.

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8. Supreme guitar player and street philosopher, Carlos Santana gets in our faces: Evil Ways.

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9. Take these up as daily practices and you will find  it harder and harder to give up.

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10. Listen, that’s your heart speaking to you. It’s not into the excuses your mind comes up with from your past: High for This.

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11. Nobody knows what you want except you, Fuck Yeah!!!

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12. When I used to train for the 4 marathons I ran in a life a long time ago after the first four kilometres I ran I had this incredible urge to stop running. I did several times but overcame it which allowed me to get to the fitness level I needed to complete the 42 kilometres that a marathon is: Stronger.

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13. Florence Nightingale is responsible for the founding of modern nursing, to overcome the male superiority belief that was prevalent in the 1800 and 1900’s Florence would have to definitely walked the talk of the above quote.

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14. No time to get lost: Find a Way.

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15. Defeat does not mean it’s all over, you can always get back up and continue towards your dream.

” All excuses are misalignment. Words like “difficult,” “risky,” “can’t,” “too weak,” ” too dumb” and “too complicated” do not apply to the divine mind. I urge you to reharmonize with energy that can do anything and everything, for that is your original nature.

  • Wayne Dyer

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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I’m sorry I can’t be Beautiful!!


When I choose a subject to ponder on , I also use one of the other quotes as the title of my blog. I think I’m sorry I can’t be beautiful says a lot about perfection and the journey it can take us on and the damage it can cause in our lives.

I am reading a summary of Tim Ferriss’s The Four Hour Week at the moment, I have the book on hold at the  library, which I will pick up after completing this blog. I love the section on elimination of things to gain time back in your life nearly as much as the section in Danielle LaPorte’s Daily Planner  where is asks you what are you going to stop in your life to attain your goals. Having to do this each day makes you think at a whole new level.

So, can we reach perfection? A better question is what do you personally think it is, let’s travel down the path of the 15 quotes:

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1. Well, that surprised me, Gerrit is one of the Presidency of the Seventy of the Church of Jesus Christ and the Latter Day Saints AKA The Mormons. Religious orders often point towards the combining of goodness and perfection.

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2. Is reality separate from perfection. From the ads that embolden mainstream media one would think so: Not Perfect.

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3. That other P word that gets tied to perfection that stops us living our dreams on a lot of occasions.

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4. Unperfect, what a beautiful word. Let’s take it on for the day: Perfectly Imperfect.

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5. Baby, we were born to run , not stand still in perfect posture.

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6. From Canada comes a great example of when people really strive for perfection, some even lie: Get a Job.

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7. That’s why they say you can never reach something you already are.

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8. Quick, somebody tell them they will never catch it: I could not ask for More.

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9. A fact for each of us to remember during our unique lives.

 

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10. I don’t like the concept of boring, I relate it to taking the cheap way out of what is going on in your life: Fun.

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11. Jaron is an interesting dude. He works for Microsofts, was one of the pioneers of Virtual Reality technology and composes Classical music on rare wind and string instruments, releasing his CD Instruments of Change in 1994.

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12. Perspective not Perfection will move you down the path towards your dreams: Tumbling Dice.

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13. Lots and Lots and Lots, very little.

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14. And when is that one perfect moment. The only time it can be as per Eckhart Tolle – bring on the power of Now: The Power of Now.

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15. We discover that our lives are moving targets, not a great deal of standing still included, always on the move.

I might take back the title, the more I think about it, I see each person a perfect image of who she or he should be at that exact moment. Tough to comprehend sometimes.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Do the right Thing!!


There is a basic connection among people, who all fundamentally want the same things: to be appreciated, to belong, to feel good about themselves, to make a difference. I am reading William Baker and Michael O’Malley’s great book Leading with Kindness: How good people consistently get superior results. Kindness is an apropos term to apply to leadership because it implies precisely such root connections among people engaged in meaningful reciprocal relationships.

They state that kindness is made up from six virtues, these are Compassion, Integrity, Gratitude, Authenticity, Humility and Humour. Quite a good mix to bring to leadership , I think. So what have we said about kindness over the centuries, let’s take a wee gander:

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1. Imagine if every soldier on the planet did this instead of firing their weapon in anger, let’s start the revolution today.

