My Plan is To……..


There is much discussion as to whether you can lead a balanced life and succeed in the higher echelons of leadership. In his excellent book Leaders eat Last, Simon Sinek points out that not it is only possible it is in fact desirable if you are looking for an efficiently run company.

A leader who uses the top down management approach these days looks fated for the scrap heap. During the GFC of 2007 to 2008 fifty percent of America’s banks failed mainly due to their culture being based on making the holy dollar to the point that they had made some very unwise decisions in chasing larger and larger profits. Businesses that were more balanced in their cultures were able to survive due to the loyalty of their staff.

So what does a balanced life look like, let’s mosey on down that trail:

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1. We create as much information every two days as we did in the entire year of 2003. I think this means that the chances of us doing everything have long gone by the way.

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2. The near first female POTUS points to your job title is not the be all and end all of what provides a satisfactory life: Get a Job.

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3. Love Thomas Merton, didn’t know he was a Catholic priest until just now. A Trappist monk of the Abbey of Gethsemani, Kentucky, he was a poet, social activist, and student of comparative religion.

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4. What a living example Eat , Pray, Love is of this beautiful quote: I’m not in Love.

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5. Star of 9 to 5, what a way to make a living, don’t have this be the major focus of your life and forget your dreams.

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6. Number five seems a tad out of place from the rest: Who You Are!!

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7. For me being silly and letting loose would be challenging, how about you?

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8. Mindmapping , there are three or four for me that are not in balance at the moment: Mo Bounce.

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9. One of the greatest living philosophers, Ms. Unknown shows us a tactic to inner balance.

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10. Koan or meme, what will I call them today. But remember to watch and spend time in today’s beauty: You are so Beautiful to Me.

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11. Attitude: when someone makes a settled way of thinking or feeling about something. … For example: You can tell a person’s attitude just by watching his body posture if he likes something or not. Aptitude: It’s a natural ability to do something or a natural tendency.

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12. The greatest skill in  life one must get rid of if they wish to lead a balanced life: Confessions of a Perfectionist.

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13. We have all seen that cartoon  of life as we hope it will go versus how it actually occurs, we spend a lot of time undoing knots.

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14. SETH GODIN is the author of 18 books that have been bestsellers around the world and have been translated into more than 35 languages. He writes about the post-industrial revolution, the way ideas spread, marketing, quitting, leadership and most of all, changing everything: Holiday.

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15. I love this list, it has helped balance my life on a daily basis.

I actually have terrible balance on my left side, I can’t do the Tai Chi white crane at all, perhaps I need to look at what has it out of kilter.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Time, not just Money!!!


Let’s say you’re moving to a new house interstate. To help you out one of your friends pay for the moving company. A very generous offer worth $5,000. another friend comes to your house and helps you pack the boxes, load the truck, travel with you to the new house, unload and unpack the boxes. Two weeks later, both friends need a favour on the same day. Who would you be inclined to help, the one who wrote a cheque or the one who committed time and energy?

Unlike the time and effort people put into something, it is what money represents that give it value. The cost of something is relevant to what people place on it whereas time cannot be given back. There are 2 million dollar watches and 10 dollar watches that both do the same job, possibly made with a process that took approximately the same time. How many times have you been in a meeting thinking, I will never get this time back.

So what has society said about the value of time versus money, lets delve into it:

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1. People don’t come around to your place to look at your possessions, they come to exchange stories of the great times that you spent together, your experiences.

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2. If you lock them up in the kennel , and only bring them out to show them off as an asset, no tail wagging: I Love My Dog.

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3. It’s what you focus on that gets the money rolling in, how you spend your time.

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4. We don’t go on and on about the time that some one gave us lots of money, the money soon is not there. But that time we were feeling suicidal and you held our hand all night, now, thats a different matter: Hold my Hand.

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5. Remarkably the only thing that is always there is you, not your money, your friends. It depends on how you direct your life that makes it work out or not.

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6. There are many meanings for prosperity such as wealth, success, profitability, affluence, riches, opulence, the good life, (good) fortune, ease, plenty, welfare, comfort, security, well-being; nowhere does it just say money: Prosperity.Yeha-Noha.

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7. A car cannot love you.

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8. Why are there so many books compared to museums. Simply put, people like stories that entertain, not things that people collected: Love Story.

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9. What children remember, not the toys.

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10. The big Tones take on it: you can’t get more time: Invest in Yourself.

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11. Two ultra rich musicians recently took their own lives, they were not happy because they were ultra-rich.

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12. Bhutan is a country that measures their gross happiness product, not their gross domestic product. Guess which country has the highest well being: Happy.

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13. Better known as the advice columnist Dear Abbey, this quote would have been written in the 1950’s or 60’s. I think it is far more relevant in our instant gratification days that we now live in.

