You have my Whole Heart!!


My, how music has changed. I recieved a post in my news feed thta told me I had listened to 24,000 minutes and 192 artists via Spotify and made recommendations to artists I might like in 2018 based on  who I had listened to in 2017.

To me, music is a very personal thing. As the blogs title says You have my whole heart, I think that is what our favourite music has too, our whole heart and probably our soul as well. My taste in music is very ecelectic, and yes I like both types of music as well, country and western as well as everything from freeform jazz to pop diva’s, a bit of Beyonce will lift your spirits any day of the week.

How many ways can we say we love our music, let’s have a look:

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1. Having been involved in the Melbourne music scene for 40 something years quite a few of my Facebook friends are musiciaans I have come across on this journey. Each is an artist in their own right.

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2. The band’s name is derived from a passage from the Virginia Woolf story “The Mark on the Wall”, which reads, “I wish I could hit upon a pleasant track of thought, a track indirectly reflecting credit upon myself, for those are the pleasantest thoughts, and very frequent even in the minds of modest mouse-coloured people, who believe genuinely that they dislike to hear their own praises: The World at Large.

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3. Due to my age I also remember cassette tapes we burnt for our friends  which were replaced by CD’s, then MP3’s and now USB stick playlists of a few thousand songs.

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4. I know some of my deepest romantic flings have been based on a similar taste in music: Fallin’.

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5. 401 years since his death at the relatively young age of 52, the bard hits the spot on music’s influence.

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6. Have you found your love wordsmith: I will always love You.

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7. Time after Time does this for me,  different versions included.

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8. And then there are the songs you hear when this happens to you, and they will never be the same again: All of Me.

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9. Sums up what music  means to me really

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10. What genre do you unleash your rhythmes to: I want your Love.

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11. As Joni Mitchell so prophetically sang, You turn me on, I’m a radio.

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12. I have a musician friend who has made his living from it for over 30 years, he can sing in seven languages and play 10 instruments, and he will also wear lederhosen to fulfil the last statement of this quote: Yalla.Yalla.

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13. And then it becomes our song.

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14. The joy of childhood when half of us our going to be the next big thing: Can you feel the Love Tonight.

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15. My addiction, Spotify, Applemusic, 49,000 songs on Itunes, Mixcloud, Soundcloud, enough said..

There are as many styles of  music as there are cultures in the world. Your mission if you accept it is to study a  new culture a month and learn to appreciate their music as well.

The Music, Whitney Houton, The Lion King, local Melbourne middle eastern band Yalla, Modest Mouse and a must watch Chic with the Soul Train disco dancers.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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A messy house is a Must!!


Todays title comes from the quote A Messy house is a must – It separates your true friends from other friends – Real friends are there to visit you, not your house. Is that a fair statement? Today we look at fairness, I am reading an interesting tome called Just Babies – The Origins of Good and Evil.

Chapter three: Fairness, Status and Punishment begin with the following tale: The comedian Louis C. K. has a routine in which he talks about his daughter’s understanding of fairness. He begins, “My five-year-old, the other day, one of her toys broke, and she demanded that I break her sister’s toy to make it fair.” This would make the sisters equal, but the joke is that something here didn’t feel right: “And I did. I was like crying. And I look at her. She’s got this creepy smile on her face.”

So the books premise is that in our early years we follow an equality bias from an early age and it gets trained out of us as we enter the education system where being the best and winning take over.

So where does the world sit for you in the fairness stakes, let’s take a walk:

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1. Fairness does not mean ease of journey, never give up your belief in the fairness of something because it does not work out immediately.

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2. No judgements allowed: Raindrops keep falling on my Head.

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3. From birth to age 5, a child’s brain develops more, and more rapidly, than at any other time in life. And while genetics plays a significant role, scientific research has made clear that the quality of a child’s experiences in the first few years of life – positive or negative – helps shape how their brain develops. And that these experiences have lasting impact on their health and ability to learn and succeed in school and in life.

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4. America’s only Armenian sci writer who emigrated at the age of eight with her parents and two suitcases knows the value of self love: Imagine.

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5. The Universe is here to take you on your life’s journey, some parts of it are different from what our mind thinks that journey is.

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6. Brit Hume is one of the longest serving Journo’s in Washington Perhaps he made this statement about Donald Trump following some of the decisions he has made lately: Dance me to the End of Love.

