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Tell me what you’re listening to?

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One day late. I’ve been spending time pondering what it is worthwhile to spend doing in 2021 and the name of a Spotify playlist by Courtney Barnett called to me and became the title of this blog: What are you listening to, to create you actions this year, is it dance rituals,different types of therapies, success webinars, things that worked for you in the past, dreams that live in your hearts, there are many options to move forward with.

Being highly productive is not an innate talent, it’s simply a matter of organizing your life so that you can effectively get the right things done. What can you do to increase your own productivity? Here are some ideas that work for me:

  1. Create and observe a “to-don’t” list.
  2. Organize your space and data.
  3. Ruthlessly eliminate distractions while you work.
  4. Accept 100% responsibility for my current situation.
  5. Break down goals into realistic high-impact tasks.
  6. Work when your mind is fresh, and put first things first.
  7. Focus on being productive, not being busy.
  8. Commit your undivided attention to one thing at a time.
  9. Work in Ninety minute intervals.
  10. Reply to e-mails, voicemails, and texts at a set time.
  11. Invest a little time to save a lot of time.
  12. Narrow the number of ventures you are involved in.

The next five years could be the best five years of your life, the decision is yours. The best part of your life will start on the day you decide your life is your own – no one to lean on, rely on, or blame. So what have we said about organizing our lives over the years lets have a look:

1. Ask any perfectionist about the second line, its jams up your life.

2. Winnie the Pooh agrees with his creator about this formulae: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TISIPNpRuoY&list=PL2RBbrgcQOX7fGqrh0yWXtEfIkTR9mZQv

3. With what is going on with the current POTUS, this has far too much statehood contained in it.

4. Nobody is too busy, if they are interested they will find time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z76RDhkB-6c

5. Author unreadable but classy quote.

6. With her background in TV chef shows Anne Burrell has a lot of experience at this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y66j_BUCBMY

7. “Alejandra provides organizing information that I have not heard or read before. Her concept is brilliant. The freedom you feel by simplifying your life is priceless.

8. The more people you add, the bigger the organizational challenge becomes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bAVKp0X9JnQ

9. Love and Respect for All, Including yourself.

10. Projects are the short term parts of your life, cleaning and organizing you practice for life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XXYlFuWEuKI

11. Message is to complete each days task, then move on.

12. Zen Habits is a blog written by Leo Babauta about implementing zen habits in daily life. It offers suggestions for how to live and also includes frequent references to how Leo Babauta has implemented these habits. He covers topics such as simplifying, living frugally, parenting, happiness, motivation, eliminating debt, saving, eating healthily and successfully implementing good habits: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwoPlRR9J_k

13. What does your necessary say to you?

14. How do you choose, flip a coin?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MdphO1jfxCg

15. To me, the most intelligent Mrs. POTUS.

Think about the tasks you perform over and over throughout a workweek. Is there a more efficient way. Is there a shortcut you can learn? Is there a way to automate it or delegate it Perhaps you complete a particular task in twenty minutes, and it would take two hours to put in place a more efficient method. Bottom line, the more you delegate and automate, the more you can get done with the same amount of effort.

I simply had to include Courtney in the playlist seeing she gave us today’s blog title, we begin with her. The first of two classic R and B legends is next, Marvin Gaye. Some rock follows from American Authors then we go back to today’s music with Sasha Lopez and Andrea D.The Weeknd follow with the penultimate song being from the great Ella Fitzgerald and we finish with a song from the musical Into the Woods: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrvpUou2t5d2Z3tCl_MJkvqs

I have put my task on increasing the international focus of my new Facebook Group Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humanity. Its context is Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included. Here is the link if you wish to join: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. So until we meet again my dear friends, stay safe.

How do we love?

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How do we love and why do we love? I have been having discussions around this matter recently with very little agreement as to why. Do we throw all our sensibility away and become child-like or do we go on a journey to prove to the other person involved that we genuinely love them. There are many versions of what people say shows somebody loves them, it may be spiritual, it may be sexual, it may be consensual actions that fulfill each other desires.

