What a Miracle, What a Blessing!!


Were you blessed with living in a house where gratitude was a given or was it a premises where put-downs and teasing were more the norms? In these houses, it was often expected that the children growing up were expected to display behaviors, emotions and thinking patterns that had never been modeled. Gratitude is held in high esteem by virtually everyone, at all times, in all places. From ancient religious scriptures through modern social science research, gratitude is advanced as a desirable human characteristic with the capacity for making life better for oneself and for others. Though gratitude is associated with pleasantness and highly desirable life outcomes, it is certainly not an easy or automatic response to life situations. Resentment and entitlement often seem to come naturally. Individual personality flaws such as neuroticism or narcissism make it difficult to recognize the positive contributions of others. The very fact that gratitude is a virtue suggests that it must be deliberately cultivated.

So how has gratitude been expressed over the centuries, let’s go on that journey:

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1. Sara Avant Stover, a teacher of feminine spirituality and empowerment and a yoga and meditation instructor, bestselling author, and inspirational speaker, is the founder of The Way of the Happy Woman: a worldwide community based on the teachings and practices in her bestselling books, The Way of the Happy Woman and The Book of SHE. As the creator of the world’s first Women’s Yoga Teacher Training, the online program Reversing Our “Curse,” and The SHE School, Sara has taught tens of thousands of women worldwide. She has been featured in Yoga Journal, the Huffington Post, Newsweek, and Natural Health and on ABC, NBC, and CBS. Sara’s teachings, writings, programs, and communities support women of all ages to place the Heroine’s Journey at the heart of their lives. She teaches on feminine spirituality, lifestyle, healing, relationships, and more. Sara lives, hikes, writes, and dances with mystery in Boulder, Colorado. These thousands of women are very grateful for Sara’s teachings.

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2. This beautiful image caught my eye immediately. it reminded me of the facebook group I am a member The Daily Gratitude Space of, where hundreds of people choose to place what they are grateful for over the airwaves: Grateful.

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3. I write one thing a day I am grateful for in my Desire Map Planner by Danielle LaPorte. Just one thing a day sees this happen for me.

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4. Why you should be grateful fro what you have at this time is that you have worked for it. That’s how to get things, doing the work: Royals.

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5. From the greatest quoted philosopher Anonymous comes the above classic pointing to that you need to take the actions of gratitude first.

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6. That’s the place gratitude hits home, in our hearts: Beautiful.

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7. perform an act of gratitude a day to a stranger and you may just transform the planet.

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8. Who is this for you? Your parents, your lover, your children, your boss, your bestie? Go on do it, and make the difference: Stand Up.

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9. The author of several transformational books, the latest being The Universe has Your Back, Gabby Bernstein trains people to be grateful for their lives and do great things with them. Read her books and check her website at https://gabbybernstein.com/

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10. We all have lots of stuff, but often in this consumer driven society we search of more and forget that what we have has made us what we are. Remember this act of gratitude and you will free your life up expedientially : That’s just the Way It Is.

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11. There is a minimalist movement sweeping western society, here’s one thing they could take one.

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12. They don’t need to hear that I really appreciate what they did for me. Not!!!!!!!Speak Up.

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13. This makes my soul shudder, how beautiful.

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14. From Little Things, Big Things Grow, really only one song for this: From Little Things.

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15. Melody Beattie is one of America’s most beloved self-help authors and a household name in addiction and recovery circles. Her international bestselling book, Codependent No More, introduced the world to the term “codependency” in 1986. Millions of readers have trusted Melody’s words of wisdom and guidance because she knows firsthand what they’re going through.

In her lifetime, she has survived abandonment, kidnapping, sexual abuse, drug and alcohol addiction, divorce, and the death of a child. “Beattie understands being overboard, which helps her throw bestselling lifelines to those still adrift,” said Time Magazine. This beautiful quote is an example of the power of her work.

So, as you may have picked up, I believe in the power of daily gratitude. I hope from reading this you join our band of merry pranksters.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Not All who Wander are Lost!!


The Universe speaks in mysterious ways. We have many patterns during our life. Having the same ones we had at four when we are forty can be dangerous or freeing, dependant what area in life we are using them. Sticking to set patterns can hold us back in fulfilling our plans and dreams, Einstein said – “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

Do you know what your patterns are and do you strive to change them to better yourself on a daily basis, Let’s have a look at the power of patterns:

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2. I used to have the pattern of going to bet at 2 a.m. and rising at 10 a.m. When I took up the habit of going to the gym at 7 a.m. I had to go to bed many hours earlier.

