To Love Vs. I am Loved


I follow the Cored Desired Feeling from the remarkable The Desire Map process by Danielle LaPorte. One of the cheapest transformations around : Gateway to Your Freedom. My 5 CDF’s are I am Peace, I am Bliss, I am Love, I am Helping Other People Evolve and I am Loved.

I am excellent at the first four but have recently taken on the fifth I am Loved. I write daily love memes on Facebook and am going to produce a book of them soon, giving love out comes easily, accepting is another matter all together. I used to cringe inwardly several years ago because my self worth had taken several battering including five admissions to psychiatric wards for a period of 6 months. I have been on a journey ever since to change my reaction and allowance of love into my life.

A lot of I am Loved quotes are quite cheesy so it took me a while to choose the 15  for todays discussion. Here they are, lets go:

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1. This is the journey I am own, That all parts of this statement are as strong as each other. I think each person has to work  on at least one part of it daily.

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2. I once had  the younger sister of a friend of mine since You made me Love You, I didn’t want to do it at  her 21st Birthday party in front of all her friends. I was embarrassed not taking in what she was expressing to me. It never happened.

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3. I think why we are finding this difficult is because our society has lost contact with Sacred Love. The time where someone says I love you or you say it to them and both of you know you never have to hear it again. People have stopped telling each other their Sacred stories .

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4. Are we expected to change our partners to fit into our expectations of who they really are, watch as they walk out the door, refer to number three.

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5. The Meaning of beautiful

 pleasing the senses or mind aesthetically:

“beautiful poetry” ·

 

synonyms: attractive · pretty · handsome · goodlooking ·

of a very high standard; excellent:
“she spoke in beautiful English”
synonyms: excellent · splendid · wonderful · magnificent ·
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6. To be in a loveable state means to accept all of you , whatever mood is coming at  you down the hallway. Its your choice after all.
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7. How to attract Love in you life is to love it right back, heres a song about it : Mary J Blige – I am.
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8. Sometimes I have done this , apologised for who I was in the hope that I would be love, it didn’t work.
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9. Now here is someone who knows she is Loved, how could you not.
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10. Mickey Mouse brought us humour in our lives as children, do statements like this turn you off or think I am loved because they are revealing their vulnerable parts to me.
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11. How many times have you been told I just don’t love you that way, can we just be friends, bring on the tequila.
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12. What is the furtherest distance that this has happened to you, to me it was a Russian sailor who pushed the nuclear missile buttons on a submarine based in St. Petersburg.
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13.Eric Fromm was a German social psychologist, psychoanalyst, sociologist, humanistic philosopher, and democratic socialist. He was associated with the Frankfurt School of critical theory. When accepting I am Loved there always must be I Love as well.
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14. If Elvis Presley loved you, what song would you choose: The Wonder of You.
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15. And we finish with a beautiful quote by that famous philosopher – Unknown.
We choose how I am Loved goes with our words, be wise in your choice.
I still wonder if I will ever break the hold Am I loved has on me for it to become I am Loved. Its a worthwhile journey.
Namaste until Thursday , my dear friends.
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Forgive and Forget, Is it that Easy?


I was recently talking to a friend outside her house discussing what publicity I could help with for an event she was involved with to receive a discounted ticket when I recieved an SMS from my bestest friend asking me if I was off the airwaves.

I SMS’d her back and explained what I was doing or at least I thought I did. I then received another SMS asking where we still going out that night. I sent one back saying that going out with her was my main priority. The reply I received was not what I expected, It was that she had not felt that way for a long time and felt I was being negative to her.

After the initial shock of receiving such a reply I realise that we needed to discuss the difficulties we had been having in catching up and forgive each other and re- establish our friendship to what it had been when we first started going out with each other.

Wikipedia defines Forgiveness as follow –

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Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.[1][2] Forgiveness is different from condoning (failing to see the action as wrong and in need of forgiveness), excusing (not holding the offender as responsible for the action), pardoning (granted by a representative of society, such as a judge), forgetting (removing awareness of the offense from consciousness), and reconciliation (restoration of a relationship).[1]

In certain contexts, forgiveness is a legal term for absolving or giving up all claims on account of debt, loan, obligation or other claims.[3][4]

As a psychological concept and virtue, the benefits of forgiveness have been explored in religious thought, the social sciences and medicine. Forgiveness may be considered simply in terms of the person who forgives[5] including forgiving themselves, in terms of the person forgiven or in terms of the relationship between the forgiver and the person forgiven. In most contexts, forgiveness is granted without any expectation of restorative justice, and without any response on the part of the offender (for example, one may forgive a person who is incommunicado or dead). In practical terms, it may be necessary for the offender to offer some form of acknowledgment, an apology, or even just ask for forgiveness, in order for the wronged person to believe himself able to forgive.[1]

I have chosen quotes from across the Ages to see what our society has to say about it, Here we go –

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1. In our love relationships we will always come across things that make us arc up. This enables us to practice the noble art of forgiveness on a daily basis to restore the deep state of Love that we committed too when choosing those particular people to fulfil these roles in our life.

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2. When we are ruminating on the past and blaming others or being the victim of circumstances in our lives, it is valuable to realise tht we cannot change events as they occurred but we can drastically lessen the effect they will have on our future by uttering the words, silently or out Loud, I foryou you, me , them etc. etc.

