They may forget what you Said!!

How many times do you have to repeat what you said to somebody? Human beings have a habit of waiting to reply, not listen when in conversation. This trait does not lead to powerful interactions that create the most useful actions in our day to day lives. So, is it the way we are educated so that we grow up thinking that we are meant to know the answers already versus a genuine curiosity in life.

When did education become about rort learning for each student being rated against each other in one or two exams instead of empowering them in what they are great at, let’s enquire into how society defines this:


1. How much of the math you learnt at school do you remember? A math major may say a lot, but the students focused on another calling would probably say ver little as they were not involved in it.


2. Way back in the olden days of the education system in my schooling, I remember having a piece of chalk thrown at me for asking a question that did not fir the cirriculum: Don’t ask me Questions.


3. And with the curing of this habit, we could do this in a  relatively short time.


4. How would it be if we used this premise in dealing with each  person in our lives, transformational methinks: You are my Sunshine.


5. Was she referring to her new compatriot in World leadership when she penned this. Only time will tell.


6. Rollo Reese May  was an American existential psychologist and author of the influential book Love and Will (1969). He is often associated with humanistic psychology, existentialist philosophy and, alongside Viktor Frankl, was a major proponent of existential psychotherapy. These are all schools of thinking that champions communication over silence: Intimacy.


7. Just assuming that people are listening to you is a wide stretch  of the permission they have given you, you need to earn their respect.


8. As Thomas says, take action, observation will only get you so far. Remember the classic quote, they do not remember you for what you said, but by your actions: The Hokey Pokey Song.


9. Engagement is just not in the physical, but also the etheral.


10. Bill Gates, Steve jobs and the gurus are probably the greatest examples of this in recent history: Love.



11. Dale Harbison Carnegie spelled Carnagey until c. 1922; was an American writer and lecturer and the developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills. Born into poverty on a farm in Missouri, he was the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People in 1936, a bestseller that remains popular today. 


12. I think the question she is asking is how do you turn your students into the next leaders of the planet: Survivor.


13. If you get people’s attention, they are willing to believe it and grow from it.


14. To become the female leader of a muslim state, Benazir must have had remarkable skills at both of these things: Give Peace a Chance.


15. The Road Less Traveled, published in 1978, is Peck’s best-known work, and the one that made his reputation. It is, in short, a description of the attributes that make for a fulfilled human being, based largely on his experiences as a psychiatrist and a person. The book was broken up in four parts – Discipline, Love, Religion and Grace. The book took off only after Peck hit the lecture circuit and personally sought reviews in key publications. Later reprinted in paperback in 1980, The Road first made best-seller lists in 1984 – six years after its initial publication.

So from these interesting takes on engagement and listening to people when they speak, we can see that there are many diverse takes on actively engaging in life, so let’s get out there and  do it.

The music today comes from Graham Parker, The Civil Wars, an obscure singer songwriter, Hannah Sutherland, Debbie Doo Kids TV, Lana Del Ray, Destinys Child and John Lennon. Enjoy this quite diverse offering.

Namaste until next time , my dear friends.


I will be better Tomorrow!!

When you read the title of this blog does it make you think you are having a bad day or having a great day and tomorrow will even be greater? Danielle writes that conscious optimism is the soul of service. On page 123 of her magnificent book, White Hot Truth there is an awesome poem titled Nothing Changes Without Me:

Sometimes, my heart is so open

I can’t tell if it is a gaping wound

or a portal for everything that ever was and ever will be.

I’ve learned to Love the beautiful terror of eternity,

and scenario planning for how shattered I could be

if the dark things got tall

and if I fell backwards in my forgetting of the Light.

But you can’t fall backwards in Space,

You can only only only ever unfurl.

More than anything,

I’ve wed the certainty that nothing changes without me –

not coal becoming diamonds

not fertilizing eggs

or migration patterns

or medicine dreams.

And what I had thought was a net cast to me from a higher God

is actually strands of Truth and filaments of desire

that I have tied together with my own two hands.

And in precious encounters, I tie what I know and want to you,

so we can ride the winds of wonder.

