A messy house is a Must!!


Todays title comes from the quote A Messy house is a must – It separates your true friends from other friends – Real friends are there to visit you, not your house. Is that a fair statement? Today we look at fairness, I am reading an interesting tome called Just Babies – The Origins of Good and Evil.

Chapter three: Fairness, Status and Punishment begin with the following tale: The comedian Louis C. K. has a routine in which he talks about his daughter’s understanding of fairness. He begins, “My five-year-old, the other day, one of her toys broke, and she demanded that I break her sister’s toy to make it fair.” This would make the sisters equal, but the joke is that something here didn’t feel right: “And I did. I was like crying. And I look at her. She’s got this creepy smile on her face.”

So the books premise is that in our early years we follow an equality bias from an early age and it gets trained out of us as we enter the education system where being the best and winning take over.

So where does the world sit for you in the fairness stakes, let’s take a walk:

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1. Fairness does not mean ease of journey, never give up your belief in the fairness of something because it does not work out immediately.

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2. No judgements allowed: Raindrops keep falling on my Head.

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3. From birth to age 5, a child’s brain develops more, and more rapidly, than at any other time in life. And while genetics plays a significant role, scientific research has made clear that the quality of a child’s experiences in the first few years of life – positive or negative – helps shape how their brain develops. And that these experiences have lasting impact on their health and ability to learn and succeed in school and in life.

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4. America’s only Armenian sci writer who emigrated at the age of eight with her parents and two suitcases knows the value of self love: Imagine.

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5. The Universe is here to take you on your life’s journey, some parts of it are different from what our mind thinks that journey is.

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6. Brit Hume is one of the longest serving Journo’s in Washington Perhaps he made this statement about Donald Trump following some of the decisions he has made lately: Dance me to the End of Love.

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7. It would be beautiful if all religious organisations followed this creed. Unfortunately some of them seem to have forgotten the reason their founders set up their belief systems.

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8. I am not saying fairness is all light and bubbles, somedays fairness will feel like this: A Little Bit Stronger.

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9. Integrity – The state of being whole and Undivided. I work on this, It’s hard to do 24/7.

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10. As the stoury form Louise C. K. about his daughter points out, It’s not about equality, it’s about whats needed in each particular scenario: Forever.

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11. There are many diverse opinions on this from the left and the right, from what they write about it I think it is an agree to disagree argument.

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12. Fairness is listening to both sides and not giving more kudos to either without seriously checking it out: Two sides to every Story.

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13. Fairness is not a two way journey, If you don’t recieve it, It doesn’t mean you stop providing it. You may drop that relationship, but don’t give up your values.

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14. The expression that says it forme, is Pay it Forward. Not what you say, what you do: Hello In There.

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15. From one of the great men who sought fairness for his people, a piece of timely advice how you achieve fairness.

I think we all have a sense of what fairness is as children but can have it changed quite dramatically by parental influence and incidents that happen in our lives. Remember we all come out with a fresh soul, let’s return to that space when it comes to our sense of fairness.

Music for today isBurt Bacharach, John Lennon and a rap number for my nephew and his wife.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Fill your Heart with what is Important!!


“I love, accept, and express that I fill myself first so I can heal the world.”  This is the affirmation Steve Sisgold of Whole Body Intelligence,His website got Lissa Rankin to use when she realised her belief system was the following: “You’re selfish and narcisstic if you take care of yourself first. You have no value unless you’re helping others. Your blog audience won’t love you anymore unless you give until you’re depleted. Your mother won’t love you anymore, either.”

This made my stomach turn as I was reading the secind statement, I think it covers some of my beliefs pretty well. Here is the Hero’s practice called Check Your Motives from Lissa’s book an Anatomy of a Calling:

Check Your Motives:

The next time you consider being helpful ir saying yes to service, pause. Get quiet, and ask yourself, “Why am I doing this?” Are you afraid of disappointing someone if you say no? Are you motivated by pity or fear? Will you fear like, “not enough” if you don’t do  it? Are you trying to impress someone? Does it exhaust you to even think about saying yes? If any of these feel true, graciously say no to the opportunity to serve, knowing that you are not just filling yourself first but also protecting yourself from getting caught in a Rescuer/Victim/Persecutor triad, which will lead you to inadvertantly hurt yourself and others.

