After doing 9 transformational workshops in 2018 it has been a bit quiet on that front this year. Just my first stop year-long training Warriors of Love with the Essence School: For your edification up until now. I have completed a one-day vulnerability workshop and the amazing Awakening Connections. Level Two in the past two weeks. Both provided a new level of being alive. Here is the mission of Awakening Connections:
Have you thought about what areas you have personally developed yourself in in 2018? For me, it has been in the areas of Expanding the Box of my Consciousness and Sexuality. Here are some statements about what may stop you from Personal Development by Marc Chernoff:
- The acquisition of knowledge doesn’t mean you’re growing.
- Growing happens when what you know changes how you live.
- It’s not so much about finding opportunities as it is about creating them.
- No matter How Smart You Are, You Will make Mistakes.
- A good idea without action is nothing at all.
- What we don’t start Today, Won’t be finished Tomorrow.
- If you keep doing what you’re doing, You’ll keep getting what you’re getting.
- There is a lesson in everything you do, and learning the lesson is how you move forward.
- The Harder you work, The luckier you will Become.
- Nobody succeeds all by themselves.
- Being busy and being productive are two different things.
- Being successful is a journey, not a destination.
- Tough Times don’t last, but Tough People do.
- Having a plan, Even a flawed one at first is better than no plan at all.
- It’s uncomfortable to challenge the Status Quo, But it’s worth it.
- Lots of successful people have failed as many times as they have succeeded.
I like the saying by Mae West: You Only Live Once, But If You Do It Right, Once Is Enough. Apologies to the Reincarnationists amongst my readers. Let’s have a look at how society views Personal Development:
1. Open that heart up the whole way.
2. Remember you grow the longer you are on the journey: Don’t Look Back In Anger.
3. But remember to find others to play with.
4. Another way of saying it is get rid of these toxic people out of your life as soon as possible: One Day.
5. And they say it in every language across the planet.
6. And what would a blog on Personal Development be without a little Brene Brown: I’m Not The Only One.
7. And from the man in the cardigan, comes the theory of madness.
8. And to do this we need to keep our eyes, mind and heart wide open at all times: Boo’d Up.
9. And of course, we need some Steve Covey.
10. Time to put down that book you know so well, and start your brand new life: Feeling Good.
11. Smile for the camera, it can even be a selfie.
12. Hermann Karl Hesse was a German-born poet, novelist, and painter. His best-known works include Demian, Steppenwolf, Siddhartha, and The Glass Bead Game, each of which explores an individual’s search for authenticity, self-knowledge and spirituality. In 1946, he received the Nobel Prize in Literature.: Be Yourself.
13. Herman was quite prolific on the subject.
14. Don’t try and logically make your development fit in, after all, it is your unique offering: The Eyes of Truth.
15. And here is an opportunity to take your own marriage vows.
If we can find the patience to see the world for what it is – dynamic, flexible and loaded with untapped potential – and if we can accept the fact that change is an inevitable and brilliant part of life, then we can partake in the thrill of progression, and help shape a world in which the impossible becomes possible.
Two oldies and quite a few people I have not heard of inhabit the Playlist today, we begin with Oasis, then Matisyahu. The crooner Sam Smith follows, then three new to me: Ella Mai, Avicii and Peruquios, finishing up with Enigma: When It Hurts, Observe!!
Spread Love and Respect For All, Everyone included with those you interact in this holiday time:
I am reading Brene browns new book, Braving the Wilderness: Brene’s Website. Using my formulae of writing about what is on the page I open the book too, today we are discussing the rise of loneliness amongst our society. Sorting, or living and hanging around with people who hold the same beliefs as you have become more prevalent: in the American 2016 election 80 per cent of counties gave either Donald Trump or Hillary Clinton a landslide victory. In 1980, 20 per cent of American reported they were lonely; the figure is double that now.
This seems counterproductive, sorting and loneliness. If we are living in a like-minded community, shouldn’t we naturally feel like we belong? In her book, Brene quotes neuroscience researcher John Cacioppo of the University of Chicago who has been studying loneliness for over 20 years. He defines loneliness as “perceived social isolation” and states we feel loneliness when we feel disconnected. At the heart of loneliness is the absence of meaningful social interactions —- an intimate relationship, friendships, family gatherings, or even community or workgroup connections.