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2. Kindness is funny, you can’t buy it, it seems to have no pricetag, but once given to somebody it is rarely forgotten: Change.

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3. Be’s and But’s from Jim Rohn, one of the doyens of the personal development movement that  has transformed the business world.

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4. You are never too busy to partake in this mighty, mighty adventure: Better Together.

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5. When my dad died , we gave most of his possessions to charity, the people at his funeral were there because he was a kind generous soul.

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6. Reading this has me ponder, how often do I do this in my instant gratification filled life: Strong.

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7. So do I.

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8. How deep is the depth and passion of your kindness, what gets in the way: Kindness is a Muscle.

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9. There it is, in the silence of the actions that make it up,

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10. Cute kid and animal post, the kindness in it oozes right out of the image: Someone Like You.

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11. Leading by example, you don’t need the CEO title after your name.

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12. How did you choose the leaders in your life. Are all your bosses and power points amongst them, not in mine: Everybody.

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13. We are born free, one of the traits we get given is kindness which we display openly as young children, what happens later on?

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14. I call it Interculturalism: Love and respect for All – Everyone Included: What I Am.

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15. Yes, let’s be both.

Albert Schweitzer said ” Example is not the main thing in influencing others it is the only thing, I’ll finish with those powerful words.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Kempashen, give a piece of your heart!!


The lead article in my local paper, The preston leader is titled Seeking Compassion. it is about 20 grade six students at the Holy Name School who sent letters to the paper seeking compassion for asylum seekers to our country who have been in detention centres for up to four years.

Our  major support for these people, The Asylum Seekers Resource Centre said it was exciting to see young people getting engaged. ” It shows how much capacity all of us have to respond to issues in our society from an angle that’s compassionate, that respects people’s dignity and their humanity,” they said.

So, how compassionate are you on a day to day basis. or a bigger question could be how much is our society? let’s look at what they say about it:

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1. I’m thinking they relate ears to compassion in that when we hear an opportunity to show compassion, it’s time to take action.

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2. The ultimate compassion in life, Self Love, this allows you to never hurt another: Who Says

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3. The person on earth who is best known for his compassion, HHDL, links compassion directly to our ability to be happy.

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4. That smile that you just gave to the stranger you passed in the street just healed an age old wound. Yes, it really did, thank you for doing that: Heal the Wound.

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5. Robert Lee Frost (March 26, 1874 – January 29, 1963) was an American poet. He is highly regarded for his realistic depictions of rural life and his command of American colloquial speech. His work frequently employed settings from rural life in New England in the early twentieth century, using them to examine complex social and philosophical themes. 

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6. Such a cute photo. More beautiful words from HHDL. If only our other world leaders thought in the same way: Where is the Love.

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7. Thích Nhất Hạnh, born as Nguyễn Xuân Bảo on October 11, 1926 is a Vietnamese Buddhist monk and peace activist.

Thích Nhất Hạnh lives in Plum Village in Thailand, travelling internationally to give retreats and talks. He coined the term “Engaged Buddhism” in his book Vietnam: Lotus in a Sea of FireAfter a long term of exile, he was given permission to make his first return trip to Vietnam in 2005.

Nhất Hạnh has published more than 100 books, including more than 40 in English. He is active in the peace movement, promoting nonviolent solutions to conflict and he also refrains from animal product consumption as a means of non violence towards non-human animals.

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8. That person in the mirror, they’re your bestie: Best friendship song.

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9. Loving Kindness is a style of meditation that can transform your relationship to another, research it on google.

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10. Compassion doesn’t just happen, you have to take a strong stand for it in your life and be keenly aware of it’s relationship to the others in your life: Interdependent.

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11. I just fell in love with Prince for this beautiful quote.

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12. Remember this when you are getting dressed in the morning: The Long Way Around.

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13. Karen Armstrong won the $100,000 Ted prize, this is what she did with it: 

The Charter for Compassion is a document that urges the peoples and religions of the world to embrace the core value of compassion. The charter currently is available in more than 30 languages and has been endorsed by more than two million individuals around the globe.

Charter for Compassion International, the Charter’s supporting organization, has enrolled 311 communities in 45 countries in its Compassionate Communities campaign and has partnered with more than 1,300 organizations to spread the Charter’s message of compassion in 10 sectors: the arts, business, education, environment, healthcare, peace, religion/spirituality/interfaith, science & research, social sciences and restorative justice. There is no cost to affirm the Charter.