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14. What should come first is your vision for life, not your bank balance. Fulfilling your vision means you are living life on your terms: Live your Life.

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15. Love does not carry a price tag, remember this daily.

Why do we call a business a “company” – because it is a collection of people in the company of other people. it’s the company that matters.

Namaste until next time my dear friends.

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Find Your Passion!!!!


Both of my English students have pulled the plug today so I get to write this blog a few hours earlier, I have decided to write an ode to my friend and anam cara Emeli Paulo. I met Emeli setting out chairs at a yoga and meditation event some years ago. Both Emeli and I are the sort of people who if they see something needs to be done we get in and do it. We introduced ourselves and I asked why she had come. Emeli said she was running a workshop that would address what stops you in your life from having what you want happen. I still have her card with Stop Running Away written on it. As always she delivered her promise.

I am reading Simon Sinek’s second book Leaders eat Last. If you don’t know who Simon is he’s the start with Why guy, here’s a link to his TED talk, the second most watched one in the history of TED ;How great Leaders inspire Action. Emeli had me stick to my Why, which I had been resisting for two and a half years: Love and Respect for All – Everyone Included.

Why, How, What, how has the world written about it over time, let’s have a look:

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1. Finding it difficult to get out of bed? Have you why written on your dresser window and it will go away.

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2. I’d lose that extra weight if I was motivated. Your only limit is You, Do it Now, If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you. Sounds like a Tony Robbins seminar in full flight. But if underneath it all, if you have not answered Why?, words spoken and written on parchment that will make no difference: No Excuses.

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3. Google has let me down, when I put in Coach Hite it brought up coach hire in Melbourne, Australia where I live, so he must remain anonymous, but it’s such a beautiful quote it deserves more.

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4. I always thought David Bowie was singing: Passion , turn to the left ilo Fashion, so here it is: Fashion.

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5. As kids we run around all day like this, then something happens. Time to take it back.

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6. In my youth I would boast I read Nietzsche to look cool, now he writes leadership and motivational quotes. His books are not quite so accessible: Roar.

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7. My birthday, is 17th July, must admit can’t remember the other. I do know where, at the Darebin Intercultural Centre one, windy, rainy day during a Melbourne winter.

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8. But Mummy, The unicorn was that big. Never forget your childhood unicorns: Dark Horse.

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9. In the mirror. It’s You, Yay!! Out on the streets to kick some ass.

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10. Here is the man himself, Simon Sinek, something we love called passion: beautiful words and ethos: Love is Action.

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11. This is what finding your Why allows you in life. Get on board, the bus is leaving now.

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12. My mentor Arion always says to have a vision and essence for any project you wish to fulfill in your life. It will be there to remind you when the going gets tough. Thanks brother , for that: You and Me.

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13. This is why we spend our lives finding our Why, because of the things that never were that we are meant to create, little or large,

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14. I’d add one, Know your Why on a daily basis: Believe in Yourself.

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15. One smile at a total stranger is enough to do this. Don’t be withholding.

I just realised you may not know what an Anam cara is? Anam Cara is the old gaelic term for “soul friend.” anam meaning soul and cara meaning friend. Anam Ċara is the title of a 1997 bestseller on “Celtic spirituality”, the first publication by Irish author and then-priest John O’Donohue. According to O’Donohue, the Irish term anam cara (lit. “soul-friend”) originates in Irish monasticism, where it was applied to a monk’s spiritual advisor.

The book was an international bestseller and catapulted the author to public notability as an author and much sought-after speaker and teacher particularly in the United States. O’Donohue left the priesthood in 2000. As O’Donohue puts it: The term is greatly misconstrued to mean “soul mate”, anam meaning soul and cara meaning friend.

What is Emeli’s Why. here is the link: Collective Potential.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Note to Self, You Deserve This!!


You do not have to be good,

You do not have to walk on your knees

for a hundred miles through the desert repenting

You only have to let the soft animal of your body

Love what it Loves – Mary Oliver

Taken from the Deserving Chapter in Danielle LaPorte’s brilliant workbook, The Desire Map, the first page ends with Deserving and Worthiness – these are the notions that get to the pulse of our consciousness and self-esteem.

What do you believe you deserve in life,, and where did those beliefs come from, how old were you when you made these decisions? Lets go on a journey  into what we deserve in our lives:

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1. For those who thought atheism was a new invention, Robert Green “Bob” Ingersoll (August 11, 1833 – July 21, 1899) was an American lawyer, a Civil War veteran, political leader, and orator of the United States during the Golden Age of Free Thought, noted for his broad range of culture and his defense of agnosticism. He was nicknamed “The Great Agnostic“.

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2. Remember, It’s their stuff not yours, go on with those deserving of your company: Bad Company.

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3. They make you pick up and dispose of dog poo, don’t not do the same for your relationships.