If, however, you are motivated by surges of love – which generate the impulse to leap out of your chair and say yes, free of any hidden language – go for it! If you’re so far down the spiritual path that there is little “self” to self-sacrifice and you are full to the brim with the desire fir pure service, knowing how fulfilling it is to serve in a clean way, say yes.

Practice this exercise every time you are inclined to serve. This will help you learn to be very discerning about your relationship to service and those you serve, and as a result, you will not only avoid depleting yourself but also expand your capacity for fulfillment and joy.

So how does the world relate to filling ones self up before others, It should be an  interesting journey:

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1. Once you are a bunch of smouldering ashes you are not much use to anyone.

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2. It’s never to late to write your bestseller, that one you don’t tell others about: Your Song.

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3. This is the number one way to stoppbecoming depleted in your life.

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4. The more energy you have and that you shine on the world the more you can give to it: I Gotta Feeling.

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5. The more you hide who you really are, the more harm can be done to you and by you.

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6. From one of TV”s favourite fictional characters comes some practical wisdom about filling yourself first: Love Myself.

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7. Ask yourself before you say Yes, What would Love Do in this situation?

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8. Heed the warming, rehydrate your soul when it needs it: Take care of Yourself.

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9. Manifexting with Marla, catchy name for a great piece of advice.

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10. Deepak’s friend Oprah has this to say about this , in a much more pragmatic way: When you undervalue what you do, the world will undervalue who you are:Give it UP to Me.

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11. Remember, to help with human rights, yours must be included amongst them.

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12. Might fine advice, R.Z., will help keep one out of the Rescuer/Victim/Persecutor triad: Put a little Love in your Heart.

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13. Remember to complete your Hero’s Journey, not everyone or everything will make ot to the end.

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14. Here in Australia, we have a condition called the tall poppy syndrome. It’s very dangerous for the future of our country: That’s What I Like.

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15. That deep satisfaction has to exist within your soul before there is any chance of another giving it to you.

When you’re motivated by the soul’s yearning rather than the ego’s “not enoughness” giving to others feeds you. Service can be like breathing. You give on the exhale, but the giving itself breathers life into you and you are nourished by the giving. So remember to do the exercise so that you are chosing from love and not depleting your life-force.

Music this week includes Annie Lennox, Al Green and Shakita. Enjoy!!

Namaste until next time , my dear friends

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Have Faith in what can Be!!


I have been working on accepting what is so with my mentor Arion: Activating your Essence.. I go between accepting it in my heart and seeing what that allows for and listening to the dross my head throws at me 24/7. Ring Chapter 10 – Release your attachments in Lissa Rankins wonderful book The Anatomy of a Calling : Info about it.

At the end of each chapter there is a Hero’s guidepost and a Hero’s practice, I would like to share Hero’s practice with you:

” I Accept ” Meditation

Practice an “I accept” meditation. Close your eyes and allow yourself to feel all the disappointment about things that aren’t going how you hoped. let yourself feel the sadness, anger, frustration, hopelessness, fear and embarrassment. Don’t judge your feelings. Just feel them. Then repeat the mantra “I accept, I accept, I accept.” Notice any inner resistance that bubbles up and keep repeating the mantra. Pay attention to any thoughts that refute your mantra, anything you feel that you can’t accept. But keep going, “I accept, I accept, I accept.” To be guided through an ” I accept” meditation , download the free guided meditation at TheAnatomyofaCalling.com. For more help preventing and accepting disappointment, read Christine Hassler’s book Expectation Hangover.

So how does the world look at acceptance, let’s go on a journey:

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1. Eckhart Tolle points us to this moment in time that we seem to want to avoid, what is the power of now.

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2. But you should always go with your heart, the gateway to your soul: Listen to Your Heart.

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3. If only I had….., When I get 10k lighter…, I’m not sure I can…, all expectations, what are yours?

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4. I know you, they say our blood changes every seven years so why do we assume that our personalities stay the same?: Everybody’s Changing.

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5. Can we accept this unconditionally? How different would our relationships be  if we lived this life.

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6. In 2017, Rolling Stone magazine ranked him second (behind Richard Pryor) on its list of the 50 best stand-up comics of all time. George Carlin is a genius, check out his youtube videos: The reason Education Sucks.

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7. Accept how your life is but always have a go to position, how you want your life to look.

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8. In your face, yes it’s manipulation, they are as they are. Thats why you love them: Me, Myself, I.

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9. Remember those teenage years when it was all about being liked by others, fitting in, being one of the gang – It’s time to stop that.