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14. This is the cutest vegan statement I have seen about compassion towards our fellow non human creatures: Song for Love.

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15. Immanuel Kant was a German philosopher who is a central figure in modern philosophy. Kant argued that the human mind creates the structure of human experience, that reason is the source of morality, that aesthetics arises from a faculty of disinterested judgment, that space and time are forms of our sensibility, and that the world as it is “in-itself” is independent of our concepts of it. Kant took himself to have effected a “Copernican revolution” in philosophy, akin to Copernicus’ reversal of the age-old belief that the sun revolved around the earth. His beliefs continue to have a major influence on contemporary philosophy, especially the fields of metaphysics, epistemology, ethics, political theory, and aesthetics.

I have meet many people who show no compassion towards asylum seekers, the first question I always ask them is, have you ever met an asylum seeker and talked to them. Sadly, the answer is usually no. And then there are people filled with compassion towards them who would also answer no, the difference being their compassion level.

Namaste until next time my dear friends.

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Life will love you Back!!


You may not have heard of Marc and Angel Chernoff, yet they are two of the greatest list writers on the net, their book 1,000+ Little Things Happy Successful People do Differently is a gem, their internet site http://www.marcandangel.com is amongst my top ten sites at the moment. I opened the book today and a list about loving what is came up. Byron Katie is probably better known for this phrase but for me Marc and Angel run a close second.

Let’s have a look at some of the copious quotes that exist on this empowering subject:

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1. Freedom and Happiness, I’ll take a dose of them anytime.

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2. Do you keep your promises in this area, not easy to do sometimes: Keep your Word.

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3. Are you following the where the love is path?

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4. How much do we love the art of Vincent van Gogh: Vincent van Gogh.

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5. It is hard to love your life without loving all stages of it, the past, the present and the future.

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6. Not what you would expect from a Rugby League coach, but gets to the point: If it’s lovin that you want.

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7. I’m part of a Facebook group called The Daily Gratitude Space, if you need a pickup or a place to express what you are grateful for , join us.

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8. Would a list on Loving what you love be complete without Wayne Dyer, I don’t think so: How deep is your Love.

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9. Anger is the root of misunderstanding between people, nations and species.

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10. When we have lost contact, this is a way to recall loving memories that we have experienced in our life: Photograph.

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11. My friend Tanishka finishes all her writing with blessings on your day, a beautiful practice for expressing loving what is.

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12. How do you continue when your mind and body want to toss it in? Your heart is still there rooting for you: Listen to your Heart.

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13. Napoleon Hill was an American self-help author. He is well known for his book Think and Grow Rich (1937) which is among the top 10 best selling self-help books of all time. Hill’s works insisted that fervid expectations are essential to improving one’s life. Most of his books were promoted as expounding principles to achieve “success”.

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14: The queen of Love What Is, Byron Katie has given love to countless people through her magnificent work: Relationships and Love

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15. My friend Vic used to say to his staff, Love what you do, and you will never work another day in your life, sage and healthy advice.

Marc and Angel Hack Life, get a daily dose of positivity from their site: link to website.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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How to walk on Water?


Cleaning up I found Marc and Angel Chernoff’s great so not little book 1000+ Little Things Happy Successful People Do Differently. I flipped it open and the tale was How to Walk on Water. The premise was there was a child running into the shallows and Marc asked him what was he doing? Trying to walk on water he replied.

Marc gave him 9 pieces of advice, here’s the list

1. Make sure you were born to walk on water

2. Decide that nothing can stop you

3. Work on it for real

4. Let the whole world know what you’re up to

5. Value the people who value your ambitions

6. Ignore the negative naysayers

7. Prepare your self for the pain

8. Enjoy the pain of your greatest challenges

9. Never give up! Never Quit!

Each have a vignette of words underneath them , I especially liked number five, so today we discuss being valued. I hold the work of Marc and Angel as being value so here is the link to their webpage www.marcandangel.com

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1. Everybody who has ever lost someone at an early age before their time was expected to end knows the effect of this quote, love and hugs your way.

