My Plan is To……..


There is much discussion as to whether you can lead a balanced life and succeed in the higher echelons of leadership. In his excellent book Leaders eat Last, Simon Sinek points out that not it is only possible it is in fact desirable if you are looking for an efficiently run company.

A leader who uses the top down management approach these days looks fated for the scrap heap. During the GFC of 2007 to 2008 fifty percent of America’s banks failed mainly due to their culture being based on making the holy dollar to the point that they had made some very unwise decisions in chasing larger and larger profits. Businesses that were more balanced in their cultures were able to survive due to the loyalty of their staff.

So what does a balanced life look like, let’s mosey on down that trail:

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1. We create as much information every two days as we did in the entire year of 2003. I think this means that the chances of us doing everything have long gone by the way.

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2. The near first female POTUS points to your job title is not the be all and end all of what provides a satisfactory life: Get a Job.

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3. Love Thomas Merton, didn’t know he was a Catholic priest until just now. A Trappist monk of the Abbey of Gethsemani, Kentucky, he was a poet, social activist, and student of comparative religion.

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4. What a living example Eat , Pray, Love is of this beautiful quote: I’m not in Love.

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5. Star of 9 to 5, what a way to make a living, don’t have this be the major focus of your life and forget your dreams.

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6. Number five seems a tad out of place from the rest: Who You Are!!

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7. For me being silly and letting loose would be challenging, how about you?

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8. Mindmapping , there are three or four for me that are not in balance at the moment: Mo Bounce.

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9. One of the greatest living philosophers, Ms. Unknown shows us a tactic to inner balance.

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10. Koan or meme, what will I call them today. But remember to watch and spend time in today’s beauty: You are so Beautiful to Me.

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11. Attitude: when someone makes a settled way of thinking or feeling about something. … For example: You can tell a person’s attitude just by watching his body posture if he likes something or not. Aptitude: It’s a natural ability to do something or a natural tendency.

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12. The greatest skill in  life one must get rid of if they wish to lead a balanced life: Confessions of a Perfectionist.

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13. We have all seen that cartoon  of life as we hope it will go versus how it actually occurs, we spend a lot of time undoing knots.

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14. SETH GODIN is the author of 18 books that have been bestsellers around the world and have been translated into more than 35 languages. He writes about the post-industrial revolution, the way ideas spread, marketing, quitting, leadership and most of all, changing everything: Holiday.

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15. I love this list, it has helped balance my life on a daily basis.

I actually have terrible balance on my left side, I can’t do the Tai Chi white crane at all, perhaps I need to look at what has it out of kilter.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Time, not just Money!!!


Let’s say you’re moving to a new house interstate. To help you out one of your friends pay for the moving company. A very generous offer worth $5,000. another friend comes to your house and helps you pack the boxes, load the truck, travel with you to the new house, unload and unpack the boxes. Two weeks later, both friends need a favour on the same day. Who would you be inclined to help, the one who wrote a cheque or the one who committed time and energy?

Unlike the time and effort people put into something, it is what money represents that give it value. The cost of something is relevant to what people place on it whereas time cannot be given back. There are 2 million dollar watches and 10 dollar watches that both do the same job, possibly made with a process that took approximately the same time. How many times have you been in a meeting thinking, I will never get this time back.

So what has society said about the value of time versus money, lets delve into it:

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1. People don’t come around to your place to look at your possessions, they come to exchange stories of the great times that you spent together, your experiences.

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2. If you lock them up in the kennel , and only bring them out to show them off as an asset, no tail wagging: I Love My Dog.

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3. It’s what you focus on that gets the money rolling in, how you spend your time.

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4. We don’t go on and on about the time that some one gave us lots of money, the money soon is not there. But that time we were feeling suicidal and you held our hand all night, now, thats a different matter: Hold my Hand.

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5. Remarkably the only thing that is always there is you, not your money, your friends. It depends on how you direct your life that makes it work out or not.

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6. There are many meanings for prosperity such as wealth, success, profitability, affluence, riches, opulence, the good life, (good) fortune, ease, plenty, welfare, comfort, security, well-being; nowhere does it just say money: Prosperity.Yeha-Noha.

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7. A car cannot love you.

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8. Why are there so many books compared to museums. Simply put, people like stories that entertain, not things that people collected: Love Story.

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9. What children remember, not the toys.

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10. The big Tones take on it: you can’t get more time: Invest in Yourself.

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11. Two ultra rich musicians recently took their own lives, they were not happy because they were ultra-rich.

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12. Bhutan is a country that measures their gross happiness product, not their gross domestic product. Guess which country has the highest well being: Happy.

