Work While They Sleep, Learn While They Party!!


This blog may be a bit long, it is based on a list by Robin Sharma, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari called Top 200 Secrets of Success In Life, Here they are:

  1. Sleep less.
  2. Set aside one hour every morning for personal development matters.
  3. Do not allow things that matter suffer because of things that don’t.
  4. Use the Rubber Band method to condition your mind to focus.
  5. Always answer the phone with enthusiasm.
  6. Keep a set of blank cards so you can jot down your inspirational ideas.
  7. Set aside every Sunday evening for yourself.
  8. The quality of your life is the quality of your communication.
  9. Stay on purpose, not on outcome.
  10. Laugh for five minutes in the mirror each morning.
  11. Light a candle in the evening when you are reading.
  12. Count your steps when you walk.
  13. Learn to meditate effectively.
  14. Learn to be still.
  15. Enhance your will-power.
  16. Be humorous throughout the day.
  17. Become a highly disciplined time manager.
  18. Associate with positive people.
  19. Become devoted to having only a wonderful experience.
  20. You must have a mission statement in life.
  21. No one can hurt you without your permission.
  22. Take a speed reading course.
  23. Remember people’s names.
  24. Be soft as a flower when it comes to kindness.
  25. Only discuss your health and wealth with your family.
  26. Be truthful, modest and generous.
  27. Soak in a warm bath at the end of the day.
  28. Learn the power of breathing.
  29. Recognise the power of autosuggestion.
  30. Maintain a diary.
  31. Stress is merely a response which you create.
  32. Read The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.
  33. Become a committed audio-tape listener.
  34. Fast one day every two weeks.
  35. Listen to soft, soothing music throughout the day.
  36. Read As a Man Thinketh by James Allen.
  37. Remember that forgiveness is a virtue few develop.
  38. Empty your Cup.
  39. Practice The Two Minute Mind meditation.
  40. Drink a cup of warm water before making a speech.
  41. Stand firm and steadfast.
  42. Act Tough, and you will be Tough.
  43. Ask now what the world can do for you, but what can you do for the world.
  44. Once a week, arise at dawn.
  45. Remain slightly aloof.
  46. Master the art of Public Speaking.
  47. Seek out motivational speakers and listen to them.
  48. Read Discovering Happiness by Denis Wholey.
  49. Read a passage in a book, then try to recite it verbatim
  50. Enter a 5km run then a 10km race.
  51. Burn Orange and Clove essential oils in your burner.
  52. Walk for half an hour after your evening meal.
  53. Start lifting weights.
  54. Never argue with the person you work for.
  55. Dark Suits reflect power, wear them.
  56. Send handwritten notes to your relationships, work and family.
  57. Balance and moderation.
  58. Drink Jasmine Tea.
  59. Effective time management makes you more flexible.
  60. Do not take personal development books as gospel.
  61. Become an adventurer.
  62. Spend Time with Nature.
  63. Mens Sana in corpore Sano – In a sound body rests a sound mind.
  64. Be so strong nothing interferes with your peace of mind.
  65. Do not eat three hours before you sleep.
  66. Be careful about your reputation.
  67. Find mentors to learn and model on.
  68. Make a list of all your weaknesses.
  69. Never complain.
  70. Overlook the weaknesses of your friends.
  71. Be kind, considerate and courteous.
  72. Create your image as a highly competent individual.
  73. Do not reveal everything, familiarity breeds contempt is an excellent rule.
  74. Learn to organise your time.
  75. Keep well informed.
  76. Choosing your life partner is the most critical decision you will make.
  77. Never discuss your personal development activities with anyone, they are yours.
  78. Schedule relaxation time in your week.
  79. To truly concentrate, close your eyes.
  80. Be the master of your will but a servant of your conscience.
  81. Develop the habit of a daily swim.
  82. Do good every day.
  83. Do what you planned to do when you intended to do it.
  84. Use the Bruce Lee worry visualisation exercise to dissipate worry.
  85. Compartmentalise your worries.
  86. Be physically relaxed and mentally engaged.
  87. Yoga.
  88. Prepare a detailed 5-year financial plan and follow it.
  89. Readers are Leaders.
  90. Read something positive before you go to bed.
  91. Develop a dynamic, charismatic personality.
  92. Seek out the wise and learn from them.
  93. Gentleness, Frugality, Humility – Lao Tzu.
  94. When you cannot make up your mind – choose the bolder.
  95. Be your spouse’s number one supporter.
  96. Meet with three wise people in the next two weeks, take their counsel.
  97. Make each day a true masterpiece.
  98. Discipline your mind or lose your energy.
  99. You sow an action, you reap a habit.
  100. Positive overcomes the negative.
  101. A contented mind is a continual feast.