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3. Lissa Rankin, Author of the ground breaking book The Fear Cure points to that a major percentage of disease is caused by False Fears. On reading the books I discovered that a lot of these fears come from things and events where you have not forgiven ,even to the point of Heart Attacks, here is the link to her page about it – The Fear Cure .

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4. Self Forgiveness is an important part of Self Love, a state that is required to allow other Love into your life. Be courageous in admitting that even you make mistakes.

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5. Holding on to interactions and events that play on your minds days and years later is very bad for your mental health research shows. Converting these from a bitter experience to a valuable lesson will free you from the debilitating illnesses that often follow the practice of blame and shame.

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6. Every Tuesday the local Council come and collect the rubbish I have been unable to recycle. If is was as easy to clear the mind of holding of things from the past that clutter up our lives.

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7. The vow goes I will love and cherish, whether in Good Fortune or adversity. Its not always plain sailing on the good ship Matrimony. Moments of forgiving occur every single day as we journey down this sacred path.

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8. How long have you sentenced yourself to. I had one shadow belief that was from the age of four. It only took to the tender age of 60 to realise what it was costing me, the world looked very different after letting this one go. I suppose there was no internet and Facebook when I took it on.

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9. World Peace Day is 21st September, It is dedicated to world peace, and specifically the absence of war and violence, there have been a total of 26 days of peace since 1945, the end of World War 2, the War to End all Wars. Oops got that one a little eschewed.

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10. Be in the Now, Moment to moment, Discipline – all words that point to what is needed to live in the state of the dignity of True Forgiveness.

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11. Any you an anyone or a butterfly? Butterflies have beautiful colours and character and fly lightly in the wind because they are not carrying their past burdens around with them.

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12. Two steps forward, three steps back doesn’t get much done. When you grant yourself and others the precious gift of forgiveness you free your feet from work-boots to the latest Nike runners and you have the ability to Just Do It!!

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13. Promises, Promises was a minor hit for the band Naked Eyes in the eighties. What they sung in the 80’s. Its about how much value we place on them. When you forgive it better be of a reasonably high level.

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14. The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, a fantasy about a man who grew younger not older. He grew smaller the longer his life went on, do you by holding on to those grudges?

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15. Finally, the words you use in your life is what gives you your power. In Australia we are known for saying sorry for the simplest of things. So when you have cut someone deep those words have little effect, Try on Will you forgive me?

We had a frank and moving discussion that night when we went out and restored the relationship to nearer what it had been. I didn’t sat please forgive me. I will next time I see her.

Namaste until next time , my dear friends

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Suki or Lhasa?


Who are Suki and Lhasa, my sister’s beloved cat and dog, I’m not allowed to have pets in my flat.

Pets? Cats or Dogs, Rats or Mice, Budgies or Parrots. We all have our personal choice. I am more of a Dog person than those life controlling moggies who know they are the owner not the other way around.Wikipedia has an interesting definition of what an animal lover is, Check out number three –

The terms animal love or animal lover can have several meanings:

I have chosen 15 quotes , some famous , some from just your standard neighborhood cat or dog lover. Here we go –

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1. I’ve decided to start my quotes on a less that serious note. I can’t imagine Paul my 50’s something psychiatrist using licking as part of his treatment but I might suggest it on my next three monthly catch up.

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2. Suki normally is giving that look when he wants a pat, once you start the cut off point is never.

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3. Mark Twain was known for his quirky and insightful quotes as much as his fame for his novels. His summation of the output of dogs vs. Cats is pretty close to the bone in my opinion.

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4. Love the even when you don’t share the People Food line, Yes most dogs believe they are human.

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5. The one dog I had was poisoned, my parents disappeared him very quickly. I switched to guinea pigs because they couldn’t run away because they were in a cage.

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6. Jean Maurice Eugene Clement  Cocteau, French poet and film maker always had at least one cat in his home. He came out with this well known cat loving quote as testament to the love he felt for them.

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7. I have several friends who judge a persons character on the reaction their pets have to them. I remember visiting my friends house in Bendigo. They had 13 animals, 6 cats. Four went for my lap at once.

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8. How a dog and children come into the world. Treated right they will continue to do so until we place that wooden cross next to the back fence, the pets I mean not the children.

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9. Dogs know something when they choose trees as their place of going to the toilet. Starlight attracts them to the beauty, that’s a little left field.

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10. Unconditional Love, if we followed this set of ideals for loving I think the world would be a better place all around.

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11. Especially when it from a young kitten rubbing themselves against your leg at dinner time, and believe me they know when it is their dinnertime, don’t be late or there will be consequences.

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12. We all have seen that look if we have ever been graciously allowed to share a premises with a cat. I am plotting to take over the world look  and you are going to be my first conquests.

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13. Had to get in one about my true addiction Music, I have 24,000 songs on my Itunes. My friend La Rola organised a dance party to pay for her beloved car Kevin’s surgery. How could you not go.

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George Mikes, Hungarian Born British author came up with this beauty, about the real chain of command in our homes.

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15. Aaw, isn’t it cute when two cats clean each other, they do it from the smallest moggie  to the largest lions. No one has worked it out. Which one of the three scenario’s above do you think it is.

I am jealous at times of the love my sister and her family have received from Suki and Lhasa, Lhasa is a bit old these days to show much, He just lies around and sleeps, but remember after all he is a cat.

Its time to say adieu, so once again Namaste until next time , my dear friends.

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