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7. It would be beautiful if all religious organisations followed this creed. Unfortunately some of them seem to have forgotten the reason their founders set up their belief systems.

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8. I am not saying fairness is all light and bubbles, somedays fairness will feel like this: A Little Bit Stronger.

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9. Integrity – The state of being whole and Undivided. I work on this, It’s hard to do 24/7.

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10. As the stoury form Louise C. K. about his daughter points out, It’s not about equality, it’s about whats needed in each particular scenario: Forever.

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11. There are many diverse opinions on this from the left and the right, from what they write about it I think it is an agree to disagree argument.

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12. Fairness is listening to both sides and not giving more kudos to either without seriously checking it out: Two sides to every Story.

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13. Fairness is not a two way journey, If you don’t recieve it, It doesn’t mean you stop providing it. You may drop that relationship, but don’t give up your values.

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14. The expression that says it forme, is Pay it Forward. Not what you say, what you do: Hello In There.

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15. From one of the great men who sought fairness for his people, a piece of timely advice how you achieve fairness.

I think we all have a sense of what fairness is as children but can have it changed quite dramatically by parental influence and incidents that happen in our lives. Remember we all come out with a fresh soul, let’s return to that space when it comes to our sense of fairness.

Music for today isBurt Bacharach, John Lennon and a rap number for my nephew and his wife.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Fill your Heart with what is Important!!


“I love, accept, and express that I fill myself first so I can heal the world.”  This is the affirmation Steve Sisgold of Whole Body Intelligence,His website got Lissa Rankin to use when she realised her belief system was the following: “You’re selfish and narcisstic if you take care of yourself first. You have no value unless you’re helping others. Your blog audience won’t love you anymore unless you give until you’re depleted. Your mother won’t love you anymore, either.”

This made my stomach turn as I was reading the secind statement, I think it covers some of my beliefs pretty well. Here is the Hero’s practice called Check Your Motives from Lissa’s book an Anatomy of a Calling:

Check Your Motives:

The next time you consider being helpful ir saying yes to service, pause. Get quiet, and ask yourself, “Why am I doing this?” Are you afraid of disappointing someone if you say no? Are you motivated by pity or fear? Will you fear like, “not enough” if you don’t do  it? Are you trying to impress someone? Does it exhaust you to even think about saying yes? If any of these feel true, graciously say no to the opportunity to serve, knowing that you are not just filling yourself first but also protecting yourself from getting caught in a Rescuer/Victim/Persecutor triad, which will lead you to inadvertantly hurt yourself and others.

If, however, you are motivated by surges of love – which generate the impulse to leap out of your chair and say yes, free of any hidden language – go for it! If you’re so far down the spiritual path that there is little “self” to self-sacrifice and you are full to the brim with the desire fir pure service, knowing how fulfilling it is to serve in a clean way, say yes.

Practice this exercise every time you are inclined to serve. This will help you learn to be very discerning about your relationship to service and those you serve, and as a result, you will not only avoid depleting yourself but also expand your capacity for fulfillment and joy.

So how does the world relate to filling ones self up before others, It should be an  interesting journey:

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1. Once you are a bunch of smouldering ashes you are not much use to anyone.

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2. It’s never to late to write your bestseller, that one you don’t tell others about: Your Song.

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3. This is the number one way to stoppbecoming depleted in your life.

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4. The more energy you have and that you shine on the world the more you can give to it: I Gotta Feeling.

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5. The more you hide who you really are, the more harm can be done to you and by you.

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6. From one of TV”s favourite fictional characters comes some practical wisdom about filling yourself first: Love Myself.

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7. Ask yourself before you say Yes, What would Love Do in this situation?

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8. Heed the warming, rehydrate your soul when it needs it: Take care of Yourself.

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9. Manifexting with Marla, catchy name for a great piece of advice.

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10. Deepak’s friend Oprah has this to say about this , in a much more pragmatic way: When you undervalue what you do, the world will undervalue who you are:Give it UP to Me.

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11. Remember, to help with human rights, yours must be included amongst them.

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12. Might fine advice, R.Z., will help keep one out of the Rescuer/Victim/Persecutor triad: Put a little Love in your Heart.

