Note to Self : Stop Expecting!!

Posted on September 4, 2017 by Rod's World

” The reason many people in our society are miserable, sick , and highly stresses is because of an unhealthy attachment to things they have no control over.” – Steve Maraboli

Luminita Saviuc states that in every instance of transformation, the transformative insight was always one that led her to letting go , surrendering and giving up, in the best sense possible. And perhaps out of all the self-sabotaging habits of thought and behaviour, the one that’s far too common is our desire to control aspects of our reality that are actually beyond our control.

I can speak from experience that staying in control can be costly, as I have experienced several mental health periods in my life which I fought seeking the help that I needed to restore the balance in my life.

So how do we relate to control in our society. let’s take a peek:

1. This reminds me of the Activation work where we get in touch with our Essence in life I do with my mentor Arion Light: Link to the Source.

2. The history of psychedelics dates back tens of thousands of years, it is only in the past 100 years that there has been scientific and counterculture interest in these substances. They were originally used to obtain transcendental experiences: Purple Haze.

3. This is one form of control it would be a great thing to let go of, refusing to get back up.

4. The soul is harder to hear when you are controlling what enters your heart: Keeping Your Head UP.

5. To achieve this those mental controls of fear and anxiety must go.

6. When the controls are gone, we can sing relax don’t do it: Frankie sings it.

7. And yet, there are profoundly powerful acts of control that we need in our life.

8. We often lose control when we just don’t want to wait anymore, and say that’s enough. Remember that what people talk about on their death beds is what they regret usually, not what they celebrate: No Regrets.

9. What would our lives be like if we were so in control that we were incapable of giving back?

10. Sarah Dessen is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of over a dozen novels for teens, which have received numerous awards and rave reviews. Her books have been published in over thirty countries and have sold millions of copies worldwide: You’re the one that I Want.

11. Ah, the women who introduced the term The Work to the world. Another pearl of wisdom: Let Life live you – It does anyway.

12. Hard to drive your car of dreams with four flat tires, isn’t it.: Flat Tire.

13. Or even not knowing what you don’t know!!

14. A way to make sure that people stop relating to you from a position of power: Stop Complaining.

15. A possibility if we set our controls for the heart of the sun.

” So don’t be frightened, dear friend, if a sadness confronts you larger than you have ever known, casting its shadow all over you do. You must think that something is happening within you, and remember that life has not forgotten you; it holds you in its hand and will not let you fall. Why would you want to exclude from your life any uneasiness, any pain, any depression, since you don’t know what work they are accomplishing within you? – Rainer Maria Rilke

Namaste until next time, my dear friends

In Life you have Three Choices!!

Posted on August 31, 2017 by Rod's World

” Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anyone else expects of you. Never excuse yourself – Henry Ward Beecher”

I don’t know if I ever saw myself as someone who came up with excuses. The way I saw it, Life treated me unkindly, and If I was living an unhappy life it wasn’t because of me. It wasn’t because I was making up excuses, but because that’s how my life was. I was just being “realistic.”

The opening lines of chapter 4 in Luminita Saviuc’s aka The Purpose Fairies beautiful book 15 Things you should give up to be Happy – An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy Book Link.. I chose chapter four because it is about giving up and I am in the throes of giving up on my much loved workshop project. I am enquiring into what has got me to this point at the moment so what does society say about giving up on our dreams; down the trail we go:

1. If that dream is well entrenched in your psyche, whatever life throws at you won’t stop you, there will be no excuse that will get in the way.

2. Stop listening to them, they are total BS: No Bullshit.

3. MLK, Nelson Mandela and Mother Teresa had the same amount of time in their lives as we do each day, they did not give up on their dreams, why do so many people?

4. How many people who were important in your life a few years ago have disappeared overtime. Those who stayed made the effort: Love the Way you Lie.

5. At One Roof, a women’s coworking space in my home city of Melbourne, there is a quote which goes like this: An entrepreneur jumps off the cliff and builds the plane on the way down. Get the drift?

