Does it Violate the Golden Rule?


The Golden Rule is to do unto others as you would want done unto you. Rules that elevate some while devaluing others are suspect as bullshit rules – such as rules that grant or restrict opportunities based on skin colour, sexual orientation, religion, nationality, whether a person has a penis or a vagina, or any other arbitary or subjective criteria

A passage taken from Vishen Lakhiani’s excellent book The Code of the Extraordinary Mind that I am re reading at the moment. Vishen sets the premise there are two sets of truths, the physical world of absolute truths and the cultural world of truths based on Belief, he calls the second brules, aka bullshit rules that we adopt to simplify our understanding of the world.

He lists four major ones, 1. The college brule – we must go to college to succeed in life, 2. We must be  loyal to our culture Brule – Our nationality is better than the others, 3. The religion brule – My God is better than your God, and 4 The Hard Work Brule – If you are not working hard all the time, you are lazy.

So lets see what sort of life we could set up with the Golden Rule:

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1. Why talk and say the unsaid words in haste when silence can speak the unspoken words?

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2. Ready, Steady, Go: Ready, Steady, Go!!

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3. George Bernard Shaw , known at his insistence simply as Bernard Shaw, was an Irish playwright, critic and polemicist whose influence on Western theatre, culture and politics extended from the 1880s to his death and beyond. He wrote more than sixty plays, including major works such as Man and Superman (1903), Pygmalion (1913) and Saint Joan (1923). With a range incorporating both contemporary satire and historical allegory, Shaw became the leading dramatist of his generation. He was the first person to be awarded both a Nobel Prize and an Academy Award, receiving the 1925 Nobel Prize in Literature and sharing the 1938 Academy Award for Best Adapted Screenplay for the film version of Pygmalion.

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4. Self Love , one of the major golden rules. Have this and you will know how to deal with others: Born This Way.

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5. Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.

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6. The only time you should put others totally before yourself, if you wish them to spend their money: Keep the Customer Satisfied.

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7. Instant Karma – It’s going to get You – John Lennon.

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8. Actions not Words, my friends: Shake your Sillies out.

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9. Are you willing to grant your golden rules to others?

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10. If all these religions followed these rules the world would be a different  place, we could Lose ourselves to dance!!

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11. I find this quotes extremely powerful, especially the what you see in others – exists in you.

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12. Do you catch yourself saying those things to your children you promised yourself you would never ever say. Stop It: See You Again.

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13. Three Super Golden Rules.

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14. From Texas, The state where everything is bigger that everywhere else. The request is don’t get dirty: Dirt off your Shoulders.

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15. Can your Golden Rules be heard over the screaming your actions create?

I recommend you buy and read his book Link to freight free site. It just may allow you to see where you have followed your brules in  life and give you another chance.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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When I am sad I eat Chocolate!!


 

I recognise my anger and I honour my reaction to the darkness. I know my true power lies in my capacity to be the light. I call on the energy and thoughts of love to pour through me and inspire me to take action from a place of true power “. This powerful prayer is from Gabby Bernstein’s The Universe Has Your Back, it comes from Step 2: Remember where your true power lies.

I think that what we have to offer the world comes from our remembrance of it. If we are eternally sad, that’s how the world occurs for us. Why not be curious in our remembrance of events. How they affected us, why they made us joyous or sad, we have examples of them all.

Let’s strap on our memories and go on the journey:

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1. I remember a drive from San Fransisco to Los Angeles down the coast road on a foggy day. We picked up a hitchhiker going to his Narcotics Anyomous meeting. He was a local and took us to all the places people didn’t know about. The connectedness to the people and the area was remarkable.

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2. This song was number one in our country for a lengthy period: Beautiful People.

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3. Imagine if you walked the streets doing this, what a difference a day would make!!

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4. There is that really bad 90’s Arnie movie End of days. I can remember moments for decades ago, and forget what I did last weekend: Moment of Clarity.

