They may forget what you Said!!


How many times do you have to repeat what you said to somebody? Human beings have a habit of waiting to reply, not listen when in conversation. This trait does not lead to powerful interactions that create the most useful actions in our day to day lives. So, is it the way we are educated so that we grow up thinking that we are meant to know the answers already versus a genuine curiosity in life.

When did education become about rort learning for each student being rated against each other in one or two exams instead of empowering them in what they are great at, let’s enquire into how society defines this:

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1. How much of the math you learnt at school do you remember? A math major may say a lot, but the students focused on another calling would probably say ver little as they were not involved in it.

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2. Way back in the olden days of the education system in my schooling, I remember having a piece of chalk thrown at me for asking a question that did not fir the cirriculum: Don’t ask me Questions.

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3. And with the curing of this habit, we could do this in a  relatively short time.

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4. How would it be if we used this premise in dealing with each  person in our lives, transformational methinks: You are my Sunshine.

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5. Was she referring to her new compatriot in World leadership when she penned this. Only time will tell.

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6. Rollo Reese May  was an American existential psychologist and author of the influential book Love and Will (1969). He is often associated with humanistic psychology, existentialist philosophy and, alongside Viktor Frankl, was a major proponent of existential psychotherapy. These are all schools of thinking that champions communication over silence: Intimacy.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fDkoknFMvfI

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7. Just assuming that people are listening to you is a wide stretch  of the permission they have given you, you need to earn their respect.

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8. As Thomas says, take action, observation will only get you so far. Remember the classic quote, they do not remember you for what you said, but by your actions: The Hokey Pokey Song.

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9. Engagement is just not in the physical, but also the etheral.

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10. Bill Gates, Steve jobs and the Dot.com gurus are probably the greatest examples of this in recent history: Love.

 

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11. Dale Harbison Carnegie spelled Carnagey until c. 1922; was an American writer and lecturer and the developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills. Born into poverty on a farm in Missouri, he was the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People in 1936, a bestseller that remains popular today. 

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12. I think the question she is asking is how do you turn your students into the next leaders of the planet: Survivor.

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13. If you get people’s attention, they are willing to believe it and grow from it.

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14. To become the female leader of a muslim state, Benazir must have had remarkable skills at both of these things: Give Peace a Chance.

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15. The Road Less Traveled, published in 1978, is Peck’s best-known work, and the one that made his reputation. It is, in short, a description of the attributes that make for a fulfilled human being, based largely on his experiences as a psychiatrist and a person. The book was broken up in four parts – Discipline, Love, Religion and Grace. The book took off only after Peck hit the lecture circuit and personally sought reviews in key publications. Later reprinted in paperback in 1980, The Road first made best-seller lists in 1984 – six years after its initial publication.

So from these interesting takes on engagement and listening to people when they speak, we can see that there are many diverse takes on actively engaging in life, so let’s get out there and  do it.

The music today comes from Graham Parker, The Civil Wars, an obscure singer songwriter, Hannah Sutherland, Debbie Doo Kids TV, Lana Del Ray, Destinys Child and John Lennon. Enjoy this quite diverse offering.

Namaste until next time , my dear friends.

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I am not afraid of Storms!!


Storms could be another way of relating to our weaknesses, why do we spend so much time thinking about what we cannot do aka our percieved weaknesses versus what are our strengths. The effect that weaknesses have on us are one of the takeaways in Timothy Ferriss’s great book Tools of Titans: His website.  Ferriss has been listed as one of Fast Company‘s “Most Innovative Business People,” one of Forbes‘s “Names You Need to Know,” and one of Fortune‘s “40 under 40.” He is an early-stage technology investor/advisor (Uber, Facebook, Shopify, Duolingo, Alibaba, and 50+ others) and the author of four #1 New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestsellers, including The 4-Hour Workweek and his latest, Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers. The Observer and other media have called Tim “the Oprah of audio” due to the influence of The Tim Ferriss Show podcast, which has exceeded 100 million downloads and has been selected for “Best of iTunes” three years running.

What influence can dealing with our weaknesses have on our day to day life, lets see what society says:

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1.Seneca the Younger (c. 4 BC – AD 65), fully Lucius Annaeus Seneca and also known simply as Seneca , was a Roman Stoic philosopher, statesman, dramatist, and—in one work—humorist of the Silver Age of Latin literature.

