I didn’t change, I just found Myself!!


The title of this blog comes from one of the great musician/philosophers, Bob Marley. Today I would like to put lists within a list, one of them being quite long. They are the list of lessons for finding your strength in hard times. There are forty of them so it will take a while to ponder them all. They come from my friends Marc and Angel Chernoff, I have the honour of being a Facebook friend of Angel. here they are:

You are not what happened to you in the past, Focus on what you have, not on what you haven’t. Struggling with problems is a natural part of growing. it’s OK to fall apart for a while. Life is fragile, sudden, and shorter than it often seems. You will fail sometimes. You have the capacity to create your own happiness. Emotionally separate yourself from your problems. Don’t make a problem bigger than it is. Everything that happens is a life lesson. View every challenge as an educational assignment. Things change, but the sun always rises the next day. Giving up and moving on are two very different things. Distance your self from negative people. Perfect relationships don’t exist. You must love yourself too. Don’t let others make decisions for you. Resentment hurts you, not them. You’re not alone. Everyone has problems. You still have a lot to be thankful for. Consciously nurture your inner hope. It’s better to be hurt by the truth than comforted by a lie. It’s hard to tell how close you are to success. Not getting what you want can be a blessing. Laughter is the best medicine for stress. Mistake are important to make. Worrying is literally a waste of energy. Even when it’s hard to move, take small steps forward. There will always be people that dislike you. You are better off without some people you thought you needed. You are ONLY competing against yourself. You can’t control everything that happens to you. Life is NOT easy. Your future is spotless. You are not trapped: you just need to re-learn a few things. Everything in life is two-sided. You always have a choice. Let others in when you are in a dark place. If you ask negative questions, you will get negative answers and The end is a new beginning.

Pretty cool list. But I wish to ponder how society deals with our strengths, sometimes we have to go through a lot to realise them. It’s a common human frailty, a thing you will notice in the quotes I have chosen as examples, here we go:

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1. We all feel better in summer under the sun. Remember to use winter to recuperate and allow your inner strength to shine when it needs to.

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2. Reminds me of the last few kilometres of the first marathon I ever ran. I wondered why all the people around me were talking to themselves, and then realised I had said that out aloud: Not Afraid.

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3.  My name is Brigitte Nicole I am a writer, specifically quotes and self-help material. I dedicate myself to providing help through my writings to people who are struggling with life. My goal is for my page to revolve mine around my writings, which I fondly call “the art of words”, for I believe in the power of words to induce change personally and globally.

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4. Heart, mind and spirit. In the training program I am in called Warriors of Love it is your seed essence: Spirit Bird.

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5. Just your best, it may be as simple as sleeping all day some days.

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6. The day after mothers day, I am reminded of how my mother held on for three months without really eating at the end of her precious life. How much did we put our mothers through: Superwoman.

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7. You are here for your unique reason, some days you are closer to it than others.

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8. A bit like the perfect relationship does not exist, even the one with yourself. Remember to look beyond the imperfections: Perfect Day.

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9. The honour of not hiding your vulnerabilities anymore, your life empowered by the strength that is given to you by this not so simple action.

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10. I have been asked to list my perfect life several times, I always seem to leave out the pain that life included in its recipe, Oops: My Immortal.

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11. How many times have you been broken? Congratulations, you are still here, that strength within got you through, Yay!!

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12. There will always be things that happen in our lives that as young innocent children we could never imagine. Well done for still being here: Imagine.

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13. As a qualified proofreader, it amazes me that they can create these images and leave words out. But you get the drift without the to.

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14. Mahatma was a dude: Everybody Hurts.

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15. American-born author Aberjhani (born July 8, 1957, in Savannah, Georgia) is a historian, columnist, novelist, poet, and editor. Although well known for his blog articles on literature and politics, he is perhaps best known as co-author of Encyclopedia of the Harlem Renaissance and author of The River of Winged Dreams. The encyclopedia won a Choice Academic Title Award in 2004.

Everyone you meet, everything you encounter, etc. They’re all part of the learning experience we call ‘life’ Never forget to acknowledge the lesson, especially when things don’t go your way. if you don’t get a job you want or a relationship doesn’t work, it only means something better is out there waiting. And the lesson you just learned is the first step towards it.