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13. Better known as the advice columnist Dear Abbey, this quote would have been written in the 1950’s or 60’s. I think it is far more relevant in our instant gratification days that we now live in.

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14. What should come first is your vision for life, not your bank balance. Fulfilling your vision means you are living life on your terms: Live your Life.

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15. Love does not carry a price tag, remember this daily.

Why do we call a business a “company” – because it is a collection of people in the company of other people. it’s the company that matters.

Namaste until next time my dear friends.

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Find Your Passion!!!!


Both of my English students have pulled the plug today so I get to write this blog a few hours earlier, I have decided to write an ode to my friend and anam cara Emeli Paulo. I met Emeli setting out chairs at a yoga and meditation event some years ago. Both Emeli and I are the sort of people who if they see something needs to be done we get in and do it. We introduced ourselves and I asked why she had come. Emeli said she was running a workshop that would address what stops you in your life from having what you want happen. I still have her card with Stop Running Away written on it. As always she delivered her promise.

I am reading Simon Sinek’s second book Leaders eat Last. If you don’t know who Simon is he’s the start with Why guy, here’s a link to his TED talk, the second most watched one in the history of TED ;How great Leaders inspire Action. Emeli had me stick to my Why, which I had been resisting for two and a half years: Love and Respect for All – Everyone Included.

Why, How, What, how has the world written about it over time, let’s have a look:

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1. Finding it difficult to get out of bed? Have you why written on your dresser window and it will go away.

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2. I’d lose that extra weight if I was motivated. Your only limit is You, Do it Now, If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you. Sounds like a Tony Robbins seminar in full flight. But if underneath it all, if you have not answered Why?, words spoken and written on parchment that will make no difference: No Excuses.

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3. Google has let me down, when I put in Coach Hite it brought up coach hire in Melbourne, Australia where I live, so he must remain anonymous, but it’s such a beautiful quote it deserves more.

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4. I always thought David Bowie was singing: Passion , turn to the left ilo Fashion, so here it is: Fashion.

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5. As kids we run around all day like this, then something happens. Time to take it back.

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6. In my youth I would boast I read Nietzsche to look cool, now he writes leadership and motivational quotes. His books are not quite so accessible: Roar.

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7. My birthday, is 17th July, must admit can’t remember the other. I do know where, at the Darebin Intercultural Centre one, windy, rainy day during a Melbourne winter.

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8. But Mummy, The unicorn was that big. Never forget your childhood unicorns: Dark Horse.

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9. In the mirror. It’s You, Yay!! Out on the streets to kick some ass.

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10. Here is the man himself, Simon Sinek, something we love called passion: beautiful words and ethos: Love is Action.

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11. This is what finding your Why allows you in life. Get on board, the bus is leaving now.

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12. My mentor Arion always says to have a vision and essence for any project you wish to fulfill in your life. It will be there to remind you when the going gets tough. Thanks brother , for that: You and Me.

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13. This is why we spend our lives finding our Why, because of the things that never were that we are meant to create, little or large,

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14. I’d add one, Know your Why on a daily basis: Believe in Yourself.

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15. One smile at a total stranger is enough to do this. Don’t be withholding.

I just realised you may not know what an Anam cara is? Anam Cara is the old gaelic term for “soul friend.” anam meaning soul and cara meaning friend. Anam Ċara is the title of a 1997 bestseller on “Celtic spirituality”, the first publication by Irish author and then-priest John O’Donohue. According to O’Donohue, the Irish term anam cara (lit. “soul-friend”) originates in Irish monasticism, where it was applied to a monk’s spiritual advisor.

The book was an international bestseller and catapulted the author to public notability as an author and much sought-after speaker and teacher particularly in the United States. O’Donohue left the priesthood in 2000. As O’Donohue puts it: The term is greatly misconstrued to mean “soul mate”, anam meaning soul and cara meaning friend.

What is Emeli’s Why. here is the link: Collective Potential.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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To move forward, you have to give Back!!


So what do you think about others? Gabby Bernstein in her book May Cause Miracles wrote the following Morning Reflection: Inner Guide, I call on you for help. I know I have chosen separation over love. For today, I choose to see everyone as equal and release my fear to your care. I wholeheartedly welcome your guidance. I ask that you teach me to perceive everyone as equal, and to see everyone as love. Teach me love through every holy encounter.

I live from five core desired feelings, one of them is H.O.P.E. – Helping Other People Evolve, because I realised a long time ago that my life was a whole lot better with empowered people in it rather than disempowered people.

So has there been much said about the empowerment of others over the centuries, let’s journey down that path:

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1. Your acts of kindness may not make front page news, but for the person they are done for, they will always be remembered.