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13. Remember to complete your Hero’s Journey, not everyone or everything will make ot to the end.

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14. Here in Australia, we have a condition called the tall poppy syndrome. It’s very dangerous for the future of our country: That’s What I Like.

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15. That deep satisfaction has to exist within your soul before there is any chance of another giving it to you.

When you’re motivated by the soul’s yearning rather than the ego’s “not enoughness” giving to others feeds you. Service can be like breathing. You give on the exhale, but the giving itself breathers life into you and you are nourished by the giving. So remember to do the exercise so that you are chosing from love and not depleting your life-force.

Music this week includes Annie Lennox, Al Green and Shakita. Enjoy!!

Namaste until next time , my dear friends

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Have Faith in what can Be!!


I have been working on accepting what is so with my mentor Arion: Activating your Essence.. I go between accepting it in my heart and seeing what that allows for and listening to the dross my head throws at me 24/7. Ring Chapter 10 – Release your attachments in Lissa Rankins wonderful book The Anatomy of a Calling : Info about it.

At the end of each chapter there is a Hero’s guidepost and a Hero’s practice, I would like to share Hero’s practice with you:

” I Accept ” Meditation

Practice an “I accept” meditation. Close your eyes and allow yourself to feel all the disappointment about things that aren’t going how you hoped. let yourself feel the sadness, anger, frustration, hopelessness, fear and embarrassment. Don’t judge your feelings. Just feel them. Then repeat the mantra “I accept, I accept, I accept.” Notice any inner resistance that bubbles up and keep repeating the mantra. Pay attention to any thoughts that refute your mantra, anything you feel that you can’t accept. But keep going, “I accept, I accept, I accept.” To be guided through an ” I accept” meditation , download the free guided meditation at TheAnatomyofaCalling.com. For more help preventing and accepting disappointment, read Christine Hassler’s book Expectation Hangover.

So how does the world look at acceptance, let’s go on a journey:

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1. Eckhart Tolle points us to this moment in time that we seem to want to avoid, what is the power of now.

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2. But you should always go with your heart, the gateway to your soul: Listen to Your Heart.

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3. If only I had….., When I get 10k lighter…, I’m not sure I can…, all expectations, what are yours?

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4. I know you, they say our blood changes every seven years so why do we assume that our personalities stay the same?: Everybody’s Changing.

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5. Can we accept this unconditionally? How different would our relationships be  if we lived this life.

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6. In 2017, Rolling Stone magazine ranked him second (behind Richard Pryor) on its list of the 50 best stand-up comics of all time. George Carlin is a genius, check out his youtube videos: The reason Education Sucks.

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7. Accept how your life is but always have a go to position, how you want your life to look.

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8. In your face, yes it’s manipulation, they are as they are. Thats why you love them: Me, Myself, I.

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9. Remember those teenage years when it was all about being liked by others, fitting in, being one of the gang – It’s time to stop that.

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10. Campbell’s magnum opus is his book The Hero with a Thousand Faces (1949), in which he discusses his theory of the journey of the archetypal hero found in world mythologies. Since the book’s publication, Campbell’s theory has been consciously applied by a wide variety of modern writers and artists. His philosophy has been summarized by his own often repeated phrase: “Follow your bliss.”: The Climb.

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11. Carl Ransom Rogers  was an American psychologist and among the founders of the humanistic approach (or client-centered approach) to psychology. Rogers is widely considered to be one of the founding fathers of psychotherapy research. The person-centered approach, his own unique approach to understanding personality and human relationships, found wide application in various domains such as psychotherapy and counseling (client-centered therapy), education (student-centered learning), organizations, and other group settings.

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12. Acceptance is one part of you creating your own unique destiny: Choose your Destiny.

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13. How could I not include The Power of Now guy.

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14. And the tenets of my faith is Yes, Yes, Yes – Love is Love. Well done Australia for saying yes to same sex marriage: Love is Love.

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15. OK , I admit it, I was a Charmed addict because of Alyssa Milano. Love this quote from her about the dark and the light.

Joseph Campbell, the Follow your Bliss and the Hero’s Journey dude, states on the road of trials is where you find your faith, when you learn to accept what life is throwing at you that you don’t love, allowing yourself to move forward.

The music today included pop divas Beyonce and Billy Cyrus, some Disney thrown in and the masterful George Carlin.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Face your Fears, and Wipe your Tears!!