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5. I was born in the 1950’s. Lots of truth to Brue lee’s statement. I remember the people I know and not many others who did not live a life worth remembering.

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6. What memories live in your heart. then can be from your childhood or yesterday, they say time is a made up concept anyway: Memories of a song in my Heart.

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7. My friend and I went on a cricket trip in the 80’s to Sydney, 1,000 kilometres away. He met our friend’s sister, fell in love and moved to Sydney three months later.

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8. I have this vivid memory of Ken, the American Vietnam veteran who rescued us from the bush in New Zealand after our two-day hike in the mountains went bottoms up: I Remember You.

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9. How often does this happen? Besties one day demoted to part of the pack six months later.

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10. Is this the ultimate state of being? I use giving and receiving, better at the first, not so great at the second: Giving and Getting

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11. People remember what you do, not what you say. A  powerful memory.

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12. Memories are made of this, but your future isn’t/ Fulfil your dreams: Follow The Sun.

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13. Whilst writing this I received the phone call from one of my sisters I had been dreading. My beloved brother in law passed from cancer last night.

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14.Lessing was awarded the 2007 Nobel Prize in Literature. In awarding the prize, the Swedish Academy described her as “that epicist of the female experience, who with scepticism, fire and visionary power has subjected a divided civilisation to scrutiny”. Lessing was the eleventh woman and the oldest person ever to receive the Nobel Prize in Literature: I remember when I was Young.

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15. And this is the place our memories live.

So as the phone call shows, your memories can change instantly, hold onto the great ones.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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You all laugh because I’m Different!!


To care about people who are fearful, angry, jealous, overpowered by addictions of all kinds, arrogant, proud, miserly,, selfish, mean, you name it – to have compassion and to care for these people means not to run from the pain of finding these things in ourselves. Instead of fending it off, we could open our hearts and allow ourselves to feel that pain, feel it as something that will soften and purify us and make us more loving and kind. These beautiful words by Buddhist nun, Pema Chodron to me are certainly against the grain of society which is thrown to medicate all these situations as quickly as possible. In my country Australia they spend $155 billion a year on health care, most of it is not preventive but after the fact.

How are things that are against the grain looked at by humanity, let’s take that journey:

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1. How many people have seen that silly video of the single soul who starts dancing in the crowd? then another joins , and another until all of the crowd join in, Being against the grain means other grains/people get the opportunity to experience something they would never have started themselves.

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2. Hendrix re invented guitar playing, Bob Marley re invented the Love Generation’s music and Miles took jazz to another level, they were all doing something right: See Dem Fake Leaders.

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3. If the great inventors of our time had only attempted what they were taught where would our society be now. Get out there and make some mistakes.

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4. When you are rubbing against the grain of sand, there will always be an effect. Try to remember this on a day to day basis: Against the Grain.

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5. History is riddled with wars started by this act, what is more people had spoken out against the grain at the time.

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6. Punk bands typically produced short or fast-paced songs, with hard-edged melodies and singing styles, stripped-down instrumentation, and often political, antiestablishment lyrics. Punk embraces a DIY ethic; many bands self-produce recordings and distribute them through informal channels: Rock and Roll High School.

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7. Perhaps the best example of this is Japanese electrical goods and cars. After WW2 they copied America’s goods poorly, where are the companies they copied now. The roles are reversed, and dare we mention made in China.

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8. They say when a child commences school that 60% of jobs they will do don’t exist. I would think that we need many people who don’t just hang about the institutionally recognised for the world to keep growing as this fact points out: Neverland.

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9. One of my all time favourite cartoons is ban the business burqa. It depicts a city street full of men wearing the same coloured suit. How do we know their leadership abilities when none of them are willing to step out against this unspoken rule you have to wear a suit to be a leader.

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10. I went to a coaching session by a friend of mine, Jeffrey Slayter last night. At the end he asked us what was my takeaway. I replied the soul knows much better than the mind what to say, train yourself in listening for your soul: Your Soul.

