Don’t Wait Until You’ve Reached Your Goal!!!


Celebrate, Celebrate Good Times: Great song, it will probably be on the playlist but is what it is saying true. I beg to differ, I think our purpose in life is to celebrate all times and that our ups and downs in life are our training ground to have this occur.

I have 5,000 Facebook friends, some I know better than others but I send all of them a Facebook Birthday card, somedays it is up to 30 people but this is one form of celebration I have taken on so I have not limited the time it takes me. I do have a standard male and female formulae and some of my close friends I do special ones for. I am surprised by how many people contact me personally and thank me. So as birthdays and deathdays are our main forms of celebrations what about the other days of the year?

I went to a friends birthday at the Abbotsford Convent yesterday, Dan is a beautiful man, there was his partner Theresa and our mutual friend Karina there. I met two of my 5,000 FB friends for the first time, Shanti and Roman, great people, all of who have interesting things to contribute to a celebration. Remember, as we mature it becomes less important to have a lot of friends and more important to have real ones.

So what do friends do differently to people who just walk past each other on the street:

1. They face problems together

2. They give what they can because they truly care.

3. They make time for each other.

4. They offer each other freedom.

5. They communicate effectively.

6. They accept each other as is.

7. They are genuine and accept genuineness.

8. They compromise.

9. They support each other’s growth changes.

10. They believe in each other.

11. They maintain realistic expectations of their relationship.

12. They honour each other in small ways on a regular basis.

13. They listen, and they hear every word.

14. They keep their promises.

15. They stick around.

What has life said about celebrating friendship and life in general, here are a few of my favourites:

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1. Why do we not celebrate many moments between life and death?

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2. Remember, you came here for a purpose, lets make it an inspiring one: Message In a Bottle.

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3. Oprah would have something to say about this.

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4. A great thing to celebrate: Celebrate Good Times.

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5. Love and Gratitude are two other words that are part of the celebration recipe.

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6. George Bernard Shaw, known at his insistence simply as Bernard Shaw, was an Irish playwright, critic, polemicist and political activist. His influence on Western theatre, culture and politics extended from the 1880s to his death and beyond: Laughter In The Rain.

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7. The celebration is not always about happy, happy.

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8. Choose to be alive: Born To Be Alive.

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9. What happens to celebrations when the festival season is over.

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10. Hathaway supports several charities and causes. She is a board member of the Lollipop Theatre Network, an organization that brings films to sick children in hospitals, and advocates gender equality as a UN Women goodwill ambassador. She is married to businessman Adam Shulman, with whom she has a son: Unconditionally.

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11. Your Celebrate Life fridge magnets.

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12. How would you live your life differently if the life expectancy age was 40: Africa.

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13. The Greatest gift you can give to another.

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14. More fridge magnets: Hallelujah.

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15. And for our final lesson today, be all there.

Remember, life is kind of like a party. You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But after the fun, there are a few who stay and help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess. These people are your real friends in life. They are the ones to celebrate life with.

How did Neil Sedaka, Kate Perry and KD Lang get on the same playlist? They all sing songs of celebration. We begin with The Police, followed by Kool and the Gang. Neil is next, then back to disco and Patrick Hernandez. Kate drags us back to the present. We finish with Toto and KD: Don’t Wait Until You’ve Reached Your Goal!!

So, I reckon if we all chose to celebrate life more, my ethos of Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included would occur sooner than later. Remember you can have these blogs sent to your inbox from the box on the right-hand side of the main page. Until we meet again my dear friends.

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You Can Never Go Back!!!


After doing 9 transformational workshops in 2018 it has been a bit quiet on that front this year. Just my first stop year-long training Warriors of Love with the Essence School: For your edification up until now. I have completed a one-day vulnerability workshop and the amazing Awakening Connections. Level Two in the past two weeks. Both provided a new level of being alive. Here is the mission of Awakening Connections:

We believe that at our human core our greatest longing is to be seen, felt and heard by those we love.
Awakening Connections is a new paradigm of relating that empowers people to come into deeper wholeness, love and truth.
We know a world exists where humans feel enlivened within themselves which in turn creates an opening for healthy, sexy and inspired relationships.
Relationships with self and others are the most challenging emotional experiences we face, asking us to continually evolve and grow.
We give people the ability to really step into and navigate the challenges we face and turn them into gold.
Awakening Connections celebrates the journey of relationship through embracing both its ecstatic potential as well as the gritty, real and raw nature of the human experience.
It’s time to create extraordinary relationships, are you ready?
Did they deliver on this, I would have to say FUCK YES in spades. For privacy reasons, even though as adults we did not have this agreement to reveal the contents of the course I will reveal the last practice at the end of this blog. But lets have a look at what society has said about the values of transformational experiences over time:
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1. Yes, he is a chef, a quite famous one, but this so relates to our lives.
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2. Have you seen that meme of the guy on the bike riding what we think life is like and the one below with the entangled ball of string that represents what life is truly like, this is saying the same thing, be courageous: Live Your Life.
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3. Sir Richard’s take on it.
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4. This was written quite a while ago, to me he is still speaking the truth: Free.
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5. From the world’s best-known cardigan wearer comes this powerful statement on transformation.
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6. I think it says Patti Smith, not sure: Because The Night.
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7. My man Thich Nhat Hanh, you rock.
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8. We discussed trust and safety quite a bit over the four days of the journey: Surrender.
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9. Lot’s of Heart opening too.
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10. I had the privilege of seeing one of the other participant’s souls, it was an ecstatic experience: Soul Sacrifice.
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11. What is wonderful about this type of workshop is you can go the whole gamut of life from rage to silence and this is what is provided.
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12. From ancient China is the offering of the whole world when it lands in your soul: We are the Champions.
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13. Welcome to your new career, my fellow participants.
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14. So here is a song that was played towards the end, not nearly loud enough. This song is meant to be so loud it rocks your soul: Lust for Life.
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15. And for the final lesson, this is what transformational experiences do. It turns the numbness and the noise down. And you get to hear your soul’s passion.
On the final day, we gave up our old lives, asked our partner to hold our old fears, mine was: Will you hold my Neediness of and total mistrust of women, she accepted. We walked down the aisle and my new vows are:
I vow to stand in my power, I vow to be a legendary lover, I vow to do what it takes to get the job done, I vow to have an open heart at all times, I vow to let love in and I vow to be part of healing the planets pain schisms through spreading Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included across the Globe.
The playlist today begins in the now and then goes back to the past to some of the classic transformational anthems: We begin with T.I. and Rhianna, moving on to Rudimental and Emeli Sande. Patti Smith then rocks your world, back further to the king Elvis. Then we complete with two out of the final three tracks being my all-time favourites. Santana from Woodstock, Google it if you don’t know what Woodstock was, followed by Queen telling you who you are, then completing with Iggy Pop as we did on the final day, remember as loud as possible: You Can’t Go Back.
So if you get to create your vows in such a supportive bubble your life with be different from the moment you take them. Thank you so much, Alley, Shaney and Jared, we owe you big time. Love and Respect for All, Everybody Included.

When It Hurts, Observe!!


Have you thought about what areas you have personally developed yourself in in 2018? For me, it has been in the areas of Expanding the Box of my Consciousness and Sexuality. Here are some statements about what may stop you from Personal Development by Marc Chernoff:

  1. The acquisition of knowledge doesn’t mean you’re growing.
  2. Growing happens when what you know changes how you live.
  3. It’s not so much about finding opportunities as it is about creating them.
  4. No matter How Smart You Are, You Will make Mistakes.
  5. A good idea without action is nothing at all.
  6. What we don’t start Today, Won’t be finished Tomorrow.
  7. If you keep doing what you’re doing, You’ll keep getting what you’re getting.
  8. There is a lesson in everything you do, and learning the lesson is how you move forward.
  9. The Harder you work, The luckier you will Become.
  10. Nobody succeeds all by themselves.
  11. Being busy and being productive are two different things.
  12. Being successful is a journey, not a destination.
  13. Tough Times don’t last, but Tough People do.
  14. Having a plan, Even a flawed one at first is better than no plan at all.
  15. It’s uncomfortable to challenge the Status Quo, But it’s worth it.
  16. Lots of successful people have failed as many times as they have succeeded.