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2. HHDL, the man who lives this the best on the planet, gets our prime purpose down pat: He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother.

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3. Didn’t expect ot see a POTUS making this list, but what a beautiful image.

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4. And how could I write about this subject without including the Queen of giving, Oprah Winfrey: Helping Others.

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5. When someone ask you to help them get to where they want to, and together you achieve that, the shared joy is palpable.

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6. And the rest of HHDL quote, don’t hurt others: Never going to give you Up.

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7. Jet Li, actor and martial arts practitioner calls to us to believe that we all are one family and our purpose is to help each other.

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8. Looking for your inner self, start doing things for others, the answer will come quickly: The best thing about me is You.

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9. Actress and Humanitarian, Audrey Hepburn appeared in fewer films as her life went on, devoting much of her later life to UNICEF. She had contributed to the organisation since 1954, then worked in some of the poorest communities of Africa, South America and Asia between 1988 and 1992. She was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom in recognition of her work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador in December 1992. A month later, Hepburn died of appendiceal cancer at her home in Switzerland at the age of 63.

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10. Hang around with people who are up to making a difference with their lives, remember eagles fly above the clouds: Fly like an Eagle.

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11. The motto is, you can’t do it on your own.

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12. Prioritise your life, take with one, give with the other: Dancing on my Own.

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13. Powerful Image, says it all.

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14. Such a healthy lifestyle too: I was Here.

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15. My mum need her torch at night so she can read the clock on her wall, what will you use your torch of kindness for?

Kindness created me kind. I come from love and kindness and I know this is who I am. Today I choose to remember my truth and share it with the world. Today I will spread loving-kindness to all those I encounter.

This affirmation is to remind you of who you are, a being of love.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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The Life you’ve always Wanted!!


I picked up Marc and Angel Chernoff’s majestic book 1000+ Little Things Happy Successful People Do Differently this morning and flipped it open to a page, this is how I read ot and it gave my the Passion section. indeed it was a list of Passion questions to make you think: Here they are :

  1. What will you never give up On?
  2. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
  3. What activities make you lose track of time
  4. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
  5. What fascinates you?
  6. What is something you would hate to go without for a day?
  7. What’s something you would do every day if you could?
  8. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
  9. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
  10. What would you do differently if you know nobody would judge you?

Great questions to bring your passion alive, methinks. But now its time to take a passionate journey:

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1. What is your lightworker career. Don’t give up on finding it, the world is waiting for you.

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2. Now you’re looking in the mirror, say the things that get you in action, here’s one: Love is Action.

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3. What would a blog on Passion be without an Oprah quote, one of my top ten passion guru’s.

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4. This one is self explanatory, words are unnecessary: All of the Lights.

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5. Time to throw the dirt out of the grave you have buried your passion under.

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6. Stress or Passion, easy choice: All of Me.

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7. Another great tool in finding out your passionate why is Simon Sinek’s legendary TED talk How Great Leaders Inspire Action.

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8. Which intersection do you  live on. I live on Love and Respect for All – Everyone Included drive and sacred Love Avenue: Unwritten.

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9. Career counsellors tended to get this wrong at school, their suggestions lay between accounting and teaching.

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10. They say knowledge gives us a sense of who we are. Don’t give up your quest before you get to this point in your journey: Living Your Dreams.

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11. And the POTUS’s take on it, not sure I agree.

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12. Become an explorer and search your world for it, then run with it as fast as you can: Try Everything.

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13. Have you entered your shadowlands to find your passions, that is where they live sometimes.

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14. When I’m calling you oo oo oo oo, your passion is singing this song to you if you would just listen: Indian Love Call.

 

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15. How did it get to be 1:20pm. You can guess what I love doing.

There’s a fantastic parable in the book called the Art of being Naked, it displays passion at its most excellent, here is the link to the book, grab yourself a copy if you desire passion in your life: the link.

Namaste until next time my dear friends.

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Note to Self, You Deserve This!!


You do not have to be good,

You do not have to walk on your knees

for a hundred miles through the desert repenting

You only have to let the soft animal of your body

Love what it Loves – Mary Oliver

Taken from the Deserving Chapter in Danielle LaPorte’s brilliant workbook, The Desire Map, the first page ends with Deserving and Worthiness – these are the notions that get to the pulse of our consciousness and self-esteem.

What do you believe you deserve in life,, and where did those beliefs come from, how old were you when you made these decisions? Lets go on a journey  into what we deserve in our lives:

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1. For those who thought atheism was a new invention, Robert Green “Bob” Ingersoll (August 11, 1833 – July 21, 1899) was an American lawyer, a Civil War veteran, political leader, and orator of the United States during the Golden Age of Free Thought, noted for his broad range of culture and his defense of agnosticism. He was nicknamed “The Great Agnostic“.