If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, “Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.” : Martin Luther King

There’s something precious and unique about each and everyone of us. We are all worthy human beings; we are all smart and capable of achieving many inspiring and wonderful acts. You came here to perform a very important role, and who you are matters.

The world needs all of us, so let’s have a look at what  we have said over the generations about living a  life that matters:

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1. Looking for someone else to provide this within you heart will not work if you are not there as well.

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2. Jon Freeman studies split second social perception – how we use facial cues to categorize other people into social groups and perceive their personality traits and emotion. This makes is so important that we have a  healthy self image as in these days of this style of perception we don’t get much time from others: You matter to Me.

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3. Remember, it’s not what people say, it’s in their actions.

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4. In the end it’s what you think about yourself that counts. What others thinks is their personal perception: Perfect.

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5. We don’t tend to remember the church or the valley we walked through, It’s the people we were with that counts.

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6. My friend Emeli rescued a woman from an abusive situation because she cared, she met her on the side of the road when she had given up. Where in you life have you done something similar by caring, giving a shit: Chasing Cars.

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7. Giving for giving sake, what would you do in life that you don’t need to be paid for.

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8. If we only remembered these deep lessons we read in the books of our younger years. Dr Seuss provided one here: Need you Now.

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9. The way through those experiences is not to wish they would go away, It is to enter them and accept they happened and have the control they have over you lessen.

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10. When you get up in the morning, look in the mirror and say, I’m allowed and I matter: Welcome Back.

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11. Another piece to this puzzle is why are you who you are, what do you jump out of bed in the morning for. If you get a chance watch Simon Sinek’s brilliant TED talk on the subject of Why.

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12. Over our lives people move in and out of them, don’t stay too long if you are no longer a match: Time to Leave.

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13. William James was one of the leading thinkers of the late nineteenth century and is believed by many to be one of the most influential philosophers the United States has ever produced, while others have labeled him the “Father of American psychology”.

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14. Simple Acts of Kindness: Good People.

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15. And a final message from the lorax – care a whole awful lot, you matter.

We all have something to contribute to life. If we cling to our fears and doubts our part of the puzzle will never be complete. Remember look in the mirror – I’m Allowed and what I do matters.

The Music – Bruno Mars doing a kids song, Jack Johnson classic Good People and a Pink number.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Sunset is still my favourite Colour!!


There is a poem towards the back of The Four Hour Work Week by Timothy Ferriss called the Slow Dance written by child psychologist David L. Weatherford, it goes like this:

The Slow Dance

Have you ever watched kids on a merry-go-round?

Or listened to the rain slapping on the ground?

Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight? Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?

You better slow down, Don’t dance so fast.

Time is short. The music won’t last.

Do you run through each day on the fly?

When you ask: How are you? Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done, do you lie in bed

With the next hundred chores running through your head?

You’d better slow down. Don’t dance so fast.

Time is short. The music won’t last.

Ever told your child, We’ll do it tomorrow?

And in your haste, not seen their sorrow?

Ever lost touch, let a good friendship die

Cause you never had time to call and say, “Hi”?

You’d better slow down. Don’t dance so fast.

Time is short. The music won’t last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere, You miss half the fun of getting there

When you worry and hurry through your day, It is like an unopened gift thrown away.

Life is not a race. Do take it slower.

Hear the music Before the song is over.

Timothy talks about busyness being one of the major causes of stress and the enemy of the new rich, the four hour week workers whose lives are about living for fulfilling their dreams, dancing through life. So I have chosen some dancing quotes to look at hearing the music before the song is over:

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1. I hear their reply when I ask, How are you because my heart is open from the dance of life.

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2. Don’t let those hundred chores that need to be done in your head forget how much you and your friends would dance to the music and the not music when you were little: Safety Dance.

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3. We have all met that person who makes us break our rules, often more than one on our lifetimes.

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4. Not sure what the difference is, they say perfectionism is its own worst enemy: Let’s Dance.

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5. I like doing it with another soul so all that exists are our two hearts beating as one.

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6. I love this image of the dog leaping in pure ecstasy, who gives a fuck how it looks if it fully expressed: Dancing Fool.

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7. Always remember what had you take up the dance in the first place, the joy and freedom.