The music today begins with some rap from Eminem, then the beautiful Spirit Bird from Xavier Rudd, followed by Alicia Keys anthem to women. Back to the 70’s with Lou Reed and Jools Holland, followed by a little bit of rock with Evanescence. Then hope for the world with John Lennon and finishing with the powerful pop divas, Kelly Clarkson and Pink.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Put on your Perspectacles!!


The quote in the empowering book Time for my Life: 365 Stepping Stones by Thea Westra for today is as follows: Goals help you keep in perspective what’s really important so you do not spend all of your time doing what seems important – Nido Qubein. Nido is an American Lebanese University president and philanthropist who has donated over $10 million dollars in his lifetime to education. He has not lost sight of his goal to his seemingly important day to day urgent tasks.

How do you stay in perspective when it comes to your purpose, your goals, your why in life? Another way of asking it is How can you be more effectively making use of your time? And how has society related to it over the years, Here’s a few takes at it:

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1. How many people do you have in your life who would give you everything?

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This piece of wisdom is from the First Century A.D. Marcus was a Roman emperor who sought the meaning of life and wrote an excellent book called Memoirs about it: Human.

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3. I think I have wasted a few years of my 63 years not doing this, worrying about things that I couldn’t at the time change or do anything effective to change my circumstances, nice one Mary.

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4. Too simple: Mean.

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5. Remember when we were kids and we were going to astronauts or veterinarians, why did we change our perspective and stop looking?

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6. They wrote a song about this a long, long time ago:  “The Impossible Dream (The Quest)” is a popular song composed by Mitch Leigh, with lyrics written by Joe Darion. It was written for the 1965 musical Man of La Mancha. It is the main song from the musical and became its most popular hit. The song is sung all the way through once in the musical by Don Quixote as he stands vigil over his armor, in response to Aldonza (Dulcinea)’s question about what he means by “following the quest”. It is reprised partially three more times – the last by prisoners in a dungeon as Miguel de Cervantes and his manservant mount the drawbridge – like prison staircase to face trial by the Spanish Inquisition. It was awarded the Contemporary Classics Award from the Songwriter’s Hall of Fame: The Impossible Dream.

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7. Love and Respect for All – Everyone Included.

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8. Are we all star seed, energy in different forms. If we vibrate what we want on a daily basis, the universe listens: Across the Universe.

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9. This makes me think of his Holiness’s statement about If we really listen, and not just wait to reply we actually might learn something new.

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10. Amazing, really: Nowhere Man.

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11. We are all unique individuals, love that about yourself.

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12. And it’s also one of the great medicinal plants on the planet: Dandelion.

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13. I remember The Hour of Power evangelist TV show from the 70’s that Robert Schuller hosted, seems he did it for 50 years until 2010. We all have fears though, I find facing them is the most useful way of lessening their influence over my daily life.

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14. How we are training our young folk more and more these days. Self love is the reverse of this: I was Here.

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15. Beckett was awarded the 1969 Nobel Prize in Literature “for his writing, which—in new forms for the novel and drama—in the destitution of modern man acquires its elevation”. He was elected the first Saoi of Aosdána in 1984 by The Irish nation, the ultimate accolade a creative artist can receive in that country.

Martin Luther Kings distinction around perceptiveness Somebodiness’ which is a state of self dignity and worthiness, despite what others may think. It is a deep inner resolve that nobody can convince me that I am not somebody sums up how I feel about this subject well. Your perspective is just as valuable as anyone else’s, never forget this.

Music this blog has three song’s from the 1960’s , two pop diva’s and two people I have never heard of, that’s why I love what YouTube throws up for my requests. Rag ‘n Bone Man., Taylor Swift, Andy Williams, Rufus Wainwright, The Beatles, Tevin Campbell and Beyonce.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Change always comes bearing Gifts!!