Here is the link to obtain the book: White Hot Truth.

So let’s have a look at how optimism lessens the suffering of others:



1. Just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not there.


2. Cute take on words: Everybody.


3. A great quote from the 33rd POTUS. Scholars, starting in 1962, ranked Truman’s presidency as “near great”; since then he has been ranked between 5th and 9th in historical rankings of U.S. Presidents.


4. My neighbours upstairs gt their lemons from a tree up the road that overhangs someone’s fence. Hey, free lemons: Mrs Robinson.


5. The perfect 10 gymnast from the L.A. Olympics

Mary Lou has kept providing the soul of service for her now 49 years.


6. When you fall down, you can do the former or the latter. The optimist is a latter type of person, also there are other to help you get up: One More Time.


7. An optimum list that will get you through your day when it feels tough.


8. Born deaf and blind Helen Keller certainly lived a faithful life. The first deaf-blind person  to obtain a Bachelor of Arts degree in the United States, very little stopped this amazingly optimistic soul.: Stronger.


9. From the worlds favourite philosopher, Ms Unknown comes an analogy between pessimism and optimism.


10. His Holiness, Tenzin Gyatso, The Dalai Lama, whatever you want to call him, without his optimism the world would be a much sadder place: Be Optimistic.


11. Robert Michael Hensel was born with the birth defect known as Spina bifida. He is also a Guinness World Records holder for the longest non-stop wheelie in a wheelchair, covering a total distance of 6.178 miles. Now that’s optimism multiplied tenfold.


12. If you haven’t taken it on because of….., begin it now but don’t do it the way that has stopped you before: Solving Problems.


13. Helen Keller again, she was an inspiration to the world in the way she gave from her fullness, even though we would consider some of them disabilities.


14. Because everyone loves cat and dog drawings: We love Cats.


15. Definitely, time to delete that file.

I love Danielle’s definition of “Waking Up” –

We all need to wake up

so we can do the work

that needs to be done

to live in a world

that we espouse to want to live in.

The music this time comes from  Ingrid Michaelson, The Lemonheads, Daft Punk, Kelly Clarkson, The Dalai Lama, Brent Cobb and Bemular. Different styles, but all enjoyable.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.




Passion meets Compassion!!

Your karass is out there. You are already a part of it. Your life has great meaning, and if you become conscious of it, it speeds up the process. When the members of a karass know that others exist, something activates and the karass gets organised and can operate more efficiently. You may not know yet which karass you’re in, but of you do, consider whether you know who’s in your karass. See if you can find even one person who is serving the same purpose as you./ Reach out to these people. Make a connection. Acknowledge your shared vision. These people are not your competition. They are your allies. If we all do this , perhaps we can serve our purpose more effectively.

This is the hero’s practice in the Committ to Illuminating the Truth in Lissa Rankin’s excellent book The Anatomy of a Calling.

The term karass comes from Kurt Vonnegut’s book Cat’s Cradle. A karass is a group of incarnated beings whose job it is to bring into existence one of God’s holy ideas, pretty neat, huh.

So lets have a look at what society says about finding your purpose:


1. from a man who definitely found his then went about giving it away to the world, Pablo Picasso gets it pretty right as to what finding your purpose means.


2. That is why you need to find your karass, they will allow you your rest and then get you back on track: Don’t Give Up.


3. Don’t have a job, have the profession that is your purpose, your passion.


4. False slogans and statements can get in the way of your purpose, it didn’t for Martin Luther King: I have a Dream.


5. Abraham Harold Maslow was an American psychologist who was best known for creating Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, a theory of psychological health predicated on fulfilling innate human needs in priority, culminating in self-actualization. This is the next step after self-actualisation.


6. Remember those things you didn’t complete, they were’nt your passion: Change.


7. My passion is to integrate Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included, what the purpose is I am yet to find.


8. Dostoyevsky’s literary works explore human psychology in the troubled political, social, and spiritual atmospheres of 19th-century Russia, and engage with a variety of realistic philosophical and religious themes. A hard period to stay alive in , Dostoyevsky definitely found something to live for through his writing: A Great Big World


9. One of the primary tasks this time in, why did you choose to be born this time around? When found out, go for it with all of your might.