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10. Campbell’s magnum opus is his book The Hero with a Thousand Faces (1949), in which he discusses his theory of the journey of the archetypal hero found in world mythologies. Since the book’s publication, Campbell’s theory has been consciously applied by a wide variety of modern writers and artists. His philosophy has been summarized by his own often repeated phrase: “Follow your bliss.”: The Climb.

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11. Carl Ransom Rogers  was an American psychologist and among the founders of the humanistic approach (or client-centered approach) to psychology. Rogers is widely considered to be one of the founding fathers of psychotherapy research. The person-centered approach, his own unique approach to understanding personality and human relationships, found wide application in various domains such as psychotherapy and counseling (client-centered therapy), education (student-centered learning), organizations, and other group settings.

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12. Acceptance is one part of you creating your own unique destiny: Choose your Destiny.

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13. How could I not include The Power of Now guy.

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14. And the tenets of my faith is Yes, Yes, Yes – Love is Love. Well done Australia for saying yes to same sex marriage: Love is Love.

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15. OK , I admit it, I was a Charmed addict because of Alyssa Milano. Love this quote from her about the dark and the light.

Joseph Campbell, the Follow your Bliss and the Hero’s Journey dude, states on the road of trials is where you find your faith, when you learn to accept what life is throwing at you that you don’t love, allowing yourself to move forward.

The music today included pop divas Beyonce and Billy Cyrus, some Disney thrown in and the masterful George Carlin.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Face your Fears, and Wipe your Tears!!


If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, “Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.” : Martin Luther King

There’s something precious and unique about each and everyone of us. We are all worthy human beings; we are all smart and capable of achieving many inspiring and wonderful acts. You came here to perform a very important role, and who you are matters.

The world needs all of us, so let’s have a look at what  we have said over the generations about living a  life that matters:

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1. Looking for someone else to provide this within you heart will not work if you are not there as well.

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2. Jon Freeman studies split second social perception – how we use facial cues to categorize other people into social groups and perceive their personality traits and emotion. This makes is so important that we have a  healthy self image as in these days of this style of perception we don’t get much time from others: You matter to Me.

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3. Remember, it’s not what people say, it’s in their actions.

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4. In the end it’s what you think about yourself that counts. What others thinks is their personal perception: Perfect.

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5. We don’t tend to remember the church or the valley we walked through, It’s the people we were with that counts.

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6. My friend Emeli rescued a woman from an abusive situation because she cared, she met her on the side of the road when she had given up. Where in you life have you done something similar by caring, giving a shit: Chasing Cars.

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7. Giving for giving sake, what would you do in life that you don’t need to be paid for.

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8. If we only remembered these deep lessons we read in the books of our younger years. Dr Seuss provided one here: Need you Now.

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9. The way through those experiences is not to wish they would go away, It is to enter them and accept they happened and have the control they have over you lessen.

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10. When you get up in the morning, look in the mirror and say, I’m allowed and I matter: Welcome Back.

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11. Another piece to this puzzle is why are you who you are, what do you jump out of bed in the morning for. If you get a chance watch Simon Sinek’s brilliant TED talk on the subject of Why.

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12. Over our lives people move in and out of them, don’t stay too long if you are no longer a match: Time to Leave.

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13. William James was one of the leading thinkers of the late nineteenth century and is believed by many to be one of the most influential philosophers the United States has ever produced, while others have labeled him the “Father of American psychology”.

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14. Simple Acts of Kindness: Good People.

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15. And a final message from the lorax – care a whole awful lot, you matter.

We all have something to contribute to life. If we cling to our fears and doubts our part of the puzzle will never be complete. Remember look in the mirror – I’m Allowed and what I do matters.

The Music – Bruno Mars doing a kids song, Jack Johnson classic Good People and a Pink number.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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It will reflect in your Face!!


Was going to do another of the 15 things you should give up to be happy today, but picked up the Anatomy of a Calling by another of my faves, Lissa Rankin MD : Check it out here. I opened it to page 120, which had the new questions Lissa was asking her patients after she had realised  medicine wasn’t about 15 minute interviews and doling out medications. Here is the list:

  1. Do you feel lonely, isolated, misunderstood, or disconnected?
  2. If you could break any rule without consequences, what rule would you break?
  3. Are you in a romantic relationship, and if so, are you happy? If not, do you wish you were?
  4. Do you feel like you are in touch with your life’s purpose, fulfilling your divine assignment here on this planet?
  5. Do you feel stressed about money?
  6. Do you feel spiritually connected?
  7. Do you feel free to be your authentic self?

