What you tell your younger self!!!


Have you ever written yourself advice in the past or the future. I have done both several times at different periods in my life, the first being in our counter-culture English teachers class in High School. I came across a list a friend wrote recently and feel it has some great advice as it was written around the same time in his life. It was for his future self to his younger self.

  1. Your thirties, forties and fifties won’t feel like your thirties, forties and fifties.
  2. Bad things will happen to you and your friends.
  3. Everyone can make a huge difference.
  4. First impressions aren’t all they’re cracked up to be.
  5. Big results come when you narrow your focus.
  6. Love yourself. Become your own priority.
  7. Sometimes you just have t go for it.
  8. In order to get, you have to give.
  9. Not much is worth fighting about.
  10. Don’t try to impress everyone.
  11. Keep having fun.
  12. Keep it simple.
  13. Little things stick with you.
  14. Keep your opinions to yourself.
  15. Manage your time.
  16. Manage your money.
  17. What you learn in school does matter.
  18. Dreams will remain dreams forever if you don’t take action.

What he did different was he interviewed his father who at the time was in his early 50’s. So what have we as a human race said about sage advice for the future, let’s have a look:

1. Three values for a bright, bright future.

2. Mahatma used this ethos to free a country for foreign rule: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6RYNED5p2EY

3. If we do this every day we will have a lot of personal gratitude in our lives.

4. How’s the book of your life coming along: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1d4r9awjKE&list=PL0msuI7SJDFfd2BRR9rOYWF5X9NGlcVXW

5. And Serena is one of a few people who would have the money to even consider this.

6. Make mistakes, this is what you learn from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6rP-YP4c5I

7. Written by the famous Ms Anon, this fits with if you never lie you don’t have to remember anything.


8. Haven’t included a quote by a POTUS for a while, this is a great one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EqolSvoWNck

9. To be great you will have to go in every direction, some that even you may not give yourself permission.

10. The future is really up to you to create, so do it well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dm9Zf1WYQ_A

11. If you do good deeds throughout your life, you will not need campaigns, etc, etc.

12. Hard to believe the wisdom of Forrest Gump is 30 years old: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0yFOupUkKQ&list=PLq_6wXJhooZNrHqOq-PLaEQ-VFpgtNc4V&index=14

13. Evangelist Billy Graham talks a lot about faith, this quote is very poignant.

14. Take the suggestions but begin the journey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vP4iY1TtS3s

15. What are you writing for yours?

So this made me think about advice my parents had given me over the years and the times I ignored them. As my friend said, looking back they were right most of the time. This is one of the gifts of eldership.

For today’s playlist we begin with one of my favourite Australian singer/songwriters Anne McCue. Then the second Elvis, Elvis Costello. Three fine female singers follow: Shakira, Marilyn Monroe and Billie Ellish. The penultimate song is a 60’s classic by Scott McKenzie and we finish with Martin Luther King: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrt4bcuSvPP1abdV9OUkpqgs

Supporting, guiding and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. Everything you do comes around. Who knows what our futures will be, all I know that mine will include spreading Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. I have set the plan in place through my two Facebook groups: Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 and Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/183421768519278. You are cordially invited to join one or both of these groups as the more supporting this ethos the merrier.

Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Give someone a Smile!!


I’ve gone back to getting my subjects for my blogs off my kitchen wall. The title for this one comes from my We build Tribes chart. The purpose is to build a purpose-driven community, I actually have two: They are Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism and Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humankind: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. Both have the ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included at their core.

Each community has the following behind it:

  1. 10,000 people woke up this morning shedding private tears because they need a solution to their problem. You have that solution, go find them.
  2. No other individual was placed upon this earth to do what you were uniquely born to do. Be you and the world will transform.
  3. We live in an abundant world, allow that abundance to flow through you and you will never be without it.
  4. Build a tribe that changes the very fabric of society, That is what you were born to do.
  5. Whatever your goal, dream or desire is, It’s yours for the taking. Never accept you can’t.
  6. Be consumed with a vision for tomorrow, go there in your own life and people will follow.
  7. In a world of increasing isolation, be the campfire that attracts friends, laughter and authentic moments of transformation.
  8. No-one ever got lucky, true success flows from consistency and persistency. Never, ever give up.
  9. It’s going to be hard, It’s going to be tough. Remember, when you quit, No one wins.
  10. Be their leader, be their servant, be their guide. But whatever you do. Make sure you “be”.
  11. Don’t ever love others to the detriment of loving yourself. There is no one more important than you.
  12. Rest, love, allow yourself to be loved. For as much as you feel the world rests on your shoulders, it doesn’t.
  13. Support one another, cherish one another, inspire one another. We can make an even greater impact when we do so together.
  14. Give someone a smile, give them money, give them a moment – when you have the capacity to do so… give.
  15. With money comes influence, impact and opportunity – freedom comes when we cease fearing the pursuit of money & we embrace it.

So what has society said about communities – lets walk down that path:

1. Read that word, everyone, all 7 billion of us.

2. And her partner was Martin Luther King Junior, hear him speak: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixfwGLxRJU8

3. Do you know what your community cares about?

4. Author of the Courage to Create, this quote speaks profoundly of the power of communication: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nN6VR92V70M

5. We all know a community needs more than one colour.

6. Another religious guru facing abuse allegations. Bill Hybels has a lot to reconcile: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-6zYv9hCow

7. From little things , big things grow.

8. My purpose to make my communities safe places: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHvTWvKIPHo

9. How many friendships I have made simply asking would you like to go for a coffee?


10. Give someone a smile, give them money, give them a moment – when you have the capacity to do so… give: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8QV6ffjIYU


11. Ubuntu is a Nguni Bantu term meaning “humanity”. It is sometimes translated as “I am because … Language.

12. Very profound, Marianne: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SxGLPVvNjvY

13. Boom!!!

14. And my favourite dance crew are the Desert Dwellers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAuAcC6-5ds

15. This one touches my soul.

I have had faith in intentional communities to transform out planet, it will take something but to me has always been possible.

Today’s playlist is truly eclectic. We begin with Martin Luther King’s most famous speech. Then one of my favourite pop divas, Taylor Swift. An Aussie legend follows, Lee Morgan. Then another of my favourite spoken word giants, Maya Angelou. Back to the 60s or 70s with Bread. Ava Max is the penultimate track, then we finish my favourite dance crew, The Desert Dwellers: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrsTT_-LiPDrKqshrgpwBoPh

So I will complete with my ethos one more time: Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Until we meet afain my dear friends.

What I don’t Know!!!


I have just spent three hours texting on the phone to my ex-partner, and it ended up in the usual Fuck Off. But during that I committed to writing a blog about what I didn’t know, a relative hard task because its about what I don’t know. Areas like how insecure I feel at times and how life confuses me. It seems the previous ones I wrote judging her personality based on my own defensiveness rather than any knowledge. I do not hold this to be totally true but apologise for causing her hurt in writing about her if it caused these feelings.

What do I feel insecure about? Many things: Insecure that I will fail in my new businesses, Insecure that I never feel my deepest emotions, Insecure that I will never respond to a woman in a way she feels worshiped, Insecure that I will always feel unlovable all my life and insecure that I will feel that if I let people get close to me they will reject me.

I am confused by how to meet a lovers needs, I am confused by fitting in, I am confused by feeling all the feels as my anger may get out of control, I am confused by what to do to be a good elder for my community, I am confused at the way the world is governed, it feels so wrong, I am confused by women’s intentions and I am confused by what it takes to find a woman who will love me for who I am.