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11. Danilo Tagle is a nuerogenetics professor. I think this makes him a very smart dude. He may be talking about what he does for a living, or perhaps about you?

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12. Not one of your A list actors. but a man with ethics. Also a writer and producer, he has starred in some of my favourite quirky movies. Who can forget his dark comedic role as a professional assassin in Grosse Point Blank: Complicated.

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13. Often you have to go against the grain when you are looking for your genius, it just doesn’t walk up to you and introduce itself.

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14. Two Alberts in a row, he is a much quoted man who often found himself in places no one had seen before: On Your Own.

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15. I went to my friend Emeli Paulo’s workshop on Tuesday night on connection. I feel like this has happened for me.

So if its true there are more grains of sand on one beach that there are human beings on the planet what are you going to do with your grain?

Namaste until next time, my dear friends

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It Matters not how Straight the Gate!!


Well, I lost my Thursday blog as I had to leave where I was writing it and it only saved the heading when I got to it again to finish it off. I have since lost the urge to write on that subject of patience. I read this quote and it speaks to how much that mattered.

How do we decide if something matters in our life? Do we flip a coin, ask others opinions, listen to our souls and hearts, attend a mastermind meeting. I’m sure we all have our own unique way of doing it. So let’s have a look at how it has mattered over the centuries:

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1. Probably her most famous quote, Katharine Graham led the Washington Post through its most famous period, especially the uncovering of the Watergate scandal in the 1970’s which caused the impeachment of Richard Nixon, the President of the United States. Watergate is now the word used for any type of major scandal in that country adding a new word to their language.

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2. Do you give without expecting anything in return, from your heart, not your head? This is a different type of giving that opens other people’s hearts as well: From the Heart.

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3. You lose contact with a friend, a relative passes, you lose your job. The pain is almost unbearable. That’s when it matters.

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4. Harry Potter offered much to our society over its seven volumes. Perhaps this is the most important lesson: It won’t be like this for Long.

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5. In my Desire Map Planner by Danielle LaPorte which is subheaded What I will do to Feel the Way, I want to Feel there is a daily question about what are you going to stop doing. I had never thought of adding this to my daily routine. It opens so much space for what does matter to fill it in.

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6. Why do people grow up and hurt each other? We come out as a bouncing baby. Judd Nelson, one of the 1990’s Hollywood Brat Pack, along with Emilio Estevez, Anthony Michael Hall, Rob Lowe, Andrew McCarthy, Demi Moore, Molly Ringwald, and Ally Sheedy asks a very relevant question that matters: Why is it So Hard.

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7. Sometimes we lose direction in life and focus on what others are doing. It can make a difference but essentially it is what you do for yourself and with your time that matters.

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8. Living at risk is jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down. When will you jump off the cliff and what for: Speak Now.

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9. I once wrote the following statement on my Facebook page: We all have the same 24 hours as Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela and Mother Teresa. My brother went apeshit. How do you react?  

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10. Spreading what matters in life also spreads Positive vibrations. Only one song and one artist can be used in this situation: Positive Vibration.

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11. Even if you have to forgive your father, your remembrance of him is what makes the relationship strong even after he has passed. My father was a beautifully kind gentleman.

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12. If it touches your heart it will always be remembered as a special moment. You may even have smiled: Blue Skies.

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13. They say that on their deathbeds the thing most people regret is they did not do more things in their life. They let their common sense talk them out of trying things. Don’t listen to it.

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14. I also posted a picture of an 80-year-old yogi and of another 80-year -old on crutches and with a walker. Same sort of reaction as my brother: Always on my Mind.

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15. There are no Francis Bailey’s famous enough for Wikipedia but this one must be leading an exemplary life to be included in Google Images, just not quite famous enough.

So how does it matter to you, when do you stand up, and with who?

Namaste until next time , my dear friends.

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Don’t Squander Joy!!