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2. HHDL says we are making a big mistake these days, we value things, not people and it should be the other way around. Reverse that car, baby: Diamonds

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3. My friend Yoko runs a natural food cafe and recently started charging 50 cents for takeaway containers. She posted that only one person had abused her for it and that other people were starting to bring their own containers. the feedback of support she got was amazing. Don’t give in ot the one.

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4. Oscar wrote this some time in the 19th century, do you think we have listened to him, Not: Love doesn’t cost a Thing.

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5. No words needed really.

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6. Translates to self love , really: Roar.

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7. You cannot take your assets with you, your actions are what remains in the conversations of those left behind.

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8. it’s often when we face loss that this quote hits home: Thanks for the Memories.

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9. Can’t take it with you again.

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10. Buffett is a notable philanthropist, having pledged to give away 99 percent of his fortune to philanthropic causes, primarily via the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation. In 2009, with Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg, Warren founded The Giving Pledge, whereby billionaires pledge to give away at least half of their fortunes. I like this value: Give it Away.

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11. You get the final say, everything else is dross.

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12. Remember your worth, It’s time to say goodbye to that someone: Beautiful.

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13. If they only fit you in when it suits them, It’s time to move on.

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14. What will they think, what if……., etc. etc. Value yourself and this goes away: Closer.

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15. And for the final point, always value kindness, spread some of its magic value today.

I love the lists of Marc and Angel Chernoff, they are in my top ten on the net, I recommend you check them out.

Namaste until next time , my dear friends

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The F Word!!


OK, fess up, who instantly thought of the four letter word when they saw the title of todays blog. That’s because the subject it is about is one that society has a total struggle with, forgiveness. A Course In Miracles says – …holding no prisoner to guilt, we become free. Maybe you can’t move along your career path because you haven’t forgiven yourself for a mistake you made in the past or maybe you remember the time you hurt somebody or they hurt you and you are afraid of being that intimate again.

There are oodles of forgiveness quotes, I put this down to the fact that society has such a quandary with it. What has been said over the years, let’s have a look:

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1. Perhaps the greatest example of this is when Nelson Mandela walked out of the  prison on Robben Island after 27 years.

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2. How beautiful is this piece of sage advice, locked in and noted: Heal the Wound.

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3. Revered the world over for his nonviolent philosophy of passive resistance, Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi was known to his many followers as Mahatma, or “the great-souled one.” He forgave one nation to create another.

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4. You don’t go to a gym to get this sort of strength, it is definitely on the inner plain: You Raise Me Up.

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5. You can use your memories to treat people harshly or perhaps you forgive them for being human.

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6. Because this is where not forgiving can take you. If you wish to see how poisonous it can be watch mainstream media: I have a Dream.

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7. I have a friend who has not spoken to his sister for 5 years over an  “incident”. They were over 30 when it happened.

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8. My mother once sent me a postcard with a ship on it asking if that was how I was returning to Australia. I don’t think I had seen her for three months. I didn’t realise she was that funny: Mother.

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9. Write out the apology you would like and then burn it so it is in the ether, you know you will never receive it in the  flesh, stop hurting yourself.

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10. A powerful lesson, think before you put your foot in your mouth, the repercussions are costly: Words.

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11. Bryant McGill is one of the most virally shared and read authors online in the world today. His articles have reached more people on social media than any top shared article, by any other writer or media outlet including the New York Times, Barack Obama, Huffington Post, or CNN.

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12. I remember a time in my life when if my mother said white I would say black. My sister pointed out that I still retain a little of this towards her, at 62 and 90 it is time to forgive her for what I think happened between us and hold on to the hope of tomorrow: Hold onto Hope Love.

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13. It’s a two way street.

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14. Can you smell it, remember to give time to smelling the flowers: Supermarket Flowers.

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15. Time to set yourself free, Unlock the door.

A morning reflection to end on from May Cause Miracles by Gabby Bernstein

For today I commit to letting go of my past. In this moment I choose to release all the pent-up anger and resentment I have placed on myself. I welcome even a moment of release. I forgive myself for my past, my present and my future. I trust that I am love and that all my life’s experiences have been divinely placed for me to learn and grow. I’ve done the best I can with my life’s circumstances, and today the best I can do is forgive. I forgive myself today.

Namaste until next time , my dear friends

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