Seneca was born in Cordoba in Hispania, and raised in Rome, where he was trained in rhetoric and philosophy. He was a tutor and later advisor to emperor Nero. He was forced to take his own life for alleged complicity in the Pisonian conspiracy to assassinate Nero, in which he was likely to have been innocent.

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2. That feeling when you wake up and go but I didn’t do that, I have no idea how I will survive…, you know what I mean, Its in these moments you must get back to self love and relate to what you have done that are your moments of greatness: The Greatest.

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3. Susan Gale is an author who has this one quote on Goodreads, All I Ever Needed Was The One is the heartfelt love life story of a late bloom baby boom cougar in search of genuine cupid chemistry and not a beta male mate. It’s about a rare old fashioned lady who finally settles down for the chemical pheromone reaction of true love and not a politically correct laundry list of economically desirable shortcomings. A tale spanning innocent bliss, adult discovery and sentimental mid life, this romantic comedy is the ultimate storybook of waiting for Mr. Right or finding at long last love.

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4. This makes me think of the quote I left out, “A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. Albert Einstein”: Starman.

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5. With the  light comes the dark, learn about both  or the one you forget will snak up on you and slam you to the ground.

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6. Abundance does not just relate to how much money you have, It’s also in those moments when you get fully in touch with your emotions , both types, positive and so called negative: He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother.

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7. Love is not a Mills and Boon script, it includes the above as well.

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8. When did not showing your emotions become a so called show of strength: Crying.

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9. How often do we need to do reality checks versus how we hope it will be?

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10. Emerson wrote on a number of subjects, never espousing fixed philosophical tenets, but developing certain ideas such as individuality, freedom, the ability for mankind to realize almost anything, and the relationship between the soul and the surrounding world. Emerson’s “nature” was more philosophical than naturalistic: “Philosophically considered, the universe is composed of Nature and the Soul”. Emerson is one of several figures who “took a more pantheist or pandeist approach by rejecting views of God as separate from the world: Feels

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11. Keep putting your feet in front of each other, your soul is listening.

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12. Thomas Edison’s teachers said he was “too stupid to learn anything.” He was fired from his first two jobs for being “non-productive.” As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?”Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”: Don’t Give Up.

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13. Go out and find some bumpy roads so you know what it takes.

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14. The remainder of this quote is “True power is within and is available to you now, certainly changes the outcome doesn’t it: The Show must Go On.

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15. To finish, this great quote from Leonardo. Your weaknesses have the ability to become your strengths.

Managing Procrastination, Predicting the Future, and Finding Happiness – Tim Urban can be found on Tom’s podcast, here is the link Wordly advice on the path to Happiness. It’s quite long, but then again great conversations are those ones you have where time is irrelevant.

Music is from the current time with Sia to the 60’s with the Hollies witha great duet by K. D. Laing and Roy Orbison thrown in.

Namaste until next time my dear friends.

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Fill your Heart with what is Important!!


“I love, accept, and express that I fill myself first so I can heal the world.”  This is the affirmation Steve Sisgold of Whole Body Intelligence,His website got Lissa Rankin to use when she realised her belief system was the following: “You’re selfish and narcisstic if you take care of yourself first. You have no value unless you’re helping others. Your blog audience won’t love you anymore unless you give until you’re depleted. Your mother won’t love you anymore, either.”

This made my stomach turn as I was reading the secind statement, I think it covers some of my beliefs pretty well. Here is the Hero’s practice called Check Your Motives from Lissa’s book an Anatomy of a Calling:

Check Your Motives:

The next time you consider being helpful ir saying yes to service, pause. Get quiet, and ask yourself, “Why am I doing this?” Are you afraid of disappointing someone if you say no? Are you motivated by pity or fear? Will you fear like, “not enough” if you don’t do  it? Are you trying to impress someone? Does it exhaust you to even think about saying yes? If any of these feel true, graciously say no to the opportunity to serve, knowing that you are not just filling yourself first but also protecting yourself from getting caught in a Rescuer/Victim/Persecutor triad, which will lead you to inadvertantly hurt yourself and others.

If, however, you are motivated by surges of love – which generate the impulse to leap out of your chair and say yes, free of any hidden language – go for it! If you’re so far down the spiritual path that there is little “self” to self-sacrifice and you are full to the brim with the desire fir pure service, knowing how fulfilling it is to serve in a clean way, say yes.