10. Nothing and nobody to compare yourself to when you live from purpose: Purpose.


11. A question , How many of you found your purpose through learning the times tables?


12. Especially the recipes taught as curriculums via the education system: I like me Better.


13. Indigenous wisdom worth listening to.


14. Support people as they strive for their purpose, it can be a tough journey: As you walk through the Storm.


15. And finally remember all the great purposes have  never  been about ourselves.

The bond between members of a karass runs deep and pure. Their lives fit together in service to their shared spiritual purpose, go out there and finf and help build your karass.

The Music comes from the 60’s, Prince, John Legend, Justin beiber and there is also 5 minutes of Martin Luther King’s genius/

Namaste, until next time, my dear friends.


Before Alice got to Wonderland!!

I’m reading Tools of Titans , an amazing resource book by Tim Ferriss. He suggests you read only the bits that hit home to you. It’s broken up in three parts: Healthy , Wealthy and Wise. I had to stop reading the healthy bit because it became way too confronting for the physical state I am in at the moment.

So I flipped to the wealthy section and the page opened on big Tony, Tony Robbins, he of the just say YES and finish my sentences for me. Each person is asked Is there a quote that guides your Life? Tony’s answer was “It’s a belief: Life is happening for us, not to us. It’s our job to find out where the benefit is. If we do, Life is magnificent.

After my experiences with NLP I have a dislike for some of Tony’s methods so this may explain why I misread it as Life is Happening to Us, so this is what we will discuss roday:


1. I went dancing to Sweat Your Prayers on Sunday for the first time in a long time. I ran into my friend Jane. There was this incredibly sensual young woman with her, I kept thinking I know you, turns out it was Jane’s daughter Caitlin who I had spent a weekend sharing our souls together at a retreat late last year. We chatted like we had been apart 5 minutes.


2. Denis Kimbro deals with the question as to why black Americans, who are considered wealthy by 90% of the worlds population, struggle on a day to day basis, his premise is that their reaction to life dis-empowers them: Not Afraid.


3. From one of the world’s great philosophers, Ms. Unknown comes this classic that point to where we must first work on our life, Within.


4. In this I want it right now world we often forget this and manage to stuff quite a few things up: Hakuna Matata.


5. Things happens, they become events in  our lives. Then stressors enter the Universe, they are called our reactions, choose wisely.


6. The meat and potatoes way of saying it: It’s my Life.


7. Supposed to be versus how it actually is , gives us access to Life is happening for us.


8. You have a roof over your head, money in your purse and food to eat, for a huge percentage of the planet that is equivalent to joy: Brene on Joy.


9. My take at it: It’s up to us, because we can, It’s our time.



10. Are they still there, the one’s who are: they are the keepers: True Colours.


11. Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included.


12. What if everything that happens for us is to teach us a lesson, and our job is to get them as soon as we can: What about Us.


13. Just to make sure you get the hint!!


14. And remember the mirror practice so you know who needs to hear this message: Change Your Life.


15. And from the creator of, Byron Katie, a final reminder that life happens for us. It’s up to us how that occurs.

Tony also mentions that a way to improve your life is to ask great questions that empower you because then your life is happening for you because you are the driving force.

Music this week comes from Eminem, Bon Jovi, Pink, Casey Chambers, Hakuna Matata and some wisdom from Brene Brown. I think its time for Youtube Red, can’t stomach the Macca and Coke ads, apologies in advance.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.


Fill your Heart with what is Important!!

“I love, accept, and express that I fill myself first so I can heal the world.”  This is the affirmation Steve Sisgold of Whole Body Intelligence,His website got Lissa Rankin to use when she realised her belief system was the following: “You’re selfish and narcisstic if you take care of yourself first. You have no value unless you’re helping others. Your blog audience won’t love you anymore unless you give until you’re depleted. Your mother won’t love you anymore, either.”