  102. Make a new friend or acquaintance every day.
  103. If you conquer your mind, you capture the world.
  104. Stay happy not build possessions.
  105. Contrary to popular belief, stress is not a bad thing.
  106. Take mental vacations during the day.
  107. A change is useful as a rest.
  108. Study the ten fundamental of Happiness.
  109. Strive to be humble and live a simple life.
  110. Read A History of Knowledge by Charles Van Doren.
  111. Read The Art of The Leader by William A. Cohen.
  112. Develop that elusive quality known as charisma.
  113. In work, love and life, play hard and play fair.
  114. Do not talk when you are listening.
  115. Be angry for a purpose, not just angry for anger’s sake.
  116. Knowledge is Power.
  117. All the answers to any questions are in print, Google It.
  118. Get in the habit of breakfast meetings.
  119. Have a swimming pool near your residence, it will not matter how busy you are.
  120. Excellence is an art won by training and habituation.
  121. Today is yesterday’s pupil.
  122. If you have a choice of two paths, take the most daring.
  123. Every day, get away from the noise.
  124. Focus on goals that are important.
  125. Memorise beautiful poetry.
  126. Keep your words soft and arguments hard.
  127. This will soon pass.
  128. Go the extra mile.
  129. Become a committed and sincere networker.
  130. When you look for something, you will find it.
  131. Develop a sense of wonder about the world.
  132. Do more than writing happy birthday on Facebook for your beloveds.
  133. Remember to use people’s names when you talk to them.
  134. Go outdoors and look up for half an hour.
  135. Once every few weeks leave your phone and watch at home.
  136. Laugh at work.
  137. Master your life, and you master your destiny.
  138. Recognise the tremendous power of opposition thinking.
  139. Get deep in the habit of personal introspection.
  140. The most effective alarm clock resides in your mind.
  141. They say “Why”. I dream and say “Why Not”.
  142. Practice meditation at the same time each day.
  143. Forge and foster great friendships.
  144. Purchase Miles Davis’s Kind of Blue CD.
  145. Drink ten glasses of water a day.
  146. Be punctual.
  147. If you are busy, do not answer the phone.
  148. Start your day off well.
  149. Confide in your partner.
  150. Push yourself a little harder and further every day.
  151. Optimism.
  152. Write down the seven best qualities of people you admire, tape to your bed.
  153. Have your character be healthy and vigorous.
  154. Consider yourself as an orange.
  155. Give and Serve to Others.
  156. Be an innovator at your workplace.
  157. Learn to Laugh at Yourself.
  158. Keep open the windows of your mind.
  159. Go through one full day without saying I.
  160. Spend one hour a day awake in full silence.
  161. Each day, do two things you do not like doing.
  162. Achieve your Goals for true happiness.
  163. Remember the names of the people you meet, ask them to repeat it.
  164. Indominability. Courtesy, Integrity.
  165. Perform the Mental Innterupt device exercise when a negative thought arises.
  166. Take time to focus on personal growth activities.
  167. Read more, learn more, laugh more, and love more.
  168. Improve five relationships in the next six months.
  169. Remember the power of prayer.
  170. Listen to The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale.
  171. Utilise your phones daily organiser.
  172. Browse second-hand stores for treasures.
  173. Read The Magic of Believing by Claude M. Bristol.
  174. Be known as someone with a cool head.
  175. Every week, spend some hours in service of others.
  176. Fill your home with bright, fresh flowers.
  177. Get to know and enjoy your neighbours.
  178. Recognise the power of mantras.
  179. When the breath is still and steady, so is the mind.
  180. Use the one day to live visualisation.
  181. Study evidence of high character.
  182. Youth is not a time of life, it is a state of mind.
  183. Chinese herbal medicine.
  184. Organise your time around your real priorities.
  185. Slow down your pace of life.
  186. Eat only fruit and drink milk for a day.
  187. Value your spouse’s laugh and keep their picture close by.
  188. If married, have your partners initials carved on your ring.
  189. What you put in is what you get out. Positive, not negative.
  190. Do a hundred sit-ups a day.
  191. Be the most honest person you know.
  192. Curb your worldly desires, and you will strengthen your will.
  193. If you have not laughed today, you have not lived today.
  194. Read The Charisma Factor by Robert J. Richardson and S, Katharine Thayer.
  195. Travel Often.
  196. Each month set a physical goal for yourself.
  197. Things are created twice, the mental creation and physical creation.
  198. Walk to work and notice the beauty of nature.
  199. Sleep less, spend less, do more. Live longer and be more magnificent.
  200. Read this book over and share it with others.