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2. Remember, It’s their stuff not yours, go on with those deserving of your company: Bad Company.

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3. They make you pick up and dispose of dog poo, don’t not do the same for your relationships.

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4. Written 2,300 years ago, this quote on dignity still rings true in our  instant gratification society, do not hand out honours in your life cheaply: Greatest Love of All.

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5. Remember, if the door doesn’t open, it’s not meant for you, you deserve better.

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6. You keep throwing yourself against that wall, because your head tells you too. It takes a while to hear your heart whispering, No darling, this one’s not for you:Wake Up.

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7. Don’t give into behaviour that belittles a relationship, stay inside the strength of your character.

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8. I think they left be out of this quote, I’m a proofreader by trade. There are theories that the gut is your second brain, I guess I kind of believe that: Trust Your Gut.

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9. Look in the mirror, there’s your saviour, you can do it!!

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10. If you are their option B or C, time to move on: Options.

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11. I am starting to lead Sacred Love workshops, the ability to tell those sacred stories that you keep for that special person, they may be good or bad, but you know what I am talking about.

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12. We are deserving in every language and culture on the planet: Dan Balan.

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13. You deserve this, rekindle that light within you.

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14. Remember when handing the love out, the first place it need to exist is in the person giving it, Respect thyself: Respect.

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15. And finally stencil this on your psyche and perhaps put it on the fridge, you deserve it. 

You deserve: eye contact, smiles in the morning, food made with pure intention, clean drinking water – fresh air, Hello, Please, Thankyou, time to think about it,  a chance to show what you are made of, a second chance, an education, health care, including dental, multiple orgasms, weekends off, eight hours of sleep, play before work, to change your mind, to say no, to say yes, to have your deepest needs met, to be seen and to be loved for who you really are. Thanks for this list, Danielle, it’s beautiful

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Like Water in the Desert!!


I took part in an eldership ceremony yesterday, my friend Gabriella requested to be admitted into the tribe of elders in our community. We sang her into the room with the first verse of Amazing Grace, it was the only one we all knew. Then we gave her our own personal blessing and welcomed her into her new role.

It was extremely moving and I thought I would write about Eldership today as I am 63 since last Monday I have the right to do this as I hold myself as an elder too. I looked up Eldership quotes and it seems you have to be a Christian to become one out there in the big, wide , world. This was not how Gabby or I hold Eldership so the quotes for today come from a different space, leadership in one’s community.

Lets us journey down the Eldership path:

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1. John Quincy Adams  – July 11, 1767 – February 23, 1848) was an American statesman who served as a diplomat, United States Senator, member of the House of Representatives, and was the sixth President of the United States from 1825 to 1829. He was a member of the Federalist, Democratic-Republican, National Republican, and later the Anti-Masonic and Whig parties, thats a lot of parties.. He was the son of President John Adams and Abigail Adams and thus contributed to the formation of the Adams political family. He served as a leader for his whole life.

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2. To me eldership does not get handed to you just because of your age. This statement from Gandhi is more to the point of why you do: Be the Change.

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3. These are the wise things I hope that I pass on as an elder in my community.

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4. As elders you will have made many mistakes in your life, the wisdom bit is how you tell the people you are advising to deal with them: Learning from your Mistakes.

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5. And remember red stands out more than white, no drab fare for the elders of the world.

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6. Winner of the Nobel Peace Prize, Albert lived to the ripe old age of 90. He was 77 when he won his Nobel Prize, an elder leading by example: Lead by Example.

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7. They say hate will never solve anything. To me negativity is a form of hate. People do not come to their elders for negativity.

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8. This reminds me of the two wolves story for some reason, that it depends on which story you are telling yourself that counts: Making Progress.

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9. By the time we reach Eldership I’m sure we have covered all of these.

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10. The cute quote of the day, fairy penguins, Aaw: The Penguin Song.

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11. Essence is on there, The essence that you live through your life may grant you Eldership, and then again maybe not.

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12. There are often times during our lives that our abilities seem to slip to a level that we later regret, they can become wise stories to tell as elders so others don’t make the same mistakes: Talking to Strangers.

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13. Eldership is in pointing out that it’s hard to be somewhere else than where you are.

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14. Sometimes Eldership is not words, it is just holding the space with silence allowing the others to work out what they need too: Some Eldership words from Alan.

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15. Yes, even Elders are novices at that exact point of time, the new age they are.

Enjoy the little things in life because one day you will look back and realise they were the big things. I love the song from little things big things grow, such as Eldership.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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