Practice this exercise every time you are inclined to serve. This will help you learn to be very discerning about your relationship to service and those you serve, and as a result, you will not only avoid depleting yourself but also expand your capacity for fulfillment and joy.

So how does the world relate to filling ones self up before others, It should be an  interesting journey:

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1. Once you are a bunch of smouldering ashes you are not much use to anyone.

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2. It’s never to late to write your bestseller, that one you don’t tell others about: Your Song.

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3. This is the number one way to stoppbecoming depleted in your life.

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4. The more energy you have and that you shine on the world the more you can give to it: I Gotta Feeling.

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5. The more you hide who you really are, the more harm can be done to you and by you.

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6. From one of TV”s favourite fictional characters comes some practical wisdom about filling yourself first: Love Myself.

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7. Ask yourself before you say Yes, What would Love Do in this situation?

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8. Heed the warming, rehydrate your soul when it needs it: Take care of Yourself.

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9. Manifexting with Marla, catchy name for a great piece of advice.

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10. Deepak’s friend Oprah has this to say about this , in a much more pragmatic way: When you undervalue what you do, the world will undervalue who you are:Give it UP to Me.

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11. Remember, to help with human rights, yours must be included amongst them.

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12. Might fine advice, R.Z., will help keep one out of the Rescuer/Victim/Persecutor triad: Put a little Love in your Heart.

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13. Remember to complete your Hero’s Journey, not everyone or everything will make ot to the end.

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14. Here in Australia, we have a condition called the tall poppy syndrome. It’s very dangerous for the future of our country: That’s What I Like.

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15. That deep satisfaction has to exist within your soul before there is any chance of another giving it to you.

When you’re motivated by the soul’s yearning rather than the ego’s “not enoughness” giving to others feeds you. Service can be like breathing. You give on the exhale, but the giving itself breathers life into you and you are nourished by the giving. So remember to do the exercise so that you are chosing from love and not depleting your life-force.

Music this week includes Annie Lennox, Al Green and Shakita. Enjoy!!

Namaste until next time , my dear friends

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It will reflect in your Face!!


Was going to do another of the 15 things you should give up to be happy today, but picked up the Anatomy of a Calling by another of my faves, Lissa Rankin MD : Check it out here. I opened it to page 120, which had the new questions Lissa was asking her patients after she had realised  medicine wasn’t about 15 minute interviews and doling out medications. Here is the list:

  1. Do you feel lonely, isolated, misunderstood, or disconnected?
  2. If you could break any rule without consequences, what rule would you break?
  3. Are you in a romantic relationship, and if so, are you happy? If not, do you wish you were?
  4. Do you feel like you are in touch with your life’s purpose, fulfilling your divine assignment here on this planet?
  5. Do you feel stressed about money?
  6. Do you feel spiritually connected?
  7. Do you feel free to be your authentic self?

At the moment the one that is a bit out of place for me is question six, do you feel spiritually connected, so that is our subject for today:

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1. See that is says We are Love, not they are Love. Hard to remember at times.

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2. I feel I met one of these people recently. I forget to inhale when I am near her: Soul Kind of Feeling.

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3. We are magnificent and broken all at the same time, we need to journey through both to contact our soul, it is made up of everything.

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4. It’s not often you look across a room and go, wow, what a great mind, yet it is that and their heart that will keep the relationship going: Just the Two of Us.

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5. Contentious statement, but where else can you be?

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6. I brought a book of poetry written by a man who spent a year living in Wild Dog Valley. It is compared to David Whyte, Mary Oliver and John O’Donoghue. Each poem is a powerful vignette, the name: Lucid Nature by Sean O’Carroll: Human Behaviour.

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7. Time for a biography as I have no clue who Elizabeth Lesser is, let’s have a look: ELIZABETH LESSER is a bestselling author and the cofounder of Omega Institute, the renowned conference and retreat center located in Rhinebeck, New York. Elizabeth’s first book, The Seeker’s Guide, chronicles her years at Omega and distills lessons learned into a potent guide for growth and healing.

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8. Two of my dear friends, Denise and Ed have many of their ex students as Facebook friends. I think thats because they did this , not told them what to learn: That’s what I like.

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9. We all want to be love, but have to remember our picture of love is different to every other individual on the planet.

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10. What music is on your favourite Spotify playlist: Flash Mob, Ode to Joy.

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11. Buddha lived in a time of overt sexism, I sure he meant women as well.