I went along to watch a friend do her graduation performance at a transformational program she had been participating in called The Voices Of. In it, Ally embraced the voices of her INNER CHILD, INNER WISDOM, FEAR, SHADOW, DO-ER & DREAMER, she had come to find her TRUE VOICE. It was one of the most joyous evenings I have been to in a long time. Here’s a link to the website for it if you wish to know more: Voices of Movement.

It made me think about what brings you joy in my life. Is it music, sex, food? There are many ways to feel it, let’s have a look at what they say about it:

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1. From the author of the iconic novels Treasure island and The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, Robert Louis Stevenson points to the fact joy is a feeling, not something that can be truly expressed in words.

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2. Joy is a choice we must make daily, I made it last night by attending Ally’s graduation. To experience it today I must continue to choose it: I Choose You.

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3. Can’t you feel it bubbling up just wanting to burst through, have a joyous day!!

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4. Get out your fishing net of love, there is a soul full of joy waiting for you: Heart Full of Soul.

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5. How do you have joy occur in your life, you focus on the things that make you feel that way.

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6. What do you hold as holy, what keeps you warm and aglow? For me it’s music and blogging: Eternal Flame.

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7. Your life is not somewhere to get to, It is a journey. Finding joy in that will make for a more enjoyable one.

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8. It doesn’t change who you are when you get to your goal. If you are not joyful on the way there don’t expect it will change miraculously when you achieve it: Joyful Journey.

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9.  Until his final years, Wagner’s life was characterised by political exile, turbulent love affairs, poverty and repeated flight from his creditors. His controversial writings on music, drama and politics have attracted extensive comment, notably, since the late 20th century, where they express antisemitic sentiments. The effect of his ideas can be traced in many of the arts throughout the 20th century; his influence spread beyond composition into conducting, philosophy, literature, the visual arts and theatre.

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10. One of my favourite writers Wayne Dyer reminds us that we knew this when we came into the world, so how did it become something that we have to battle for as we get older: Be Natural.

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11. If you lead a life of gratitude for the simple things joy will flourish in your life on a daily basis.

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12. This is a list of joyful events I attempt to practice daily because it certainly would be a case of Incredible Joy: Singing In The Rain.

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13. Joy is not a destination , it’s a state of being. There is a borough named Mount Joy in Pennsylvania though.

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14. Thich Nhat Hanh says some mightily obtuse things at times. You will always get a huge amount from them. This song came up next on Youtube, I think it defines joy appropriately: A Spoonful of Sugar.

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15. From the world’s most prodigious and famous philosopher, Anon. comes the reminder that when you are giving joy it cannot help but stick to you as well.

So joy is available in your life, if you want it to be, I say don’t squander the opportunities day by day.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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The Best Part of our Hearts!!


In  my community paper the Northcote Leader there was an amazing story of kindness reported the other day. Members of the community donated enough for a family to replace their car to take their daughter to school who has cerebral palsy after they were involved in an accident and their car was written off.

Stories like this  remind me of the kindness of strangers and not to give in to the dross that is marketed as mainstream media, that of death, killing, war and anything that seems to bring community spirit down. How do we remember to be kind each day, lets go there:

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1. Confucius was born in 551 B.C., I think it is still relevant after all these years. Gratitude is a great gift to receive but is it gratitude if you expect it?

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2. Models do not win citizens of the year very often. We do not make these decisions on looks but what difference these people make: Lean on Me.

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3. Amantine-Lucile-Aurore Dupin ; 1 July 1804 – 8 June 1876), best known by her pseudonym George Sand , was a French novelist and memoirist. She is equally well known for her much publicized romantic affairs with a number of artists, including Polish composer and pianist Frédéric Chopin and the writer Alfred de Musset. Wonder why she used a male pseudonym?

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4. One of the main benefits of Kindness, we rise together: Rise.

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5. Watching small children meet each other without judgement to me is the best example of this on the planet.

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6. Did you know there is a good news network : http://www.goodnewsnetwork.org – perhaps we can sack CNN: Good Times.