What would you add to Robin’s list, what are your self-care practices for success and what does society say about success, let’s have a look at what it has to say:

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1. Being focused and in action gets it done according to Trudy.

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2. Remember to smell the roses along the path: Stop and Smell the Roses.

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3. Nothing and Everything, both extremes can be successful.

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4. Be successful in the every day and quantum success can be built in it: From Little Things, Big Things Grow.

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5. Walk your unique path, you are not meant to wear another’s shoes.

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6. Don’t be a usual suspect: I Bet My Life.

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7. From the most famous philosopher, Ms Unknown comes this uncommon quote.

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8. Don’t be fascinated by it and it will seek you out: Go Your Own Way.

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9. Mistakes, make them. Call out for Help.

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10. Blogger turned New York Times best-selling author and speaker Mandy Hale is the creator of the social media movement, “The Single Woman.” With a heart to inspire single women to live their best lives and to never, ever settle, Mandy cuts to the heart of the matter with her inspirational, straight-talking, witty, and often wildly humorous take on life and love: Breathe Me.

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11. Seek what you love, and you will never work another day in your life.

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12. Do you want it enough to do what you need to make it happen: Whenever, Wherever.

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13. Turn the mind way down.

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14. On and On and On and On: Life Goes On.

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15. Are you for hire, how much do you charge?

For some success is dollars, for some the ideal relationship, for others having children, there is not one situation that fulfils success, find yours and seek it out with all you have to give.

Today’s playlist begins with Mac Davis, then the classic Oz duo Paul Kelly and Kev Carmody. Imagine Dragons are next, then we rock it out with Fleetwood Mac. Two pop divas follow, Sia and Shikhara. We finish with the rapper Tupac: Work While They Sleep, Learn While They Party.

I see success for humanity as being via Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Let’s move towards that until next time we meet, my dear friends.

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The Pain of the Process is only Temporary.


Wish you had more wellbeing? Are you longing for an evidence-based approach to consistently feel good and function more effectively at work? Do you need busy-proof practices to help you more confidently navigate the lows and highs we all experience?

What if you had a toolkit to unleash accomplishment. If you purchase Your Wellbeing Blueprint: Feeling Good and Doing Well at Work by Michelle Mcquaid and Dr Peggy Kern you get one: Get It Here.

There are seven levels to the tool kit, here they are:

  1. Setting Goals That Work – Know what you Want, Audit your Time, Stretch Yourself, Set Weekly Goals.
  2. Being Hopeful – Map Your Hopes, Start a Passion Project, Find Hopeful Friends.
  3. Practising Growth Mindset – Set Learning Goals, Get comfortable with Failure, Name your fixed Mindset, Growth Mindset Reflection.
  4. Developing Grit – Draw a Grit Map, Ask for Help, Invest in Deliberate Practice.
  5. Boosting Your Confidence – Strike a Power Pose, Take One Small Step, Acknowledge “Not Yet”.
  6. Being Self-Compassionate – Create a Mantra, Write a Letter, Soothe Your Pain, Remember to be Kind.
  7. Improving Your Resilience – Challenge Your Beliefs, Lean into the Suck, Ban “Always”, Flex Your Stress Mindset.

Shakespeare said, “Joy’s soul lies in the doing.” How has society written about this journey, Let’s take a look:

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1. Do what you love for work, and you will never work another day in your life.

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2. Burn, Baby, Burn: Burning Down the House.

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3. Charles Franklin Kettering sometimes known as Charles “Boss” Kettering was an American inventor, engineer, businessman, and the holder of 186 patents. He was a founder of Delco and was head of research at General Motors from 1920 to 1947. Among his most widely used automotive developments were the electrical starting motor and leaded gasoline.