I like the saying by Mae West: You Only Live Once, But If You Do It Right, Once Is Enough. Apologies to the Reincarnationists amongst my readers. Let’s have a look at how society views Personal Development:

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1. Open that heart up the whole way.

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2. Remember you grow the longer you are on the journey: Don’t Look Back In Anger.

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3. But remember to find others to play with.

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4. Another way of saying it is get rid of these toxic people out of your life as soon as possible: One Day.

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5. And they say it in every language across the planet.

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6. And what would a blog on Personal Development be without a little Brene Brown: I’m Not The Only One.

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7. And from the man in the cardigan, comes the theory of madness.

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8. And to do this we need to keep our eyes, mind and heart wide open at all times: Boo’d Up.

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9. And of course, we need some Steve Covey.

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10. Time to put down that book you know so well, and start your brand new life: Feeling Good.

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11. Smile for the camera, it can even be a selfie.

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12. Hermann Karl Hesse was a German-born poet, novelist, and painter. His best-known works include DemianSteppenwolfSiddhartha, and The Glass Bead Game, each of which explores an individual’s search for authenticity, self-knowledge and spirituality. In 1946, he received the Nobel Prize in Literature.: Be Yourself.

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13. Herman was quite prolific on the subject.

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14. Don’t try and logically make your development fit in, after all, it is your unique offering: The Eyes of Truth.

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15. And here is an opportunity to take your own marriage vows.

If we can find the patience to see the world for what it is – dynamic, flexible and loaded with untapped potential – and if we can  accept the fact  that change is an inevitable and brilliant part of life, then we can partake in the thrill of progression, and help shape a world in which the impossible becomes possible.

Two oldies and quite a few people I have not heard of inhabit the Playlist today, we begin with Oasis, then Matisyahu. The crooner Sam Smith follows, then three new to me: Ella Mai, Avicii and Peruquios, finishing up with Enigma: When It Hurts, Observe!!

Spread Love and Respect For All, Everyone included with those you interact in this holiday time:

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Headphones On, World Off!!


I am reading Brene browns new book, Braving the Wilderness: Brene’s Website. Using my formulae of writing about what is on the page I open the book too, today we are discussing the rise of loneliness amongst our society. Sorting, or living and hanging around with people who hold the same beliefs as you have become more prevalent: in the American 2016 election 80 per cent of counties gave either Donald Trump or Hillary Clinton a landslide victory. In 1980, 20 per cent of American reported they were lonely; the figure is double that now.

This seems counterproductive, sorting and loneliness. If we are living in a like-minded community, shouldn’t we naturally feel like we belong? In her book, Brene quotes neuroscience researcher John Cacioppo of the University of Chicago who has been studying loneliness for over 20 years. He defines loneliness as “perceived social isolation” and states we feel loneliness when we feel disconnected. At the heart of loneliness is the absence of meaningful social interactions —- an intimate relationship, friendships, family gatherings, or even community or workgroup connections.

So, what does society have to say about the state of loneliness? There were many negative quotes, but I have chosen to stay with the more positive aspects of loneliness:

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1. Rocker philosopher Henry Rollins paints a beautiful scene with his words on the matter. How great is the term “A Special Burn”.

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2. Can’t quite make out the name of who said this, but how many times have we curled up in life to our favourite tracks hoping that they will make the pain of loneliness go away: Perfect.

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3. During my Mental Health crisis of six years, this thought was always in the background.

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4. On this walk, you get to realise that it is you who has to make the final decision, alone or not: You’ll Never Walk Alone. 

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5. Two words – Self Love.

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6. How we define a situation can clearly give it a different meaning: Solitude.

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7. For those who have suffered the abuse, we wish didn’t exist on our planet.

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8. Some people use escapism to get away from it: Time After Time.

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9. There is someone I am hoping is thinking this at the moment.

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10. John Steinbeck wrote this quote. He won the 1962 Nobel Prize in Literature” for his realistic and imaginative writings, combining as they do sympathetic humour and keen social perception.” He has been called “a giant of American letters,” and many of his works are considered classics of Western literature: Precious Things.

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11. We assume that our life will remain the same, change is the reality.

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12. Carl Jung knew that speaking up was the solution to loneliness. Time to make some requests: Don’t Speak.

