Friendship, Cheap at half the Price

Is there a price for friendship? What is a true friend versus a fair-weather one, here are my and some other better known peoples thoughts on it.

I have experienced some heart shuddering moments of friendship through my journey with my mental health issues.People who would not give up on me when I had entered the dark zone of self hatred, for this I must thank my siblings and friends I have made over the years, some of who I thought fitted into the fair-weather arena.

The quote I use to explain friendship is as follows: You cannot judge the value of a friendship, the great ones are based in Love which is priceless at its core. Lets see what others have to say on the matter.

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The Marquise de Sevigne, born in the sixteenth century, was famous for her letters and musing on friendship, In this well known quote she point to the fact that true friends are around when life is rocky as well as smooth sailing.


Martin Luther King is a modern icon of oratory yet in regard to friendship he does not talk about remembering words spoken, but those beautiful moments of silence that occur between friends where words are not necessary.

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I recently met one of these old friends that Jim Henson is pointing to in this quote, we had met once before but there was nothing I wanted to hold back from her when I got a chance to have a long conversation with her.

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Aristotle was more than a great philosopher and a bugger for the bottle he was a deeply spiritual man, he authored this quote that close friendships are like one soul in two bodies, beautiful.

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How often have we formed friendships because that particular soon to be friend had the same quirky liking or hobby we had, C.S.Lewis the author penned this great ode to just those moments.

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Ralph Waldo Emerson points to the time I did the worst white South African gumboot dancing in front of a crowd of 5,000 people with two of my oldest friends, you give each other permission to be silly when you know the ins and out of each other.

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The bard William Shakespeare reminds us that friendships are meant to grow as well as be safe places to hang out in.

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Albert Camus speaks to what is beautiful about great friendships, that they happen side by side, not trying to one up our friends or follow their beckon and call.

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Kahil Gibran is not just remembered for the iconic tome The prophet he also is remembered for his spiritual quotes, this is one of them that I like a lot.

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Eleanor Roosevelt, wife of the American president was often in trouble with the establishment for her outspoken views but this lovely quote speaks to a person with a beautiful caring heart.

So I hope this has demonstrated that friendship is a subject that has fascinated people over the centuries, namaste until next time my friends.


Drop In and Live!!

So its time to hit the keypad again. I have decided to write about doing my friend Arion Lights Creative Mastery Course over the past six weeks. Before doing it I had done several one on one sessions with him as I had won one in a Silent Auction at Menergy, a mens retreat I attended late last year. I had spoken to David who had done the previous course and he said that it added to the power of the one on one sessions so I enrolled on the payment plan.

I went along looking forward to the first night and this poem by Arion probably explains where I was going in:

Dear creator…I wanted to say Sorry
I have got life a little bit mixed up
I thought you gave me a purpose I had to fulfil
And I have been trying so hard to do it
But I got tired and Lost, In all my effort
Then finally I realised you were not asking me to do it
You were offering it to me as a gift
And all I had to do was empty myself for you
And now I offer my whole being as your canvas
So the beautiful purpose you whispered on the mountain
Can flow in every pore and melt the deepest marrow
And through me all who grace my dance
Sorry Again about that
It is much more fun this way…

The six weeks was a journey in facing the beauty and the crap of life and letting go and accepting it all.

First week we look at Essence – the sacred place within us all that remembers the truth, beauty and wisdom of who we really are. This place is not readily obtainable when you are a head merchant like myself and the thoughts are going through at thousands a second. So I spent a lot of time coming home to the Breath and fighting my monkey mind.

Second week Arion added the distinction of Embodiment – a process that takes you through what are the patterns that a situation creates in your Breath, Movement, feelings, Thought, Sight and Word. I had definitely not done this in all the other courses and seminars I had tried to fix myself with over the Years. I will put the six quotes here so I don’t give away too much as it is a experiential thing and Arion has an online program coming up so it will be available world wide.


If you want to master your world, master your breath. The breath is the gateway to the Soul.


Our body structure shapes the foundation of our reality


Beyond our ever-changing surface emotions is an ocean of raw creative energy that can be awoken and ridden like a wild dragon


Beyond the fragile immature thought of our human mind is a vast and limitless intelligence that can be the wise and directive force in our lives


What we see is not fixed but a wild tapestry of possibility woven by the focus of our perception


Beyond just describing reality our words are of the pure essence of creation, directing reality in each moment, inside and out

I did my first two on Joyous Belonging and I am enough as these are two issues I have constantly battled over my time on this planet.