So, what does society have to say about the state of loneliness? There were many negative quotes, but I have chosen to stay with the more positive aspects of loneliness:
1. Rocker philosopher Henry Rollins paints a beautiful scene with his words on the matter. How great is the term “A Special Burn”.
2. Can’t quite make out the name of who said this, but how many times have we curled up in life to our favourite tracks hoping that they will make the pain of loneliness go away: Perfect.
3. During my Mental Health crisis of six years, this thought was always in the background.
4. On this walk, you get to realise that it is you who has to make the final decision, alone or not: You’ll Never Walk Alone.
5. Two words – Self Love.
6. How we define a situation can clearly give it a different meaning: Solitude.
7. For those who have suffered the abuse, we wish didn’t exist on our planet.
8. Some people use escapism to get away from it: Time After Time.
9. There is someone I am hoping is thinking this at the moment.
10. John Steinbeck wrote this quote. He won the 1962 Nobel Prize in Literature” for his realistic and imaginative writings, combining as they do sympathetic humour and keen social perception.” He has been called “a giant of American letters,” and many of his works are considered classics of Western literature: Precious Things.
11. We assume that our life will remain the same, change is the reality.
12. Carl Jung knew that speaking up was the solution to loneliness. Time to make some requests: Don’t Speak.
13. I was not a hugger for 59 of my 64 years. They work.
14. Time to reach out when Satre’s prognosis is in place: Bad Company.
15. Find the Others.
Here are the final remarks from an interview between Bill Moyers and Maya Angelou:
Moyers: Do you belong anywhere?
Angelou: I haven’t yet.
Moyers: Do you belong to anyone?
Angelou: More and more. I mean. I belong to myself. I’m very proud of that. I am very concerned about how I look at Maya. I like Maya very much. I like the humour and courage very much. And when I find myself acting in a way that isn’t…that doesn’t please me—then I have to deal with that.
Today’s playlist begins with pop icon Ed Sheeran, then we fly back to the 1960’s with Jerry and the Pacemakers. Even further back to Billie Holliday. Then three fine female singers: Clare Danes, Bic Runga and No Doubt. One of the classic English rock bands Bad Company brings it to a close. Here’s the video playlist: Headphones On, World Off.
Namaste until next time, my dear friends.
“When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see them you will see yourself. As you treat them, you will treat yourself. As you think of them, you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in them you will find yourself or lose yourself.”
It is amazing how many quotes written in this and the last century still use the sexist terminology of single genders, I have taken on replacing these words with more appropriate ones that include everyone.
How do you treat your daily encounters with each person? Is it I know what they are like, so I don’t need to listen to what they’re saying or is it what can they teach me today.
How does the world look at our holy encounters, what have we said about it over the generations:
1. This would be an amazing state to be with another person, what could we learn about them?
2. For the better I hope: Change of Heart.
3. I am part of a group called Sunday Assembly, a secular group that gathers once a month and has a service to celebrate life. Our motto’s are Live Better, Help Often and Wonder More.
4. From the 12th Century comes Dante’s contribution, let’s resonate more and more: Soul Kind of Feeling.
5. It is hard to believe that the magnificent lotus begins its journey through mud.
6. The greatest form of holy encounter, and what is more powerful than anything: Love: Beauty and the Beast.
7. It was Martin Luther King day yesterday, I watched a special. It was like every word he spoke was a quote on Love.
8. That’s why I meditate daily , to be alert and awake: Say It Right.
9. Epictetus taught that philosophy is a way of life and not just a theoretical discipline. To Epictetus, all external events are beyond our control; we should accept calmly and dispassionately whatever happens. However, individuals are responsible for their own actions, which they can examine and control through rigorous self-discipline.
10. I think I am denying it at the moment, the feeling and events will just not go away: Only You.
11. That’s what they read out at your passing, your acts of love not your assets.
12. Too cute not to use: Elephant Love Medley.
13. In the 1950s, Mignon began publishing aphorisms that were later collected in three books, entitled, The Neurotic’s Notebook, The Second Neurotic’s Notebook and The Complete Neurotic’s Notebook. She is known for a number of quotes, among them:
- “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
- “Anything you lose automatically doubles in value.”