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2. Migrating to the United States in 1938 to avoid discrimination as she was part Jewish, Lotte Lehmann holds the distinction of being the only person with a misspelled star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, it was spelled, Lottie. She was a fabulous opera singer as well: Auf Flugeln Des Gesanges.

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3. Let it Go, Let it Out, Let it all Unravel. Let it Free and it can Be a path on which to Travel. Leunig’s great ode to pattern breaking.

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4. Constantly disrupting is what achieves the breakthrough, doing it for a day doesn’t hold water: Breakthrough.

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5. As we are going through another revolution with the introduction of robotics mature people will have to take this on as many jobs disappear.

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6. Do you have a fall/autumn season for your patterns, or do you hold on to the dead leaves, sorry about the golden arches: Send my Love.

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7. I asked Tuli Kupferberg once, “Did you really jump off of The Manhattan Bridge?” “Yeah,” he said, “I really did.” “How come?” I said. “I thought that I had lost the ability to love,” Tuli said. “So, I figured I might as well be dead. So, I went one night to the top of The Manhattan Bridge, & after a few minutes, I jumped off.” “That’s amazing,” I said. “Yeah,” Tuli said, “but nothing happened. I landed in the water, & I wasn’t dead. So I swam ashore, & went home, & took a bath, & went to bed. Nobody even noticed.”

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8. If I use the term the vicious circle for this quote will it give away what modality I studied in the 1990’s : Same Old Love.

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9. Then some patterns are worth keeping, these are some of them.

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10. Louis Hay wrote her first book at 58, she lived and still lives the above statement at the ripe old age of 90: Unwritten.

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11. What is the most Fabulous thing you have ever done, for a lot of people it is having children. As I have not done this, running the Moscow Peace marathon the year before the Berlin Wall came down is mine.

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12. This quote certainly gets into what holding on to what we know works to survive costs us, Time to attack: Teardrop.

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13. Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of Non Violent Communication has helped thousands reduce their resistance to using negative means of relating to the people in their lives.

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14. Bruce Lee studied life as much as he did martial arts. There are hundreds of quotes you can find all over the internet attributed to him. This one is a particularly powerful one: Living In The Moment.

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15.  García Márquez started as a journalist, and wrote many acclaimed non-fiction works and short stories, but is best known for his novels, such as One Hundred Years of Solitude (1967), The Autumn of the Patriarch (1975), and Love in the Time of Cholera (1985). His works have achieved significant critical acclaim and widespread commercial success, most notably for popularizing a literary style labeled as magic realism, which uses magical elements and events in otherwise ordinary and realistic situations. Some of his works are set in a fictional village called Macondo (the town mainly inspired by his birthplace Aracataca), and most of them explore the theme of solitude.

On his death in April 2014, Juan Manuel Santos, the President of Colombia, described him as “the greatest Colombian who ever lived.”

How are your patterns going? Allow them to wander and discover new routes to fulfill your dreams!!

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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It Matters not how Straight the Gate!!


Well, I lost my Thursday blog as I had to leave where I was writing it and it only saved the heading when I got to it again to finish it off. I have since lost the urge to write on that subject of patience. I read this quote and it speaks to how much that mattered.

How do we decide if something matters in our life? Do we flip a coin, ask others opinions, listen to our souls and hearts, attend a mastermind meeting. I’m sure we all have our own unique way of doing it. So let’s have a look at how it has mattered over the centuries:

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1. Probably her most famous quote, Katharine Graham led the Washington Post through its most famous period, especially the uncovering of the Watergate scandal in the 1970’s which caused the impeachment of Richard Nixon, the President of the United States. Watergate is now the word used for any type of major scandal in that country adding a new word to their language.

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2. Do you give without expecting anything in return, from your heart, not your head? This is a different type of giving that opens other people’s hearts as well: From the Heart.

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3. You lose contact with a friend, a relative passes, you lose your job. The pain is almost unbearable. That’s when it matters.

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4. Harry Potter offered much to our society over its seven volumes. Perhaps this is the most important lesson: It won’t be like this for Long.