”  People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives: J. Michael Straczynski

Wayne Dyer said all excuses are misalignment. Words like “difficult,” “risky,” “can’t,” “too weak,” “too dumb” and “too complicated” do not apply to the divine mind. I  urge you to reharmonize with energy that can do anything and everything, for this is your original nature. The title I chose is based on my mentor’s statement that everything is a gift, that we just choose which one to assess as positive versus negative. Yet everything that happens to us gives us an opportunity to look at our dreams and how it affects them and what are we meant to learn from it on the path to them.

So why does society love making excuses, what does it say about this maligned practice that  holds us back, let’s take a journey:

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1. My friend Emeli runs workshops to get people to discover their Why in life, she says that until you have discovered this that your what you do will never truly satisfy you.

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2. Which side of the coin do you live by?: Come and get It.

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3. Choose the coloured path, It’s where your dreams live.

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4. Get that crayon out and cross those excuses off your list of thoughts for the day, let’s go: I’ve got no Excuses.

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5. A prime example of when there is a cost when excuses take over from the original intent.

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6. Actions deliver,  words do not. They quickly become excuses and lies if the actions do not match them: Bring me to Life.

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7. It’s time to stop saying I would if…….

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8. Miraculously every person has the same 24 hours in a day, what you get done totally goes down to what matters to you and how hard you are willing to fight for it: No Matter What.

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9. Another way of saying it is, Fake it until you make It.

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10. Dreams have a beginning , a journey , and a completion. We should not assume that it is going to be a smooth journey the whole way: Ain’t no mountain high Enough.

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11. They are called your dreams, that’s why they live in your heart.

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12. Remove these excuses from your vocabulary and your dreams will have a chance: Get Up, Stand Up.

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13. The world’s greatest philosopher, Unknown reminds us to return to the source when the doubts creep in.

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14. The longer you keep saying it and not delivering with your actions, the greater the chance of this happening becomes: Little Lies.

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15. Earl Nightingale  was an American radio speaker and author, dealing mostly with the subjects of human character development, motivation, excellence and meaningful existence. Nightingale was the author of The Strangest Secret, which economist Terry Savage has termed “…one of the great motivational books of all time“.

So how will you pass your time, going for your dreams, or listening to the reasons why not? It’s your choice in the end.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Note to Self : Stop Expecting!!


” The reason many people in our society are miserable, sick , and highly stresses is because of an unhealthy attachment to things they have no control over.” – Steve Maraboli

Luminita Saviuc states that in every instance of transformation, the transformative insight was always one that led her to letting go , surrendering and giving up, in the best sense possible. And perhaps out of all the self-sabotaging habits of thought and behaviour, the one that’s far too common is our desire to control aspects of our reality that are actually beyond our control.

I can speak from experience that staying in control can be costly, as I have experienced several mental health periods in my life which I fought seeking the help that I needed to restore the balance in my life.

So how do we relate to control in our society. let’s take a peek:

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1. This reminds me of the Activation work where we get in touch with our Essence in life I do with my mentor Arion Light: Link to the Source.

 

2. The history of  psychedelics dates back tens of thousands of years, it is only in the past 100 years that there has been scientific and counterculture interest in these substances. They were originally used to obtain transcendental experiences: Purple Haze.

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3. This is one form of control it would be a great thing to let go of, refusing to get back up.

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4. The soul is harder to hear when you are controlling what enters your heart: Keeping Your Head UP.

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5. To achieve this those mental controls of fear and anxiety must go.

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6. When the controls are gone, we can sing relax don’t do it: Frankie sings it.

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7. And yet, there are profoundly powerful acts of control that we need in our life.

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8. We often lose control when we just don’t want to wait anymore, and say that’s enough. Remember that what people talk about on their death beds is what they regret usually, not what they celebrate: No Regrets.

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9. What would our lives be like if we were so in control that we were incapable of giving back?

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10. Sarah Dessen is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of over a dozen novels for teens, which have received numerous awards and rave reviews. Her books have been published in over thirty countries and have sold millions of copies worldwide: You’re the one that I Want.

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11. Ah, the women who introduced the term The Work to the world. Another pearl of wisdom: Let Life live you – It does anyway.

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12. Hard to drive your car of dreams with four flat tires, isn’t it.: Flat Tire.

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13. Or even not knowing what you don’t know!!