I have been contemplating what it is for me since these conversations as it was clearly not what was offered to me as the reason I loved this person for a time. I looked and discovered that I needed to embrace the individuals we both were but to embrace the individual I was and not belittle myself but feel inside for my ideas, strengths and beauty that exists inside me like no one else. To be the person I know myself to be – the best version of myself. And above all, to be true to myself and if I could not put my heart into it, to take myself out of it as soon as possible. So in a relationship situation, here are a few rules to follow:

  1. Get your priorities straight.
  2. Take full responsibilities for your foals.
  3. Know your worth.
  4. Choose the right perspective.
  5. Don’t let your old problems punish your dreams.
  6. Choose the things that really matter.
  7. Love You.
  8. Accept your strengths and weaknesses.
  9. Stand up for you.
  10. Learn from others, and move on when you must.
  11. Be honest in your relationships.
  12. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
  13. Be who you were born to be.
  14. Never give up on you.

So I am sure that our society has discussed the subject of love over the centuries, let’s have a look:

1. French is such a beautiful love language.

2. There were times that I felt like I had been struck deaf and dumb: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GB_S2qFh5lU&list=PLgIerhn1S8dM62vnOJJcAeGB-kMeRdwuv&index=1

3. Gibran Khalil Gibran was a Lebanese-American writer, poet and visual artist also considered a philosopher although he himself rejected the title. He is best known as the author of The Prophet which was first published in the United States in 1923 and has since become one of the best selling books of all time, having been translated into more than 100 languages.

4. Guilty as charged: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Twi4sZrWhEE

5. From the most prolific quot-er, Ms. Unknown comes a piece of wisdom.

6. No need to be a: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfY4NLxl72g

7. Half way there.

8. It takes time to get to know someone: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dg3PberzvXo

9. Not just for one part of them, all the bits.

10. Can really relate to this statement: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z0qW9P-uYfM

11. It feels like an own goal.

12. One of the great gifts you can give to another person: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xN7NLKWol9I

13. Thich Nhat Hanh is a very wise person, I agree with this.

14. This is part of love to me: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IaKgQATdB6I

15. Oscar Fingal O’Flahertie Wills Wilde was an Irish poet and playwright. After writing in different forms throughout the 1880s, the early 1890s saw him become one of the most popular playwrights in London. Love this offering from him.

So in this inquiry I have come to the belief that love is a multi faceted part of our lives and that there is no one answer to the question and that is why we often struggle with it and we are always learning along the path.

The playlist today contains my favourite rock and roll guitar solo from the greatest music festival ever held, Woodstock all for the outrageous price of eight dollars for three days of peace Love and Understanding. We begin well before then with Billie Ellish followed by rockers Van Halen.Then one of the most soulful tracks ever recorded by Donny Hathaway. Australia’s own Tim Minchin is next. Elton and Kiki with a mighty duet next. Lana Del Ray is the penultimate track and yes we finish with guitar mayhem from Ten Years After: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrvARLdPeRm4DZbWsoAFyE3J

I use the word Love in my world ethos: Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included which is the basis of my 1,000,000 member Facebook group Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humankind. Here’s the link if you wish to join us in creating this change on the world conversation: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Having a Dream!!!

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I went down to my friend Frankie’s opening of the Centre of You – A Place to Be and Become last Sunday. I did not realize it was so close to my den of iniquity from 30 years ago, Revolver upstairs. I went to a Japanese cafe for dinner and watched the crowd coming out of Revolver at 5 pm stoned off their faces, instantly taking me back to my 5am exits in a similar condition.

But this blog is not about that, it is about Frankie’s business partner Grace and the speech she gave about how she had attained her dream, The Centre of You. Grace was invited to perform with the Kirtan musicians, another dream fulfilled. But it was in her story of standing for the dream of the centre that moved me so much. Grace had been contemplating what would fill her up every moment of the day and it was to have a place where people could heal their souls. At the time she had seventy-seven cents in her bank account and was in debt in other places.

Grace never gave up on her dream because of her circumstances and kept speaking it to all and asunder. Over time she would meet people who would hang around for a while and also people who would say, I am on your journey. Enter my friend Frankie at a breath-work training which enabled the energy required to fulfill Grace’s dream.

