My Plan is To……..


There is much discussion as to whether you can lead a balanced life and succeed in the higher echelons of leadership. In his excellent book Leaders eat Last, Simon Sinek points out that not it is only possible it is in fact desirable if you are looking for an efficiently run company.

A leader who uses the top down management approach these days looks fated for the scrap heap. During the GFC of 2007 to 2008 fifty percent of America’s banks failed mainly due to their culture being based on making the holy dollar to the point that they had made some very unwise decisions in chasing larger and larger profits. Businesses that were more balanced in their cultures were able to survive due to the loyalty of their staff.

So what does a balanced life look like, let’s mosey on down that trail:

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1. We create as much information every two days as we did in the entire year of 2003. I think this means that the chances of us doing everything have long gone by the way.

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2. The near first female POTUS points to your job title is not the be all and end all of what provides a satisfactory life: Get a Job.

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3. Love Thomas Merton, didn’t know he was a Catholic priest until just now. A Trappist monk of the Abbey of Gethsemani, Kentucky, he was a poet, social activist, and student of comparative religion.

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4. What a living example Eat , Pray, Love is of this beautiful quote: I’m not in Love.

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5. Star of 9 to 5, what a way to make a living, don’t have this be the major focus of your life and forget your dreams.

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6. Number five seems a tad out of place from the rest: Who You Are!!

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7. For me being silly and letting loose would be challenging, how about you?

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8. Mindmapping , there are three or four for me that are not in balance at the moment: Mo Bounce.

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9. One of the greatest living philosophers, Ms. Unknown shows us a tactic to inner balance.

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10. Koan or meme, what will I call them today. But remember to watch and spend time in today’s beauty: You are so Beautiful to Me.

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11. Attitude: when someone makes a settled way of thinking or feeling about something. … For example: You can tell a person’s attitude just by watching his body posture if he likes something or not. Aptitude: It’s a natural ability to do something or a natural tendency.

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12. The greatest skill in  life one must get rid of if they wish to lead a balanced life: Confessions of a Perfectionist.

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13. We have all seen that cartoon  of life as we hope it will go versus how it actually occurs, we spend a lot of time undoing knots.

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14. SETH GODIN is the author of 18 books that have been bestsellers around the world and have been translated into more than 35 languages. He writes about the post-industrial revolution, the way ideas spread, marketing, quitting, leadership and most of all, changing everything: Holiday.

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15. I love this list, it has helped balance my life on a daily basis.

I actually have terrible balance on my left side, I can’t do the Tai Chi white crane at all, perhaps I need to look at what has it out of kilter.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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To move forward, you have to give Back!!


So what do you think about others? Gabby Bernstein in her book May Cause Miracles wrote the following Morning Reflection: Inner Guide, I call on you for help. I know I have chosen separation over love. For today, I choose to see everyone as equal and release my fear to your care. I wholeheartedly welcome your guidance. I ask that you teach me to perceive everyone as equal, and to see everyone as love. Teach me love through every holy encounter.

I live from five core desired feelings, one of them is H.O.P.E. – Helping Other People Evolve, because I realised a long time ago that my life was a whole lot better with empowered people in it rather than disempowered people.

So has there been much said about the empowerment of others over the centuries, let’s journey down that path:

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1. Your acts of kindness may not make front page news, but for the person they are done for, they will always be remembered.

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2. HHDL, the man who lives this the best on the planet, gets our prime purpose down pat: He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother.

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3. Didn’t expect ot see a POTUS making this list, but what a beautiful image.

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4. And how could I write about this subject without including the Queen of giving, Oprah Winfrey: Helping Others.

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5. When someone ask you to help them get to where they want to, and together you achieve that, the shared joy is palpable.

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6. And the rest of HHDL quote, don’t hurt others: Never going to give you Up.

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7. Jet Li, actor and martial arts practitioner calls to us to believe that we all are one family and our purpose is to help each other.

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8. Looking for your inner self, start doing things for others, the answer will come quickly: The best thing about me is You.

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9. Actress and Humanitarian, Audrey Hepburn appeared in fewer films as her life went on, devoting much of her later life to UNICEF. She had contributed to the organisation since 1954, then worked in some of the poorest communities of Africa, South America and Asia between 1988 and 1992. She was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom in recognition of her work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador in December 1992. A month later, Hepburn died of appendiceal cancer at her home in Switzerland at the age of 63.

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10. Hang around with people who are up to making a difference with their lives, remember eagles fly above the clouds: Fly like an Eagle.

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11. The motto is, you can’t do it on your own.