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4. When you pass they will remember you for who you were, not what you owned: When I’m Gone.

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5. The dreams, they’re on the other side.

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6. Kids say such amazing things until we train it out of them: Lot To Learn.

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7. Eric Thomas, PhD is a critically acclaimed author, World-renowned speaker, educator, pastor and audible.com Audie Awards Finalist. ET, as he is better known, has taken the world by storm, with his creative style and high-energy messages. His words continue to impact tens of millions of people in several hundred countries across the planet!  Through a significant social media presence and his recent domestic and international tours, “ET, The Hip Hop Preacher” has become a global phenomenon!

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8. Boom: Tomorrow.

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9. You, Yourself, I.

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10. I learnt an expression at Landmark Education I will never forget, what you don’t know you didn’t know: Heaven.

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11. Katie Byron calls it the Work, you need to do it.

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12. of course, it’s Judy and Somewhere over the rainbow…: Somewhere Over the Rainbow.

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13. Two very similar statements with totally different meanings.

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14. I believe in miracles and unicorns, do you?: You Sexy Thing.

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15. And the final lesson, Yes, You are that person.
With more than 100 positive interventions to choose from, this book gives you everything you need to become an informed, confident, and active steward of your own wellbeing so you can wholeheartedly show up and be fully engaged in life — whatever it throws at you.

I really like today’s eclectic playlist. It begins with Talking Heads, moves over to Eminem, then another rapper in Luke Christopher. To the world of the musical with a track from Annie. The beautiful voice of Kane Brown is next, then the legend who is Judy Garland finishing with the sexy tones of Hot Chocolate: The Pain of the Process is Only Temporary.

So one of my accomplishments is to have Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included is part of common day language. Join me in spreading it until we meet again, my dear friends.

You Never Realise How Strong You Are!!


There are ways to embrace growth and ways to stay stuck. When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you. Here are a few things that you can give up:

  1. Give up trying to be perfect.
  2. Give up comparing yourself to others.
  3. Give up dwelling on the past or worrying too much about the future.
  4. Give up Complaining.
  5. Give up holding grudges.
  6. Give up waiting.
  7. Give up lying.
  8. Give up trying to avoid mistakes.
  9. Give up saying, “I can’t”.
  10. Give up trying to be everything to everyone.
  11. Give up thinking you’re not ready.
  12. Give up setting small goals for yourself.
  13. Give up trying to do everything by yourself.
  14. Give up buying things you don’t need.
  15. Give up blaming others for your troubles.
  16. Give up making mountains out of molehills.
  17. Give up trying to live out of the expectations of others.
  18. Give up the ‘Easy Street’ mentality.
  19. Give up making promises you can’t keep.
  20. Give up letting your thoughts and feelings bottle up inside.
  21. Give up beating around the bush.
  22. Give up avoiding change.
  23. Give up your sense of entitlement.
  24. Give up waiting until the last minute.
  25. Give up being dramatic.
  26. Give up being anti-athletic.
  27. Give up Junk Food.
  28. Give up eating as a means of entertainment.
  29. Give up foolish habits you know are foolish.
  30. Give up relationships with people who bring you down.
  31. Give up being shy.
  32. Give up worrying about what others think about you.
  33. Give up trying to control everything.
  34. Give up doing the same thing over and over again.
  35. Give up following the least path of resistance.
  36. Give up persistent multi-tasking.
  37. Give up thinking others are luckier than you.
  38. Give up filling every waking moment with commitments and activities.
  39. Give up making emotional decisions.
  40. Give up doing the wrong things just because you can get away with it.
  41. Give up focusing on what you don’t want to happen.
  42. Give up taking yourself so seriously.
  43. Give up spending your life working in a career you aren’t passionate about.
  44. Give up thinking about the things you don’t have.
  45. Give up doubting others.
  46. Give up with fussing with every beauty product on the market.
  47. Give up trying to fit in.
  48. Give up trying to be different just for the sake of being different.
  49. Give up trying to avoid risk.
  50. Give up putting your own needs on the back burner.

Quite a list to work on, how much greater would your life look if you just implemented a few of these a month. What has the world said about living a great life over time, here are a few of my favourites:

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1. That moment when you release the pressure and you accelerate towards your dreams is truly magic.