6. Usually it takes a disaster like the one occurring in Houston at the moment to make these words irrelevant for most people, don’t be one of them: Never to Busy.

7. Anti graffiti them off your mental walls.

8. Supreme guitar player and street philosopher, Carlos Santana gets in our faces: Evil Ways.

9. Take these up as daily practices and you will find it harder and harder to give up.

10. Listen, that’s your heart speaking to you. It’s not into the excuses your mind comes up with from your past: High for This.

11. Nobody knows what you want except you, Fuck Yeah!!!

12. When I used to train for the 4 marathons I ran in a life a long time ago after the first four kilometres I ran I had this incredible urge to stop running. I did several times but overcame it which allowed me to get to the fitness level I needed to complete the 42 kilometres that a marathon is: Stronger.

13. Florence Nightingale is responsible for the founding of modern nursing, to overcome the male superiority belief that was prevalent in the 1800 and 1900’s Florence would have to definitely walked the talk of the above quote.

14. No time to get lost: Find a Way.

15. Defeat does not mean it’s all over, you can always get back up and continue towards your dream.

” All excuses are misalignment. Words like “difficult,” “risky,” “can’t,” “too weak,” ” too dumb” and “too complicated” do not apply to the divine mind. I urge you to reharmonize with energy that can do anything and everything, for that is your original nature.

Wayne Dyer

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

I’m sorry I can’t be Beautiful!!

Posted on August 28, 2017 by Rod's World

When I choose a subject to ponder on , I also use one of the other quotes as the title of my blog. I think I’m sorry I can’t be beautiful says a lot about perfection and the journey it can take us on and the damage it can cause in our lives.

I am reading a summary of Tim Ferriss’s The Four Hour Week at the moment, I have the book on hold at the library, which I will pick up after completing this blog. I love the section on elimination of things to gain time back in your life nearly as much as the section in Danielle LaPorte’s Daily Planner where is asks you what are you going to stop in your life to attain your goals. Having to do this each day makes you think at a whole new level.

So, can we reach perfection? A better question is what do you personally think it is, let’s travel down the path of the 15 quotes:

1. Well, that surprised me, Gerrit is one of the Presidency of the Seventy of the Church of Jesus Christ and the Latter Day Saints AKA The Mormons. Religious orders often point towards the combining of goodness and perfection.

2. Is reality separate from perfection. From the ads that embolden mainstream media one would think so: Not Perfect.

3. That other P word that gets tied to perfection that stops us living our dreams on a lot of occasions.

4. Unperfect, what a beautiful word. Let’s take it on for the day: Perfectly Imperfect.

5. Baby, we were born to run , not stand still in perfect posture.

6. From Canada comes a great example of when people really strive for perfection, some even lie: Get a Job.

7. That’s why they say you can never reach something you already are.

8. Quick, somebody tell them they will never catch it: I could not ask for More.

9. A fact for each of us to remember during our unique lives.

10. I don’t like the concept of boring, I relate it to taking the cheap way out of what is going on in your life: Fun.

11. Jaron is an interesting dude. He works for Microsofts, was one of the pioneers of Virtual Reality technology and composes Classical music on rare wind and string instruments, releasing his CD Instruments of Change in 1994.

12. Perspective not Perfection will move you down the path towards your dreams: Tumbling Dice.

13. Lots and Lots and Lots, very little.

14. And when is that one perfect moment. The only time it can be as per Eckhart Tolle – bring on the power of Now: The Power of Now.

15. We discover that our lives are moving targets, not a great deal of standing still included, always on the move.

I might take back the title, the more I think about it, I see each person a perfect image of who she or he should be at that exact moment. Tough to comprehend sometimes.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

Do the right Thing!!

Posted on August 24, 2017 by Rod's World

There is a basic connection among people, who all fundamentally want the same things: to be appreciated, to belong, to feel good about themselves, to make a difference. I am reading William Baker and Michael O’Malley’s great book Leading with Kindness: How good people consistently get superior results. Kindness is an apropos term to apply to leadership because it implies precisely such root connections among people engaged in meaningful reciprocal relationships.