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5. In my Desire Map Planner by Danielle LaPorte which is subheaded What I will do to Feel the Way, I want to Feel there is a daily question about what are you going to stop doing. I had never thought of adding this to my daily routine. It opens so much space for what does matter to fill it in.

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6. Why do people grow up and hurt each other? We come out as a bouncing baby. Judd Nelson, one of the 1990’s Hollywood Brat Pack, along with Emilio Estevez, Anthony Michael Hall, Rob Lowe, Andrew McCarthy, Demi Moore, Molly Ringwald, and Ally Sheedy asks a very relevant question that matters: Why is it So Hard.

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7. Sometimes we lose direction in life and focus on what others are doing. It can make a difference but essentially it is what you do for yourself and with your time that matters.

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8. Living at risk is jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down. When will you jump off the cliff and what for: Speak Now.

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9. I once wrote the following statement on my Facebook page: We all have the same 24 hours as Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela and Mother Teresa. My brother went apeshit. How do you react?  

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10. Spreading what matters in life also spreads Positive vibrations. Only one song and one artist can be used in this situation: Positive Vibration.

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11. Even if you have to forgive your father, your remembrance of him is what makes the relationship strong even after he has passed. My father was a beautifully kind gentleman.

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12. If it touches your heart it will always be remembered as a special moment. You may even have smiled: Blue Skies.

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13. They say that on their deathbeds the thing most people regret is they did not do more things in their life. They let their common sense talk them out of trying things. Don’t listen to it.

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14. I also posted a picture of an 80-year-old yogi and of another 80-year -old on crutches and with a walker. Same sort of reaction as my brother: Always on my Mind.

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15. There are no Francis Bailey’s famous enough for Wikipedia but this one must be leading an exemplary life to be included in Google Images, just not quite famous enough.

So how does it matter to you, when do you stand up, and with who?

Namaste until next time , my dear friends.

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It fills the cup of Silence.


My Chinese english student Ginny isn’t coming today, her husband is flying back home so she has to drive him to the airport so I am listening to music and writing todays blog. I thought music would be a great subject to write about. I have 40,000 tunes on my Itunes, I’m a bit addicted, always have been since a young age.

I have been a door-bitch for my musical friends for over 30 years, I love most types of music and support the theory most eras produce some talented people. At the moment Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds are playing on my iPhone. I saw him in the Birthday Party many years ago, always worth a listen.

How do you relate to music  , does it pump you up, slow you down or both, let’s have a look what they say about it:

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1. How did you choose your favourite songs? First Love, divorce, losing your virginity are often memorable times.

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2. Thats why we part with our hard earned cash to go and see the greats. They combine words and silence that fills our heart with joy: That’s what I Like.

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3. Your music rends to relief the pain, It’s your gateway to your soul.

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4. Friedrich Nietsche is considered on  of the great philosophers. At the age of 44 he had a complete breakdown and was cared for by his mother and then his sister until his death 11 years later: Without Music.

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5. Backstreet Boy member has had an extraordinary life for 20 years thanks to his musical ability. He is very grateful for it.

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6. Had to laugh at this one, probably true for me though: Life is like a Song.

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7. What is your soul music, Mine is beautiful deep songs by female singer songwriters.

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8. Have had many of these outbursts over my 62 years, the last was at a Safer Youssef, a mystical experience: Soupir Eternel.

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9. I always thought that I couldn’t sing until I met my friend Kavisha Mazzella, an award winning singer songwriter and beautifully hearted soul and my choir leader, you can listen to her at http://www.kavisha.com.

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10. There are so many songs that fill my dreams, what are yours: Dream a little Dream of Me.

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11. Love an acronym, this is a powerful one.

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12. I have made many a good friend I met at music gigs watching bands we both appreciated: Make you feel my Love.

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13. Passion, Joy, Heartbreak, Power. All have their specific songs.

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14. The Bard, taught at most western English speaking schools , you either loved or hated him. His words could make the earth shudder, didn’t know he discover earth music though: Earth Song.

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15. I went to a funeral of a friends father. He had them play Smoke, Smoke that Cigarette as one of the tunes. He died from lung cancer. I haven’t chosen the music for mine yet, I may not have heard it yet.

Music is a constant part of our lives, some of it we love , other styles we hate. My big secret, I love pop divas, very uncool in the live music scene.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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We are a work in progress!!