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2. The challenge of life, never forget you are still here kicking ass: We Shall Overcome.

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3. Both are meant to be a daily practice.

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4. We are sent here to give the universe our unique gifts: Unique.

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5. What a great superpower, seeing the invisible.

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6. Each day we choose where we are on the ladder of life: Shine Your Light.

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7. What would you walk through your fear for, what would you die for?

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8. A worthy daily to-do list: Lose Yourself.

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9. It’s up to us, Because We Can, it’s our time.

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10. Jillian Barberie Michaels is an American personal trainer, businesswoman, author and television personality from Los Angeles, California. Michaels is best known for her appearances on NBC, particularly The Biggest Loser. She has also made an appearance on the talk show The Doctors. In fall 2015, she hosted and co-judged a series on Spike titled Sweat, INC. In January 2016, her reality television series Just Jillian premiered on E!.: Feel.

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11. Greatness needs both the shadow and the light.

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12. One foot in front of another: From Little Things, Big Things Grow.

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13. Love or Judgement, which one will heal the earth?

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14. What it takes to produce a great shot at life: Photograph.

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15. Isn’t it amazing that you never know when love comes to town?

And remember, mistakes make us human, failures help us grow, hope keeps us going and love is the reason we are alive. So keep learning, loving and living. Never give up on yourself.

Today’s playlist begins with some Martin Luther King wisdom, then the pop diva Lenka followed by one of rocks icons Robbie Robertson. Eminem is up next, then a Mediterranean pop diva Mahmut Orhan. Aussie legends Paul Kelly and Missy Higgins are the penultimate offerings and we finish with an Ed Sheeran cover by Boyce Avenue: You Never Realise How Strong You Are.

Greatness is showing Love and Respect For All, Everyone Included, a task for you until next time we meet, my dear friends.

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Make Your Life Simple But Significant!!


Someday life seems so complicated, yet other days we are in total flow: What is the difference? My friend Marc Chernoff suggests that there are things we should cease doing so we have more days of the latter. Here are Marc’s ideas:

  1. Stop berating yourself for being a work in progress.
  2. Stop doing immoral things just because you can.
  3. Stop meaning what you don’t say.
  4. Stop wasting time and money trying to acquire more of everything.
  5. Stop spending time with negative people.
  6. Stop trying to change people.
  7. Stop being lazy and cutting corners.
  8. Stop procrastinating,
  9. Stop worrying and complaining.
  10. Stop being dramatic.
  11. Stop trying to be everything to everyone.
  12. Stop making promises you can’t keep.
  13. Stop blaming others.
  14. Stop reacting without a plan.
  15. Stop confusing being busy with being productive.
  16. Stop over-committing and trying to do too much at once.
  17. Stop being inefficient simply because you’ve always done it that way.
  18. Stop cluttering your space.
  19. Stop overloading your mind by consuming useless information.
  20. Stop obsessing over the past and the future.
  21. Stop waiting for things to be perfect.
  22. Stop focussing so much energy on trying to avoid mistakes.
  23. Stop making emotional decisions.
  24. Stop being unhealthy.
  25. Stop holding onto intimate relationships that make you unhappy.
  26. Stop holding onto hate.
  27. Stop pretending like you know everything.
  28. Stop giving what you don’t want to receive.

Deep down in our hearts, we know these things would be good for us if we took them on. I wouldn’t recommend taking more than a few at a time, there is that adage new habits take 21 days to cement in place.

How far back does the advice on living life with ease go? Let’s have a look:

 

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1. Apparently, a long way: here is some wisdom on the subject from Confucius, who lived in China in the Fifth Century B.C.

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2. Time in nature is such a decluttering of the mind: Medicine.

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3. Some people prefer to complicate their life and even die before they make the changes that will benefit them.

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4. Physically steps are always forward, metaphorically, I am not so sure: Neon Blue.

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5. And then there is always an act of service.

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6. Are Kiss really a rock group on an acronym for a life less complicated: I was made for Loving You.

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7. Within the framework of his science-fiction stories, Heinlein repeatedly addressed certain social themes: the importance of individual liberty and self-reliance, the obligation individuals owe to their societies, the influence of organized religion on culture and government, and the tendency of society to repress nonconformist thought. He also speculated on the influence of space travel on human cultural practices.