They state that kindness is made up from six virtues, these are Compassion, Integrity, Gratitude, Authenticity, Humility and Humour. Quite a good mix to bring to leadership , I think. So what have we said about kindness over the centuries, let’s take a wee gander:

1. Imagine if every soldier on the planet did this instead of firing their weapon in anger, let’s start the revolution today.

2. Kindness is funny, you can’t buy it, it seems to have no pricetag, but once given to somebody it is rarely forgotten: Change.

3. Be’s and But’s from Jim Rohn, one of the doyens of the personal development movement that has transformed the business world.

4. You are never too busy to partake in this mighty, mighty adventure: Better Together.

5. When my dad died , we gave most of his possessions to charity, the people at his funeral were there because he was a kind generous soul.

6. Reading this has me ponder, how often do I do this in my instant gratification filled life: Strong.

7. So do I.

8. How deep is the depth and passion of your kindness, what gets in the way: Kindness is a Muscle.

9. There it is, in the silence of the actions that make it up,

10. Cute kid and animal post, the kindness in it oozes right out of the image: Someone Like You.

11. Leading by example, you don’t need the CEO title after your name.

12. How did you choose the leaders in your life. Are all your bosses and power points amongst them, not in mine: Everybody.

13. We are born free, one of the traits we get given is kindness which we display openly as young children, what happens later on?

14. I call it Interculturalism: Love and respect for All – Everyone Included: What I Am.

15. Yes, let’s be both.

Albert Schweitzer said ” Example is not the main thing in influencing others it is the only thing, I’ll finish with those powerful words.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

Kempashen, give a piece of your heart!!

Posted on August 21, 2017 by Rod's World

The lead article in my local paper, The preston leader is titled Seeking Compassion. it is about 20 grade six students at the Holy Name School who sent letters to the paper seeking compassion for asylum seekers to our country who have been in detention centres for up to four years.

Our major support for these people, The Asylum Seekers Resource Centre said it was exciting to see young people getting engaged. ” It shows how much capacity all of us have to respond to issues in our society from an angle that’s compassionate, that respects people’s dignity and their humanity,” they said.

So, how compassionate are you on a day to day basis. or a bigger question could be how much is our society? let’s look at what they say about it:

1. I’m thinking they relate ears to compassion in that when we hear an opportunity to show compassion, it’s time to take action.

2. The ultimate compassion in life, Self Love, this allows you to never hurt another: Who Says

3. The person on earth who is best known for his compassion, HHDL, links compassion directly to our ability to be happy.

4. That smile that you just gave to the stranger you passed in the street just healed an age old wound. Yes, it really did, thank you for doing that: Heal the Wound.

5. Robert Lee Frost (March 26, 1874 – January 29, 1963) was an American poet. He is highly regarded for his realistic depictions of rural life and his command of American colloquial speech. His work frequently employed settings from rural life in New England in the early twentieth century, using them to examine complex social and philosophical themes.

6. Such a cute photo. More beautiful words from HHDL. If only our other world leaders thought in the same way: Where is the Love.

7. Thích Nhất Hạnh, born as Nguyễn Xuân Bảo on October 11, 1926 is a Vietnamese Buddhist monk and peace activist.

Thích Nhất Hạnh lives in Plum Village in Thailand, travelling internationally to give retreats and talks. He coined the term “Engaged Buddhism” in his book Vietnam: Lotus in a Sea of Fire. After a long term of exile, he was given permission to make his first return trip to Vietnam in 2005.

Nhất Hạnh has published more than 100 books, including more than 40 in English. He is active in the peace movement, promoting nonviolent solutions to conflict and he also refrains from animal product consumption as a means of non violence towards non-human animals.