- “Every society honors its live conformists and its dead troublemakers.”
14. One of the great statements about self holy encounter, Helen Keller live a magnificent life with issues most of us would have given up with: God’s Plan.
15. Another take on the opening quote by Eckhart Tolle.
We decide want we want too see before we see it. We receive what we request “Projection makes Perception”. We can find – and in fact we will find what we look for in life. Our spirit or soul takes responsibility for what we chose to perceive, fear and hate or love and joy> It is up to each of us what path we go down.
Music today is from Cyndi Lauper, Australia’s fabulous Dynamic Hepnotics, Celine Dion and Peabo Bryson, Nelly Furtado, a classic oldie by the Platters, Molin Rouge and Drake.
Namaste until next time, my dear friends.
The spiritual teacher and author Eckhart Tolle says, “The moment you become aware of the ego in you, it is strictly speaking no longer the ego, but just an old, conditioned mind-pattern. Ego implies unawareness. Awareness and ego cannot coexist. Recognising this is like taking the first step into the light, to get there you need to go through the dark because both come with each other.
In her brave new book Judgement Detox, Gabrielle Bernstein takes you on a journey that is a clear, proactive, step-by-step program that helps you heal judgment and rediscover your oneness with others. Link to the Book. We all make judgements, it’s just how we let them control us that creates the issue, by acknowledging the fact we do this the power they have over us lessens and we can return to the light after the dark of having made the judgement.
So what has society said about returning to the light over the centuries, here are some ways:
1. Probably the reason that there have been sun gods for a lot longer than deities in religious history.
2. Actions fostered by the light are much more dynamic than simply physical ones, Judy’s got it covered pretty well: Somewhere over the Rainbow.
3. Something all parents must think of in those first magic moments when their children magically enter the physical world.
4. And then there are the times we fail to recognise this fact, Inner not Outer: All of the Stars.
5. And from the 1600’s, Francis Bacon offers up this classic fact about life, with the light, the dark.
6. The quiet is always there, the skill is finding it amongst all the other stuff, such as the 50,000 thoughts per day: Light Up the Dark.
7. I remember living in the country when birds used to announce the coming of the dawn/light when it was pitch black, certainly proof of faith that light will always overcome the dark.
8. Isn’t it grand when someone enters your light who makes you forget to do this: Remember to Breathe.
9. You are leaving the dark chamber, time to enter the light and fly.
10. As I get older and older, I have more and more of these people in my memories light chamber: Memory Loves You.
11. Great name for the organisation who can up with this light quote, HealthyPlace.com
12. From the world’s greatest and most published philosopher Ms Unknown comes some sage advice, you have a unique light to turn on, other people’s will blow if you try and imitate them: Chasing Pavements
13. Some may just be more difficult than others, but the way to the top and the well-lit view is always there.
14. 5 simple words that point to the combination of the light and the dark. The second mention of stars so you know what song that means: Starman.
15. And a reminder for the last from George Bernard Shaw. Looking through the window we see dark and light, it’s your choice.
The first step in the book is Witness your Judgement without Judgement. If this is all I get out of it, it will have been worth spending the time. I’m sure I will get much more, Gabbi is a great thought leader.
Music today is from Ed Sheeran, Adele, Mr Bowie and some obscure artists with only 25,000 Youtube plays. Enjoy.
Namaste until next time, my dear friends.
There is a basic connection among people, who all fundamentally want the same things: to be appreciated, to belong, to feel good about themselves, to make a difference. I am reading William Baker and Michael O’Malley’s great book Leading with Kindness: How good people consistently get superior results. Kindness is an apropos term to apply to leadership because it implies precisely such root connections among people engaged in meaningful reciprocal relationships.
They state that kindness is made up from six virtues, these are Compassion, Integrity, Gratitude, Authenticity, Humility and Humour. Quite a good mix to bring to leadership , I think. So what have we said about kindness over the centuries, let’s take a wee gander:
1. Imagine if every soldier on the planet did this instead of firing their weapon in anger, let’s start the revolution today.
2. Kindness is funny, you can’t buy it, it seems to have no pricetag, but once given to somebody it is rarely forgotten: Change.