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8. Self-explanatory really, each sunrise brings a new beginning if we are willing: A New Day Has Come.

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9. Start learning from your mistakes. Smile, then move on.

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10, Nike!!: Beat It.

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11. Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included.

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12. To turn left or right at the intersection, either way, It could profoundly change your life: Thinking Out Loud.

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13, Mini de complication list.

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14, Less complicated does not mean easy to do, they are entirely different things: It’s Not Easy,

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15, Finally, a reminder to surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be:, they are totally on your side.

What could you do to make your days less complicated, I’m sure there is something in this list that could empower you to live a less cluttered life, physically and mentally, go forward and try some on.

Today’s playlist contains some of the music industry heavies. We begin with the newbies, Queen Naija and Steps. Then four monoliths – Kiss, Celine Dion, Michael Jackson and Ed Sheeran. We finish with a visit to the African continent with Lucky Dube: Make Your Life Simple But Significant.

A way I find to not complicate my life is to show Love and Respect to All, Everyone Included. Best wishes until next time we meet, my dear friends.

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Ambrose was having a bad Day!!


Do you have bad days? a study was done amongst elite athletes and they reported to having between 3 to 6 bad days per month.  They understand that having a bad day is simply part of the process. The ability to accept these fluctuations in performance allows athletes to remain fully engaged in their training and keep their goals high.

my friend Brian Johnson from Optimize asks you to consider this: What if you suffer from a case of mistaken identity on those days? Who you think you are is not actually who you are. What you think you are here to do is not actually what you are here to do. What you think you are capable of is actually only a hint of your true ability.

Consider for a moment that you are totally wrong about yourself—and wrong about this infinite universe in which you live. What if that’s true? What if most of us live our entire lives and never know who we actually are, why we are here, and what we are supposed to do while visiting this planet? What if we have amnesia and we forgot who we really are right before we left our mother’s body and entered the world? I think this is exactly our state.

Who we think we are is not who we are. We are much, much more than our perceived selves. The Buddhists have a saying: ‘Don’t mistake the finger pointing to the moon for the moon itself.’ We think our ego—our persona—is who we really are. But this is only to the same extent that your clothes, your hairstyle, and your personality are who you are. In order to reach your full potential—your greatness—you must first admit that you are wrong about yourself.”

This line sums it up pretty well: “Who we think we are is not who we are. We are much, much more than our perceived selves.” And, know this: “In the battle of mind versus body, mind always wins!” Therefore, we’d be wise to step back and realize that we’re a LOT more than just the little version of ourselves that are pointing at the moon.
Campbell’s wisdom comes to mind: “What am I? Am I the bulb that carries the light, or am I the light of which the bulb is a vehicle?”

So does Walter Russell’s wisdom: “Early in life I found that to achieve greatness one had to go only one inch beyond mediocrity, but that one inch is so hard to go that only those who become aware of God in them can make the grade, for no one can achieve that one inch alone.”

Then there’s Eric Butterworth: “You may say, ‘But I am only human.’ This is the understatement of your life. You are not only human—you are also divine in potential. The fulfilment of all your goals and aspirations in life depends upon stirring up and releasing more of that divine potential. And there is really nothing difficult about letting this inner light shine. All we must do is correct the tendency to turn off our light when we face darkness.”

All of which brings us back to you. Do you suffer from a case of mistaken identity? 🙂

How would you live if you REALLY got the infinite power within yourself?

Is NOW a good time to start being that version of you?

P.S. Recall the etymology of the word identity that we discussed in our Notes on Atomic Habits. It means “repeated beingness.” So… Go be that best version of you. Repeatedly!)

So, I’m sure that people have had bad days since the beginning of history, let’s have a look at what they have said about it:

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1. Elite athletes and entertainers have 3 to 6 bad days a month. yet they go out and perform on the biggest stages on the planet, you can do it on your version.

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2. I saw this and had to include it as the cute animal shot of the day: The Christmas Hippo Song.

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3. Daily practice 101, When you wake up, place your hand on your heart.

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4. Probably the major thing that brought the tattoo removal business into prominence: Shout out to my Ex.