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14. A way to make sure that people stop relating to you from a position of power: Stop Complaining.

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15. A possibility if we set our controls for the heart of the sun.

” So don’t be frightened, dear friend, if a sadness confronts you larger than you have ever known, casting its shadow all over you do. You must think that something is happening within you, and remember that life has not forgotten you; it holds you in its hand and will not let you fall. Why would you want to exclude from your life any uneasiness, any pain, any depression, since you don’t know what work they are accomplishing within you? – Rainer Maria Rilke

Namaste until next time, my dear friends

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To move forward, you have to give Back!!


So what do you think about others? Gabby Bernstein in her book May Cause Miracles wrote the following Morning Reflection: Inner Guide, I call on you for help. I know I have chosen separation over love. For today, I choose to see everyone as equal and release my fear to your care. I wholeheartedly welcome your guidance. I ask that you teach me to perceive everyone as equal, and to see everyone as love. Teach me love through every holy encounter.

I live from five core desired feelings, one of them is H.O.P.E. – Helping Other People Evolve, because I realised a long time ago that my life was a whole lot better with empowered people in it rather than disempowered people.

So has there been much said about the empowerment of others over the centuries, let’s journey down that path:

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1. Your acts of kindness may not make front page news, but for the person they are done for, they will always be remembered.

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2. HHDL, the man who lives this the best on the planet, gets our prime purpose down pat: He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother.

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3. Didn’t expect ot see a POTUS making this list, but what a beautiful image.

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4. And how could I write about this subject without including the Queen of giving, Oprah Winfrey: Helping Others.

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5. When someone ask you to help them get to where they want to, and together you achieve that, the shared joy is palpable.

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6. And the rest of HHDL quote, don’t hurt others: Never going to give you Up.

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7. Jet Li, actor and martial arts practitioner calls to us to believe that we all are one family and our purpose is to help each other.

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8. Looking for your inner self, start doing things for others, the answer will come quickly: The best thing about me is You.

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9. Actress and Humanitarian, Audrey Hepburn appeared in fewer films as her life went on, devoting much of her later life to UNICEF. She had contributed to the organisation since 1954, then worked in some of the poorest communities of Africa, South America and Asia between 1988 and 1992. She was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom in recognition of her work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador in December 1992. A month later, Hepburn died of appendiceal cancer at her home in Switzerland at the age of 63.

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10. Hang around with people who are up to making a difference with their lives, remember eagles fly above the clouds: Fly like an Eagle.

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11. The motto is, you can’t do it on your own.

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12. Prioritise your life, take with one, give with the other: Dancing on my Own.

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13. Powerful Image, says it all.

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14. Such a healthy lifestyle too: I was Here.

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15. My mum need her torch at night so she can read the clock on her wall, what will you use your torch of kindness for?

Kindness created me kind. I come from love and kindness and I know this is who I am. Today I choose to remember my truth and share it with the world. Today I will spread loving-kindness to all those I encounter.

This affirmation is to remind you of who you are, a being of love.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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It’s not easy being a Goddess!


What is a mere male doing writing about goddesses? A story, in 2013, after getting over my latest mental health episode I saw that my friend Sun was having a Kirtan with a Kundalini dance session. I ended up doing the door for the event and met Nemone, the Kundalini Dance facilitator and signed up for her eight week course because I sensed it was a way to heal faster.

During this process Nemone mentioned she was going to a retreat in Byron Shire and that I should come along. With $50 in the bank this seemed an impossibility. On the night of the heart chakra dance we had to do it blindfolded and dance to fulfil an intention which seemed impossible, I choose, I will go to the retreat. Imagine my surprise when the sixth email I opened that night was the payment plan offer for the retreat. So I was off to the retreat.

I arrived in the shire and was introduced to the workshop leader, a woman  named Tanishka Tantrika, I felt like I had known her for lifetimes. Over the next 7 days my DNA was transformed. My favourite memory was one participant asked her to repeat something, Tanishka answered not really, her output was so fresh each time. I became and elder and took on personal vows over this period of time,

What I did not know about Tanishka was that she was The Moon Woman who had a 500,000 person following on Facebook. Two online courses later I find her knowledge of god and goddesses unique. She has just released a book on Hay House entitled Goddess Wisdom:  Where to get the book.