At the moment the one that is a bit out of place for me is question six, do you feel spiritually connected, so that is our subject for today:

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1. See that is says We are Love, not they are Love. Hard to remember at times.

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2. I feel I met one of these people recently. I forget to inhale when I am near her: Soul Kind of Feeling.

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3. We are magnificent and broken all at the same time, we need to journey through both to contact our soul, it is made up of everything.

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4. It’s not often you look across a room and go, wow, what a great mind, yet it is that and their heart that will keep the relationship going: Just the Two of Us.

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5. Contentious statement, but where else can you be?

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6. I brought a book of poetry written by a man who spent a year living in Wild Dog Valley. It is compared to David Whyte, Mary Oliver and John O’Donoghue. Each poem is a powerful vignette, the name: Lucid Nature by Sean O’Carroll: Human Behaviour.

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7. Time for a biography as I have no clue who Elizabeth Lesser is, let’s have a look: ELIZABETH LESSER is a bestselling author and the cofounder of Omega Institute, the renowned conference and retreat center located in Rhinebeck, New York. Elizabeth’s first book, The Seeker’s Guide, chronicles her years at Omega and distills lessons learned into a potent guide for growth and healing.

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8. Two of my dear friends, Denise and Ed have many of their ex students as Facebook friends. I think thats because they did this , not told them what to learn: That’s what I like.

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9. We all want to be love, but have to remember our picture of love is different to every other individual on the planet.

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10. What music is on your favourite Spotify playlist: Flash Mob, Ode to Joy.

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11. Buddha lived in a time of overt sexism, I sure he meant women as well.

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12. I have doubts about people who go away for a week, a month even a year who come back and pass themselves off as spiritual guru’s, it’s for at least a lifetime: Lord Shiva.

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13. That thought that keeps returning, It does it for a purpose, when we learn what we have to it will disappear.

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14, Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking, TED talk, what else could this bring to mind: Here it is.

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15. I would call this two souls meeting and creating a very spiritual moment.

Lissa’s new patient intake form was 12 pages long, she says the two most illuminating questions she asked were:

  1. What is your body saying no to?
  2. What does your body need in order to heal?

I think we need to heal our spiritual connection as a priority, writing this has helped me do that.

The music is great, one of the great Australian tracks Soul Kind of Feelings, Lord Shiva anthem, an amazing flash mob version of Ode to Joy, Bjork and the amazing the Art of Asking TED talk by Amanda Palmer.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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I’m going to see the World!!


How do you see the world? Gabrielle Bernstein says you can change the way through the statement – When i lean on certainty and faith I change my mind about the World I See. What does she  mean by this statement? Is it that when you believe in what you believe in you do not have to fall for what mainstream media is trying to push down your throat what you are meant to believe about what goes on day to day.

Let’s have a look at ways to do this, there are many:

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1. Do you open up your creativity to see the many different ways that it permits you to relate to the extraordinary journey that our lives are.

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2. I recently learnt that I had very western values about the Chinese culture when I became an English tutor for three Chinese mothers. I learnt as much each lesson about China as they did about the English language each lesson. It’s a great way to find out how sheltered how you see the world is: Curious.

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3. I watched a documentary about Romania, the host was appearing on a fashion reality show as thousands of people were protesting on the streets because the government were trying to legitimise corruption.

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4. How much do we owe to the photographers that travel the world and capture the images that make us go : I’ve never thought that way about that place. Alex Sattler is one of them: Photograph.

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5. I Think Maya is giving permission to young women to listen to their hearts and not what the fashion magazines tell them is their role in life with this statement.

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6. Dali and Picasso see the world very differently to a landscape or portrait artist. Yet each is revealing his soul on the canvas: Art for Arts Sake.

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7. I was in Leningrad the year before the Berlin Wall came down and Communism ended in the Soviet Union, the people we meant said they loved Russia, but they just made a mistake 70 years ago, Now known as St. Petersburg, it is a beautiful city.

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8. My sister takes thousands of photo’s when she travels the world, I don’t think one of them is of the local airport: Leaving on a Jet Plane.

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9. You don’t need to leave your lounge room, to have these if you are , curious that is. Although I imagine that will not be the case.

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10. Shaw’s expressed views were often contentious; he promoted eugenics and alphabet reform, and opposed vaccination and organised religion. He courted unpopularity by denouncing both sides in the First World War as equally culpable, He really meant keep yourself clean and bright: Windows of the World.