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12. I have doubts about people who go away for a week, a month even a year who come back and pass themselves off as spiritual guru’s, it’s for at least a lifetime: Lord Shiva.

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13. That thought that keeps returning, It does it for a purpose, when we learn what we have to it will disappear.

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14, Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking, TED talk, what else could this bring to mind: Here it is.

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15. I would call this two souls meeting and creating a very spiritual moment.

Lissa’s new patient intake form was 12 pages long, she says the two most illuminating questions she asked were:

  1. What is your body saying no to?
  2. What does your body need in order to heal?

I think we need to heal our spiritual connection as a priority, writing this has helped me do that.

The music is great, one of the great Australian tracks Soul Kind of Feelings, Lord Shiva anthem, an amazing flash mob version of Ode to Joy, Bjork and the amazing the Art of Asking TED talk by Amanda Palmer.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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I’m going to see the World!!


How do you see the world? Gabrielle Bernstein says you can change the way through the statement – When i lean on certainty and faith I change my mind about the World I See. What does she  mean by this statement? Is it that when you believe in what you believe in you do not have to fall for what mainstream media is trying to push down your throat what you are meant to believe about what goes on day to day.

Let’s have a look at ways to do this, there are many:

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1. Do you open up your creativity to see the many different ways that it permits you to relate to the extraordinary journey that our lives are.

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2. I recently learnt that I had very western values about the Chinese culture when I became an English tutor for three Chinese mothers. I learnt as much each lesson about China as they did about the English language each lesson. It’s a great way to find out how sheltered how you see the world is: Curious.

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3. I watched a documentary about Romania, the host was appearing on a fashion reality show as thousands of people were protesting on the streets because the government were trying to legitimise corruption.

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4. How much do we owe to the photographers that travel the world and capture the images that make us go : I’ve never thought that way about that place. Alex Sattler is one of them: Photograph.

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5. I Think Maya is giving permission to young women to listen to their hearts and not what the fashion magazines tell them is their role in life with this statement.

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6. Dali and Picasso see the world very differently to a landscape or portrait artist. Yet each is revealing his soul on the canvas: Art for Arts Sake.

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7. I was in Leningrad the year before the Berlin Wall came down and Communism ended in the Soviet Union, the people we meant said they loved Russia, but they just made a mistake 70 years ago, Now known as St. Petersburg, it is a beautiful city.

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8. My sister takes thousands of photo’s when she travels the world, I don’t think one of them is of the local airport: Leaving on a Jet Plane.

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9. You don’t need to leave your lounge room, to have these if you are , curious that is. Although I imagine that will not be the case.

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10. Shaw’s expressed views were often contentious; he promoted eugenics and alphabet reform, and opposed vaccination and organised religion. He courted unpopularity by denouncing both sides in the First World War as equally culpable, He really meant keep yourself clean and bright: Windows of the World.

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11. How would life be, if this statement was true for each of us every day.

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12. The general theme of Rumi’s thought, like that of other mystic and Sufi poets of Persian literature, is that of tawhid — union with the Beloved, from whom he sees himself as being cut off and aloof. His longing and desire to attain it is evident in the following poem from his book the Masnavi:

I died to the mineral state and became a plant,
I died to the vegetable state and reached animality,
I died to the animal state and became a man,
Then what should I fear? I have never become less from dying.
At the next charge (forward) I will die to human nature,
So that I may lift up (my) head and wings (and soar) among the angels,
And I must (also) jump from the river of (the state of) the angel,
Everything perishes except His Face,
Once again I will become sacrificed from (the state of) the angel,
I will become that which cannot come into the imagination,
Then I will become non-existent; non-existence says to me (in tones) like an organ,
Truly, to Him is our return: Rumi, The Beloved.

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13. So are our opinions of people, as this is what we see people doing.

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14. The Chinese certainly have some quirky quotes, but they always hit home: Plant more Trees.

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15. So, remember to be curious and question what you think you can see or are told about our beautiful planet, or the above statement may be true.

We have the opportunity each day to do something about the planet, is it because we do not have the faith and certainty that what we believe is worthwhile or is necessarily true. It’s time to stand up for it.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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A Hero’s Guidepost – Stay Open to Mystery!!


Some more brilliant words from Lissa Rankin as I work my way through her excellent book the Anatomy of A Calling: The Website.