Week three we looked at the Yin and Yang of Mother and Father and how to move from Action to get things done Essence to Essence expressing Action. Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart’s quote on this sums it up pretty well

When I am….completely myself, entirely alone
then my ideas flow best and most abundantly
Whence and how these ideas come
I know not nor can I force them

Creating the essence of my visions through the six domains was fun sometimes and excruciating at other times. I did the ones I found easiest first and didn’t look at the one regarding my home for two weeks, no issue there, not.

By now you might be asking a question what does Arion Look like, so here he is.


By the time week four came around Life had been putting things in the way of completing the homework, yes you do have homework, its not that difficult, listening to some guided meditation and filling some sheets out, so I was looking forward to what we call Renewal. The distinction that Everything is a gift was freeing as with everyone else I have areas I do not like visiting. My deep down one is I am Revoltingly disgusting, a joyous space to hang out in.. I found in Visiting these areas it allowed me to be more in the world through simply accepting it and not fighting it. Doing this through the six domains took me places I had not been before in confronting this lock, an expression used in the course to name something that quells your freedom in areas in your life.

The focus of week five was Liberation, the possibility of living free from the confines of the Mind, Yay!! The deeper I am willing to do this work the more layers I will have courage to shed, the deeper the calling the more the practice will become sacred and the deeper the calling the simpler it will become. I by now knew with my core that when I am suffering it is because I have put the essence of whatever the situation is outside me, so this work is an ode to personal responsibility.


Celebration and sadness were in the air week six, we had a communal picnic on the lawn outside and then had a completion exercise inside where we held the course, its very cosy. Back to Arion for some words on what I got out of this course,

Everything is here now. Everything
You can create anything that you embody as essence and allow into action
The only thing that stands in your way is identification with thoughts and feelings
Thats All.

I battle with this on an hourly basis but I have the tools to transform it. Thank you from my heart space Arion for becoming my Facebook friend and being such a mad bastard at Menergy and offering your session in the silent auction. I will use this work for the rest of my life.

As I mentioned before he is taking it worldwide, here is the link get on board and transform the world.

Namaste my friends until next time



Its funny what you find when you do a major cleanup of your apartment, I found these two rather interesting pieces of paper that I had written two lists on, One was entitled Blissipline , so thanks to Joseph Campbell for the title of this blog, its not even a word in the dictionary but I like it a lot.

I wrote Being in the state of flow at the top of the page, Thinking about this I sense this is what we are all seeking in our lives and have to work on the things that prevent us from living in this blissful place all of the time, I’m getting there.

Next was Happiness in the Present, this related to we spend a lot of time remembering the good old times and looking forward to future events but the only moment that true happiness can exist is right now so its up to us to choose that moment to moment.


Now we come to the list, 10 Tactics to attract Bliss into your life:

1. Daily Gratitude Log

I do this via the Desire Map Planner by the brilliant Danielle LaPorte, her Desire Map process is one of the most transformational things I have come across to transform your to do lists. Heres a link to her work,, the book is cheap but you have to put a little time aside for the process

2. Awesomeness Report

I blind people with my Awesomeness, something to work on daily, owning our own greatness in the face of that voice in our head that maybe saying something else. A Powerful tool.

3. Share 10% of profit with employees

If you don’t have employees at the moment but are working towards it change this to Pay yourself 10% of your money before paying anyone else. The change is extraordinary in your relationships when everybody is on side.

4. Sweet Sugar Love Machine

Flourish on Praise, Praise each other. If you do this well you do not even to know the person to praise them as it becomes a skill and raises your empathatic ability.

5. 45/5

5 hours a week out of 50 doing work and stuff should be put aside to learn new things, the world does not stop changing and you need to keep up.


6. Weekly sharing and Training

You learn by teaching, all those new things that you are learning start giving classes on it to your friends or at a neighbourhood house, who knows where it will lead, the world is your oyster. Remember the greats all started small.

7. Group Meditation

Guided Visualisation, Have a vision for what you want in your life and spend some time imagining it in the quiet of stilling the mind.

8. Company sponsored fun

If you are a company of one go dancing, camping, ten pin bowling, trampolining. If not down tools and take all employees at least once a month on a fun adventure, You and they will return the love in spades.

9. Positive Stamina

Look past the wrong, look to the future. Create a Vision board, put the jungle retreat in the Amazon on there. Its a reminder of your dreams.

10. Experiences and Connections

You’re happy when you help others to be happy. As I mentioned above we choose to be happy or not, not always easy but if you are doing it with others the journey is much easier.

I send out thanks to who ever I made this list from listening to, I suspect it was Vishen Lakhiani, CEO of Mindvalley describing his company values, I would like to work for a company that had these values.

The other list will have to wait until next time, its titled Life’s Questions

Namaste until next time, my friends