So what has society said about fulfilling dreams over the years, lets have a look:

1. You are on your journey, not theirs.

2. I was at a fulfillment of this statement Sunday: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aOeP4p1fjMs

3. Set your soul on Fire!!!

4. Mrs POTUS had a lot more to offer than being the woman at the presidents side:

5. She, after all, is on your side.

6. My hand is up for being guilty of doing this:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uG_Rg3xMMGs

7. BOOM!!!

8. We definitely need some Oprah: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xKkhsXqf43g

9. Got to love our rivers.

10. I like this very much: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xLy2SaSQAtA

11. Do our dreams have a price?

12. Henry David Thoreau born July 12, 1817 – May 6, 1862) was an American naturalist, essayist, poet, and philosopher A leading transcendentalist, he is best known for his book Walden a reflection upon simple living in natural surroundings, and his essay “Civil Disobedience” (originally published as “Resistance to Civil Government”), an argument for disobedience to an unjust state: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2hvkPyiAFE

13. Strive to go the whole distance!!!

14. Essential overrides the first three: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTQbiNvZqaY

15. As Nike says, Just Do It.

At the end of the day, whether you chose to go with it, flow with it, resist it, change it, or hide from it, life goes on. If what you did today didn’t turn out as you’d hoped, tomorrow is a new opportunity to do it differently, or nothing at all. What’s important is to realize that you have a choice, here are twelve ways to help you move forward:

  1. Don’t give up on the things you believe in.
  2. Work with, and spend time, with the right people.
  3. Concentrate on the present.
  4. Maintain a positive attitude.
  5. Endure the pain.
  6. Ignore the naysayers.
  7. Live your life through love.
  8. Accept 100% responsibility for your current situation.
  9. Take action and plant the right seeds.
  10. Don’t lose yourself in the commotion.
  11. Appreciate what you have.
  12. Make a positive difference.

Today’s playlist contains two songs by the same artist, a very unusual choice by me: We begin with Alice Cooper, then back to now with Beyonce. A great cover by Aussie band Mental as Anything follows. Then our spoken word piece by Oprah is next. John Lennon by two takes us to the final track by Toto: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYruQzmX4zq_AczD6SprNGSn4

I believe we all have dreams, mine is to get one million people saying they will live from Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included, Its a Facebook group called Thriving People -People who wish to make a difference to humanity. If you would like to be one here is the Facebook link to become a member:https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949.

Thank you, Grace. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

What’s wrong with You?

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Always I have been told I suffer from depression, and recently that is what they said when I entered a psych unit for the sixth time during COVID lock down. I then met a beautiful woman who suggested I see her therapist which I eventually did. He asked me a lot of questions, one being about my work history before my first breakdown. My dark secret is that I worked for the Governmental Social Security aka Centrelink for 13 years.

My heart had been telling me to leave for the last three years of this time which I did not take notice of, therefore my mental health went down and I was eventually dismissed never to work again. The psychologist asked me had I seen any violence during this time and for some reason I told him about the three stabbing I had seen over this time, I used to joke at parties that I was probably the only person in the room who had seen this many if any.

He instantly suggested that I was probably suffering from UN-diagnosed PTSD, AKA post-traumatic stress disorder. I also explained that violence was just a way of life over the years at Centrelink. It actually made a lot of sense for me after he explained the background of it.That people were not used to seeing so much violence in their lives but many remained untreated.

So PTSD, how have we discussed it over the years, does society want to disown it, lets have a look:

1. Over time , I have suffered all of these.

2. As I said, over 13 years it just became normal: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lYcp1bUb4lU

3. I don’t remember the images of my dreams. more the emotions.

4. This is when we need others and treatment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OmLNs6zQIHo

5. A definition for you.

6. Actually 28 live giving statements: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Vv-BfVoq4g

7. Warts, Wisdom and All – with Courage.

8. What I did with the actual trauma, made it delusional: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eWlUb-CaRmU

9. I recognise many of these statements.

10. And eventually this is what I did: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5LVW95Mxv6k

11. These are the bad days and nights.

12. Or a boy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kRauptdx_Is

13. I totally agree that it is a journey.

14. And these are the people it most affects, those we send to kill in our name: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bWXazVhlyxQ

15. And for our final lesson the magnificent Maya Angelou.

If you want to move onto better things, you have to give up what’s weighing you down – which is always not as obvious and easy as it sounds. Here are a few things, starting today , that would help.

  1. Letting the opinions of others control your life.
  2. The shame of past failures.
  3. Being indecisive about what you want.
  4. Procrastinating on the goals that matter to you.
  5. Choosing to do nothing.
  6. Your need to be right.
  7. Running from problems that should be fixed.
  8. Making excuses rather than decisions.
  9. Overlooking the positive points in your life.
  10. Not appreciating the present moment.