8. That person in the mirror, they’re your bestie: Best friendship song.

9. Loving Kindness is a style of meditation that can transform your relationship to another, research it on google.

10. Compassion doesn’t just happen, you have to take a strong stand for it in your life and be keenly aware of it’s relationship to the others in your life: Interdependent.

11. I just fell in love with Prince for this beautiful quote.

12. Remember this when you are getting dressed in the morning: The Long Way Around.

13. Karen Armstrong won the $100,000 Ted prize, this is what she did with it:

The Charter for Compassion is a document that urges the peoples and religions of the world to embrace the core value of compassion. The charter currently is available in more than 30 languages and has been endorsed by more than two million individuals around the globe.

Charter for Compassion International, the Charter’s supporting organization, has enrolled 311 communities in 45 countries in its Compassionate Communities campaign and has partnered with more than 1,300 organizations to spread the Charter’s message of compassion in 10 sectors: the arts, business, education, environment, healthcare, peace, religion/spirituality/interfaith, science & research, social sciences and restorative justice. There is no cost to affirm the Charter.

14. This is the cutest vegan statement I have seen about compassion towards our fellow non human creatures: Song for Love.

15. Immanuel Kant was a German philosopher who is a central figure in modern philosophy. Kant argued that the human mind creates the structure of human experience, that reason is the source of morality, that aesthetics arises from a faculty of disinterested judgment, that space and time are forms of our sensibility, and that the world as it is “in-itself” is independent of our concepts of it. Kant took himself to have effected a “Copernican revolution” in philosophy, akin to Copernicus’ reversal of the age-old belief that the sun revolved around the earth. His beliefs continue to have a major influence on contemporary philosophy, especially the fields of metaphysics, epistemology, ethics, political theory, and aesthetics.

I have meet many people who show no compassion towards asylum seekers, the first question I always ask them is, have you ever met an asylum seeker and talked to them. Sadly, the answer is usually no. And then there are people filled with compassion towards them who would also answer no, the difference being their compassion level.

Namaste until next time my dear friends.

My Plan is To……..

Posted on August 17, 2017 by Rod's World

There is much discussion as to whether you can lead a balanced life and succeed in the higher echelons of leadership. In his excellent book Leaders eat Last, Simon Sinek points out that not it is only possible it is in fact desirable if you are looking for an efficiently run company.

A leader who uses the top down management approach these days looks fated for the scrap heap. During the GFC of 2007 to 2008 fifty percent of America’s banks failed mainly due to their culture being based on making the holy dollar to the point that they had made some very unwise decisions in chasing larger and larger profits. Businesses that were more balanced in their cultures were able to survive due to the loyalty of their staff.

So what does a balanced life look like, let’s mosey on down that trail:

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1. We create as much information every two days as we did in the entire year of 2003. I think this means that the chances of us doing everything have long gone by the way.

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2. The near first female POTUS points to your job title is not the be all and end all of what provides a satisfactory life: Get a Job.

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3. Love Thomas Merton, didn’t know he was a Catholic priest until just now. A Trappist monk of the Abbey of Gethsemani, Kentucky, he was a poet, social activist, and student of comparative religion.

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4. What a living example Eat , Pray, Love is of this beautiful quote: I’m not in Love.

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5. Star of 9 to 5, what a way to make a living, don’t have this be the major focus of your life and forget your dreams.

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6. Number five seems a tad out of place from the rest: Who You Are!!

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7. For me being silly and letting loose would be challenging, how about you?

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8. Mindmapping , there are three or four for me that are not in balance at the moment: Mo Bounce.

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9. One of the greatest living philosophers, Ms. Unknown shows us a tactic to inner balance.

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10. Koan or meme, what will I call them today. But remember to watch and spend time in today’s beauty: You are so Beautiful to Me.

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11. Attitude: when someone makes a settled way of thinking or feeling about something. … For example: You can tell a person’s attitude just by watching his body posture if he likes something or not. Aptitude: It’s a natural ability to do something or a natural tendency.

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12. The greatest skill in life one must get rid of if they wish to lead a balanced life: Confessions of a Perfectionist.