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12. Prioritise your life, take with one, give with the other: Dancing on my Own.

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13. Powerful Image, says it all.

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14. Such a healthy lifestyle too: I was Here.

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15. My mum need her torch at night so she can read the clock on her wall, what will you use your torch of kindness for?

Kindness created me kind. I come from love and kindness and I know this is who I am. Today I choose to remember my truth and share it with the world. Today I will spread loving-kindness to all those I encounter.

This affirmation is to remind you of who you are, a being of love.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Note to Self, You Deserve This!!


You do not have to be good,

You do not have to walk on your knees

for a hundred miles through the desert repenting

You only have to let the soft animal of your body

Love what it Loves – Mary Oliver

Taken from the Deserving Chapter in Danielle LaPorte’s brilliant workbook, The Desire Map, the first page ends with Deserving and Worthiness – these are the notions that get to the pulse of our consciousness and self-esteem.

What do you believe you deserve in life,, and where did those beliefs come from, how old were you when you made these decisions? Lets go on a journey  into what we deserve in our lives:

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1. For those who thought atheism was a new invention, Robert Green “Bob” Ingersoll (August 11, 1833 – July 21, 1899) was an American lawyer, a Civil War veteran, political leader, and orator of the United States during the Golden Age of Free Thought, noted for his broad range of culture and his defense of agnosticism. He was nicknamed “The Great Agnostic“.

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2. Remember, It’s their stuff not yours, go on with those deserving of your company: Bad Company.

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3. They make you pick up and dispose of dog poo, don’t not do the same for your relationships.

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4. Written 2,300 years ago, this quote on dignity still rings true in our  instant gratification society, do not hand out honours in your life cheaply: Greatest Love of All.

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5. Remember, if the door doesn’t open, it’s not meant for you, you deserve better.

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6. You keep throwing yourself against that wall, because your head tells you too. It takes a while to hear your heart whispering, No darling, this one’s not for you:Wake Up.

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7. Don’t give into behaviour that belittles a relationship, stay inside the strength of your character.

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8. I think they left be out of this quote, I’m a proofreader by trade. There are theories that the gut is your second brain, I guess I kind of believe that: Trust Your Gut.

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9. Look in the mirror, there’s your saviour, you can do it!!

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10. If you are their option B or C, time to move on: Options.

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11. I am starting to lead Sacred Love workshops, the ability to tell those sacred stories that you keep for that special person, they may be good or bad, but you know what I am talking about.

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12. We are deserving in every language and culture on the planet: Dan Balan.

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13. You deserve this, rekindle that light within you.

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14. Remember when handing the love out, the first place it need to exist is in the person giving it, Respect thyself: Respect.

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15. And finally stencil this on your psyche and perhaps put it on the fridge, you deserve it. 

You deserve: eye contact, smiles in the morning, food made with pure intention, clean drinking water – fresh air, Hello, Please, Thankyou, time to think about it,  a chance to show what you are made of, a second chance, an education, health care, including dental, multiple orgasms, weekends off, eight hours of sleep, play before work, to change your mind, to say no, to say yes, to have your deepest needs met, to be seen and to be loved for who you really are. Thanks for this list, Danielle, it’s beautiful

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Like Water in the Desert!!


I took part in an eldership ceremony yesterday, my friend Gabriella requested to be admitted into the tribe of elders in our community. We sang her into the room with the first verse of Amazing Grace, it was the only one we all knew. Then we gave her our own personal blessing and welcomed her into her new role.

It was extremely moving and I thought I would write about Eldership today as I am 63 since last Monday I have the right to do this as I hold myself as an elder too. I looked up Eldership quotes and it seems you have to be a Christian to become one out there in the big, wide , world. This was not how Gabby or I hold Eldership so the quotes for today come from a different space, leadership in one’s community.

Lets us journey down the Eldership path:

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1. John Quincy Adams  – July 11, 1767 – February 23, 1848) was an American statesman who served as a diplomat, United States Senator, member of the House of Representatives, and was the sixth President of the United States from 1825 to 1829. He was a member of the Federalist, Democratic-Republican, National Republican, and later the Anti-Masonic and Whig parties, thats a lot of parties.. He was the son of President John Adams and Abigail Adams and thus contributed to the formation of the Adams political family. He served as a leader for his whole life.

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2. To me eldership does not get handed to you just because of your age. This statement from Gandhi is more to the point of why you do: Be the Change.

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3. These are the wise things I hope that I pass on as an elder in my community.

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4. As elders you will have made many mistakes in your life, the wisdom bit is how you tell the people you are advising to deal with them: Learning from your Mistakes.