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4. Written 2,300 years ago, this quote on dignity still rings true in our  instant gratification society, do not hand out honours in your life cheaply: Greatest Love of All.

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5. Remember, if the door doesn’t open, it’s not meant for you, you deserve better.

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6. You keep throwing yourself against that wall, because your head tells you too. It takes a while to hear your heart whispering, No darling, this one’s not for you:Wake Up.

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7. Don’t give into behaviour that belittles a relationship, stay inside the strength of your character.

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8. I think they left be out of this quote, I’m a proofreader by trade. There are theories that the gut is your second brain, I guess I kind of believe that: Trust Your Gut.

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9. Look in the mirror, there’s your saviour, you can do it!!

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10. If you are their option B or C, time to move on: Options.

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11. I am starting to lead Sacred Love workshops, the ability to tell those sacred stories that you keep for that special person, they may be good or bad, but you know what I am talking about.

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12. We are deserving in every language and culture on the planet: Dan Balan.

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13. You deserve this, rekindle that light within you.

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14. Remember when handing the love out, the first place it need to exist is in the person giving it, Respect thyself: Respect.

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15. And finally stencil this on your psyche and perhaps put it on the fridge, you deserve it. 

You deserve: eye contact, smiles in the morning, food made with pure intention, clean drinking water – fresh air, Hello, Please, Thankyou, time to think about it,  a chance to show what you are made of, a second chance, an education, health care, including dental, multiple orgasms, weekends off, eight hours of sleep, play before work, to change your mind, to say no, to say yes, to have your deepest needs met, to be seen and to be loved for who you really are. Thanks for this list, Danielle, it’s beautiful

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Every Experience makes you Grow!!!


The four major areas that this occurs for me are my love relationships, my friendships, my adventures, my environment, my health and fitness, my intellectual life, my skills, my spiritual life, my career, my creative life, my family life and my community life. These are my areas of experiences, growth and contribution. Today I would like to discuss how we handle growth in our  lives.

When you watch how young children soak up information, you realise how deeply wired we are to learn and grow. Why does it seem to falter as we grow older? Why can’t we continue to learn and grow until the day we leave this mortal coil. I think we actually do , it’s what we do with  it that makes the difference. Lets take a journey down the growth path over the years:

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1. After publishing four bestselling books in five years, Sarah Allen took a hiatus when she was diagnosed with late-stage breast cancer at age 39. She returned to writing with her 2014 bestselling Lost Lake. She is now in remission. In 2015, she revisited the popular setting of her first book..

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2. I don’t look the same as when I was expelled from Eaglehawk High School  in 1972 for not attending and generally not giving a toss about formal education. Also the journey I have taken since those days into education that makes a difference means that I have grown exponentially since those days long ago: Try Everything.

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3. Remember when that door didn’t open for you last year. That was meant to happen so that you can be where you are now.

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4. Your growth is up to you, not the stories of others. All the great people on the planet got there listening to their stories, not the tales of others: My Story.

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5. Ralph Waldo Emerson was an American essayist, lecturer, and poet who led the transcendentalist movement of the mid-19th century. He was seen as a champion of individualism and a prescient critic of the countervailing pressures of society.

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6. Differents stages in life that that will have you end up in a powerful place: Rest of my Life.

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7. There’s a scene in a good or bad Steve Martin film called Parenthood where his family is going apeshit and the screen becomes like a roll coaster ride. He rides it for a while then life begins to flow again.

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8. The author of the inspiring The Monk who sold his Ferrari, Robin Sharma’s words and life speaks of the possibility of having gorgeous in our lives: Gorgeous.

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9. Founder of the Firestone Tyre company Harvey wrote a book way back in 1926 called Men of Rubber: The Story of Business. Firestone, Henry Ford, and Thomas Edison were generally considered the three leaders in American industry at the time, and often worked and vacationed together. All three were part of a very exclusive group titled “The Millionaires’ Club.”

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10. Rooting means different things in different parts of the world. here in my hometown of Melbourne , Australia rooting has an entirely different sexual meaning: Rooting for You.

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11. I have a friend who would be considered a perfectionist, she doesn’t start at least half of her projects due to this, Its Growth not perfection that gets things done.

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12. Stuck at the starting gates, they got nothing done: Pompeii.

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13. Seeds need sun and wind and rain to become trees, so do we humans.

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14. A Useful resource in this area is Wayne Dyer’s book Excuses Begone: Excuses Begone.

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15. 300 metre trees were once but mere seeds, their growth is pure evidence of life.

These twelve areas are blueprints for the soul, the opportunity to feel different every day you wake up, to have a 1,000 litres of vitality versus 100 in your life by taking on growth each day.

Namaste until we meet again, my dear friends.

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If only our Eyes saw Souls!!