Today’s play list contains my favourite rock anthem, guess which one: Hazel English starts us off, then we have Birdy. Our most popular artist is next with Ed Sheeran. Three unknowns to me: Simon Curtis, The Staves and Vicetone before we finish with Rage against the Machine: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtNtJi6c4a1C-GmoQxqCd75

So we send people into areas of work where PTSD is prevalent, do we do enough for them, the evidence would not suggest this. I call for more Love and respect for All, Everybody Included in our health system. Until next time, my dear friends.

Are you a Good Ancestor?

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I hadn’t heard this expression till earlier this week when I was cleaning up and came across the Consciousness Rising copy of Dumbo Feather, a magazine with a tagline Conversations with extraordinary people. One of the articles was about being a good ancestor. The term came about in the 1970’s from Jonas Salk, who also developed the polio vaccine.

It didn’t take off much since then due to neoliberal hyper-individualism, but is receiving more interest these days. A Good Ancestor tries as best they can, to think as far as they can beyond their own life span, to the time when their children’s children will be living.

Roman Krznaric, author of The Good Ancestor comes up with six conversation starters to have a Good Ancestor chat:

  1. Deep-Time Humility: What have been your most profound experiences of deep time, and how do they affect you?
  2. Intergenerational Justice: What, for you, are the most powerful reasons for caring about future generations.
  3. Legacy Mindset: What legacy do you want to leave your family, your community and for the living world?
  4. Transcendent Goal: What do you think should be the ultimate goal of the human species?
  5. Holistic Forecasting: Do you anticipate a future of civilisational breakdown, radical transformation or a different pathway?
  6. Cathedral Thinking: What long term projects could you purse others that extend beyond your own lifetime.

As the COVID pandemic keeps growing and growing, I think it is time we all become good ancestors and realize the planet is not just here for us to survive the years we are on it, what does society say about being good ancestors, lets have a look:

1.David Ross Brower was a prominent environmentalist and the founder of many environmental organizations, including the John Muir Institute for Environmental Studies, Friends of the Earth (1969), Earth Island Institute(1982), North Cascades Conservation Council, and Fate of the Earth Conferences.

2. Sustainability vs. Economics, which will save the world: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zBEGxqJKup8

3. In Australia we are slowly learning that 60,000 years of warden-ship mean that we should listen to the indigenous people of our land.

4. Thomas Berry,was a cultural historian and scholar of the world’s religions, especially Asian traditions. Later as he studied Earth history and evolution, he called himself a “geologian.”  He rejected the label “theologian” or “ecotheologian” as too narrow and not descriptive of his cultural studies in history of religions. He was drawn early on to respond to the growing ecological and climate crisis and proposed the need for a “New Story” of evolution in 1978. In this essay he suggested that a deep understanding of the history and functioning of the evolving universe is a necessary inspiration and guide for our own effective functioning as individuals and as a species: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l4_lUpnIoTo

5. I still have the stone my youngest nephew gave me, he is now 29.

6. Essentially to fall in love with nature and defend it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQOaUnSmJr8

7. And remember it will be their world longer than it will be ours!

8. And their kids as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pvuN_WvF1to

9. Another indigenous race not listened to in the USA.

10. Can you hear it still, or is all the industry too loud: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LH2J81ZjsGk

11. We have forgotten this on most continents!!!

12. Said a long time ago, now we have kids climate strikes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h1Lu5udXEZI

13. And we are stupid enough to do this.

14. Penny Lancaster is best known as Rod Stewart’s partner, yet has a personal fortune of 20 million pounds sterling: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tEAu5TFAUpE&list=PLwoaKzAN8kVmMdMqdlelhS4j2WfpFiWPq

15. Just remember 2020 and how can we not.

The three quotes in the articles are good reason of rus to become good ancestors as soon as we can, here they are:

“We’re using 1.6 Earths every year. We’re using more resources than we can naturally regenerate and create more waste than can be naturally absorbed in a carbon sink.”

“What I see is that my daughter or her great grand-child are not alone. They are in a web of relationships with people, with community, but they are also in the web of the living world. They need air to breathe and food to eat.”

“I don’t think this is going to be easy, and that all our problems will necessarily be solved. But there is the possibility. What we’re seeing in the world now is what transformative change looks like.”