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8. Before enlightenment, take one step then another.  After enlightenment and success, take one step and then another: How Far I’ll Go.

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9. To me, dancing is about the expressive bits, not the steps that make it up.

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10. My 90 year old mother said to me she would like me to lose some weight. I am 63 and over 100 kg again, and yes, I am a dancer: Better when I am Dancing.

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11. I just took part in Dancing Freedom’s 21 day dancing challenge. You got sent 10 to 20 minutes music to dance to everyday. The  only space I really have in my flat is the kitchen and the back yard.

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12. I dance on dance floors where speech is not optional, we are there to dance, we are all quiet: Can’t stop this Feeling.

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13. Not the slow dance, these times are special.

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14. Don’t mess with a dancer, we are tough as nails and sweet and kind all in one: Shake It Off.

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15. And this is what the poem is about, the Heart.

Doing the slow dance is like turning off the noise. Surprisingly the world doesn’t end and you end up being liberated in a way few people ever know. During this time follow the koan – If you don’t have attention, you don’t have time.

Namaste until next time my dear friends:

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Let not your Love become Attachment!!


A mission statement for a Blog by Lissa Rankin:

“We are committed to inviting you to explore your truth, knowing you are loved, safe and nurtured. We believe that true healing comes from loving and nurturing both ourselves and others as whole beings. When we own all the disparate parts of ourselves, we tap into the divine spark within us, allowing us to release limiting beliefs, overcoming fears, and enjoy our lives more fully. Once we are in touch with our own divinity – shedding our masks, revealing our authentic selves, and being accepted just as we are- we can see with “magical eyes,” gazing beyond the masks we tend to wear to see the unique and special humanity that lies within us all.

By engaging with our community, we hope you will feel inspired, get motivated to bring your authentic self out of the closet, and take steps that bring you closer to health, healing and inner peace. If you have lost your mojo and feel you have little to give, we welcome you with no expectations. If you have lots to give in service to those in need, we invite you to share your gifts. Chances are good you are all of the above – sometimes seeking, sometimes giving, always enough..

Regardless of where you are on your personal path of awakening, we welcome you. Let us bear witness to your journey, knowing that while each of us walk a unique path, we walk it in good company.”

Lissa’s book The Anatomy of A Calling The Website., is worth visiting at least yearly as it contains so many profound gems about being on purpose.

But first of all she suggests you need to give up attachment, what do we say about attachment across the airwaves and through time: Here is a selection I have chosen to illustrate it:

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1. This is one I have struggled with over time, that the answer lies within not externally. Working on it daily.

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2. Why do we become flustered when the world started operating in a different way to that we know it should be, this is what happens when we hold on too tight: Holding on to Broken Things.

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3. What did Buddha mean by this, much to ponder in 7 simple words.

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4. You can’t should’ve done something. Gold: It was a Good Day.

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5. The Inner Universe, that’s where the healing lives and lies.

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6.  When we stop waiting to reply and genuinely listen to others, Its amazing how many of our judgements slip away: Crippled Inside.

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7. How often do we battle with these thing in our lives – The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.

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8. Judgement often feels chaotic, It’s not your task, bring on the calm: A Thousand Years.

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9. Love me a few of Pema’s wise words, get her books , they are magic.

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10. Here’s a memory test: Out damn spot, think High School: Time to Let Go.

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11. Lots of practice here, heart and  mind, methinks.

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12. Do we have the courage to give up that which has become toxic for us, I did it with alcohol over 3 years ago, feel so much better: Don’t Stop Believing.

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13. Surfs UP, which are your favourite emotions to surf, which put you in danger. Perhaps it’s time to give up your attachment to those waves.

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14. This is the  one thing in life I wish for more than anything else, to fly unaided. I have not been willing to give up everything that weighs the possibility down: I’ll Fly Away.

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15. The field of all possibilities: Has anyone ever reached this blissful state, or would it be so scary that we would implode?

Why is it difficult to detach from the beliefs and judgments that belittle  us? Perhaps as Craig Hamilton says in his Integral Enlightenment series ” The ego  as the part of you that has a need to see ourselves as a particular way” has a lot to do with it. Daily exercise in detaching what we know to be true sounds a great way to discover how to empower the purpose we were put on this planet for.

Namaste until next time , my dear friends.

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