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5. And remember red stands out more than white, no drab fare for the elders of the world.

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6. Winner of the Nobel Peace Prize, Albert lived to the ripe old age of 90. He was 77 when he won his Nobel Prize, an elder leading by example: Lead by Example.

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7. They say hate will never solve anything. To me negativity is a form of hate. People do not come to their elders for negativity.

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8. This reminds me of the two wolves story for some reason, that it depends on which story you are telling yourself that counts: Making Progress.

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9. By the time we reach Eldership I’m sure we have covered all of these.

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10. The cute quote of the day, fairy penguins, Aaw: The Penguin Song.

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11. Essence is on there, The essence that you live through your life may grant you Eldership, and then again maybe not.

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12. There are often times during our lives that our abilities seem to slip to a level that we later regret, they can become wise stories to tell as elders so others don’t make the same mistakes: Talking to Strangers.

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13. Eldership is in pointing out that it’s hard to be somewhere else than where you are.

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14. Sometimes Eldership is not words, it is just holding the space with silence allowing the others to work out what they need too: Some Eldership words from Alan.

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15. Yes, even Elders are novices at that exact point of time, the new age they are.

Enjoy the little things in life because one day you will look back and realise they were the big things. I love the song from little things big things grow, such as Eldership.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Forgive yourself for not Knowing!!


I was about to continue reading Danielle LaPorte’s magnificent book White Hot Truth when I discovered I had finished it and what remained was the index, I loved this book so much I considered reading it anyway. here is a link to Danielle’s page so you can get this book: Clarity for your life. I have been choosing subjects out of the book for my blogs as I have been reading it over the last couple of weeks. In the last few pages Danielle talks about Self-Compassion, I love this subject so that is what we will discuss today. Let’s walk down this sacred path:

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1. I am in a year long training program called the Activators training program which is to have you live from Essence during your days. Katie’s quote relates to what we practice on a daily basis.

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2. Why is this happening to me? I was discussing how does one have integrity with my mentor yesterday and this subject came up. That how powerfully you could be in the moment was your level of integrity: Divinity.

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3. At times in our life we need to be sad, angry even extremely pissed off. And yes, that is good for us.

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4. Coco Chanel used to talk about wearing more than one string of pearls. Why wear one if you can wear two, or something to that effect. I think that one string of pearls is just fine. But that’s because my pearls are black, hers were white. How many strings of self compassion pearls are you willing to grant yourself: String of Pearls

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5. Do you feel that, the rising of the sun within’s rays. That’s called transformation.

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6. Time to be that goody two shoes you have always wanted to be. Service, Kindness, Love, Generosity, etc.etc.etc: Try.

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7. Activators, this is your lesson for today.

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8. Big hug for yourself, make sure you have given consent: Pretty Hurts.

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9. Set your controls for the heart of the sun. no hold on, turn around and set them for your heart.

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10. You, yourself, the face in the mirror, the one they are talking too, they’re included: Seeing the Goodness.

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11. I am always talking to myself, I think everybody does. it takes something to turn that voice down. Be it a daily meditation practice like loving kindness, I find that having a practice changes the quality of the message to self love.

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12. Getting to know and accepting yourself, beautiful: F**king Perfect.

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13. Gautama Buddha (c. 563 BCE/480 BCE – c. 483 BCE/400 BCE), also known as Siddhārtha Gautama , Shakyamuni Buddha or simply the Buddha, after the title of Buddha, was an ascetic (śramaṇa) and sage, on whose teachings Buddhism was founded.He is believed to have lived and taught mostly in the eastern part of ancient India sometime between the sixth and fourth centuries.

Gautama taught a Middle Way between sensual indulgence and the severe asceticism found in the śramaṇa movement common in his region. 

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14. Time to accept so you can create space for something else, your life is worth a great deal more than that perceived negative thought you just had: Firework.

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15. Remember having to take permission slips to school when you went on school excursions. Guess what, It’s your turn to write them for yourself, make them beautiful.

As Danielle finishes her book – May your beauty dawn on you. May your pure faith light the way. May all be so blessed. And hey… slow down if you need to, but don’t ever stop.

Namaste until next time my dear friends

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Forever is only the Beginning!!


You can trust the promise of this opening: Unfurl yourself into the grace of beginning. That is at one with your life’s desire – John O’donohue” 

If you do not know who John O’Donohue is check out his brilliant book on Anam Cara, celtic for soul friend. My friend Em graced me with declaring me one of her Anam Cara’s – I had not heard the term or distinction until that moment but it explained a lot of people in my life when I researched it a bit. Begin to check out where these people are in your life because you are important, you are incredible, you are loved, your presence is needed here.