This made my stomach turn as I was reading the secind statement, I think it covers some of my beliefs pretty well. Here is the Hero’s practice called Check Your Motives from Lissa’s book an Anatomy of a Calling:

Check Your Motives:

The next time you consider being helpful ir saying yes to service, pause. Get quiet, and ask yourself, “Why am I doing this?” Are you afraid of disappointing someone if you say no? Are you motivated by pity or fear? Will you fear like, “not enough” if you don’t do  it? Are you trying to impress someone? Does it exhaust you to even think about saying yes? If any of these feel true, graciously say no to the opportunity to serve, knowing that you are not just filling yourself first but also protecting yourself from getting caught in a Rescuer/Victim/Persecutor triad, which will lead you to inadvertantly hurt yourself and others.

If, however, you are motivated by surges of love – which generate the impulse to leap out of your chair and say yes, free of any hidden language – go for it! If you’re so far down the spiritual path that there is little “self” to self-sacrifice and you are full to the brim with the desire fir pure service, knowing how fulfilling it is to serve in a clean way, say yes.

Practice this exercise every time you are inclined to serve. This will help you learn to be very discerning about your relationship to service and those you serve, and as a result, you will not only avoid depleting yourself but also expand your capacity for fulfillment and joy.

So how does the world relate to filling ones self up before others, It should be an  interesting journey:


1. Once you are a bunch of smouldering ashes you are not much use to anyone.


2. It’s never to late to write your bestseller, that one you don’t tell others about: Your Song.


3. This is the number one way to stoppbecoming depleted in your life.


4. The more energy you have and that you shine on the world the more you can give to it: I Gotta Feeling.


5. The more you hide who you really are, the more harm can be done to you and by you.


6. From one of TV”s favourite fictional characters comes some practical wisdom about filling yourself first: Love Myself.


7. Ask yourself before you say Yes, What would Love Do in this situation?


8. Heed the warming, rehydrate your soul when it needs it: Take care of Yourself.


9. Manifexting with Marla, catchy name for a great piece of advice.


10. Deepak’s friend Oprah has this to say about this , in a much more pragmatic way: When you undervalue what you do, the world will undervalue who you are:Give it UP to Me.


11. Remember, to help with human rights, yours must be included amongst them.


12. Might fine advice, R.Z., will help keep one out of the Rescuer/Victim/Persecutor triad: Put a little Love in your Heart.


13. Remember to complete your Hero’s Journey, not everyone or everything will make ot to the end.


14. Here in Australia, we have a condition called the tall poppy syndrome. It’s very dangerous for the future of our country: That’s What I Like.


15. That deep satisfaction has to exist within your soul before there is any chance of another giving it to you.

When you’re motivated by the soul’s yearning rather than the ego’s “not enoughness” giving to others feeds you. Service can be like breathing. You give on the exhale, but the giving itself breathers life into you and you are nourished by the giving. So remember to do the exercise so that you are chosing from love and not depleting your life-force.

Music this week includes Annie Lennox, Al Green and Shakita. Enjoy!!

Namaste until next time , my dear friends

namaste prayer

Everyone’s True Colours Show Eventually

Our thoughts create our emotions and our emotions create our realities… Observe your thoughts, Just for Today. Observe your thoughts free of any judgements, just allow them to come through as they are. If you notice any negative thoughts appearing that’s excellent, now you have the ability to change them, now change them.

We have 10-17 magical seconds to flip our thoughts into positive ones before the negative thought manifests. Yes, you are that powerful. Continue, reminding yourself to observe your thoughts, with zero judgement, for as long as you can. This practice session is now complete.

We have a lot of 10-17 second moments in our lives where we do not choose or have the emotional ability to swap from negative to positive, why is this so. Let’s have a look at how life has looked at the moment of observing our thoughts:


1. It’s in the actions we create our future life, thoughts are just passing through. it’s what we do that puts it in concrete.


2. The art of mindfulness, the ability to observe, not be driven by the chaos of our mind was the greatest gift given to the west by the great meditation masters of the east: That I would Be Good.