Today’s playlist is from rock and roll royalty and includes some intercultural songs. We start with Sir Paul McCartney and friends, Leanne Rime’s golden voice is next. CSNY take us back to a golden period of rock. Little Dicky and Olena Uutai fill inthe middle. The penultimate song is by Matthew West and we finish with John Legend: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYruwVK7IDiAHKUvlsdM1-dk8

I hold my ethos, Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included as a Cathedral Project – it will continue much past my lifetime. Until next time, my dear friends.

How do you fill the gap left?

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I was having trouble getting over a recent love affair so began reading about breakups. I found this really good blog in it titled: Losing the Love of Your Life: What to do when you lose the one by Natasha Adamo Here are the first four paragraphs of it, it explained it very well.

Losing the love of your life makes you realize that love can truly be a double-edged sword. It can make us feel so uniquely connected to the world and fill our hearts so they are overflowing. It can also slash our hearts to shreds, leaving painful emotion seeping out for a long time to come.

And one of the most painful places to be in is the one where you feel regret, guilt, and pain for losing someone you see as too much of a loss to recover from. The one who was there for you, loved you, and did the “thick and thin” thing because they believed in you. But now they are gone.

Losing the love of your life and actually realizing it can take some time to surface. There is pain on both sides when a breakup occurs. A time of healing. A time when moving on begins and life slowly becomes happier. The pain subsides, and you reflect on the lessons you learned and seek new love.

There are also times when this doesn’t happen. Where you find yourself thinking of someone every day.  Losing the love of your life is painful. You feel heavy with guilt, and regret lives in your gut. It is often at this point you question yourself, and think that this person you lost, has left a hole in your life that can never be filled.

I keep going between the two and feel I am leaning towards the former at the moment although there are days when the latter takes over. So how does society advise you to fill that hole when it sticks around, lets have a look, some are harsh:

1. Actually a phone call made to find out what groceries were needed.

2. We were in COVID .pandemic lock-down times so Zoom was a godsend: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oqMl5CRoFdk

3. Still pondering a lot of the time, getting better though.

4. Pretty close to the truth, it goes away eventually with taking other actions: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dm9Zf1WYQ_A&list=PL3-sRm8xAzY-v_i64uZfriFSPYHnQd8Vl&index=4

5. I don’t fully understand this quote.

6. This is the hole that can be never filled time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fk4BbF7B29w

7. Makes me think of Deborah Harry’s Broken Glass.

8. I regret that I did this:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sptQj1MPIwg

9. But time has come to realize you must move on.

10. On 22 December 2016, Coelho was listed by UK-based company Richtopia at number 2 in the list of 200 most influential contemporary authors: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hzM71scYw0M

11. That’s OK until the heart meets someone again.

12. Strength or wisdom, which gets you through the day better: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=woOJRsXMQ5g

13. Do not let the shadows of your past darken the doorstep of your future, forgive and forget.

14. When things break badly, it is hard to repair them: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5e8C1nhe_s

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15. And for the final lesson, an ultimate check list.

Are breaking up and letting go the same thing, both have nothing to do with weakness, the latter more to do with strength. Here are 12 things worth knowing as you wander this path.

  1. The past can steal your present if you let it.
  2. Not everyone, and not everything is meant to stay.
  3. Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them.
  4. Sometimes you just need to do your best and surrender the rest.
  5. You are control of only one person: yourself.
  6. What’s right for you may be wrong for others, and vice versa.
  7. Some people will refuse to accept you for who you are.
  8. Relationships can only exist on a steady foundation of truth.
  9. The world changes when you change.
  10. You can make decisions, or you can make excuses.
  11. It usually takes just a few negative remark’s to kill a person’s dreams.
  12. Sometimes walking away is the only way to win.

Today’s playlist contains three classic sixties bands, two pop diva’s and two relatively unknowns: We begin with Early Stones, then Billy Ellish and Adele. Back to the Sixties for the Doors and The Walker Brothers. Then my two unknowns, the first has less than 1,000 YouTube hits, a rarity: Raven and we finish with the Struts: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrv2CMFf0MRxXaKqX5rg-2xG

You/I are responsible for our own happiness, no one else. You/I are responsible for our behavior, no one else. If you are not seeing the things in life that you want, look at yourself. What are you afraid of? Self-sabotage is when you pike at the last moment, afraid of what lies ahead (even if it’s good for you).

So you can be afraid of the gap, torn apart by the gap or learn to be courageous and jump the gap and move forward. The latter will bring you closer to Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Until we meet again, my dear friends.

Our COVID Love Affair.