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7. I think I’ll hop on Raymond, my pet unicorn and spread lots of this today.

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8. How many strength building exercises do you do a day, get your kindness muscle out and play: Be Strong.

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9. What would they write on the grave of the person who did this – I’m sure it would include a life well lived.

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10. I gave up organised religion a long time ago, perhaps I could take on this one: Lady Gaga and Dalai Lama on Kindness.

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11. Your new daily practice.

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12. A man who inspires me as much as his holiness, Lao Tzu, I recommend you read his books: How to write a Love Song.

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13. Jesse Louis Jackson, Sr. (born Jesse Louis Burns; October 8, 1941) is an American civil rights activist, Baptist minister, and politician. He was a candidate for the Democratic presidential nomination in 1984 and 1988 and served as a shadow U.S. Senator for the District of Columbia from 1991 to 1997. He is the founder of the organizations that merged to form Rainbow/PUSH. Former U.S. Representative Jesse Jackson, Jr. is his eldest son. Jackson was also the host of Both Sides with Jesse Jackson on CNN from 1992 to 2000.

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14. Let’s do this: One Tribe.

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15. Renewing humanity, the ultimate task for people today.

So lets shout out that kindness is one of the factors that makes up the best of our heart, A Ho!!!

Namaste until next time we meet, my dear friends.

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Dare to Say you Will!!


I’m reading Brene Brown’s Daring Greatly at the moment – subtitled How the Courage to be Vulnerable transforms the way we Live, Love, Parent and Lead. The section I am reading is on shame and how that is one of the most primitive emotions and the only people who don’t experience shame are those who lack empathy and human connection.

B.I.G. is an acronym Brene uses – what boundaries need to be in place for you to keep my integrity to think the most generous things about you. How do you communicate that deep love so that people know that they are not alone, that you are feeling with them, me too brother and sister!!

So what have we said about dare to say yes you will, let’s go on a journey of daring greatly:

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1. Are we at our greatest when we are in the heights of chaotic behaviour? Get in contact with your soul and the courage will deal with it.

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2. JFK is quoting Roosevelt’s Man in the Arena speech here, with the great line ” at least fails while daring greatly “. If you fly at a high level it will include failure as well as success: Find the cost of Freedom.

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3. Ass Kicking, it’s what you are taking on when you get in the arena, you own and other people’s.

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4. Outside the world of chauvinistic leadership styles exists the above style – building each other up versus tearing others down: I’m Every Woman.

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5.How disempowering is the statement what if, what if it doesn’t work out, they don’t like me, they do like me, these two simple words have the power to cripple you from being in action.

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6. How often do you ask for what you need? Or do you listen to that little voice in your head as to why their answer will be no: Somebody that I used to Know.

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7. The love human connection creates, the synergy of becoming real with each other is one of the great acts of daring greatly.

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8. I was born in Warracknabeal, a small town in North Central Victoria. It is not the birthplace of what I am hungry for in my life, that’s my soul: Soul Sacrifice

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9. And here is Theodore’s actual speech that JFK plagiarised.

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10. I have shadow and light cards, the intro states that you must work on both. Hoping that life will be all light is crazy: Shadows and Light.

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11. Daring greatly often is this simple or this life threatening, you choose.

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12. Jessie Redmon Fauset (April 27, 1882 – April 30, 1961) was an American editor, poet, essayist, novelist, and educator. Before and after working on The Crisis, she worked for decades as a French teacher in public schools in Washington, DC and New York City. In her early career, she travelled to Paris in the summer and studied at La Sorbonne: Being Black.

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13. Daring Greatly includes doing the simple things as well.

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14. You must do the thing you think you cannot do, so elegant a solution: Warrior.

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15. How many days a week do you show up. It’s our chance to let our true selves show up.

O.K. when you wake up in the morning each day, look in the mirror and say I will, then whatever you do that day is you daring greatly.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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