Its easy to think we can understand the world and how it works. But then if things happen that we can’t explain, it can lead to discomfort, disorientation and even denial. When something happens that disrupts your story of how the world works, be curious. Don’t worry too much about explaining your experience. The need to know arises from the mind, which can’t begin to fathom what your heart knows is possible. What if “How”and “Why” were not the most important questions, the ones that actually help us live?. When you’re willing to stop being an expert on life, you open yourself to magic. You let life be the teacher and humble yourself as the perpetual student. That’s when the real fun begins.”

So those signs you receive in your life, do you take notice of them or do you know that it just wouldn’t work out. Lets look at some signs sayings, there are some great ones:

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1. The best job I ever had in my career as editor of a national Community Development journal called Community Quarterly would have never happened if I had ignored the poorly handwritten flier – volunteers wanted in St Kilda that day in the library.

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2. This is why The Universe has your Back by Gabby Bernstein is another of my favourite books, great training in listening for the signs, she also does a quote card pack: Manifesto.

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3. A place definitely not to look is in your head, when you feel that energy flowing through your body, follow it to its source.

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4. The cat is about to head off and find Aladdin’s Caves: Follow the Sun.

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5. You don’t only get one on life. My friend Thea writes a daily, 365 days a year book. Don’t hold on when you are meant to let go.

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6. We have all heard the classic joke about the man ignoring God’s messages. It may not always make sense, but we all know when our intuition is speaking to us loud and clear. Stop ignoring it: Intuition.

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7. A life without borders, what level of trust would that take where we could follow each and every sign.

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8. I have a friend who when she travels chooses to go the road less travelled, to follow the crooked roads. She sometimes gets lost, but  her adventures are of legend: True Colours.

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9. This is one sign we do not want in our relationships, practice telling your disempowered and empowered sacred love stories to each other.

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10. Replace tequila with your favourite drink, mines water: Tequila.

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11. I think this signs for me.

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12. I think the message here is to not give the wrong signs and actions out: Hit the Road Jack.

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13. Words do not get results, words with actions that follow do.

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14. And don’t forget to listen to the ones of Self-Love: That’s why You’re beautiful.

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15. And these are probably the most powerful signs we receive. I call it the person you would most like to ravish in your life. Thats my sacred love story about these signs in our life.

What mysteries have happened in your life, those people you thought about who SMS’d you a minute later. That dream you had years ago about the place you are now in and you  know that you have been there before, these are your signs to listen too and follow.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Note to Self, Let Shit Go!!


This is a beautiful sentence for the life altering book The Anatomy of a Calling: A Doctor’s Journey from the Head to the Heart and A Prescription for Finding your Life’s Purpose: It’s tricky to learn how to inhabit your brilliance- to let our lights shine unimpeded-without mistakenly letting it fuel the ego.

On the other hand what spiritual teacher and author Marianne Williamson writes in her book A Return to Love is true:

” Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened  about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine. we unconsciously give  other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

So how has the planet related to inhabiting our brilliance, let’s have a wee peek:

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1. If you have a belief in that everything is possible the chances you will come up with something new is higher.

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2. Because there is a brand new interpretation of it existing that did not before you took on the challenge: Amazing Grace.

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4. I’ve got a soul kind of feeling, moving to the beat: Soul Kinda.

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5. Welcome to the human experience, that’s where life really lives.

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6. Some brilliant words from JFK about humanity: Teardrops.

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7. I hope they say Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included when they are talking about me.

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8. Aren’t we always feeling a little bit more brilliant on a sunny day: Ain’t Nobody.

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9. Is your life your favourite movie, what’s its name?

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10. I might do a blog soon using quotes when world leaders were respected for their wisdom not their stupidity: Back to Life.

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11. From one of the brilliant ones.

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12. Not in it’s flag, it’s army, it’s leaders, simply it’s people: Our House.

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13. The oldest comment, Johann Wolfgang von Goethe lived from 1749 to 1832, a great innings for the time. Brilliance does not mean that you will always spend time with others.

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14. Just couldn’t leave Oprah out, proof in the pudding: Sweet Dreams.

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15. Finally a quiz, one of the most brilliant human beings ever, who is he?

The key is to recognise that spiritual gifts , divine downloads, miracles, magic and brilliance are all the result of Consciousness streaming through us. Our egos don’t get to claim credit for any of it. But it is our responsibility to avoid blocking its expression through us,

Namaste until next time, my dear friends

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