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11. How would life be, if this statement was true for each of us every day.

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12. The general theme of Rumi’s thought, like that of other mystic and Sufi poets of Persian literature, is that of tawhid — union with the Beloved, from whom he sees himself as being cut off and aloof. His longing and desire to attain it is evident in the following poem from his book the Masnavi:

I died to the mineral state and became a plant,
I died to the vegetable state and reached animality,
I died to the animal state and became a man,
Then what should I fear? I have never become less from dying.
At the next charge (forward) I will die to human nature,
So that I may lift up (my) head and wings (and soar) among the angels,
And I must (also) jump from the river of (the state of) the angel,
Everything perishes except His Face,
Once again I will become sacrificed from (the state of) the angel,
I will become that which cannot come into the imagination,
Then I will become non-existent; non-existence says to me (in tones) like an organ,
Truly, to Him is our return: Rumi, The Beloved.

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13. So are our opinions of people, as this is what we see people doing.

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14. The Chinese certainly have some quirky quotes, but they always hit home: Plant more Trees.

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15. So, remember to be curious and question what you think you can see or are told about our beautiful planet, or the above statement may be true.

We have the opportunity each day to do something about the planet, is it because we do not have the faith and certainty that what we believe is worthwhile or is necessarily true. It’s time to stand up for it.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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I will walk by Faith!!


I am revisiting 15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy – An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy by Luminita D. Saviuc, AKA The Purpose Fairy: Here’s the list. I opened the book to the section on Chapter 7 – Give up complaining: I thought for a moment about turning to another page but realised that this was meant to be the subject of todays blog, to have some faith in life. Luminita likes quotes, as I do and here is the one that opens the chapter:

People who never achieve happiness are the ones who complain

whenever they’re awake, and whenever they’re asleep.

they are thinking about that to complain about tomorrow – Adam Zimbler

So how do tyou say don’t complain 15 different ways – let’s have a look:

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1. My friends and I tried this for 30 days once, the furtherest anyone made it was 5 days, and they were probably lying.

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2. We are the creators of our lives, when we are complaining about it, not many candles burning: Candlelight.

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3. Warm Fuzzy Feeling, reminds me of lolly gobble bliss bombs, an Australian snack food released in the seventies. Lolly Gobble Bliss Bombs were known for their colourful packaging, which featured surreal psychedelic artwork, reminiscent of Peter Max, Robert Crumb or The Fabulous Furry Freak Brothers.

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4. I would love the time back from the things I have complained about in my life that truthfully I could not change: Changes. 

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5. You love, You appreciate, that makes you smile , That ……….

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6. There are people we remember because they did things to make wrongs right: Martin, Nelson, Malala: Join them or become quiet: Try Everything.

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7. Is cursing showing you have a lesser use of your total vocabulary, I think so in this situation.

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8. My Essence for this quarter in my year long Activation program is Acceptance, if happiness is thrown in I will be stoked: Happy.

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9. Katrina Mayer earned a doctorate in metaphysics from the American Institute of Holistic Theology. She is a writer, motivational speaker, corporate executive, and an ordained interfaith minister. The author of The Mustard Seed Way,she lives on the north shore of Long Island, New York.

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10. The spirits have spoken: new world paradigm – a transformed world: Yesterday.
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11. They say we choose when we decide to become a human being. Why do so many people forget the total gift this is?
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12. Mathematically, the 80/20 rule is roughly followed by a power law distribution (also known as a Pareto distribution) for a particular set of parameters, and many natural phenomena have been shown empirically to exhibit such a distribution: Tim Ferriss 80/20 principle.
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13. Robin Sharma, The Monk who sold his Ferrari points to one solution, don’t sleep as long , you have 24 hours in the day the same as everybody else, use it so it works.
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14. As a proofreader I can’t believe it when people misspell words and actually print things, is that a complaint: Don’t Speak.
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15. The last time you will ever use these words or thoughts.
If you took one-tenth of the energy you put into complaining
and applied it to solving the problem, you’d be surprised
by how well things can work out… Complaining does not work
as a strategy. We all have finite time and energy. Anytime we 
spend whining is unlikely to help us achieve our goals.
And it won’t make us happier – Randy Pausch
The music today – Bollywood, Bowie, That Happy Song, a chat from Tim Ferriss, and a few pop divas, enjoy.
Namaste until next time, my dear friends
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