So I have chosen 15 goddess quotes, let travel down the path:

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1. I think this is one of the most powerful things that taking on being a goddess allows women: The right to not have to apologize for it.

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2. How you treat a person is how they will relate to you: I hear you Calling

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3. I know many women who have reached this discovery. Thanks for the power you bring to womanhood.

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4. Pretty much sums up the goddesses I know, has anything been left out?: Shake It Off.

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5. And the people who know her knows that too, or face her wrath.

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6. Both men and women can do this as we both have masculine and feminine sides to our soul: You Sexy Thing.

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7. Goddesses can go from Femme Fatales to completely butch, there is no goddess look, it’s who you be.

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8. Written sometime in the 1700 or 1800’s by Goethe acknowledging the power of the goddess to empower the present moment: Song of the Goddess.

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9. Reading Tanishka’s beginning to her journey you would never imagine that she would end up writing a book called Goddess Wisdom.

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10. Goddesses know this to the bottom of their heart’s, the power of the circle: The Earth is my Mother.

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11. Frida knew that these people exist, it sometimes takes a while to find yours.

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12. I woke up like this, booya!: I am the Goddess.

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13. The role of the goddess; to empower people and the planet.

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14. Goddesses see the big picture, for them not the chauvinistic desire to rule the world, she knows better than that: Beltane Fire dance.

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15. Goddesses realise there will be scars along the journey, they triumph over them.

I have a lot to thank my friend Tanishka for, without having met her I would know little of the goddesses and how to recognise one. You have expanded my life tremendously.

Namaste until next time , my dear friends.

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Why don’t you Understand?


One of the most obscure and funny workshops I have done is a jargon workshop. Each person had to do a five minute talk using the jargon of their profession and the other participants had to guess what their profession or career was. The one profession nobody could guess was aeronautical engineer. It made me realise that jargon can be very costly when dealing with people  who do not work in your industry. Little wonder that you see a lot of blank stares from people at shops, online and in government institutions.

So what has been said about the cost of using jargon over the centuries, let’s have a look:

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1. While wading through the whimsies, the puerilities and unintelligent words of many documents to apply for most legal actions we know why lawyers are one of the highest paid professions.

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2. Chesterton is often referred to as the “prince of paradox”. Time magazine has observed of his writing style: “Whenever possible Chesterton made his points with popular sayings, proverbs, allegories—first carefully turning them inside out: Perfect Illusion.

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3. What words does your profession confuse people with?

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4. The curly haired genius , Albert points out why using jargon is not the way to go: One Little Finger.

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5. Mason Cooley (1927 – July 25, 2002) was an American aphorist known for his witty aphorisms. Perhaps he was using some of his own when he wrote this quote.

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6. I think I know what two of these words mean, not sure about the others though: So What.

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7. I am a one on one English tutor to three Chinese mothers, I would not dare do this to them.

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8.I didn’t know Helena began her cosmetic empire in my country. She migrated to Australia at the age of 30 and began her empire in Melbourne  before moving to London: Lay me Down.

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9. Don’t know about this, at least books you can usually understand the words contained in them.

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10. The Irish have a term Anam Cara, it means soul friend, I have the honour of being declared one by a dear friend: Anam Cara.

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11. the dumbing down of society, methinks.

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12. What culture are these words from, do they relate to yours: Instant Karma.

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13. Katherine Anne Porter (May 15, 1890 – September 18, 1980) was a Pulitzer Prize-winning American journalist, essayist, short story writer, novelist, and political activist.  Her 1962 novel Ship of Fools was the best-selling novel in America that year, but her short stories received much more critical acclaim. She is known for her penetrating insight; her work deals with dark themes such as betrayal, death and the origin of human evil.

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14. The recommendation these days is to write blogs, because they personalise events, even for businesses, they are fascinating stories: Amazing Grace story.

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15. The jargon of twenty years ago is now obsolete, if we used it how would we explain the Iphone?

Jargon may be costing you meeting your Anam Cara, cut it out of your arsenal of words.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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