How do you break the Ice?


After a failed relationship which was my first in ten years I have become hesitant to dip my toes in the water again. But even with this hesitancy the opportunity has risen again and a wondrous women has appeared in my sights. I have wanted to kiss her almost from the moment I saw her across the room and attending a community dinner with her after the event we were at reinforced why I would want to do this.

I see the people from this event once or twice a month so if I want more to happen the hesitancy will have to go away. She kissed me goodbye last time we met and I have been flustered by this ever since. All the stories that raise their ugly heads have arisen since then.My friend Angel suggested a few things to do to move on from this:

  1. Free myself from negative people.
  2. Let go of those who are already gone.
  3. Give people you don’t know a fair chance.
  4. Show everyone kindness and respect.
  5. Accept people just the way they are.
  6. Encourage others and cheer for them.
  7. Be your perfectly imperfect self.
  8. Forgive people and move forward.
  9. Do little things for others every day.
  10. Pay attention to who your real friends are.
  11. Always be loyal.
  12. Stay in better touch with people who matter to you.
  13. Keep your promises and tell the truth.
  14. Give what you want to receive.
  15. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
  16. Allow others to make their own decisions.
  17. Talk less and listen more.
  18. Leave petty arguments behind.
  19. Ignore unconstructive, hurtful commentary.
  20. Pay attention to your relationship with yourself.

So what has the human race said about this dilemma over the centuries, let’s have a look:

1. Morgan Harper Nichols is an American Christian musician, songwriter, mixed-media artist, and writer, whose work is centred around the question “how can we create connection?”.

2. That this woman would walk up to me and kiss me was totally unexpected, I did not think she knew I existed: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tq72aBL7GLY

3. They say the feeling between fear and excitement is only in what you choose to call it.

4. The period of Catherine the Great’s rule, the Catherinian Era, is considered a Golden Age of Russia. The Manifesto on Freedom of the Nobility, issued during the short reign of Peter III and confirmed by Catherine, freed Russian nobles from compulsory military or state service. Construction of many mansions of the nobility, in the classical style endorsed by the empress, changed the face of the country. She enthusiastically supported the ideals of the Enlightenment and is often included in the ranks of the enlightened despots. As a patron of the arts, she presided over the age of the Russian Enlightenment, including the establishment of the Smolny Institute for Noble Maidens, the first state-financed higher education institution for women in Europe.

5. Preferring Waldo to Ralph , Emerson was considered the 19th Centuries preeminent philosopher.

6. While Moore dealt with alcoholism and health issues throughout her life which make this statement by her ring true, it’s her work with television that will forever be remembered. And she amassed quite a hefty fortune thanks to her work. According to Celebrity Net Worth, Moore died with a net worth of $60 million: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSbnvgF-vOk

7. From a beautiful Coastal town in Australia, Lupytha is an aspiring young philosopher of this century.

8. If its not scary, it does not require bravery: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_FPN-bttVQ

9. Now from what Neil has stated he knows how to be really scared.

10. More wisdom from Waldo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zz-DJr1Qs54

11. Boom!!!

12. It seems to be in this case, or is it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=be0rGkKxSGU

13. Not all those thoughts, especially the what if ones.

14. And we had to let Brene have a say on this subject: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LYFRcK4hDes

15. And for our final lesson today, Mary Tyler Moore offers us a beauty.

Family and lovers are not always blood. They’re the people in your life who appreciate having you in theirs – the ones who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways, and who not only embrace who you are know but also who you want to be. These people – your real people – are the ones who truly matter.

Today’s playlist has a bit of cabaret in it: We begin with songstress Bernadette Peters, then an Olympic song by Boney M. One of America’s sweethearts Mary Tyler Moore is next before we access our three rock entries, David Bowie, The Cranberries and P.I.L. We complete with some sage advice from Brene Brown, Enjoy this diverse playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrscdcrz4k2Uhkp9ArVfJ4Na

Wouldn’t it be beautiful if we were able to express how we felt to each and every person, to show Love and Respect for All, Everyone Included. This is the ethos of my two Facebook Groups, Thriving People – People who wish to make a difference to Humanity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1126100227764949 and Interculturalism: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Interulturalism. By clicking on the links you can join our merry bands of adventurers.