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7 months,from 22nd March until now, that is how long our beloved city of Melbourne has been in lock-down from COVID, most of it stage 3 and 4. We have had a love affair with masks and crosses on the ground. I began the first stages in a psychiatric unit at the Melbourne Clinic and have ended it breaking up with the women I wanted to spend my life with.

It has made Zoom like technology a must at most houses, for the kids to do their school work, parents to do their work as the government asked them not to go to work unless they really had to, and for my friends in the conscious dance community to listen to the DJ’s they danced to weekly in dance halls all around Melbourne.

So what has the world said about COVID, because lets not forget it is a world-wide pandemic, here we go:

1. How long is 7 months, a frigging long time.

2. Charles Robert Darwin 12 February 1809 – 19 April 1882) was an English naturalist geologist and biologist, best known for his contributions to the science of evolution sounds like he would have been a great man to have on the COVID Health team: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7HMP4zrJiM4

3. 5 basics of the pandemic.

4. Don’t forget the merch: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARt9HV9T0w8

5. How true was this over the past seven months.

6. The naysayers are many, especially the journos: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=co6WMzDOh1o&list=PLhGO2bt0EkwvRUioaJMLxrMNhU44lRWg8&index=15

7. Did they have to put a limit on how much toilet paper you could buy in your country, we did.

8. I think after seven months, I’ve got there: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4pi1LxuDHc

9. COVID Parenthood 101.

10. Hadn’t thought of this, the royal handshake and hug: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c4Vmjyjst4U

11. The streets and walk-paths are really empty.

12. This would be funny if it was not true: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MH4TVYT1OYQ

13. Ice cream.

14. The cute as pie one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ygdB-ZE0daY

15. Oops, sprung.

So, what are some things that can help you get through this pandemic, here are a few suggestions:

  1. Wash your hands and face, and brush your teeth.
  2. Change your socks,
  3. Call a close friend.
  4. Stretch.
  5. Go outdoors.
  6. Take a light exercise break.
  7. Dress to feel your best.
  8. Listen to your favourite music
  9. Take a few deep, controlled breaths.
  10. Clear your stuffed nose.
  11. Cook a good meal.
  12. Walk away from energy vampires.
  13. Complete an important piece of unfinished business.
  14. Work on something that’s meaningful for you.
  15. Assist someone in need.
  16. Think about your latest (or greatest) success.
  17. Act like today is already an awesome day.
  18. Notice what’s right.
  19. Take a moment to acknowledge how far you’ve come.

The playlist today begins with two older songs by David Bowie and Gloria Gaynor. Following are two bands, U2 and the Lumineers. The only pop diva is next, Enca ft. Noizy. We finish with two COVID parodies of Foreigner and Michael Jackson: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtSY-drWEG7LyrzJbFT4GV2

Today is the day we were meant to find out about an easing of the restrictions, I think I saw an extension to November the 2nd, missed by that much. So during this time we really need the ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Until next time my dear friends.

What did you decide?

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I did an amazing process called the individuation cycle today which was about what beliefs I have created throughout my life and how I have compensated for them. It is from the work of William Whitecloud’s course Create Your Destiny. I saw that due to abandonment by my mother during the first months of my life and my father not being a communicative man during my childhood and suffering hurt due to this I decided that I was unworthy, I definitely don’t belong and that I can’t trust myself, others, or the world became my core beliefs. My strategy to resolve this was to become one of the worlds natural gentlemen, never say a bad word about anybody or do a bad deed against people. I have also spent my life searching for an authority or mentor to fix my brokenness.

I wondered what society had written about making decisions like this so I had a look:

1. I would chose I am unworthy for my strongest belief.

2. In knowing these beliefs it allows you freedom: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LKaXY4IdZ40

3. Those beliefs place me in struggle town a lot, to get to anything is possible takes a journey through them.

4. Wise words from the Buddha: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=26EP0ght2kI

5. What you resists persist , especially in your major beliefs.

6. My beliefs have taken me down both some rough and some beautiful paths:: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8-vZlrBYLSU

7. A bold statement from a woman who had to walk through many difficult beliefs.

8. Our beliefs create our world, if we deny them in all cases we could never reach here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dVGINIsLnqU

9. This is listening to your creative side, not your victim.

10. Gandhi knew about his beliefs with a statement like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FuXNumBwDOM

11. Recognising those beliefs that hold you back allow for no limits.

12. Upgrading is getting to know what beliefs hold you back: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vpc3lFR0AwY