Disruptive Engagement – what does Brene Brown mean by that term: It’s quite long but worthwhile -To reignite creativity, innovation, and learning, leaders must re-humanize education and work. This means understanding how scarcity is affecting the way we lead and work, learning how to engage with vulnerability, and recognizing and combating shame. Make no mistake: honest conversations about vulnerability and shame are disruptive. The reason that we are not having these conversations in our organizations is that they shine the light in dark corners. Once there is language, awareness, and understanding, turning back is almost impossible and carries with it severe consequences. We all want to dare greatly. If you give us a glimpse into that possibility, we’ll hold on to it as our vision.

To me it is engagement through the community, accepting self-love and love of others and giving your identity up. The juice is from service to others. I put in engagement quotes to find pictures and got a whole lot of rings and vows of deep love so I changed it to committed engagement and these are what came up. Let’s journey:

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1. Be responsible for your life, it’s your engagement and stand for what it is that creates the story that will be told after you have passed.

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2. He really did look like an eccentric 60’s hippie philosopher. Alan Watts is quoted by humanists, community builders, and generally good people: Work and Play.

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3. Doing Life – How do you do yours? Is it a joyous journey you wake up every morning screaming Yes!!!!!! Or is it a life of darkness?

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4. Being silent is being busy if you planned it. I have many friends who have attended the 10-day Vispanna meditation retreat and said it was the hardest thing they had done and the best thing they had done all in the same breath: The Devil goes Down to Georgia.

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5. How could you not choose this imagery and message, that’s why I said you need to give up your identity.

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6. Engagement is a day to day adventure, make sure you do not wait to begin it: Alive.

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7. Such a beautiful smile from a person who brings so much joy to the world. Can’t help but agree if you are fully engaged in loving your friends and family you are totally engaged in life.

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8. Have you found a cause to sacrifice yourself into? They say it is the ultimate experience in your life. Parenthood is said to be this for many: Soul Sacrifice.

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9. The Latter-day Saints base their religion on many hands engaged in a good cause> If you have ever been to Salt lake City you will never get lost as the first fifty streets around the temple are named Temple North, South , East and West.

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10. I think it’s meant to be an anti-war slogan: The Universal Soldier.

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11. Helen Keller definitely has the right to say this, I agree wholeheartedly.

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12. Often people go and do self-development programs and get screamed out to go out and Do It Now, one big man being famous for it. Move at your own pace, its the only one you can: Piece of my Heart.

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13. 7,000,000,000 unique folk battling a media who are trying to make you conform to fit a corrupted image of what it is to be human. Fight the good fight.

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14. perhaps if we did this before doing it with a physical being there would not be so many of these: D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

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15. There are heroes, and then there’s us, transforming the world one act at a time.

What you engage in will create your life. Think about that for a moment. Any change you want to make?

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Do You Fit In?


Desire, often tied to sexual physicality yet it covers all fields in our psyche. It is said if you walk away from them you are not really living a life, just existing. How often as children do we have desires that we fulfill purely with our imaginations. Later on we are taught that this is not a practical way to lead our lives, I think that is a shame because it robs us of our ability to soldier on to fulfill our dreams later in life.

What has society said about desire, there were many takes at it, let’s have a look at a few:

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1. Life does not make it easy for you to reach your desires. it has installed that little voice in your heads that challenges you as to whether you deserve it or not.

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2. Arguably the most distinguished man of letters in English history, Samuel Johnson points out another character we need to make our desires come true: Curiosity: Curiosity Killed The Cat.

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3. There is one voice to listen too when considering your desires: Your courageous one.

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4. Creativity is a journey of achieving your desires, not a battle to defeat those who may get in your way: Good Life.

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5. Here’s a word you will want to drop in casual conversation to impress you friends and family.

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6. Are your desires material things? That’s fine but you can’t take them with you. Remember: The Best Things In Life Are Free.

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7. Not quite as famous as his son Alan, Lauded for his epic poem Howl, Louis was famous for the comment quoted from his death. Louis Ginsberg published puns in the Newark Star Ledger under the heading “Keep an O’Pun Mind”. He often asked and answered, “Is life worth living? It depends on the liver.” His collection of puns was never published but they can be found in Box 2, Folder 9 in the Louis Ginsberg Papers at Stanford University. Louis Ginsberg, who died of liver and spleen cancer, told his son Allen Ginsberg, “I never thought my pun would come back to bite me.