So what has society said about insecurity and confusion, let’s take a walk down memory lane:

1. I’m not sure if I have as yet.

2. I have all three of these: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oLmYZSu3NCc&list=PL6IfNZf-6l0gKdY4foPph_HTEm3nwrx8x&index=2

3. How many make your list?

4. They were for a while: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THeLVhU53ow&list=PLxXNIlld_SoIPdy-IW_b4ksQWqsfFO7e2&index=22

5. Boom!!!

6. I’m learning this big time, and the things about me that don’t work as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAfyFTzZDMM&list=PLxXNIlld_SoIPdy-IW_b4ksQWqsfFO7e2&index=28

7. This is why finding your perfect partner is so hard, because we all have these.

8. I haven’t as yet: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LXXQLa-5n5w&list=PLxXNIlld_SoIPdy-IW_b4ksQWqsfFO7e2&index=31

9. Not an easy thing to do.

10. Intuition is from innocence, Insecurity from your darkest places: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ocDlOD1Hw9k&list=PLxXNIlld_SoIPdy-IW_b4ksQWqsfFO7e2&index=27&bpctr=1600577394

11. Hit the pause button and turn it onto play.

12. When this happens in your life it is a grand declaration: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GXoZLPSw8U8&list=PLxXNIlld_SoIPdy-IW_b4ksQWqsfFO7e2&index=26

13. Quite a broad recipe of circumstances of which insecurity is but one.

14. Not this takes something to meet on an equal plain: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYa1eI1hpDE&list=PLxXNIlld_SoIPdy-IW_b4ksQWqsfFO7e2&index=30

15. I plead guilty to this.

I wish to add some words by Jeanette LeBlanc, they relate to the writing of this:

Write the truth of yourself. As you know it. Right Now. In this exact moment and only this moment. Make your words sing with the hope of you , with the want of you, with the very blood and bones and guts of you Select the lines that speak your heart. Your sex. Your sacred. Spill yourself into this paragraph as if lives depend on it. Because your lives – every last one – do.

Today’s playlist is all pop diva’s except for the opening number. Gnash starts us off followed by Jess Glynne. Three of the biggies follow Christine Aguilera, Beyonce and Pink. Cobie Caillat is the penultimate diva and we finish with Taylor Swift: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrsm9HO0oD7BenIjEVeZoRGT

When the world is willing to recognise its insecurities and confusion we will be able to recognise that Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included will have a chance. My new tribe: Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humanity has this as its ethos, if you would like to join here is the link: https://bit.ly/2ERbjc9. Until we meet again my dear friends.

Words aren’t Enough To Convey How Much I Miss You.


I have begun an amazing journey with one of the best Spoken Word artists in Australia if not the world Fleassy Malay, it’s about public speaking and is called Rise: Access to the journey. Fleassy has a  spoken word performance Witches, Fleassy’s inspiring poem on women’s empowerment, reached 1,000,000 views in 3 days.  It currently sits at over 2,600,000 views in less than one year: Witches.

Truth is Fleassy’s power used to scare the shit out of me, as when she performed she stood in her power, something I had sought for over 60 years and until this year, failed to achieve. Each week of the course I am falling more deeply in love with what gifts she has to offer the world. Each week we have a group Zoom call, this week it was on giving and receiving gifts. I belong to the tribe of the Givers and am incredibly naff at the latter. Each person shared their own version of how they perform them, each one was unique.

So I went in search of my quotes on the subject, not surprisingly there are thousands more on giving than there are on receiving. I think the ones I have chosen display this quite well, let’s begin the journey:

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1. It doesn’t say you have to create a cycle of giving and receiving that never ends.

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2. The red words are the important ones: The law of Giving and Receiving.

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3. Self Care is always an essential part of the recipe though.

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4. Dame Freya Madeline Stark DBE was an Anglo-Italian explorer and travel writer. She wrote more than two dozen books on her travels in the Middle East and Afghanistan as well as several autobiographical works and essays. She was one of the first non-Arabs to travel through the southern Arabian Desert. I imagine that she would have had to be a maven at receiving given the cultural conversations of the time in that part of the world: Sweet Child of Mine. 

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5. Love the name, Peace Pilgrim, and her ethos.

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6. And yes, they rhyme: Treasure. 

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7. The names a little bit clouded, but what a beautiful quote.

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8. This is exactly what we discussed today: Superwoman.

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9. How good are you at actually asking for receiving help, let alone a gift?

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10. From Little Things, big things grow: That magnificent song.

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11. Yes, it can fulfil your dreams.

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12. Bit obscure, but I love the colours: Singing In The Rain.

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13. One of my top ten on the net, I have 5,000 groups, so that says something. if you don’t know him, Google time.

