Another thing I have got out of Awakening Connections is the ability to feel the love being directed at me. I was at Mojo – The Dance of Connection on Saturday night for my crewing role as chai maker extraordinaire, and it felt different. There were people, particularly women who have been coming for ages who kept hugging me and kissing me at the end of a dance, some I even kissed back. I have taken on a practice to allow this love in, reciting some mantras from my friends Marc and Angel Chernoff through a practice we call Dragonspeak in the Warriors of Love, my go-to 12-month training program to empower the lifeforce that runs through each of us: Some WOL info.
The mantras are as follows, they help me love people, not judge them or ignore them:
1. The most beautiful thing is to see a person nearby smiling. And even more beautiful is knowing you are the reason behind it.
2. If I have the power to make someone happier today, do it. The world needs more of that.
3. Some people build lots of walls in their lives and . not enough bridges. There’s no good reason to be one of them. Open me up. Take small chances on people.
4. Never stop doing little things for those around me. Sometimes these little things occupy the biggest parts of their hearts.
5. Too often I underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of love – all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
6. Be present, Be thoughtful. Compliment people. Magnify their strengths, not their weaknesses. This is how to make a real and lasting difference in my relationships, new and old.
7. I don’t always need to give advice. Sometimes all people need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand.
8. Today, just be 100 per cent present with those around me – be all there. That is enough.
9. There’s no such thing as “self-made”. Someone else believed in me. Someone also encouraged me. Someone else invested in me. Someone else prayed for you. Someone else spoke life over me. I will be that someone for others too.
10. It’s practically impossible to love my neighbours if I don’t know them, and yet that’s oftentimes the case. I live in such a hyper-connected world with such limited or nonexistent connection. Remember this: Relationships matter. Stories matter.
11. In human relationships, distance is not measured in kilometres but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other yet miles apart.
12. Stay in touch with those who truly matter to me – not because it’s inconvenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort.
13. The single greatest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. Too often we don’t listen to understand, we listen to reply. Bring awareness to this. And listen for what’s truly behind the words.
14. Set an example. Treat everyone with respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are always nice, but because I am ( And do my best to be thankful for the rude and difficult people too, they serve as great reminders of how not to be.)
15. Sometimes it is better to be kind than right.
16. People are much nicer when they are happier, which says a lot about those who aren’t very nice to you. Sad, but true.
17. The real test comes when I don’t get what I expect from people. Will I react in anger? Or will calmness be my superpower?
18. The way I trust people I don’t understand is a report card on what I’ve learnt about love, compassion, and kindness.
19. Be kinder than necessary. What goes around comes around. No one has ever made themselves strong by showing how small someone else is.
20. The best relationships are not just about the good times I share, They are about the obstacles we got through together and the fact that I still say “I Love You” in the end.
So how does the world talk about love, here are a few of my favourite things:
1. A required part of the recipe of life.
2. Not always loved by her critics, great people always seem to have them, the people of the slums idolised her: Is This Love.
3. Simply, Boom!!!
4. From the world’s best-known philosopher, Ms Unknown comes some worldly advice about the importance of self-love: Lose Yourself.
5. These are the people who showed up when your soul said to you, find the others.
6. One of the founders of the Black Panther movement who after exile returned to the States to become a conservative Republican and Christian, Eldridge travelled an extreme journey to discover love in his life: Blowing In The Wind.
7. Don’t look in your logical mind for love, it’s your like zone.
8. The area of life that blows away Simon Senik’s statement you have to know your why: To Love Somebody.
9. It’s in both your DNA’s.
10. And she: Born To Be Yours.
11. Sage advice from the writer of many a great love song over her long career.
12. Working on both these areas in my life: The Climb.
13. Remember to keep an eye out for this.
14. Yep to this: A Song For You.
15. For our final lesson, a short sermon on how to let love in.
So lets address loving those offensive people we find so hard to love. Marc has a trick: Mentally hug them and wish them better days. We can have compassion for this broken person because we all have been broken and in some pain at some point too. We’re the same in many ways. Sometimes we need a hug, some extra compassion, and a little unexpected love.
Our playlist today begins with Bob Marley, the king of Love in my humble opinion. The rapping out with Eminem. Some folk from Peter, Paul and Mary follows. From the same era comes The Bee Gees. We come forward to Kygo and the imagine Dragons and Miley Cyrus and complete with the soulful tones of Donny Hathaway: The Heart Wants What It Wants,
Letting love in and expressing it outwardly will certainly support my life’s ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. Remember you can sign up to receive these blogs in your inbox on the right-hand side of my main page. Until we meet again, my dear friends.