Deep positivity means that you have Faith that you’ll be okay, no matter what happens. Not if it all works out for you in the end. Not if you get what you want when you think you should get it. No matter what. Deep positivity knows that Life will have your back even when you don’t manifest what you want: Danielle LaPorte, White Hot Truth.

Want do you want in your life, is is just for your benefit or the benefit of others? I recently did an exercise where one of the most powerful questions was what did I have to give to society, I answered it with my words and my wisdom, when you get to 62, 63 next Monday you have a fair bit of both.

So I put Deep Positivity in Google Images and the following quotes are what caught my eye, let’s journey:

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1. One of the dangers in life, becoming a workshop junkie and not using the new distinctions you have learnt in your day to day experience.

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2. I got a Facebook friend request yesterday from a woman who I used to once consider among my 5 dearest friends, she moved away. I’m glad she is back in my life: Old Friends.

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3. 6 Mental health episodes later, I fully agree with this statements, some people are saints, others sinners.

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4. Marvelous is the power of thought. Thinking is as natural to man as breathing. Thought has lifted man above the level of the animal world. It has raised him from the savage to the civilized state in life. Man’s thought rules the world. The power to think is man’s most precious right and his proudest privilege. How are you going to use this skill: Always on my Mind.

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5. I recently have been working on a database of people who are considered gurus and thought leaders by our society. The amazing thing about these people is that they were just ordinary folk until they discovered their why in life.

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6. They are free to give, share widely: Something Just Like This.

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7. And this is why you give them, share widely!!!

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8. I am part of a Facebook group called the Daily Gratitude Space, it’s all about joy, join us: Dancing Queen.

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9. My favourite colour is purple, what’s yours?

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10. These make my list along with long pushbike rides, conscious dancing – deep positivity: Hurricane.

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11. Still knocking? Get the message, it’s positive too.

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12. We all love those pictures of babies living in awe of the world, you job is to never forget: Light up the World.

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13. The profound quote!!!!!!!!

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14. And my wish is ……………………………..: A dream is a wish your heart makes.

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Woodstock 1969, drugs , sex and rock’n’roll. Those people were your grandparents, Respect please.

Be positive for yourself, for others. I live by my why – Love and Respect for All – Everyone Included. This is a worldwide vision. I invite you on the journey.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Thanks for your kind Words!!


Worship what you love and love what you worship – Danielle Laporte wrote this in her superb book, White Hot Truth my world vision is Love and Respect for All – Everyone Included. To achieve this I see the need for kindness to be part of our natural paradigm.

How do we define kind, here’s one version

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noun: kindness
  1. the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.
    “he thanked them for their kindness and support”
    synonyms: kindliness, kind-heartedness, warm-heartedness, tender-heartedness, goodwill, affectionateness, affectionwarmthgentlenesstendernessconcerncareMore

    antonyms: unkindnessmeanness
    • a kind act.
      plural noun: kindnesses
      “it would be a kindness on your part to invite her”
      synonyms: kind act, good deed, act of kindness, good turn, favour, act of assistance, servicehelpaid

      “she has done us many a kindness”
      antonyms: disservice
 And here’s how they say it in Albanian, would you understand their actions?
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So how will the world include this to my recipe, let’s have a look:

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.1. I met one of  my best friends pretending to be a tree at a party in North Carlton in the 1980’s. Not to many trees at that party.

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2. Are we the only planet dwellers in this large universe, the only starseed that can think for itself, I don’t think so: Starman.

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3. If you don’t make the effort of kindness on a daily basis how many people will live in this space?

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4. There are 7 billion versions on the planet, some people seem to have forgotten though: You are so beautiful to Me.

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5. Today was the birthday of a friend of mine who passed tragically and unexpectedly last year, she was one of my kind and I miss her greatly. Happy Birthday whichever plane you are on.

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6. Try this, it doesn’t work: Put it Down.

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7. Remember that those not showing you love and respect: It’s their stuff not yours.

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8. I had a friend recently who has strong opinions about the danger of muslims in our country. So I asked him the question I always ask someone who makes this kind of statement: Have you ever met a muslim, the answer was no of course: Advice.

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9. I have 4,800 Facebook friends, a lot of musicians, american female life coaches, and the conscious movement of Melbourne but how did I get the CEO of Northern Airlines in the USA as one. I know this because I write each one of them a personal Facebook Birthday Card.

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10. Watch their actions, they speak louder than their words: Actions not Words.

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11. a transcendent state in which there is neither suffering, desire, nor sense of self, and the subject is released from the effects of karma and the cycle of death and rebirth. It represents the final goal of Buddhism.

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12. This form of kindness might just save the planet: Enough.

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13. You can’t read all the words, but you get the vibe of it.

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14. Snap: You just have to love Bollywood: Made for Each Other.

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15. I am part of a year long Activators training program and we are working on this theory, it takes something special, such as Love and Respect for All – Everyone Included.

So here’s to kind words to each other as a daily practice.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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