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14. Loretta Young was an American actress. Starting as a child actress, she had a long and varied career in film from 1917 to 1953. She won the 1948 Academy Award for Best Actress for her role in the 1947 film The Farmer’s Daughter and received an Oscar nomination for her role in Come to the Stable in 1949. Young moved to the relatively new medium of television, where she had a dramatic anthology series, The Loretta Young Show, from 1953 to 1961. The series earned three Emmy Awards, and was re-run successfully on daytime TV and later in syndication. In the 1980s, Young returned to the small screen and won a Golden Globe for her role in Christmas Eve in 1986: Nobody’s Perfect.

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15. The final lesson, there’s that asking word again. Go on, you can do it.

I’m sure as I go through the excellent material provided by Fleassy to transform my listening and ability in the arena of Public Speaking I will fall more deeply in love with what this course has to offer, by the way, it is online so any of you can sign up, we have a few Americans already.

How could I not start the playlist with Spoken Word, so Deepak Chopra leads off followed by The Gunners. Some pop from Bruno Mars and Alicia Keys fill the next two slots. My most ever chosen Playlist song is next, an Aussie classic by Paul Kelly and Missy Higgins. We finish with two uniquely diverse artists, Hollywoods Gene Kelly, and the pop world artificially created Hannah Montana: Words aren’t Enough to Convey How Much I Miss You

So to our beloved group of humans on the Rise journey, I wish you Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

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I miss your Stupid Face!!!


Put a brave face on, she’ll be right. I’m sure we all have had this said to us at some time in our lives when we are reacting in a not so happy way to the events that are going on in our lives at that exact moment. Our face expresses what is going on for us moment to moment, we cannot hide it from the world: Joy, Grief, Lust, Love all are revealed.

Children are especially good at this, most of the time their faces are filled with wonder, yet as we age we learn new faces to put on, lets have a look at what people have to say about this phenomenon:

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1. What is your game face? Happy Face, Serious Face, Wonderment Face, there are many to choose from.

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2. The dark night of the Soul moment, this moment for me is when I nearly got sacked from my job for not charging connection fees for fellow staff when I was the Union rep. in am extended pay dispute with our employer. The Area manager threatened me, my direct boss said he would go to the media with it and the threat disappeared magically. Here’s some Beast songs : Not what you think!!

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3. When you are scowling do you look beautiful? 

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4. definition of Proverb a short, well-known pithy saying, stating a general truth or piece of advice – synonyms: saying · adage · saw · maxim · axiom · motto . Here’s my favourite song about dating : Chasing Cars.

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5. Possibly the most famous quote about kittens in the world, I’m sure you are putting on your kitten smile as you read this!!

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6. You can’t be serious , can you. We all have one of these for those moments we want them to get the point we are putting across. The best Face song ever written.

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7. This is why I love Oprah Winfrey, she never does the latter. Yes, I got the Oprah reference in again, Yay!!

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8. Obvious song for an obvious statement : Instant Karma.

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9. Marilyn Monroe (born Norma Jeane Mortenson; June 1, 1926 – August 5, 1962) was an American actress and model. Famous for playing “dumb blonde” characters, she became one of the most popular sex symbols of the 1950s, emblematic of the era’s attitudes towards sexuality. Although she was a top-billed actress for only a decade, her films grossed $200 million by the time of her unexpected death in 1962.She continues to be considered a major popular culture icon.

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10. You can be a lover in a one night stand, you cannot walk side by side as friends.That’s what friends are for.

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11. The king and queen of the airwaves, turn it off, and go for your friends when your problems raise their ugly heads.

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12. When we affect another’s face to break out in a smile, that is when we are at our best: Walking on Sunshine.

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13. Not really about faces, but if you live your life by this motto, you will have lead a great life.

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14. As I mentioned earlier we build up a collection of faces to cover our inner child’s wonderment with life, do you work on removing them so you can return to those moments: Baby I love your Way!!

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15. The cute dog and silly quote one left to the end, do we all have a Monday Face?

They say the face reveals all along with the eyes. They can be changed by love and hate, I go for the former every time.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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