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5. Nina Arianda Matijcio is an American actress. She won the 2012 Tony Award for Best Actress in a Play for her performance as Vanda Jordan in Venus in Fur and was nominated for the 2011 Tony Award for Best Actress in a Play for portraying Billie Dawn in Born Yesterday. In 2016, she began starring in Amazon Studios’ legal series Goliath. In 2018, she appeared in the biographical film, Stan & Ollie.

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6. Was it really a bad day, or just a growth day: Learning to Fly.

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7. A solution not possible for everyone, sometimes connection can lift the funk just as well.

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8. Or you could just sleep most of the day, I’ve tried this: The Little Power Nap.

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9. Simply put, we need the Shadow and the Light.

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10. Or naked: The Audience is Naked?

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11. I had a few of these bad days.

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12. Life goes on, choose to have more good days than bad: A Little Bit Stronger.

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13. Perhaps this was part of his Conversations with God.

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14. Your dream is still calling you: Hello.

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15. The lesson for today, if you live in the first world, there are billions worse off than you.

Do YOU think that you’ll magically get to a place where you no longer have bad days? Where you no longer fail? If so, GET RID OF THAT notion. It’s your biggest obstacle to crushing it. We need to KNOW that we’ll NEVER be exonerated. In fact, as we evolve and our standards get higher and higher and we take bigger and bigger risks, we WANT to experience more “failure.”

For today’s playlist Hippo songs were not easy to find, but Gayla Peevey’s before and after song is a beauty. Then some pop from Little Mix followed by the Rock of Tom Petty. Nap music follows with some advice by Tina Blake of getting the audience naked after it. Two fine songstresses in Sara Evans and Adele finish the set: Ambrose was Having a Bad Day.

So one every day you may someone having a bad day, so show Love and Respect to All, Everybody Included until we meet again, my dear friends:

Self Care 9

Nurture Your Mind with Great Thoughts.


I was pondering the time that has gone by in my life, I’m 64 and the time that means I have left. Obviously the former is greater than the latter unless I discover the cure for reincarnation and even that would mean I might be an ant or an eagle and not Rocking Rod.

So what can one say or remember so that my later years are not spent in a sense of sedentary retirement? I recently enjoyed a list called Timeless Lessons Life teaches, here they are:

  1. Take everything you’ve ever learned – all the crazy experiences and lessons – and place it all in a box labelled “Thank You”.
  2. In life, you usually get what you ask for, but it rarely comes in the package you think it’s supposed to come in.
  3. The past can’t hurt you anymore – unless you let it.
  4. Maturity is not when we start speaking about big things, it’s when we start understanding the small things.
  5. Life is like a rainbow, you need both the sun and the rain to make its colours appear.
  6. Never let one bad day make you feel like you had a bad life.
  7. When you find yourself cocooned in isolation and despair and cannot find your way out of the darkness, remember that this is similar to the place where caterpillars go to grow their wings.
  8. Live in such a way that if someone decided to speak badly of you, no one would believe it.
  9. The only time you should look back is to see how far you’ve come.
  10. It’s your road and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
  11. The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do.
  12. The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open.
  13. Things change, but the sun always rises the next day. The bad news: nothing is permanent. The good news: nothing is permanent.

It also made me think of that famous line, Play it again Sam, Play as Time Goes By. What do members of society ruminate on as they get older, here are some of my favourites:

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1. I love the saying, It’s not the peak experience that affects your life the most, its what you go and do after them on a day to day basis that makes the difference.

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2. Makes me think of the saying time stood still as our eyes met across the room, did it really?: My Heart Will Go On.

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3. Love to give the words of Love, you never know how long you have got with each particular person.

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4. This quote is the right colour and theme for this song: As Time Goes By.

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5. Nike!!

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6. With age, comes logic, or so they say: Under Pressure.

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7. Henry Austin Dobson (18 January 1840 – 2 September 1921)  was an English poet and essayist. In 2005 the Industrial/Nu-metal band, Industrial Frost, used the words of a Dobson poem called “Before Sedan” as the lyrics of a song of the same name.

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8. Different ways to think about time: Only Time.

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9. Boom!!!

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10. Not even our remains, they change as time goes by: Some People Change.

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11. Exit, Door Right.

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12. Yes, both types – The Shadow and the Light: This is Me.

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13. And it was, amazing!!

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14. If we get it right, we spend our time as both the teacher and the student: Paradise.