3. Be’s and But’s from Jim Rohn, one of the doyens of the personal development movement that has transformed the business world.
4. You are never too busy to partake in this mighty, mighty adventure: Better Together.
5. When my dad died , we gave most of his possessions to charity, the people at his funeral were there because he was a kind generous soul.
6. Reading this has me ponder, how often do I do this in my instant gratification filled life: Strong.
7. So do I.
8. How deep is the depth and passion of your kindness, what gets in the way: Kindness is a Muscle.
9. There it is, in the silence of the actions that make it up,
10. Cute kid and animal post, the kindness in it oozes right out of the image: Someone Like You.
11. Leading by example, you don’t need the CEO title after your name.
12. How did you choose the leaders in your life. Are all your bosses and power points amongst them, not in mine: Everybody.
13. We are born free, one of the traits we get given is kindness which we display openly as young children, what happens later on?
14. I call it Interculturalism: Love and respect for All – Everyone Included: What I Am.
15. Yes, let’s be both.
Albert Schweitzer said ” Example is not the main thing in influencing others it is the only thing, I’ll finish with those powerful words.
Namaste until next time, my dear friends.
There are 4 premises to live an inspired life through –
- Creating Safety
- Telling the Truth
- Be Organised
- Live Passionately
I was going to write about number three but I need to do a little bit of work in that area, face the truth , a lot of work really. So I have chosen number four, to live passionately. Mention passion and the image of Tony Robbins and his fire walk resonate for some, others the quieter realm of Eckhart Tolle’s the Power of Now meditations.So what had people said about it over humankind’s journey. Here are the 15 quotes I have used to exemplify how we feel about it.
1. We can’t start on too serious a note, when you live a passionate life you will find that people are drawn to you because they are inspired by your actions.
2. I am reading Lissa Rankin’s amazing book The Fear Cure, Lissa’s FB PAGE. In it she highlights how fear causes up to 60% of the illness that occurs on the planet. What if we were to concentrate on conquering or accepting our fears, then how remarkable would our lives be.
3. Back to the 17th Century for this one. John was the founder of Methodism, a religious order based in England. He believed in preaching outside and was known for his passionate oratory.
4. Beauty, Passion and Completeness certainly go well with Living, Dreaming and Loving. I looked up Herbacin and low and behold they are a cosmetic company. Great quotes can come from anywhere.
5. When you are living passionately you may find the desire to share it could have you ending up speaking to large groups of people as more and more of them want to hear about what you are up to. I recommend that you get some training in this so it is more effective.
6. It was recommended during the course to focus on one thing and surprisingly it will affect all the other areas as well. My friend Jeffrey Slayter says to Look where you are organised and that is where you will find your passion and purpose. Get organised and let your passion blossom.
7. In this time of advancing technology it is more and more possible to set up as an entrepreneur. Remember to choose passion not money as your driver.
8. Weapons of mass destruction, does this name scare you. Light your soul and petty items such as these do not stand a chance of overcoming the human spirit.
9. The Specials did a great song back in the day Free Nelson Mandela,The Specials. Thankfully they did and there are pages and pages of his eternal wisdom to be inspired by. He certainly didn’t settle for a life that was less. Are You?
10. Another way of saying passion is are you awake, the world needs people who are awake before we put the planet to sleep on a permanent basis.
11. I deliberately chose this image because it is hard to read the words the flower covers. They are beautifully and dream, powerful components in a life lived with passion.
12. In your face time, do not apologize for your life, passion is spelt and achieved very differently from being sorry for your life.
13. Affairs have a bad name. I did a retreat in 2013 where I married my self and took personal vows. I think this is one of the reasons so many marriages fail, because how can you keeps vows for another when you do not have any of your own. I have mine in my I phone and on my fridge door. Looking for someone to have an affair with, stop at the nearest mirror, there you go.
14. Passion on its own isn’t enough. Throw in some belief and faith, along with kick ass work and you have a chance to go all the way.
15. Over to Steve jobs for the final hurrah. Founder of Apple, one of the great innovators on the planet. What you do should be a matter of the heart, and you will know when you find it. here is a speech he made to the 2005 Stanford commencement class, Its inspirational Be Inspired.
Well, that’s my cut at living passionately, may you find it useful.
Namaste until next time my dear friends.