You can have a new beginning in every moment, let’s take a journey through them:

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1. We get to add the colour to the film of our lives.

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Aurelius was a Roman emperor in the second century. He was also one of the wisest men to have lived on our planet and wrote words that are read today still: Today my life Begins.

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3. We are at the starting line of life moment to moment, they have fired the gun, time to go.

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4. Imagine if we saw the universe instead of blue or grey skies, it would alter or perception of what is possible in life pretty quickly: You Can’t Touch This.

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5. Get all that you know out of your head, and then you can begin anew, a fresh beginning.

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6. The More effort you put in, the easier it will become. It eventually will flow as you want it to: Push It.

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7. Seneca the Younger (c. 4 BC – AD 65), fully Lucius Annaeus Seneca and also known simply as Seneca , was a Roman Stoic/philosopher, statesman, dramatist, and—in one work—humorist of the Silver Age of Latin literature. Unfortunately he was born in the time of the Roman emperor Nero, the fiddle as rome burned one who made him take is own life for being a suspect in an assassination attempt.

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8. 4E’s that make a difference on an ongoing basis: Life’s what you make It.

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9. definitely the most well known of the quotes I have chosen today.

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10. You can’t change the events of the past, may be you can change the effect it has on you by focusing on what can be: Company.

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11. The seed becomes a mighty tree, says it all really.

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12. They make fantasy films about the other possibility. If we get this our lives transform: Song for a new Beginning.

 

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13. I love the last line. Who are you when you are with people, do you ring a new beginning each time, or is it based on past memories?

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14. Are you prepared to be  pissed off to allow new beginnings on your life. To face that which you thought was unfaceable: Just like a Pill.

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15. And here is a plan for your new beginning.

You deserve – eye contact, smiles in the morning, food made with pure intention, clean drinking water, fresh air, Hello, Please , Thankyou, time to think about it, a chance to show them what you’re made of, a second chance, an education, health care, including dental, multiple orgasms, weekends off, eight hours of sleep, play before work, to change your mind, to say no, to say yes, to have your deepest needs met, to be seen, to be loved for who you really are.

You deserve all of this – and more –  just because you showed up to life.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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I wear my letters on my front!!


Just got back from a weekend retreat with my mentor Arion Light: The Activation School. We never know what new surprising empowerment will be served up. This weekend it was an initiation. So what does society define an initiation as, here’s the Google definition:

initiation
noun
  1. 1.
    the action of admitting someone into a society or group, typically with a ritual.
    “rituals of initiation”
    synonyms: beginning, starting, commencement

  2. 2.
    the action of beginning something.
    “the initiation of legal proceedings”
    synonyms: introduceadmitletinductinstallinstateincorporateordaininvestenlistenrolrecruit, sign up, swear in;

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    I think ordain is the closest to what I felt on the weekend because it felt like being introduced to a whole new cut at life. So how has society commented on the  noble art of initiation over the years, let’s have a look:

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    1. It is, or it isn’t: why would you choose the latter, yet I know I do. Inition helped me greatly with hanging around with it is.

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    2. My friend says she became another person when this happened for her at a very late stage in her life, from the mothers I know there seems to be a lot of truth in it: I Got You.

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    3. I’m not sure if we all felt this at the end of the ceremony, but the sense of love within the room was palpable.

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    4. They say a life that is spent in reacting and responding to day to day situations and circumstances is stressful, let’s initiate life from today: Shape of You.

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    5. It’s a lifetime journey, my dear friends.

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    6. That’s why I and the participants are in the Activators program, the love of learning how to live a better life: Good Life.

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    7. One of the first spiritual books I read,The Way of the peaceful Warrior. Dan Millman was a world class gymnast when he had a horrific motorcycle accident. The book is about his journey to recovery with his teacher.

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    8. We were just waking up who we already were: The Crazy Ones.

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    9. Within first, then the without joins in happily.

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    10. I wonder what I and you have written on your internal sticky notes: Song for the Inner Child.

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    11. We weren’t learning how to initiate this, ours was about love.

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    12. This was part of my initiation, I spent a lot of time having the thought, WTF is going on: Full of Shit.

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    13. The initiation for me was to release the last two statements.

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    14. You can’t know it all, yes, he and I are talking to you: In case you didn’t know everything.

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    15. Finally from one of the greatest philosophers to walk the planet, something that must be included in any effective initiation: Gratitude or celebration as we practice it in the Activators Program.

    We were asked to make a final statement at the end of the weekend, mine were rapturous contentment

    Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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