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8. Which do you choose, I align with the wise: Closer To The Heart.

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9. I’m sure Gandhi said lots of prayers to have his desire to free India from England’s grips come true. They seemed to have become tied to religious folk these days, don’t do this, use the power they offer.

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10. What if we could read minds, would you be slapped often or thanked for your generosity: Meet Me Halfway.

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11. It is wise to remember that postponing your desires just strengthens their grip on you. Don’t put them off!!

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12. Such a beautiful name, Spanish poet, playwright and theatre director was also famous for his quote To see you naked is to recall the Earth.: Burned With Desire.

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13. Mignon McLaughlin was an American journalist and author. In the 1950s, she began publishing aphorisms that were later collected in three books, entitled, The Neurotic’s Notebook, The Second Neurotic’s Notebook and The Complete Neurotic’s Notebook. I think this testy quote is from one of them.

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14. One of my favourite songs about what we desire in life: Wild Horses.

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15. Einstein, the master of imagination quotes : Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited, whereas imagination embraces the entire world, stimulating progress, giving birth to evolution.”

Do your desires fit in to the life you lead today, or do you hide them away in the caverns of what you life would be like if you only ………., fill in the dots.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Lucky Enough to be Different!!


I read a beautiful piece of prose in Jeff Fosters The Way of the Rest last night. here it is:

You are the one I wake up with every morning. The one I breathe with, The one whose every heartbeat I feel as my own. You are the one I walk with, the one I speak and sing with, the one who stays with me through every waking moment of every sacred day. You are the one I get sick with, the one I cry with, the one whose anger and joy and doubt surge through me like fire. You are the one I will die with, the one whose arms I return to. You are the one I see in every face, shining through every pair of eyes, shimmering through the silences, the trails of dust and the spaces in the canopy.ou are my constant companion, my home, my reason, my joy, my life. we cannot be divided, we cannot be two, and even One is too many for us.

I sing this song to myself, disappearing into the song and I am never alone.

It is called Love Song to Myself, how many of us write love songs to ourselves? I know I haven’t in a long time.

What is this thing called self-love? Let’s go on a journey down its rocky path:

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1. Love is a four letter word, so is self. Two four letter worded combined make for an awesome life.

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2. Do you do these things daily, if not what is enough for you to Love Yourself: Beautiful.

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3. You Look like you are in Love. A statement that you are not yourself, a shame really.

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4. I did a role play once with my friend Marija. For 15 minutes we had to say a statement to each other. Mine to her was you are fucking magnificent and hers to me was you are a handsome man. Since then we will always be FM and HM to each other: Who I Am.

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5. With the publication of I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings, Angelou publicly discussed aspects of her personal life. She was respected as a spokesperson for black people and women, and her works have been considered a defense of black culture. Attempts have been made to ban her books from some U.S. libraries, but her works are widely used in schools and universities worldwide. Angelou’s most celebrated works have been labeled as autobiographical fiction, but many critics consider them to be autobiographies. She made a deliberate attempt to challenge the common structure of the autobiography by critiquing, changing, and expanding the genre. Her books center on themes such as racism, identity, family, and travel.

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6. Breathing is necessary to stay alive. I agree with Mandy Hale that these should also be part of the menu: F**king Perfect.

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7. Shine on, you crazy diamond, you are unique and that is why we love you.

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8. There are 7,000,000,000 beautifully unique individuals on the planet. Some have forgotten. Your job is to remember!!: Don’t you know you’re Beautiful.

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9. Listen to your heart space, because one day it will stop, that will be the end.

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10. Coleman Hawkins, a renowned jazz saxophone player is credited with saying If you don’t make mistakes, you aren’t really trying. His playing exemplified that: Cool Jazz.

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11. Be careful what you say and think. Remember you are always listening and most of it will come true, even when you don’t want it too.

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12. Make sure that you are not that person: Firework.

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13. Sing that song to yourself as Jeff reiterates in his prose. It will give you access to others loving you.

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14. I am also reading Brene’s Daring Greatly. Self-talk is incredibly powerful. Make the best use of it, you can: Brave.

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15. And for the last insight, let’s give us the greatest gift we can, the beautiful gift of self-love.

You are lucky enough to be different from your brothers, sisters and best friends. That is because you are uniquely the beautiful being we know as ………….., insert your name here.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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