13. We have all seen that cartoon of life as we hope it will go versus how it actually occurs, we spend a lot of time undoing knots.

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14. SETH GODIN is the author of 18 books that have been bestsellers around the world and have been translated into more than 35 languages. He writes about the post-industrial revolution, the way ideas spread, marketing, quitting, leadership and most of all, changing everything: Holiday.

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15. I love this list, it has helped balance my life on a daily basis.

I actually have terrible balance on my left side, I can’t do the Tai Chi white crane at all, perhaps I need to look at what has it out of kilter.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Time, not just Money!!!

Posted on August 15, 2017 by Rod's World

Let’s say you’re moving to a new house interstate. To help you out one of your friends pay for the moving company. A very generous offer worth $5,000. another friend comes to your house and helps you pack the boxes, load the truck, travel with you to the new house, unload and unpack the boxes. Two weeks later, both friends need a favour on the same day. Who would you be inclined to help, the one who wrote a cheque or the one who committed time and energy?

Unlike the time and effort people put into something, it is what money represents that give it value. The cost of something is relevant to what people place on it whereas time cannot be given back. There are 2 million dollar watches and 10 dollar watches that both do the same job, possibly made with a process that took approximately the same time. How many times have you been in a meeting thinking, I will never get this time back.

So what has society said about the value of time versus money, lets delve into it:

1. People don’t come around to your place to look at your possessions, they come to exchange stories of the great times that you spent together, your experiences.

2. If you lock them up in the kennel , and only bring them out to show them off as an asset, no tail wagging: I Love My Dog.

3. It’s what you focus on that gets the money rolling in, how you spend your time.

4. We don’t go on and on about the time that some one gave us lots of money, the money soon is not there. But that time we were feeling suicidal and you held our hand all night, now, thats a different matter: Hold my Hand.

5. Remarkably the only thing that is always there is you, not your money, your friends. It depends on how you direct your life that makes it work out or not.

6. There are many meanings for prosperity such as wealth, success, profitability, affluence, riches, opulence, the good life, (good) fortune, ease, plenty, welfare, comfort, security, well-being; nowhere does it just say money: Prosperity.Yeha-Noha.

7. A car cannot love you.

8. Why are there so many books compared to museums. Simply put, people like stories that entertain, not things that people collected: Love Story.

9. What children remember, not the toys.

10. The big Tones take on it: you can’t get more time: Invest in Yourself.

11. Two ultra rich musicians recently took their own lives, they were not happy because they were ultra-rich.

12. Bhutan is a country that measures their gross happiness product, not their gross domestic product. Guess which country has the highest well being: Happy.

13. Better known as the advice columnist Dear Abbey, this quote would have been written in the 1950’s or 60’s. I think it is far more relevant in our instant gratification days that we now live in.

14. What should come first is your vision for life, not your bank balance. Fulfilling your vision means you are living life on your terms: Live your Life.

15. Love does not carry a price tag, remember this daily.

Why do we call a business a “company” – because it is a collection of people in the company of other people. it’s the company that matters.

Namaste until next time my dear friends.

Find Your Passion!!!!

Posted on August 10, 2017 by Rod's World

Both of my English students have pulled the plug today so I get to write this blog a few hours earlier, I have decided to write an ode to my friend and anam cara Emeli Paulo. I met Emeli setting out chairs at a yoga and meditation event some years ago. Both Emeli and I are the sort of people who if they see something needs to be done we get in and do it. We introduced ourselves and I asked why she had come. Emeli said she was running a workshop that would address what stops you in your life from having what you want happen. I still have her card with Stop Running Away written on it. As always she delivered her promise.

I am reading Simon Sinek’s second book Leaders eat Last. If you don’t know who Simon is he’s the start with Why guy, here’s a link to his TED talk, the second most watched one in the history of TED ;How great Leaders inspire Action. Emeli had me stick to my Why, which I had been resisting for two and a half years: Love and Respect for All – Everyone Included.