Until we meet again, my dear friends.

We Grow Every Day!!!


Does the statement that is the title of this blog frighten you. In scientific truth in regards to age it is until we pass, but does it feel like that in other areas of our life. They say we develop our characteristics by the age of five, Earlier temperament seems to affect later life experience. For example, one 1995 study published in the journal Child Development followed children from the age of 3 until the age of 18. The researchers found, for instance, that children who were shyer and more withdrawn tended to grow into unhappier teenagers. 

In those first few years everything is new and vital, and then the harsh truths of life start to kick in. What do we learn in this new sector of our life:

  1. Life is not Easy.
  2. You will fail sometimes.
  3. Right now, there’s a lot you don’t know.
  4. There may not be a tomorrow.
  5. There’s a lot you can’t control.
  6. Information is not true knowledge.
  7. You can’t be successful without providing value.
  8. Someone else will always have more than you.
  9. You can’t change the past.
  10. The only person who can make you happy is you.
  11. There will always be people who don’t like you.
  12. You don’t always get what you want.
  13. In life you get what you put in.
  14. Some friends will come and go.
  15. Doing the same exact thing every day hinders self-growth.
  16. You will never feel 100 percent ready for something new.

So what has society said about this period over time, lets have a look:

1. Interesting comment from a man who has been involved with baseball his whole life.

2. A great question, Which is your voice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuAH21DkJow

3. A man who made billions speaking to people’s inner child’s.

4. Lev Grossman (born June 26, 1969) is an American novelist and journalist who wrote The Magicians Trilogy: The Magicians(2009), The Magician King (2011),and The Magician’s Land (2014). A strange statement from someone who writes about magic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HPE9a_epmWw

5. One day seems like a minute and sometimes like a week on this journey.

6. At Sixty-Six this has happened to me a lot, Dr Seuss: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SlPhMPnQ58k

7. I think I was about 11 when this powerful statement by Iranian born Cassandra Clare kicked in.

8. You go from a whole school to one or two precious ones: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNHBT7wjqVI

9. a moment of sudden and great revelation or realization.

10. Boom: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hoUH9b6xHyg

11. He is best known for his works of fiction, especially The Screwtape Letters, The Chronicles of Narnia, and The Space Trilogy, and for his non-fiction Christian apologetics, such as Mere Christianity, Miracles, and The Problem of Pain. Lewis and fellow novelist J. R. R. Tolkien were close friends. Two of the great fantasy writers of their time.

12. How old were you when this happened: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T8Xb_7YDroQ

13. The magnificent Maya Angelou.

14. And it’s popularly called our Inner Child: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0cBhdvXfJA

15. Sir Peter Brian Medawar was a British biologist and writer, He is remembered for his wit both in person and in popular writings. Famous zoologists such as Richard Dawkins referred to him as “the wittiest of all scientific writers”, and Stephen Jay Gould as “the cleverest man I have ever known”.

I’m getting to the point of knowing all that I may know but playing my great uncle role on Sunday with my great niece Tawara who is all of six months old I must admit it takes you back to that period in your life when it’s all about Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included, It’s so beautiful watching her natural joy.

The playlist today is young, old and smarmy , we begin with Pink then fly back to the sixties with Steppenwolf. The first of two rock groups is next with Maroon 5. Back to the 70’s with Dione Warwick and Friends, we stays there with Peter Pan and Friends. The penultimate number is Eve 6 and we complete with Shaina Noll, which some people may find a bit smarmy: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJlQ3F9bKYrsSwgrDaJJ_VQtjpbCMe57v

Thank you for waiting a few weeks for this blog, until we meet again my dear friends.