13. If you don’t know them and walk through them its hard to know your limits.

14. And from probably the most famous POTUS comes the fact that beliefs will not do it on its own, action must accompany them: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qo8gX1Evay8

15. I agree with this, my nice guy permeated out of me when I am not in touch with my disempowering beliefs.

Until we discover this in our lives we will go through some tough times especially. in relationships. These relationship truths may be a bit difficult to accept at times, but in the end , they will help you weed out the wrong relationships, make room for the right ones, and nurture the people who are most important to you. Here are 15 steps you may go through:

  1. Some relationships will be blessings, others will serve as lessons.
  2. When times are tough, some people will leave you.
  3. Life is full of fake people.
  4. People can easily be insincere with their words.
  5. The less you associate with some people the m ore your life will improve.
  6. Harsh words can hurt a person more than physical play.
  7. A mistake is an accident. Cheating and lying are not mistakes.
  8. Excessive jealousy doesn’t tell someone how much you love them.
  9. When people get nasty with you, it’s usually best to walk away.
  10. People will treat you the way you let them treat you.
  11. One of the most difficult tasks in life is removing someone from your heart.
  12. Resentment hurts you, not them.
  13. Silence and a half smile can hide a lot of pain from the world.
  14. True love comes when manipulation stops.
  15. Even the best relationships don’t last forever.

Today’s playlist contains four of the biggest pop diva’s on the planet. We begin with Mariah Carey who is followed by Pink. Some country from Rascal Flatts is next.we go back in time to Devo. Taylor Swift and Christine Aguilera are separated by Jakatta and Seal: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrv64NSLNWFCCWN6KvgbACzZ

I hope my ethos for the world: Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included is not a strategy to compensate for my beliefs I mentioned previously. My new tribe/movement of 1,000,000 signing up for this ethos can be joined via this bitly link: https://bit.ly/2ERbjc9. Until we meet again my dear friends.

What I don’t Know!!!

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I have just spent three hours texting on the phone to my ex-partner, and it ended up in the usual Fuck Off. But during that I committed to writing a blog about what I didn’t know, a relative hard task because its about what I don’t know. Areas like how insecure I feel at times and how life confuses me. It seems the previous ones I wrote judging her personality based on my own defensiveness rather than any knowledge. I do not hold this to be totally true but apologise for causing her hurt in writing about her if it caused these feelings.

What do I feel insecure about? Many things: Insecure that I will fail in my new businesses, Insecure that I never feel my deepest emotions, Insecure that I will never respond to a woman in a way she feels worshiped, Insecure that I will always feel unlovable all my life and insecure that I will feel that if I let people get close to me they will reject me.

I am confused by how to meet a lovers needs, I am confused by fitting in, I am confused by feeling all the feels as my anger may get out of control, I am confused by what to do to be a good elder for my community, I am confused at the way the world is governed, it feels so wrong, I am confused by women’s intentions and I am confused by what it takes to find a woman who will love me for who I am.

So what has society said about insecurity and confusion, let’s take a walk down memory lane:

1. I’m not sure if I have as yet.

2. I have all three of these: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oLmYZSu3NCc&list=PL6IfNZf-6l0gKdY4foPph_HTEm3nwrx8x&index=2

3. How many make your list?

4. They were for a while: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THeLVhU53ow&list=PLxXNIlld_SoIPdy-IW_b4ksQWqsfFO7e2&index=22

5. Boom!!!

6. I’m learning this big time, and the things about me that don’t work as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAfyFTzZDMM&list=PLxXNIlld_SoIPdy-IW_b4ksQWqsfFO7e2&index=28

7. This is why finding your perfect partner is so hard, because we all have these.

8. I haven’t as yet: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LXXQLa-5n5w&list=PLxXNIlld_SoIPdy-IW_b4ksQWqsfFO7e2&index=31

9. Not an easy thing to do.

10. Intuition is from innocence, Insecurity from your darkest places: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ocDlOD1Hw9k&list=PLxXNIlld_SoIPdy-IW_b4ksQWqsfFO7e2&index=27&bpctr=1600577394

11. Hit the pause button and turn it onto play.

12. When this happens in your life it is a grand declaration: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GXoZLPSw8U8&list=PLxXNIlld_SoIPdy-IW_b4ksQWqsfFO7e2&index=26

13. Quite a broad recipe of circumstances of which insecurity is but one.

14. Not this takes something to meet on an equal plain: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYa1eI1hpDE&list=PLxXNIlld_SoIPdy-IW_b4ksQWqsfFO7e2&index=30

15. I plead guilty to this.

I wish to add some words by Jeanette LeBlanc, they relate to the writing of this:

Write the truth of yourself. As you know it. Right Now. In this exact moment and only this moment. Make your words sing with the hope of you , with the want of you, with the very blood and bones and guts of you Select the lines that speak your heart. Your sex. Your sacred. Spill yourself into this paragraph as if lives depend on it. Because your lives – every last one – do.