3. One of the great gifts Lao Tzu gave to the world.


4. My friend and mentor Arion talks about living life at 50 litres or 1,000 litres. Who do you surround yourself with in life: Believe.


5. That mind is a tricky beast, isn’t it. It seems to have a mind of it’s own, we wouldn’t have those thoughts, would we?


6. It’s time to eat: The Simpsons or Shakespeare, bitching or praising your friends magnificence, you choose: Halo.


7. The cost of extreme vulnerability, some friends might just not get it.


8. Eckhardt titled his book about this subject, The Power of Now: Human.


9. The purpose of thinking and thought, to feel our passions that move us towards our dreams.


10. To break free of the control of thoughts, like , I need another drink, a block of chocolate would be good right now is one journey worth going on: Morning Meditation.



11. And what Deepak is doing in the video gives you the ability to be totally responsible, Yay!!!


12. Would you let your best friend have those thoughts or be at the influence of them for any length of time?: Best Friendship Song Ever.


13. It’s those moments in between the thoughts that hold the magic, remember to look for them each day.


14. A little bit more of wisdom from Siddhārtha Gautama AKA The Buddha. That world out there, you made it up: Sweet Dreams are made of This.


15. And waiting in the background, for you to get better at observing your thoughts, is your sweet, sweet heart.

So I am calling for you to take on a daily practice which will give you the ability to observe your thoughts, not be observed and controlled by them, have fun taking it on.

Musically today we swing from Bruno mars to the Eurythmics with some wisdom from Deepak Chopra thrown in, enjoy…

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

namaste prayer

I am willing to witness my Fear!!

How do you experience Miracles? The more you choose gratitude, forgiveness and love, the more miracles you expect to experience in your life. A miracle can be a moment when you give up a resentment you have held on to with a sibling for years and years, or losing that jib free you up to follow your true calling. It’s like choosing fear over love, each time you do this you have performed a miracle for all the people involved.

How has society defined a miracle over time, here is the definition currently used

  1. an extraordinary and welcome event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws and is therefore attributed to a divine agency.
    “the miracle of rising from the grave”
    synonyms: supernatural phenomenon, mysteryprodigysign

    “his first miracle was to turn water into wine”
    • a remarkable event or development that brings very welcome consequences.
      “it was a miracle that more people hadn’t been killed”
    • an exceptional product or achievement, or an outstanding example of something.
      “a machine which was a miracle of design”
      synonyms: wondermarvelsensationphenomenon, astonishing feat, amazing achievement

      “Germany’s economic miracle”


    So what have people said over time about it, let’s have a look:


    1. The first one sounds like the Just Do It mentality, the latter that you could live an extraordinary life, go Albert.


    2. Mum Coach Mia Redrick puts it down to thoughts creating miracles. I think it also required body activation: You Sexy Thing.


    3. You are nearly there, and baby it’s getting tough in the bleachers.


    4. Another way of saying everything is a miracle or a gift from the curly haired wise man: Don’t Wait.


    5. This type of love seems to be a miracle these days. Inhale it in!!


    6. The possibility of magnificence, awaken your spirit to this and the miracle will flow in: So Much Magnificence.


    7. Where is your change room? In your head or your heart.


    8. Drink it in, Yes, this is true. So you have had at least one miracle occur in your life. Let’s get out there and create some others: Great Balls of Fire.


    9. They say the way to enlightenment is to give up everything you know. This then allows for possibility to enter it.


    10. Looking up who Rebecca West was I just had to include this quotes as well: People call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat or a prostitute.: Hard out Here.


    11. Make this a real part of your day.


    12. Looking for your miracles, remember to focus on your why as well: Start with Why.


    13. I just loved this images, it needs no words to be miraculous.


    14. The worlds greatest miracle: the birth of our offspring. 


    15. They say there is an experiment that can be done that demonstrates people who have taken the same way to work for years do not notice over 50 percent of what they pass by. Time to see the miracles.

    Miracles are held to be humongous, and that is why people do not declare their lives as being so. I think it time to take on From Little Things, Big Things Grow.

    Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

    namaste prayer