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15. And for the final lesson, three salient points.

So here’s to the sun and the rain that makes up our lives day to day as time goes by, enjoy the ride.

Today’s playlist contains a few tunes from the movies – we begin with Celine Dion, the classic time song by Sam, Queen and Enya from the British scene then from the States, Montgomery Gentry, The Greatest Showman Cast and finishing with George Ezra: Nurture your mind with Great Thought.

It took me 59 years to come up with my life ethos and purpose of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. I would recommend finding it a little earlier. Until we speak again my dear friends.

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Don’t Tell Your Problems to Everyone!!


Today we look at things you would love to tell yourself if you could travel back in Time to give your younger self some advice about life.

I came across this great list by Marc Chernoff using my write about what’s on the page I open the book too. There are quite a few sage statements, here they are:

  1. Spend more time with those who make you smile and less time with those who you feel pressured to Impress.
  2. Your health is your life. Keep up with it. Get an annual physical check-up.
  3. Laugh at stupid jokes. Apologise. Tell someone how much they mean to you. It’s the small moments that make life good.
  4. Living a life of honesty creates peace of mind, and peace of mind is priceless. Period. Don’t be dishonest and don’t put up with people who are.
  5. Life is much more enjoyable when you stop trying to be cool and simply focus on being yourself.
  6. Forgiving yourself is far more important (and difficult) than getting others to forgive you.
  7. Complaining is like slapping yourself for slapping yourself. It doesn’t solve the problem, It just hurts you more.
  8. There are few joys in life that equal a good conversation, A good read, A good walk, A good hug, A good smile, A good friend.
  9. Learn to adjust the sails of your life to unpredictable winds, while keeping your focus clearly on your destination and keep sailing until you get there.
  10. Laughter is the best medicine for stress. Laugh at yourself often. Find the humour, In whatever situation you are in.
  11. Freedom is the greatest gift. Self-sufficiency is the greatest freedom.
  12. Everything that happens in life is neither good nor bad. It just depends on your perspective.
  13. If you want something in your life you’ve never had. You’ll have to do something you’ve never done before.
  14. You’re not alone. Everyone has problems. Some people are just better at hiding them than others.

So what has the world said about life’s lessons, here are a few of my favourites:

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1. How did you cope with the focus when you finished the former and left the latter. Some say the first gives you no training to handle the latter.

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2. Relating to your mistakes as what lesson am I meant to learn from this ILO what went wrong is the most powerful way to get the lesson provided: Not Afraid.

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3. For me, it was the times I had to enter psychiatric clinics, five times, each time you lose total control of your life.

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4. It just seems so natural when you meet both of these things like you have known them your whole life: True Friend.

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5. From the world’s greatest philosopher, Ms Unknown comes this famous camera analogy.

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6. The cat in the hat is such a wise creature: Hop on Pop.

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7. The Shadow and the Light, we need both to be a fulfilled human being.

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8. I like the last line, learn from your mistakes, but never regret: No Regrets.

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9. Part of Self Love 101.

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10. It’s time to leave when the last line starts happening: Don’t Hurt Me.

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11. Love the go through to voicemail line.

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12. WTF is a positive deviant?: My Passion.

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13. Can’t have it be boring, can we?

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14. On life’s journey, remember that word: Succession: Brave.

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15. And for the final lesson, the picture says it all.

Some of us run in the middle of the night. Some of us strum acoustic guitars and smoke joints. And others go to church. Or sip expensive wine. Or surf dangerous waves. or jump out of perfectly good aeroplanes. When we try to understand other people by personally relating to the things that they do, we usually can’t make any sense of it. Because it’s easier to see weirdness in a sea of normality than it is to decode the logical methods behind one’s madness. But when we look just a little deeper, by making a noble effort to understand people by truly listening to why they do the things that they do, they never seem quite as weird. Actually, they and you begin to seem, perfectly normal.

Today’s playlist is for the kids with two animations. We begin with Eminem then transform Miley Cyrus into Hannah Montana. Dr Seuss leads off our animations, then back to the sixties for The Walker Brothers. Then DJ Mustard, followed by Akcent, and we finish off with Sara Bareilles: Don’t Tell Your Problems to Everyone.

I have one important life lesson to add to your lists: Show Love and Respect to All, Everyone Included until we meet again, my dear friends:

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