Today’s playlist is all pop diva’s except for the opening number. Gnash starts us off followed by Jess Glynne. Three of the biggies follow Christine Aguilera, Beyonce and Pink. Cobie Caillat is the penultimate diva and we finish with Taylor Swift: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrsm9HO0oD7BenIjEVeZoRGT

When the world is willing to recognise its insecurities and confusion we will be able to recognise that Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included will have a chance. My new tribe: Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to humanity has this as its ethos, if you would like to join here is the link: https://bit.ly/2ERbjc9. Until we meet again my dear friends.

You’ve got a Friend!!!

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I’ve got a new friend, actually she is an old friend who become a lover for a period of time. We had been friends for ages, a little bit distant at times but had become closer in the past year that had grown onto a three month affair and then it ended. I tried to hold on and then one day realised if I did not agree that it was over it all would be, the friendship, everything. You do not find close friendships that easily, or I haven’t found this easy to do, so I returned to the status of being close friends.

Why do you keep friends who you classify as close around? Well, here are the reasons I kept this friend around: She is faithful to me, she believes in me when I don’t believe in myself, she doesn’t buy my bullshit, she asks me what am I feeling and listens and expects the same of me, she enjoys my company and I enjoy hers, and tells me what she will not put up with.

So how has society related to friendships over the centuries, I’m sure that it goes back to the start of history, let’s have a look:

1. And they really want to.

2. My friend loyally stuck in there until I came to my senses: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SCQGnVrTsAM

3. My friend is a woman of faith, this is for you.

4. You can tell them about your nightmares: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AIS-RuoZxCI&list=PLahlcCtGIBvjZidRBlzpqyLN2mntGJPl9&index=12

5. I fit into this category, slightly cracked, Thank you.

6. Not sure if I agree with all of this, I think friends allow you to cry as much as you need to: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cizgXSegrko

7. John Hay was either a U.S. secretary of State or an Australian academic, neither was well known for writing quotes.

8. We live on opposite sides of town, yet never apart: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNHBT7wjqVI

9. There are times you need to do this for your friends, when they forget what friends are for.

10. Dual weirdo alert: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WL41kS5OFxQ

11. Marcel is one of my favourite philosophers.

12. And can sit in silence as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bk7RVw3I8eg

13. I find it is on the way back after having had a great time with your friend.

14. I know this, I nearly lost it all: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SlPhMPnQ58k&list=PLE6nCASEBsgD6HSVUjaKKa0a0h0XK3aGR

15. Thanks for doing this, and restoring my feelings.

To you my friends, I honour your insight, wisdom and friendship.

People have told me to use my words but I like my Friends Marc and Angel Chernoff’s lists, here is a list of questions your close friends would ask you:

  1. What do you need to spend less time doing?
  2. What makes you feel comfortable?
  3. What’s something simple that makes you smile?
  4. What would you regret not fully doing ,being, or having in your life?
  5. When you’re ninety years old, what will matter to you most?
  6. The best part of waking up, is?
  7. What’s one thing you love about your life?
  8. What would the child you once were think of the adult you have become?
  9. What’s something you look forward to almost every day?
  10. What’s something that makes you feel instantly better?

The playlist today cover most of the decades from the 70’s. We begin with the Friends Theme song, then back to the 70’s with James Taylor. Dianna Krall coves a Julie London classic next, then Dionne Warwick and her friends do that song. Then two old songs, Bob Marley first then a cover by Disturbed. We finish with Maroon 5: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrtOCwYP1pbvpd6apSJTsShV

My aim is to have all the people of the earth be friends. I have created a tribe, Thriving People – People who want to make a difference to Humanity, 1,000,000 taking on the ethos Love and Respect for All – Everyone Included, you can join us here: https://bit.ly/2ERbjc9. Until we meet again my dear friends.