Why, How, What, how has the world written about it over time, let’s have a look:

1. Finding it difficult to get out of bed? Have you why written on your dresser window and it will go away.

2. I’d lose that extra weight if I was motivated. Your only limit is You, Do it Now, If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you. Sounds like a Tony Robbins seminar in full flight. But if underneath it all, if you have not answered Why?, words spoken and written on parchment that will make no difference: No Excuses.

3. Google has let me down, when I put in Coach Hite it brought up coach hire in Melbourne, Australia where I live, so he must remain anonymous, but it’s such a beautiful quote it deserves more.

4. I always thought David Bowie was singing: Passion , turn to the left ilo Fashion, so here it is: Fashion.

5. As kids we run around all day like this, then something happens. Time to take it back.

6. In my youth I would boast I read Nietzsche to look cool, now he writes leadership and motivational quotes. His books are not quite so accessible: Roar.

7. My birthday, is 17th July, must admit can’t remember the other. I do know where, at the Darebin Intercultural Centre one, windy, rainy day during a Melbourne winter.

8. But Mummy, The unicorn was that big. Never forget your childhood unicorns: Dark Horse.

9. In the mirror. It’s You, Yay!! Out on the streets to kick some ass.

10. Here is the man himself, Simon Sinek, something we love called passion: beautiful words and ethos: Love is Action.

11. This is what finding your Why allows you in life. Get on board, the bus is leaving now.

12. My mentor Arion always says to have a vision and essence for any project you wish to fulfill in your life. It will be there to remind you when the going gets tough. Thanks brother , for that: You and Me.

13. This is why we spend our lives finding our Why, because of the things that never were that we are meant to create, little or large,

14. I’d add one, Know your Why on a daily basis: Believe in Yourself.

15. One smile at a total stranger is enough to do this. Don’t be withholding.

I just realised you may not know what an Anam cara is? Anam Cara is the old gaelic term for “soul friend.” anam meaning soul and cara meaning friend. Anam Ċara is the title of a 1997 bestseller on “Celtic spirituality”, the first publication by Irish author and then-priest John O’Donohue. According to O’Donohue, the Irish term anam cara (lit. “soul-friend”) originates in Irish monasticism, where it was applied to a monk’s spiritual advisor.

The book was an international bestseller and catapulted the author to public notability as an author and much sought-after speaker and teacher particularly in the United States. O’Donohue left the priesthood in 2000. As O’Donohue puts it: The term is greatly misconstrued to mean “soul mate”, anam meaning soul and cara meaning friend.

What is Emeli’s Why. here is the link: Collective Potential.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

Opportunity beckons in a five star Location.

Posted on August 3, 2017 by Rod's World

I forgot to bring a book today to take my subject from. No Gabby Bernstein, No Danielle LaPorte, no Marc and Angel Chernoff. What to do, I know, read the local paper, the Preston Leader. And there it was on the back page in the real estate section, the perfect subject, opportunity, not as the ad for the investment property suggested but where we hold opportunity to be in our lives.

Our self development company, Collective Potential used to work out of a co-working space that had a mural of a bird leaping off a cliff with the words, jump, and learn how to fly on the way down. It always stuck in my heart as to what opportunity offered oneself. So lets jump off that cliff and have a look at what people have said about it over time:

Marie Forleo, creator of the B-School operates her multi million dollar business from her laptop mainly. Taking that opportunity has transformed thousands of peoples lives. What simple thing could transform your life?

2. Only one song can go here: Morning has Broken.

3. This is your opportunity in life, blow them away!!

4. When is stops working for you, breathe in and start all over again, remembering what that mistake taught you: Begin Again.

5. Yes is the correct answer, then learn the rest as you go on an amazing journey.

6. I was gifted one of the great questions by a Landmark Education Forum leader. When I used to say I don’t know, he would say, then who should I ask. This gave me the opportunity to face that which I was unwilling by saying I don’t know: All to Well.