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13. I was not a hugger for 59 of my 64 years. They work.

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14. Time to reach out when Satre’s prognosis is in place: Bad Company.

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15. Find the Others.

Here are the final remarks from an interview between Bill Moyers and Maya Angelou:

Moyers: Do you belong anywhere?

Angelou: I haven’t yet.

Moyers: Do you belong to anyone?

Angelou: More and more. I mean. I belong to myself. I’m very proud of that. I am very concerned about how I look at Maya. I like Maya very much. I like the humour and courage very much. And when I find myself acting in a way that isn’t…that doesn’t please me—then I have to deal with that.

Today’s playlist begins with pop icon Ed Sheeran, then we fly back to the 1960’s with Jerry and the Pacemakers. Even further back to Billie Holliday. Then three fine female singers: Clare Danes, Bic Runga and No Doubt. One of the classic English rock bands Bad Company brings it to a close. Here’s the video playlist: Headphones On, World Off.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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If Not Now , When?


“When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see them you will see yourself. As you treat them, you will treat yourself. As you think of them, you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in them you will find yourself or lose yourself.”

It is amazing how many quotes written in this and the last century still use the sexist terminology of single genders, I have taken on replacing these words with more appropriate ones that include everyone.

How do you treat your daily encounters with each person? Is it I know what they are like, so I don’t need to listen to what they’re saying or is it what can they teach me today.

How does the world look at our holy encounters, what have we said about it over the generations:

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1. This would be an amazing state to be with another person,  what could we learn about them?

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2. For the better I hope: Change of Heart.

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3. I am part of a group called Sunday Assembly, a secular group that gathers once a month and has a service to celebrate life. Our motto’s are Live Better, Help Often and Wonder More.

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4. From the 12th Century comes Dante’s contribution, let’s resonate more and more: Soul Kind of Feeling.

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5. It is hard to believe that the magnificent lotus begins its journey through mud.

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6. The greatest form of holy encounter, and what is more powerful than anything: Love: Beauty and the Beast.

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7. It was Martin Luther King day yesterday, I watched a special. It was like every word he spoke was a quote on Love.

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8. That’s why I meditate daily , to be alert and awake: Say It Right.

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9. Epictetus taught that philosophy is a way of life and not just a theoretical discipline. To Epictetus, all external events are beyond our control; we should accept calmly and dispassionately whatever happens. However, individuals are responsible for their own actions, which they can examine and control through rigorous self-discipline.

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10. I think I am denying it at the moment, the feeling and events will just not go away: Only You.

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11. That’s what they read out at your passing, your acts of love not your assets.

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12. Too cute not to use: Elephant Love Medley.

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13. In the 1950s, Mignon began publishing aphorisms that were later collected in three books, entitled, The Neurotic’s Notebook, The Second Neurotic’s Notebook and The Complete Neurotic’s Notebook. She is known for a number of quotes, among them:

  • “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
  • “Anything you lose automatically doubles in value.”
  • “Every society honors its live conformists and its dead troublemakers.”

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14. One of the great statements about self holy encounter, Helen Keller live a magnificent life with issues most of us would have given up with: God’s Plan.

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15. Another take on the opening quote by Eckhart Tolle.

We decide want we want too see before we see it. We receive what we request “Projection makes Perception”. We can find – and in fact we will find what we look for in life. Our spirit or soul takes responsibility for what we chose to perceive, fear and hate or love and joy> It is up to each of us what path we go down.

Music today is from Cyndi Lauper, Australia’s fabulous Dynamic Hepnotics, Celine Dion and Peabo Bryson, Nelly Furtado, a classic oldie by the Platters, Molin Rouge and Drake.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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A Good Teacher is like a Candle!!


The spiritual teacher and author Eckhart Tolle says, “The moment you become aware of the ego in you, it is strictly speaking no longer the ego, but just an old, conditioned mind-pattern. Ego implies unawareness. Awareness and ego cannot coexist. Recognising this is like taking the first step into the light, to get there you need to go through the dark because both come with each other.