7. But what if?, I know I can’t do that, It’s all too hard, It won’t work out, add your favourites.

8. Pivot to the left, pivot to the right: learn what you need to and get on with it: There’s nothing holding me back.

9. Carpe Diem, that’s all.

10. To me this is showing gratitude to what you have in life. I write what I am grateful each day in my Desire map planner. it amazes me what materialises because of this: Endless Possibilities.

11. The author of one of the most read books in the world, The Fountainhead. Ayn Rand points to how much easier it is to climb if you take the opportunities offered to you.

12. That looks like hard work, not for me. Bang, there goes another of the opportunities offered to you by the universe. Life is not always meant to be easy: Work.

13. Helen Keller proved to the world that deaf people could all learn to communicate and that they could survive in the hearing world. She also taught that deaf people are capable of doing things that hearing people can do. One of the most famous deaf people in history, she is an idol to many deaf people in the world.

14. Holding that parts of your life are separate from other parts is silly, you are always there whatever you call the day: Dreadlock Holiday.

15. I dance on the conscious dance floors of 5RHythms, Dancing Freedom and Mojo Dance. Where do you seize the opportunities in your life?

So the opportunity I would like ot take as I sign off is that I would love Oprah to read this and fall in love with my blogs.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

Note to Self, You Deserve This!!

Posted on July 27, 2017 by Rod's World

You do not have to be good,

You do not have to walk on your knees

for a hundred miles through the desert repenting

You only have to let the soft animal of your body

Love what it Loves – Mary Oliver

Taken from the Deserving Chapter in Danielle LaPorte’s brilliant workbook, The Desire Map, the first page ends with Deserving and Worthiness – these are the notions that get to the pulse of our consciousness and self-esteem.

What do you believe you deserve in life,, and where did those beliefs come from, how old were you when you made these decisions? Lets go on a journey into what we deserve in our lives:

1. For those who thought atheism was a new invention, Robert Green “Bob” Ingersoll (August 11, 1833 – July 21, 1899) was an American lawyer, a Civil War veteran, political leader, and orator of the United States during the Golden Age of Free Thought, noted for his broad range of culture and his defense of agnosticism. He was nicknamed “The Great Agnostic“.

2. Remember, It’s their stuff not yours, go on with those deserving of your company: Bad Company.

3. They make you pick up and dispose of dog poo, don’t not do the same for your relationships.

4. Written 2,300 years ago, this quote on dignity still rings true in our instant gratification society, do not hand out honours in your life cheaply: Greatest Love of All.

5. Remember, if the door doesn’t open, it’s not meant for you, you deserve better.

6. You keep throwing yourself against that wall, because your head tells you too. It takes a while to hear your heart whispering, No darling, this one’s not for you:Wake Up.

7. Don’t give into behaviour that belittles a relationship, stay inside the strength of your character.

8. I think they left be out of this quote, I’m a proofreader by trade. There are theories that the gut is your second brain, I guess I kind of believe that: Trust Your Gut.

9. Look in the mirror, there’s your saviour, you can do it!!

10. If you are their option B or C, time to move on: Options.

11. I am starting to lead Sacred Love workshops, the ability to tell those sacred stories that you keep for that special person, they may be good or bad, but you know what I am talking about.

12. We are deserving in every language and culture on the planet: Dan Balan.

13. You deserve this, rekindle that light within you.

14. Remember when handing the love out, the first place it need to exist is in the person giving it, Respect thyself: Respect.

15. And finally stencil this on your psyche and perhaps put it on the fridge, you deserve it.

You deserve: eye contact, smiles in the morning, food made with pure intention, clean drinking water – fresh air, Hello, Please, Thankyou, time to think about it, a chance to show what you are made of, a second chance, an education, health care, including dental, multiple orgasms, weekends off, eight hours of sleep, play before work, to change your mind, to say no, to say yes, to have your deepest needs met, to be seen and to be loved for who you really are. Thanks for this list, Danielle, it’s beautiful

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.