In her brave new book Judgement Detox, Gabrielle Bernstein takes you on a journey that is a clear, proactive, step-by-step program that helps you heal judgment and rediscover your oneness with others. Link to the Book. We all make judgements, it’s just how we let them control us that creates the issue, by acknowledging the fact we do this the power they have over us lessens and we can return to the light after the dark of having made the judgement.

So what has society said about returning to the light  over the centuries, here are some ways:

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1. Probably the reason that there have been sun gods for a lot longer than deities in religious history.

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2. Actions fostered by the light are much more dynamic than simply physical ones, Judy’s got it covered pretty well: Somewhere over the Rainbow.

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3. Something all parents must think of in those first magic moments when their children magically enter the physical world.

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4. And then there are the times we fail to recognise this fact, Inner not Outer: All of the Stars.

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5. And from the 1600’s, Francis Bacon offers up this classic fact about life, with the light, the dark.

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6. The quiet is always there, the skill is finding it amongst all the other stuff, such as the 50,000 thoughts per day: Light Up the Dark.

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7. I remember living in the country when birds used to announce the coming of the dawn/light when it was pitch black, certainly proof of faith that light will always overcome the dark.

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8. Isn’t it grand when someone enters your light who makes you forget to do this: Remember to Breathe.

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9. You are leaving the dark chamber, time to enter the light and fly.

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10. As I get older and older, I have more and more of these people in my memories light chamber: Memory Loves You.

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11. Great name for the organisation who can up with this light quote, HealthyPlace.com

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12. From the world’s greatest and most published philosopher Ms Unknown comes some sage advice, you have a unique light to turn on, other people’s will blow if you try and imitate them: Chasing Pavements

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13. Some may just be more difficult than others, but the way to the top and the well-lit view is always there.

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14. 5 simple words that point to the combination of the light and the dark. The second mention of stars so you know what song that means: Starman.

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15. And a reminder for the last from George Bernard Shaw. Looking through the window we see dark and light, it’s your choice.

The first step in the book is Witness your Judgement without Judgement. If this is all I get out of it, it will have been worth spending the time. I’m sure I will get much more, Gabbi is a great thought leader.

Music today is from Ed Sheeran, Adele, Mr Bowie and some obscure artists with only 25,000 Youtube plays. Enjoy.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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Do the right Thing!!


There is a basic connection among people, who all fundamentally want the same things: to be appreciated, to belong, to feel good about themselves, to make a difference. I am reading William Baker and Michael O’Malley’s great book Leading with Kindness: How good people consistently get superior results. Kindness is an apropos term to apply to leadership because it implies precisely such root connections among people engaged in meaningful reciprocal relationships.

They state that kindness is made up from six virtues, these are Compassion, Integrity, Gratitude, Authenticity, Humility and Humour. Quite a good mix to bring to leadership , I think. So what have we said about kindness over the centuries, let’s take a wee gander:

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1. Imagine if every soldier on the planet did this instead of firing their weapon in anger, let’s start the revolution today.

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2. Kindness is funny, you can’t buy it, it seems to have no pricetag, but once given to somebody it is rarely forgotten: Change.

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3. Be’s and But’s from Jim Rohn, one of the doyens of the personal development movement that  has transformed the business world.

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4. You are never too busy to partake in this mighty, mighty adventure: Better Together.

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5. When my dad died , we gave most of his possessions to charity, the people at his funeral were there because he was a kind generous soul.

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6. Reading this has me ponder, how often do I do this in my instant gratification filled life: Strong.

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7. So do I.

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8. How deep is the depth and passion of your kindness, what gets in the way: Kindness is a Muscle.

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9. There it is, in the silence of the actions that make it up,

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10. Cute kid and animal post, the kindness in it oozes right out of the image: Someone Like You.

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11. Leading by example, you don’t need the CEO title after your name.

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12. How did you choose the leaders in your life. Are all your bosses and power points amongst them, not in mine: Everybody.

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13. We are born free, one of the traits we get given is kindness which we display openly as young children, what happens later on?

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14. I call it Interculturalism: Love and respect for All – Everyone Included: What I Am.

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15. Yes, let’s be both.

Albert Schweitzer said ” Example is not the main thing in influencing others it is the only thing, I’ll finish with those powerful words.

Namaste until next time, my dear friends.

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